Sorry to ask such a stupid question but I have to ask because it's fucking with my head.
My boyfriend doesn't get hard when we make out or when I put his hands on my tits, ass etc. Is this normal? I feel really shitty about it.
It just feels like soft mush down there.
My ex would get hard just when cuddling and my current boyfriend needs heavy foreplay/just before penetration to get hard. There is no precum either. Is it me? I feel like he's not attracted to me.
I don't want to have sex with him anymore either. I feel more aggressive during foreplay than him and he is just going with the flow... It feels... Cold and passionless.
He's either a faggot or he's a sex pervert addicted to porn, quite possibly both. Not normal!
Is your Gif related?
maybe he suffers from low T.
>>17172946
He's either not relaxed, has things on his mind, masturbates a lot or is not attracted to you. You know him better than any of us. These are things that have caused me not to get hard in past relationships.
>>17172953
I am his 3rd sexual partner, he is is 24 and has masturbated and watched porn most of his teens up until now. I did ask that he stops watching it before we have sex but that hasn't helped either.
>>17172956
Kind of.
>>17172960
Maybe.
>>17172984
I have asked about fetishes, kinks etc... He is not overly stressed or anything. He isn't depressed. The only thing I can narrow it down to is that this problem is with me. I don't think he is sexually attracted to me.
>>17172946
It's probably hormonal or physical, not phycological . Maybe he should see a doctor.
Just ask him.
Homo?
Maybe it is normal for him, OP. Some guys take a bit of warming up, just like girls do. It makes me laugh that girls think they can just show a guy their tits and expect them to just spring forth ready for sex lol. Men can be just as complex as women in that area, that doesn't make them gay. I personally would not worry about it.
>>17172946
My boyfriend gets aroused by looking at me, but if I kiss him or if he does oral on me or fingers me, he usually loses his erection. It makes me slightly insecure as well. Like, I know my vagoo is cute and doesn't smell, but it's like when he focuses on pleasing me, he concentrates too much and loses his bone.
I think the root cause of it is my boyfriend gets turned on by being the pleased, not being the pleaser (outside of actual penetrative sex).
I've tweaked this by dual acts. When we 69 he's hard. Sometimes I suck his dick in the 69 position, but he just gets full view of me, and that honestly turns me on by itself. Or while I blow him, I play with myself. And having some of that visual control by dressing up and wearing cute lingerie and stuff like that.
>>17173222
>I know my vagoo is cute
Vaginas and dicks aren't cute at all, it doesn't matter who you are or what it looks like.
How often do you bathe?
>>17172946
He doesn't find you attractive
>>17173230
>>17173222
To add onto this, it might be that he doesn't like your taste.
Im the kinda guy who gets aroused just when my gf sits next to me or looks at me.
Anyways, I think your bf just aint attracted to you.
>>17173230
I take care of my vag. Bathe regularly and wash with ph balanced soap. I'm so analy hygenic that I will check my vag before bf comes over. To make sure I don't smell. I've tasted my own juices before and it literally tastes like nothing.
As far as looks, what I mean is, I have a vag my bf likes. He likes that it is pink and peachy. And to add, I like the way my bfs dick looks. Certain dicks are visually appealing to me and my bf has the dick shape, size, and veinyness I like.
>>17172946
Ignore all these niggers in this thread.
I'm here to save your relationship, you dumb cunt.
Aight let's start off with something that should be obvious.
>What did your boyf say about this?
Oh right you didn't ask him because you're a dumb cunt who would rather jump to conclusions.
So lemme drop some truth bombs. Mens penises aren't fucking magic wands which inflate the moment a woman so much as glances at them. Some of us need more, or a specific kind of stimulation, to achieve & maintain erection. Sometimes men feel anxious and that damages their erection; often this anxiety is focused on their ability to get hard! Sometimes men get hard and soft in cycles, but lose erection at certain points in foreplay (e.g when stimulation stops.)
I myself regularly lose my erection when I go down on my girl because my penis is getting no sensation for ~10 minutes.
I've been with girls I'd consider a personal 10/10 and only got hard from the blowie just before penetration, and I've been with average 5s and had a rager just from making out.
The point is, his hardon problems probably aren't related to you - he probably doesn't even see them as problems. Maybe you should get better at foreplay rather than just assume that because he gets to touch your tits, he's gonna have a rager. Fondle his cock, blow him. Put the same effort into foreplay that he does.
>>17173247
The fact that you think genitals are good looking is a foreign concept to me, there aren't many people like you because they're ugly, the way you described your vagina made me laugh because the reality is most likely much different.
>>17173247
Girl u sick nasty
most likely he's attracted to fat girls and is just dating you because he's too ashamed to date a fat girl
try gaining 20 pounds and see how he reacts
>>17173260
>peachy
>veinyness
>>17173260
Well, you're already biased to the fact of how vaginas look because you just said it is a foreign concept.
What I mean by saying that I have "an attractive" vagina is that I have a small labia, virtually no visible inner labia, it's pink, and I have a small clitoris. As opposed to the "beef curtained", dark, and large clitorised vaginas that men generally think are not as attractive.
>>17173266
Every body conscious woman checks herself before she wrecks herself. We smell our own vags because it lets us know we're not serving up sourdough down there.
>>17173274
I have seen a couple OK looking vaginas on /b/ but they were professionally done and most likely photoshopped, you're not one of the photo vaginas, gareenteed. If you believe men think enough about vaginas to have some sort of preference you're being silly, they like vaginas because the dick goes in there.
>>17173279
Nigger I know how my vagina looks. It's not photo shopped quality, I am not saying it's fucking perfection, but I've been blessed by vaginal gods and I know it. And I've seen enough amateur porn to know I'm in the higher tier.
>>17173275
If you're if you're bathing properly (don't use any kind of soap, don't listen to the companies bullshit, that's how they sell douches, wash it with water and your hand) it shouldn't smell, you may think it doesn't have a taste but it definitely does, you may not think it smells but it's harder to smell yourself than others so you might just be used to it if you're really smelling your vagina all the time.
>>17172946
Quit your bullshit hon. I used to have the more issues getting hard the hotter my girl was. Also I now have a lower sex drive than when I was 17, so I often don't want to fuck which gets in the way. Then there's stress, uncomfortable setting (for example if you're a new couple), health issues etc.
Literally the worst thing you can do is what you do now, being upset, insecure and blaming. That'll make things even worse. Go talk To him instead to anons on 4chan you stupid kid.
>>17173285
Probably normal tier at most, then, you obviously don't know this but the majority of amateur porn isn't regular people, they're actors. You're such a cringey person, congratulations on getting a boyfriend.
>>17173275
>>17173275
I'm a woman too auteezy.
I'm talkin bout how you like veiny dicks I literally threw up a little double noodle soup in my mouth
>>17173279
This pussy is pussy to normie non virgins.
>>17173295
>double noodle soup
And I'm the autist here?
Okay.
>>17173297
What the heck are you trying to say?
>>17173298
That's what it's called bitch you never had double noodle soup? Take your perfect pussy of the gods to your local Walmart and buy you some
>>17173297
I'm sorry I have aphasia
>>17173298
I don't see anything wrong with double noodle soup.
>>17173295
Kek.
>>17173310
>>17173306
>perfect pussy of the gods
Too kek. Not sure if you're really funny or I'm just really tired, probably a combination of the two.
Don't assume it's you and get offended by it. it takes me years to get hard and sometimes i just don't at all. it's embarrassing and annoying for me as it is and when a female partner gets offended and angry at me it just makes it worse. he's probably going through some shit. it's not you.
>>17173306
I'm saying that anyone who gags up double noodle soup from thinking of a veiny peen is an autist, you autist.
>went over your head because autism
>>17173329
Dude you are so fucking cringey like are you and your bf furries, and regular XDers? Go suck his vascular piepie and get off my computer screen
>>17173338
Because the sheer thought of someone liking their own or another's genitals is the same as being borderline zoophile?? The fuck?
Bitch, you're either twisted or five years old if you're gagging up Campbells soup over someone saying they like a nice veiny penis.
>>17172946
Are you getting so wet your panties are ruined the second he kisses you or you touch his dick?
That aside, you seem to have bigger problem with your couple, namely how he doesn't seem that interested in sex. He may have a low sex-drive, he may be stressed, he may be under medication... Talk to him instead of talking to us.
>>17173222
I have the same thing as OPs bf, and all of what you said is true. I actually lose/soften my hard-on when eating a girl out. It's just that I'm focusing too much on it maybe.
Another thing I want to add is that even though I do get hard from making out, fondling and so on I again lose it if the foreplay takes too long. You can only fondle a tit so long and stay hard I guess.
>>17173256
Tipping my fedora pretty hard now
>>17172946
im like this with my gf and she just blows me before sex everytime it's alright
just suck his dick sometimes the circumcision makes your dick number than normal
