How could you be comfortable enough to let someone have sex with you? To let them see your naked body?
How are you not ashamed of your fat and hair? Your bumps and pimples?
How do i gather the courage to have sex?
Get in shape, sculpt your body for how you want it and how you want others to see it.
If they love you then they won't see you like that
Stick your peepee in her cooch and let the desire guide you. Don't overthink it.
>>17183850
Everyone's gross who cares.
#yolo
>>17183929
>Get in shape
>sculpt your body
People here always saying that like it's the easiest thing in the world... If it was that easy everyone would look that way
>>17183946
Im a girl. I feel like its easier for guys not to be worried
>>17183960
Strive for what you want, brah. Facts of life.
>>17183972
Then stick your peepee around his peepee. Not overthinking applies the same way. When they are busy orgasming, the last thing they will be caring about is your bumps and pimples. You're like guys who refuse to have sex because they have average penis and not donkey dick. Once you get so far that she sees it, she won't run away. Same thing with your body.
>>17183972
You could try posting nudes of yourself online (with face hidden of course).
>>17183960
But it is that easy, just most people in these boards are too damn lazy to get out of their rooms.
>>17183960
But it is. Just takes lots of effort.
>How could you be comfortable enough to let someone have sex with you?
You have to be comfortable with them and give them a chance. Most people don't mind a bit of fat or hair. My girlfriend is a bit past thick and her pubic hair isn't always trimmed, but I dont mind it.
Oh, it's one of these threads again
>OP has insecurities
>people tell them that their partner is not going to care
>OP doesn't believe them and continues to argue
>OP gets stupider and stupider, everyone else gets madder and madder
OP isn't going to listen to you guys, don't waste your time.
>>17183850
>How do i gather the courage to have sex?
beer , whiskey , or drugs
>>17183850
I have the opposite feeling my dude. To me those things are sexy. When I'm with the girl I love, I want to love her for both her beauty and her imperfections.
My lifestyle is very active, and personally I want to be with someone who does exercise and pursue self-improvement, but I'm not expecting perfection. I don't mind body hair or blemishes or lopsided tits, i don't mind love handles or jelly rolls, i don't care if her body is perfect. I want to smell her hair and her breath when we kiss, I don't care how messy it gets because I want her, and I want her to feel good.
I spend a lot of time thinking about worshiping a girl, kissing her belly, her armpits, rubbing her feet, sucking and fucking her pussy and asshole. Personally I feel anxiety about these fantasies because I know to a lot of people they might seem like paraphilias, but to me it's just the intimacy and comfortableness that really turns me on. Helping a girl relax and not hate her body for 5 seconds so she can enjoy sex and intimacy, that's what I'd really like to do for my partner.
Unfortunately I'm an autistic manchild permavirgin, so that's not going to happen any time soon. But we all have our own battles to fight, yes?
I guess what I'm trying to say is - don't let dysmorphia control you. The act of working on yourself is sexy, so work on yourself. Find activity that you enjoy and do it regularly. Eat healthy foods. And when you're with the right guy, he'll love your body because it's yours.
>>17183960
They didn't say it was easy. It's simple, not easy.
Pimples and bumps? They can be managed
Hair? It can be removed
Fat? It can be lost
You have the power to change your appearance to how you'd like it.
>>17183850
turn off the lights, anon. you should probably get drunk, too. the other person is also human and, in case you never wondered, he/she might also have the same thoughts as you're having now, although in a different degree.
But then you might think: why would he/she even be interested in me? he/she is way above my league
Then it's simple. You're a shallow superficial fuck. People with low self-steem are usually this way. So instead of improving they make excuses because they're so afraid of failure they sabotage themselves in absurd ways
>OMG I was so going to go to the gym today but Hodor died.
The first step is always the hardest one, it doesn't matter. I even read some guy claiming he didn't play ranked in mobas because the community was agressive and it made him feel anxious. Wtf ppl are even afraid of playing nowadays.
Anyway, you know what you should do and you should do it. I know you're just seeking emotional support. The more you do what you want to do the more desensitized you get from doing it. People don't overcome fears by running away of them.
if you get that far you don't have anything to worry about honestly
just had my first time a few days ago. got myself mentally prepared and cleaned up and smoked a few bowls.
no matter who you are or what you look like, someone out there is willing to fuck you, its just a matter of finding someone and working up the courage to go through with it
>>17184034
Not OP but damn, that whole thing about not caring about imperfections and worshiping a girl for who she is was fucking perfect. I wish I could tell my gf this but she probably wouldn't believe me due to her extremely low self esteem.
>>17184325
why do so many women have low self esteem? such a disgusting trait
>>17183850
>How are you not ashamed of your fat and hair?
I work out and eat right. I'm proud as fuck to show off my bod.
I trim my hair.
>Your bumps and pimples?
I've got a few pimples but for the most part I take care of my skin
>How do i gather the courage to have sex?
Work on your body
>>17183850
If you're happy with your body then others will be too. It's a combination of being decent looking, in decent shape, and confidence with yourself.
But fat BBWs also have sex and they don't have a problem so just do it
>>17184334
>What is all those models and stars we want to look like
>What is those boys who yell "Thunderthighs!" when they see a fat chicks legs
>What is the girls who called the ugly chick "Gross!"
>What is all the beauty products we are told we need
Even a girl who didn't experience these first hand probably saw it second hand
50+ years ago looks were all we had to make it in life, and if we didn't look good we are worthless
Better question is why don't all women have low self esteem...
>>17183850
If someone agrees to have sex with you he's probably ok with how you look like. What's the fucking problem?
>>17184121
>how dare you have low self esteem just get over it bitch bitch bitch
Has anyone ever told you you sound like an asshole?
>>17186020
This.
Male logic is writing evolutionary pseudoscience essays about how they neeeeeeeed jailbait porn and strippers on their birthday not to cheat, then throwing a temper tantrum because every woman they meet has issues with her appearance or ability to trust men.
>>17183850
You kinda just gotta forget about it for a bit and focus on the feelings you're having. Yes, I'm a fat fucking nerd but I don't even think about it when I'm having sex with my much skinnier girlfriend. Maybe she thinks I'm disgusting and is hiding it so that I don't get self conscious. I don't know and don't care when she's on my dick. Confidence is key even if it goes in the face of reality. If we ever break up I'm sure she'll call me a fat nerd with a small dick (and she'd be right) but until then I'm still the one she says oooh baby to.
>>17183972
>Im a girl
Ok this should easy then.
>>17183850
>How could you be comfortable enough to let someone have sex with you? To let them see your naked body?
I take it you arent comfortable with it? Why? Whats the issue you think you have?
>How are you not ashamed of your fat and hair? Your bumps and pimples?
Uh, you are ashamed. Everyone is. But it can be overlooked sometimes.
Groom yourself best you can. Have common sense. If you have hairs where they shouldnt be, remove them. If you have pimples, keep your skin clean. Dont wear clothes for more than two days in a row. If you sweat, wash asap. Keep clean. If you EVER meet a guy in a comfy enviroment where sex anything sexual could go down, make sure ever hole is so clean you could rub an open wound on it and not get an infection. Smell is your biggest concern. Even a fat chick can be sexy if she smells good as fuck, fresh. One bad smell can instantly turn a guy off. Was your ass. Wiping is not enough.
>How do i gather the courage to have sex?
You dont, as a girl it just happens to you. Any guy why doeant have experience will suck at it, fortunately you dont need to be very experienced for you to do your part.
You dont wake up an expert, expect your first handfull of experiences to suck majorly baddly.
>>17183850
Confidence.
