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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:

>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.

>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. Don't complain that this isn't helpful; stupid questions deserve answers like this.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing

>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>

>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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For both,
Do you sometimes pee in the shower?
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>>17171121
Male: Never really did that, lately I have been doing that sometimes. In the very beginning though, so I don't really think it's that disgusting because by the time I finished, shit ton of water and soap have flushed everything away.
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>>17171121
male.
Yes, everytime i want to pee while i'm already showering.
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>>17171121
Male: All the time.
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>>17171121
Female. Yep, almost every time.
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For single males nearing or over the age of 30...

Could you see yourself getting back together with a high school/college girlfriend? If one reappeared in your life out of the blue, would you consider dating her again and maybe being quite serious?
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should I talk to a girl I haven't talked to for a year? She was a very close friend, we fought, she blocked me from social media. Now, 1 year after that, I want to be her friend again. We still see each other eventhough we don't talk. I don't have the balls to talk to her again though, I'm scared she might reject me. But I truly want to talk to her anyways, I want to mend things. I just don't know how to.
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For grilles

Whats a good first date or place to meet up to sort of feel out how the other person feels about you.
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Friends, do you think I'll ever find a girl who is nicer than my favorite prostitute?

For fellow men, would you rather date an ex-slut or ex-prostitute?
>sluts have more group sex, threesomes
>prostitutes have more partners
>prostitutes are less likely to have diseases
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>>17171200
>she blocked me from social media
No

>>17171202
Read the fucking OP
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>>17171186
Long story short, yes.

Various conditions could differentiate the answer slightly should the break up cause be skewed or heavily negative. However, life is unknowing and people change (both parties).

I think that it would be easier to rekindle too just because you have dated them before. I find it slightly intimidating to court someone new given thay social customs change like paying for dinner and what's considered acceptable.

I'm 29 and while I'm not single, I believe this to be true for most men.
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>>17171121

I don't, but I don't see a reason not too I suppose.
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>>17171186
It's not impossible but depends on 100 things.
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>>17171121
Female. Sometimes when I really have to. It's my bathroom. But sometimes I feel disgusted with myself and wait.
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>>17171200
get the hint man

you dont wanna be 'that guy'
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>>17171243

Well, to give more specific details...
In this instance, I have been in a long-term relationship with a man who I do not always get along with and who has, in the past, failed to provide.

I have two ex-boyfriends that I dated many years ago (one when I was 15, the other when I was 19) that both keep in touch.

One is doing quite well and he often asks me to come visit him or if he can fly out to visit me. Is this just a friendly thing, or is he interested in a relationship?


>>17171239

I just assume after many years of dating and failed dating experiences, a man might be more keen on a woman he loved but left because most young relationships end.
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>>17171121
Male
Yes unless my SO is in the shower with me. I'm not sure she'd like that.
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When did women stop learning how to cook? Did you not watch your mother and learn from her?
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>>17171266
You have to go even farther back. I'd say just after WW2. There was a surplus of canned goods coupled with the boom of convenience foods and women joining the workforce and learning there was more to life than being a housewife. That's my opinion at least.
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>>17171266
It's not a woman thing, it's a generation thing. Most men these days can't cook either
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girl I have a crush on asked me to go to the doctor with her to check some (somewhat minor) shit, because she doesn't want to go alone
I suspect she has a boyfriend (they act more affectionate than friends imo, but less than a couple), she could've easily asked him to join since we saw him the same day
some friend even suggested that she asks him instead (which made me suspicious), but she didn't

so girls, if you had a boyfriend wouldn't you want him to come with you to the doctor? Am I becoming some sort of gay best friend that's has to be there if she has emotional troubles? because I'm getting the heck out of there if so

I mean I don't mind going to the doctor together, I would do the same for my male friends if they didn't feel comfortable going alone, but I don't want to be the shoulder to cry on for the rest of my life, because I don't think I'd be able to handle that
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If you were a grill, how hot would you be? Would you make good barbeque?
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>>17171285
Men were never expected to cook except for dangerous things like grilling
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Girls and guys

why am I wrong because I don't care about sex or want a girlfriend?

My friends keep telling me I'm making a mistake by not experiencing relationships. And they try to hook me up or get me to talk to girls even tho I don't want to. Then try to make me feel guilty when I resist
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>>17171288
I'd be a bbqt that's for sure
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>>17171121
yes
>>17171186
absolutely not
>>17171302
nothing objectively wrong, you're just going against the social norm
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Guys who are into this:

what's the appeal of femdom? Especially the less extreme stuff, like facesitting, light bondage
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>>17171305
>bbqt
lol
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>>17171328
Sometimes you just want to let someone else take control. When you aren't in control you don't have any responsibility forced on you and don't have to make any decisions. Its kind of like a small escape from reality.
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>>17171327

Yeah it's against the social norm. But everyone treats me as I'm wrong.
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>>17171328
It's glorified role play where the women takes the lead without acting like a slut. Why do women have rape fantasies?
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>>17171300
>grilling
>dangerous
lol

>>17171266
Very few people know how to cook nowadays, hell some retards take it as a point of pride to be incompetent at things like cooking or math.

>>17171302
It's abnormal, no getting around that. But it's not like you're doing anything unethical, so it's not worth making a big stink over.
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>>17171302
Because they would be unhappy without the prospect of sex or girlfriends, and so they don't understand why you would be okay without it.
Classic lack of empathy.
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>>17171286
What was the thing you were checking?
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Would it be better to ask a grill in person if she has any feelings towards me or is it fine over facebook these days
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>>17171434
she was bitten by a tick and I suggested her getting it checked
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>>17171441
Is there any reason she'd be embarrassed about her boyfriend knowing? Like she was being irresponsible by walking through the forest in shorts or something?
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>>17171459
I don't know why anyone would be embarrassed about getting bit by a tick (walking through the forest in shorts isn't really stupid, considering the weather, I do it all the time)
she's vaccinated against FSME, so lyme disease is the only thing to be worried about, and it's easily treatable with antibiotics, so I don't know what the big deal is

I was however the first one to recommend her going to the doctor, since she only noticed the tick that day and showed me the bite area (shoulder), but as I said, she could've easily asked the other dude afterwards

when she asked me she wasn't sure about her being vaccinated, but she confirmed it with me afterwards and still insisted on me going with her
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>>17171427

It kind of depresses me. They keep saying "you need to get dating experience because one day you'll get married!"

But I don't want any of that. I accept that I'll die alone, it's ok.
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>>17171440

This is just all around awkward thing to do, no matter how you do it. Just ask her out, whether she agrees or not will tell you enough.
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Am I cool with asking about a dating profile I just setup here, or is that too /soc/?
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>>17171343
thanks
>>17171358
what do you mean, without acting like a slut?

I would say rape fantasies are also a way to imagine losing control, but they don't mean a woman actually wants to be raped... Personally I like some elements of BDSM but the humiliation aspect, like being called a "slut" or have cum on my face, or fake rape never appealed to me
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How would you as a girl react if you where face to face with a 3.9 inch dick on a 25+ year old virgin?
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Well I sent Her

"Want To do something nextweekend?
Be Blunt"

Am I too direct? Im normally very Blunt and upfront person
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Male here. I am ugly as fuck and have a typical skinny loser look to me, but my penis is 7 inches. Does this make up for it?
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Is it okay to approach girls at the mall? I saw a cute girl I was going to talk to but I didn't know if it was okay to try to get her number
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>>17171570
Girls have been telling me my whole life that the mall is a good place to meet someone. I always called BS but maybe if I had taken their advice before I let myself go I wouldn't be the hopeless virgin I am today.
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Do girls really like when guys are corny?
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>>17171584
I feel you man. Maybe I should just start risking it
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testing
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My GF told me that she gets jealous, and If I want to talk to other girls, it's fine by her, just don't tell her.

Uhhh... what...?
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>>17171649
She feels like you're talking to her too much about the other girls you talk to. She's not going to be crazy and controlling, and forbid you from talking to them, she would just prefer you don't mention them so much.

Or if you haven't talked about other girls, this is a beforehand warning.
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>>17171569
Your penis is not even big
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>>17171569
Lift hard
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>>17171660
I only casually mentioned other girls like two times, and she says she told me that, and apologized, told me that I'm free to do whatever, and she doesn't want to make me upset, but just don't let her know because she gets extremely jealous.
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So there's this girl that's a friend of a friend, and we've been getting closer. Apparently I'm one of her favorite people, we get along fairly well, and she's kind of cute.

I'm thinking of asking her out, but we have very different politics from what I've picked up. I try not to make too big of a deal about those kinds of things, but I've had bad experiences with this issue in the past. You know, people that try to make accusations about your morality because you disagree with them kind of deal. Think it's worth giving it a shot anyways?
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>>17171328
>Fenmom
it's fine and and in my opinion facesitting and basic bondage is not that much of a big deal. Lots of my previous gf's knew that I had a maledom fetish (way more hardcore than this) and they really enjoyed it.
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Women: What did you think the following
>Roping your arms around your man while he's fucking you
>Locking your legs around him while he's eating you out
>Look really deeply at each other during sex
>Smile during sex
Also what is your pillow talk like?
I need to know if people really do these. They sound really hot, but I wouldn't know if they are in reality because I am a virgin.
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>>17171728
do*

I should stop posting from my phone
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>>17171328
Is face sitting really fem dom now? I always thought it was a bit sexy, but I've never been interested in being dominated really.
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>>17171728
Yes people do those

No idea whats pillow talk
If its talking in bed then yes if its some kind of in bed flirting then fuck no
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>>17171736
it seems to be brought up a lot when people discuss femdom, but yeah I think it can also be done in a quite vanilla way
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>>17171736
When done in a femdom way, it's equivalent to facefucking.
But even facefucking can be done slowly, gently, and vanilla.
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Hey, what do girls generally like when they ask for sexy pictures of a guy, I know these things must differ from one person to another, but I was wondering if I could get some posing tips, the girl is not into blatant dick pics and the guy is not exactly buffed ;-;
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is anal a thing that girls regularly think about or is it actually pretty "taboo" with normal people

i'm tainted by porn
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Any guys here completely shave their hair off?
Mine is falling out for some reason, and I'm thinking of shaving it. My head is pretty big, but my jaw is pretty wide too, I'm scared shitless because I have to start a (albeit shitty) job tomorrow

Go for it or grow for it?
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Can girls rate this older guy from 1-10?
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>>17171913
jew/10
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can't decide if I want to stay at 120 with stats really spread out and be shit at everything or go past to like 200 and start a new build after. right now it seems like variation is in the shitter and all my weapons suck ass if they aren't straightswords/katanas.
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for girls: I have a disgusting skin condition I can hide under my clothes and hair, definitely not when I'm naked.

How do I address it in regards to dating? As soon as mutual attraction is there, or only if/when we're about to get intimate? I'm certain this skin thing has ruined casual sex for me, since i'm not otherwise attractive enough to make it worthwhile.
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For girls: is a kissless virgin a turn off? I'm 21 now, and there's this girl who's interested in me. Female friend actually, she just confessed how she was super into me through text.

She's super cute and I like her as well, but I don't even know how to kiss and I feel like that and being a virgin will be a turn off for her, since she's dated some of my friends who have a lot of experience when it comes to sex and shit... dont know
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>>17171121
Female, yes, it's very enjoyable to just stand in a relaxed position and let it flow. Feels much better than sitting on a cold, uncomfortable toilet seat.
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>>17171302
Have you ever had a relationship? Are you a virgin?
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>>17171549
Dude, don't randomly whip your dick out in people's faces, that's sexual assault
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>>17171553
Being blunt and upfront are good qualities, trust your instincts and say what's on your mind. My current SO won me over on our second conversation with: "So what's your deal, are you seeing someone?"
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Hey girls. Tell me about your sexual fantasies. I want to know:

1. How often you have them

2. What time of day you usually have them

3. The scenarios you typically imagine

4. Who you fantasize about.

Thanks in advance ladies.
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>>17171569
Having a good personality would make up for it, dick size does not matter because she'd have to already want to have sex with you before she even sees it
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>>17171570
Not girls who work there, but if you come across a girl and have a nice conversation with her then go for it
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>>17171624
No one can speak for a whole gender, but I enjoy when my friends/coworkers/partners of any gender are corny
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>>17171867
From my experience, maybe one in five women will go for anal and maybe one in ten will actually enjoy it
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Why do most girls think foot fetishes are weird or gross. I was with a few of my female friends and the topic was brought up and they all seemed to agree that it was the worst thing a guy could do.
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>>17171900
What do you mean, falling out for some reason? You might want to talk to your doc
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>>17171916
Joe/10
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>>17172101
From my experience, 50% of girls love getting their toes sucked. The other 50% are liars.
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>>17171944
When you're making out and starting to get hot and heavy, just mention it casually as a "just so you know" and briefly reassure her that it's not contagious. If she's at that point it won't be a big deal to her.

Also, please explain how it ruined casual sex for you?
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>>17172110
Juice/10
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>>17171121
yes

>>17171186
depends on the girl. some, yes, others (who were slags) definitely not. however, as i approach my thirties, older and wiser, I'm angling more towards a very, very young woman as a partner

>>17171233
unlikely. prostitutes have made a career out of being an ideal woman, even if only temporarily

sluts vs. prostitutes is a matter of self honesty, and I would date neither.

>>17171302
you're smart, but you kinda sorta need to get your dick wet or you go insane

>>17171440
just fucking ask her out

"hey i'm bored let's go get some pizza"

>>17171725
politics don't fucking matter dude. stop falling for histrionic jewish memes

>>17171867
every woman i have been with has enjoyed anal quite a bit, to the point of requesting it
but then again my dick is miniscule
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She:
>claims she has had sex with 4 others before me
>hangs out almost solely with other guys, some of which I have seen drool over her before we got together
>doesn't like it if I hang out with girls if I've had sex with them (alright, I get it but keep this in mind)
>has had multiple beta orbiters and still have that buy her way more expensive gifts than I can afford
>main friend male, I have never seen him
>tells me a story today about meeting another friend whom I have no idea who is, about his kid catching him cheating and telling his mom (his girlfriend) and asking me how that isn't funny while it clearly states that she has met with a friend that cheats on his wife. When I tell her that I find nothing funny about this, she tells me I'm insecure

Otherwise seems like a loyal woman but I might be fooled. We've been together for 3-4 months now.

Dump her like a sack of puppies off a bridge or keep on until I get tangible evidence of her cheating? Or am I overthinking this?
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>>17172146
bang her but dont get attached and dont spend lots of cash on her

even if she isn't cheating she's got more red flags than the ussr
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Girls, what is it like having guys throw themselves at you just for existing? That you literally have to just exist and guys will be attracted to you and want to take care of you?

This is a unique thing that only happens to women.
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>>17172146
Calls you insecure because you think cheating isn't funny in a monogamous relationship?

She's probably cucking you, famboi. No reason for a woman to make new male friends when they're in a relationship anyway.
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>>17172136
>unlikely. prostitutes have made a career out of being an ideal woman, even if only temporarily
Yeah, but this one doesn't seem to be TEMPORARILY nice. She is a nice person, even her colleagues told me so.
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>>17172170
yeah but she sold her body for money

we can be friends, and maybe even bang sometimes but i can never commit to someone so damaged
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>>17172122
The biggest factor is that it's affected my confidence severely. Secondly, it's painful to the touch and everywhere on my body, so sex that's just physical, with no emotional attachment, is more painful than it's worth..
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>>17172159
Most of the time they guys who do that aren't quality, so it's not enjoyable

Plus, I do a good job of taking care of myself so don't really need a guy for that
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>>17172159
Boys, what is is like to be able to state your opinion without having it challenged or invalidated just because of your gender? That you literally have to just exist and people will take what you say seriously?

This is a unique thing that only happens to men.
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>>17172173
I can, though.

>>17172179
>imma stronk independent black woman

>>17172185
It's pretty good, mang. You jelly?
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>>17172185
Well, my opinions are correct, so no one feels the need to correct me


take your salty period juice back to tumblr, lad

>>17172189
oh. well if she is clean and has no kids i suppose a hooker is superior to a slut
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>>17172174
That sounds anxiety-inducing, sorry you have to deal with such an uncomfortable illness. Honestly the best thing you can do is be honest and upfront with any girl you get serious with, and don't treat it like a big deal--just a minor annoyance you have to deal with. If she is a genuinely nice person and falls for you, then she will be more than happy to accommodate your disability because being with you far outweighs any small downsides that come from your condition
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>>17172189
Pretty jelly, 10 times better than having skeevy men come up to you all day leering and trying to get in your pants
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How can I meet new girls/people?
I recently graduated and got a really nice job doing what I love to do.

I'm no longer broke as fuck and can actually afford to go out. But looks like now it's hard to meet girls.

I've usually heard the whole "just approach girls" but I think that's bs. Most girls would hate it unless it's Ryan Gosling.

How have new guys gotten to meet you girls?
How did you meet boyfriends or that random guy you fucked?
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>>17172192
Opinions, by definition, can never be correct or incorrect
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>>17172203
That's not even close to true.
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>>17172199
The best way to make friends is through work and hobbies, once you make friends then you'll meet their friends, and your social circle will continue out. Through this socialization pattern you will come across women to date, and it will be easier than cold-approaches because you will actually have things in common with these people.

All of this starts by you being social and being a good friend
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>>17172185

Nice meme, do you think the pay gap is real too?
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>>17172195
Thank you, it's really helpful to hear that.

I guess if I'm being as optimistic as possible, I can say my skin is like a filter for determining who's worth having around and who isn't.
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>>17172185
>Boys, what is is like to be able to state your opinion without having it challenged or invalidated just because of your gender?
I've been accused of mansplaining repeatedly

CHECKMATE
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>>17172218
Oh, it's real alright. The evidence is all there and you fail to see it.
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>>17172219
Great way to look at it
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>>17172227
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>>17172208
>>17172208
Well I've heard that before, but that sounds very general.
Is that how you girls usually meet guys? Friends of friends?
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>>17172227

K

http://www.forbes.com/sites/karinagness/2016/04/12/dont-buy-into-the-gender-pay-gap-myth/#532db9b34766

Whatever other tropes you want to discuss like catcalling or frequency of rape I'm happy to dispel
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>>17172227
Of course it's there, if you look at the lowest paying college degrees they're all dominated by women discounting theology for instance.

The issue is it's not the jewminati/patriarchy/whatever causing it. Different decisions will result in different results.

>>17172199
Honestly I like taking up classes to learn new things. Some people may prefer going to clubs or the bar, but I always felt extremely uncomfortable there.
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>>17172185
Obvious bait...
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>>17172198
And I am pretty jelly of you too. If I were a girl, I'd be the biggest slut on this planet and I'd get all the penises.

>>17172203
Yes, they can. For example, yours is incorrect.
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>>17172179

>b-but they're not Chad so it doesn't count

Way to miss the point

>>17172185

Blows my mind that people actually think this is real and not a meme you see on tv shows and tumblr stories
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>>17172198

>waaa people find me attractive
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Femanon here. Been with current boyfriend for three months, we've had nothing but vanilla sex since. I don't know if vanilla sex is the only thing he enjoys, or if he's afraid of being open with me of what he'd like during sex.

If he were more open with me I'd be more open with him, so maybe if I start, he'll become more comfortable with me. I don't know how to do it though. Especially something like ageplay and dom daddy/little girl roleplay
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If you found out that the guy that wants to date you is self-made, successful, has been through a lot but made it in the end, without him bragging about it, would that make him more or less attractive?
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>>17172242
Actually, yes. Looking back through the men I've dated, they're all pretty much either coworkers or friends of friends. My current SO was both, we worked together briefly years ago, and we both had the same group of friends. Recently we ran into each other at a party after forgetting the other even existed, got along surprisingly well, and started dating.
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Girls

If you are shy particularly, I can't figure out this situation. I wanted to talk to this girl to get to know her, but she was extremely dodgey around me. I'm friends with pretty much everyone and every group conversation she would back out of or be extraordinarily silent. I don't know if I annoy her or if she is afraid of me or what. When I walked past her alone she would look away from me very conspicuously as she walked forward. I couldn't say what I wanted to her. Can someone explain what happened?
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>>17172277
yo're a creep and she thinks you want to benis her
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>>17172277

Rule 1: Be attractive
Rule 2: Don't be unattractive
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>>17172272
Ah, well the issue with coworker dating is that it could very easily be seen as inappropriate, asking someone out could very easily be seen as sexual harassment. So the coworker stuff is out of the question.
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>>17172292
You're not wrong, but it is a good place to meet people and forge friendships, and those friendships can blossom. It's good to be cautious and wait for her to make the first move in that scenario.
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>>17172277
As a dude, this happened to me before.
Basically you're ugly but have a high social standing/are attractive in personality.

Girls first check that you are attractive enough, then after they check personality, social standing, or another way to rationalize getting with you.

Anyway, you lost any chance with her when you went out of your way to talk to her.
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>>17172265
Simple, just talk to him about it first and tell him things you'd want to try and ask him if he'd be up for it and if there's anything he'd like to try
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Do grills like their assholes eaten?
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>>17172332
I don't know about every female in the universe, but I know I do not enjoy that particular act
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For girls,

What would be a good solution for a guy, like me, who wants to always pay for a girls food but gets the "Its okay I can pay for myself"?
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>>17172343
What don't you like about it?
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>>17172346
>I'll get it this time, you can get the next one.
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>>17172346
Let them pay, they don't want to fuck you
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>>17172347
It does not feel pleasurable enough to get over the heebie-jeebies I get thinking about the amount of bacteria teeming in the average human asshole
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>>17172266
can ya girls answer this?
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>>17172351
>they don't want to fuck you

Cause taking them to get ice cream or Chinese will turn them on in the first place.
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>>17172266
>>17172362
If I'm interested it would make him more attractive, if I'm not interested but am friends with him it would make me respect him more. If I don't care about him then I wouldn't care
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>>17172346
>paying for girls
You're a cuckold.

>>17172353
Also have in mind that anusfags are closeted homosexuals.
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>>17172266
A little bragging wouldn't be too bad, too much though and you'd just come off as an arrogant asshole
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>>17172370
>Also have in mind that anusfags are closeted homosexuals.
i'm actually a rape victim
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>>17171302
nope nigga that's personal preference

>not lonely being alone
truly we are the master race
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>cuddle with girl
>somehow end up waking up and sucking her toes
>she moves her foot away but eventually puts it back to let me suck them more
>she has a boyfriend

So, did she cheat?
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if i cant flirt why the fuck do i get lucky with some ladies
explain it to me girls? like when i actually like a girl and try to make a move i drop my spaghetti but when im not trying to do shit i always end up with a complicate situation
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>>17172387
>cuddle with girl

yes
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>>17172389
Because when you actually like someone you are self-conscious and uncertain, negative traits. When you aren't super-interested in someone you act confident and easy-going, positive traits
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>>17171302
i think i was like you but then i realized that i cant really connect to people and now its too late to form a proper relationship without looking like a teenager, i am not saying you are definetely gonna be sorry but i believe you eventually will be
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>>17172395
except im not confident at all even when i really dont care about the girl, in fact i am self deprecating all the time, its one of the things people recognize me for
or maybe you are right and im not seeing it
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Question for anyone

Me (Guy) and a friend (Girl) have an insane amount of sexual tension between us, we're both in relationships with other people, but we both know the tension is there, I sometimes catch her staring at me while biting her lip and rubbing her legs together, and I can't help but get hard whenever I see her

We both know the tension is there but we've never talked about it directly to each other, but we can't just leave our current relationships, I live with my girlfriend and she lives with her boyfriend and blah...what the fuck do I do? Other people are starting to notice it, I had a friend ask "You do know she wants your dick, right?" and her boyfriend is starting to notice her looking at me all the time, so I think rumors are going around now, so I know this is going to turn into some crazy fucking drama


HELP!
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>>17172382
>i'm actually a rape victim
so hot
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>>17172431
no, no it's not
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>>17172423
She's being childish and immature, ignore her
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>>17172423
Hit it and quit it
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>>17172434
yes, yes it is
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>>17172446
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>>17172423
You may as well fuck her, sounds like you're going to get accused of it anyway soon
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>>17171121
Male. No. If I have to pee I'll wait until I finish my shower, go to the toilet, then wash my hands with soap.

For both (please state which): do you pee in the pool?
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Hi its me Brandon again!

How do you feel about in platonic friendships?
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>>17172462
Female: absolutely no
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>>17172468
FUCK!
I screwed it!

I mean uh:

How do you feel about CUDDLING in platonic friendships?
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Is my chicken finished yet?
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>>17172452
>some women don't dig rape
>there aren't a subset of women who go out to intentionally get raped
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>>17172495
I am not a woman
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>>17172499
https://www.reddit.com/r/NSFWIAMA/comments/25fhv8/the_girl_who_gets_herself_raped_or_whatever_this/
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>>17172499
>I don't identify* as a woman
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>>17172503
I've read that before, she actually goes out to get raped, and there are always hundreds of women saying how hot it is, and some that do it too
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>>17172503
>implying this is real
I don't believe anything from Leddit since the park ranger's scary stories.
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>>17172532
She's been posting about it for the last 4 years, and she still posts about it. That's an awfully long time to keep up a bullshit story
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guy here. Im bi.
>Are girls still willing to date me? or does the fact that i date guys take me out of the dating pool
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>>17172557
>does the fact that i date guys take me out of the dating pool
For me yes, but there are some slutty girls who will still date you
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>>17172543
If I'm not mistaken, the park ranger also was posting for years.
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What does it mean when a girl says she has two jobs the one above and the one below?
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I just found out my girlfriend still goes to her ex for emotional support when she's under duress.

Is this something to be worried about
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>>17172566
the one who did porn?
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>>17172568
She's a whore
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>>17172569
yes, she's not over him, and you're a rebound
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>>17172569
>duress

First, you need to make sure you're using that word correctly. Duress means to be under threat of violence. If your girlfriend is under threat of violence, you're a shitty fucking boyfriend.
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Do girls scratch their crotch and sniff it?
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>>17172588
All the time
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>>17172588
And stick fingers up our asses
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>>17172571
No. The one who told scary stories. The last ones talked about stairs in the middle of forests.
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>>17172583
using speech to text, meant stress

>>17172581
she dumped him though.
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>>17172609
she's still fucking him
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Is there such thing as a flirty friend? guys who just flirt with their gal pals to boost their self esteem?

How do regular platonic guy friends act with their "gal pals"? especially the type who are "normies" or very social?

I only "flirt" with guy friends, if they are attractive to me in some way but act bro-ish around the ones I didn't find attractive. Is this the same with guys?
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>>17172612
i know for a fact that's not the case because their texts are 70% about him asking her to hang out and she refusing. she's with me every day and he lives a town over.
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>>17172614
No not really, girls usually respect relationships and if one does act flirty I usually tell her to "fuck off, hoe"
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>>17172614
24 yo normie male here.

I flirt with almost every single woman in my life unless I don't like her as a person or she's too fat
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>>17172614
>guys who just flirt with their gal pals to boost their self esteem?

Yes. I have a bouncer friend who flirts with me and all of our female group because it's part of his personality to act like a mack daddy. It's fine, harmless and everyone knows the score. He's just a black dude being a black dude.

I also have male friends who never flirt, and our conversations are pretty standard and uninvolved. Stuff like "did you hear so and so will be at such and such venue?" and "when are we all going to x thing?" Sometimes we get into conversations about mutual interests.

It's pretty obvious when a guy is just trying to talk to you, and when he's trying to get into your pants.
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On dating sites, do people say "goodnight, I'm going to bed", "good morning" and things like that? Or do you just go to bed without saying anything and pick up the chat from where you left off whenever you have time to reply?
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>>17172634
depends
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>>17172636
Elaborate.
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>>17172640
is the conversation flowing like when you text, or are you just starting the conversation, or is it hours/days apart from responses, are you autistic?
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>>17172634
>Hi I like your profile, I'm going to bed now goodnight

No
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>>17172644
With this girl, it's being kinda like texting.
Even when texting, I hating saying good morning, good night. Why do we have to waste time with such formalities?

>>17172653
I mean, after several messages, not at the start.
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>>17172660
>Goodmorning
>Good night
>formalities
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>>17172684
Prepare for the HR meeting
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>>17172670
If they aren't formalities, why don't you say it here, anon?
Good night!
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>>17172705
Social norms/ and niceties don't belong on 4chins
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Both genders

How important is sex in a relationship?

It seems increasingly more important to be good in bed, and I'd rather not have a relationship where sex is some kind of expectation/obligation
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>>17172764
what's the fucking point of being in a relationship if you don't make love?
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Girls and guys

a very close female friend of mine was just proposed to by her boyfriend. and she told me she really wants me to be there for her wedding. Of course I'm going to go, she's a great friend. I'll definitely be there to show my support.

Just.. I feel shitty right now, and in worried I'm going to be really depressed at her wedding. I like her, it's something she has known about, but geographically we do not live close. And we both agreed that a LDR wasn't feasible. so I'm just asking what is it I can do to not feel so shitty on her special day?
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>>17171071
I know this is probably the wrong place to ask, but I'm not worth a new thread.

Why is it everytime I'm close to be in a relationship I always seem to push the other person away. I've had my heart broken before, but am I just afraid to have it happen again or something? I've done it to 4 different girls I've seen and talked to so far.
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>>17172775
she considered a LDR with you while she was in a relationship?
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>>17172801
Probably not.
From that, this implies that he's been after her for a long, long time.

>>17172775
M A N U P
A
N

U
P

Be her friend, and if you can't stop yourself from feeling more for her, cut it off. Don't dig yourself into the pit I'm in right now like this.
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>>17172775
Cuck the guy at his wedding

Either die fighting him or teach him his fucking place
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>>17172801

No that was before she met her current boyfriend.
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>>17172793
None of us can read your mind, and you're only going to come across armchair-psychologists. I would suggest doing some more introspection, and maybe try moving past your urge to push women away. Either it goes sour, and you realize why you push them away, or it goes well, and realize that your attitude was silly/unfounded.
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>>17172810

Obviously I'm going to be at the wedding. I am her friend. I'm not going to ruin a great friendship over this. Gahh.. You didn't understand what I was asking. I'm asking what can I do so I don't feel like complete shit from this.

>>17172811

What? No!
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>>17171186
>For single males nearing or over the age of 30...
>Could you see yourself getting back together with a high school/college girlfriend?

Maybe. Depends entirely on the reason for the breakup.

If because of
Distance/practicality, sure.
Argument/fade away, maybe... (still leaning towards no)
Hostilities/cheating, no way.

>>17172614
>Is there such thing as a flirty friend? guys who just flirt with their gal pals to boost their self esteem?

Sure. I flirt with just about anyone, be they an attractive female that's my age or an older woman that's not very (though the "flirt" changes").

I've got a female friend in particular where like 75% of our interactions are basically us flirting and hyping each other up. And I do it because I just know it feels nice every now and then.

My girlfriend knows I'm a flirt in general and knows that I don't mean anything by it, it's just part of my personalty and humor.

>>17172764
>How important is sex in a relationship?
Depends entirely on the relationship.

The most important thing really is for sexual trends and needs to be consistent.

Everyone has different needs and expectations..

If you start a relationship having sex 2 times a week, and then dwindle down to 2 times a month, your relationship is probably going to blow up.

But if your relationship is where 2 times a month feels natural, and you're both cool with that, ten that's fine.

Same is true if you're in a relationship that only wants it 2 times a year, 2 times a day, or whatever.

Just like any other type, sexual comparability is important. If you don't share similar needs and wants out of life, it's hard to go on together for long.
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>>17172820
You're a fucking pussy. If you want that girl you take her.
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>>17172836

Fuck off masked frog
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>>17172811
Dude, this ain't the fucking stone-age. Yeah, women love strong, assertive, men who make their feelings and intentions known, but trying to sleep with a girl, or beat up a dude who's done you no wrong doesn't make you look tough. It makes you a fucking jackass.
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>>17172764
Well im my last relationship we normally had sex 2 times a day over 2 years
I have a high sex drive and its pretty important to me

I wouldn't break up if the girl doesn't want multiple times but at least once a day or 5 times a week is important
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>>17172775
You can always go with the classic and get rip roaring drunk at the open bar(?)
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>>17172852
Fucking faggot

this is why you're gonna be speaking arabic soon
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>>17172185

It's pretty fucking great. I love bossing women around with my superior intellect.
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>>17172857

I'm naturally a depressed drunk. So I usually don't drink more than 2 beers when I do end up drinking
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>>17172836

The Water Rises, frogger!
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>>17172609
>using speech to text
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My girlfriend barely ever uses facebook and we only see each other twice a week at most. I really miss her and don't want to be seen as clingy but she's far too distant.
Should I be worried that she's cheating or not in love anymore.
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>>59752621
Male here, how do female thinks about unemployed beta fag that lives with parents?
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>>17173006
what do you think

/adv/ is a really bad place to ask women about things anyway
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>>17173019
Women I know are just money transaction machines.
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Dealing with a hard situation in my relationship, would like some opinions:

Lately I had been feeling slightly taken advantage of, I have been putting in a lot of effort and sacrificing a lot of my time and convenience to maximize the amount of time I spend with my SO who lives about a 45 min drive from me. Had a culminating moment Friday night where I fully realized these feelings, we got into a tiff about it, and didn't really get to talk about it much with him until tonight.

One major disagreement between us right now is his timeline to move in here. He has committed to moving in June 1st with me and my two roommates, and we have based all of our financial situation around having four total roommates. Because he is committed, he will be paying rent on the 1st regardless of his actual move-in date, but ideally I'd like him to move in sooner rather than later because driving back and forth between our places is a bitch for both of us. Unfortunately, he is stressed about the fact that he does not have a stable job, and will have to work odd jobs and dip into savings to make this move happen. He has also never cohabited with a girlfriend before and is feeling anxious about that. Finally, the jobs he's working are closer to where he lives now, so he will be commuting longer than he would prefer. All of these reasons, I think, are making him procrastinate the moving process, much to my chagrin.

Cont...
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How can i tell if my bf is not overwhelmed by my libido? I did ask and he said no. But i suspect that he would have sex just to not turn me down.
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At first I was angry about the extended timeline, and the hassle of having to continue driving far to see him. I considered saying he needs to drive here if he wants to spend time together, hoping this will encourage a sooner move. But the more I think about it, the more it seems selfish. I do the drive and put up with the hassle because that's what it take to make this relationship work, the benefits far outweigh the inconvenience, and for that reason I should not complain or expect appreciation. Obviously he's going through a stressful time, he's been out of school for four years and still can't find a job, this weighs heavily on him. I don't doubt that he cares for me and wants to see me, but his stress is getting in the way of his ability to act the way I prefer, and I can't really hold that against him because he has a lot on his shoulders

So I decided to stop pressuring him and give him time to feel comfortable about moving, even if it means sacrificing to make that trek every day. To me love is about doing what you can, and sacrificing when need be, for your SOs happiness. And right now, because I love him, I can continue to be supportive while he works things out and finds happiness

My question to /adv/: Does this sound like a reasonable solution? Is there anything I'm overlooking? It sounds a little naïve, and puts me in a vulnerable position by conceding my wishes to his, but I have lived as a self-serving narcissist in other relationships and never known much about this kind of selfless love so I would like to do my best to be a better person and partner

TL;DR
>BF is supposed to move in the 1st, but is dragging his feet due to stress. It's inconvenient right now because I have to drive a ways to be able to see him, feel a little unappreciated. Was feeling angry, but decided to do my best to be supportive and hope he decides to move in sooner rather than later. Does this sound like the best way to handle the situation?

I appreciate any response.
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>>17173045
If he doesn't want to have sex he would say no. I would say that as long as he keeps agreeing you can keep going for it.
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>>17173063
Ok. I hope your right. I don't want to wear him out. I'm just constantly horny when he's around... Atm he's sleeping next to me and i have contemplated more than once to start fondling him to wake him up, so i can feel his cock inside me again. We had sex 4 times yesterday... Sometimes i feel like a crazy sex monster.
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This world only cares about money.
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>>17173077
im pretty jealous desu
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Guys and girls: When does affectionate become clingy?
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>girlfriend of a year broke up w me in april because she was getting "depressed" and one of her close friends was telling her he'd be better for her
>ever since that day she comes to me for emotional support because her new guy doesn't know her as well as I do and isn't capable of same support
>shut her down because she's pissy and a bitch to me when she's not feeling vulnerable
>just called and apologized for being rude and awful to me since break up
>immediately got pissy afterwards

what the fuck brehs

I'm operating under two hypothesis; she's mad I'm not being a dick so she can play the victim and she feels conflicted because she realized I'm still the best man for her

or

she's being pissy because she's crazy
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>>17171071
to both men and women, how big of an age gap would be too big for you? i turned 22 earlier this month and i've been talking to this woman that's 26-27

i asked my friend what he thought and he thought that 5 years was too big of a gap and so i decided to turn to the people of /adv/ to hear what they think
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>>17173122
You're a legal adult so it really doesn't matter what other people think
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>>17171900
If you can save it try to, if not let it go. All I know is that I miss my hair so very much and it sucks.
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>>17173085
This world only cares about efficiency and what you can provide for it. In a capitalist system these things are rewarded with money.
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>>17173091
When it starts to become more than the person is comfortable with.
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>>17173077
That's rape
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>>17173182
Not if it's been previously established that he's OK with her doing that.
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Anons
What's sex like with an uncircumcised penis ?
Like, does it hurt?
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>>17173185
>What's sex like with a normal, unmutilated penis?
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>>17173195
I think Anon meant to ask what sex is like with phimosis. Either that or Anon is retarded.
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How do I become the best door holder in the world?
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>>17173182
He gave me permission to fondle him in sleep.
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not gonna make a new thread for this even though i'm not 100% asking the other gender:

ladies, how acidic does your pussy taste? i don't think i taste bad, and obviously a vagina is going to taste at least a bit acidic. i've gotten my vag swabbed for bacteria etc. and have normal pH, but my pussyjuice tastes kinda like lemonade on the more sour side.
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>>17173412
I just made a field study for you. I just stepped out of the shower, inserted a finger and smelled on it. I taste almost sweet. Just SLIGHTLY acidic, almost not noticeable. Then i went to the fridge and smelled on some plain joghurt. It smelled a LOT more acidic than my vagina. I'm
Going to try to find something that smells similar and report back if you want.
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Aight ladies, help me out here. It's another dick size one, but not the usual IS x ENOUGH!? How small would a guy have to be for you to want to say 'Just get out.'? Would you? Yeah yeah, personal preferences etc., just humor me if you've got a second.
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>>17173456
thank you friend i appreciate your effort
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>>17173459
I mean I don't think I'd tell anyone to get out, but anything smaller than 5 inches probably wouldn't be pleasurable for me. Anything larger than about 7 inches also wouldn't pleasurable though (I know max dick size isn't your question but whatever just an FYI)
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>>17173459
If I get to see your cock, it mean I love you and care about you. So honestly I'd never say it.
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>>17173464
Alright, i think i smell a bit like dilluted maple sirupe. The maple sirupe is way more intense, but the smell is similar.
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>>17173466
>>17173468
Good enough for why I asked, thanks a million.

>>17173456
>>17173479
Loving the science™ going on here.
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>>17171071
for guys, what's a nice way to ask if "i'm just wasting my time with you and i should move on"

she hasn't said anything to the contrary that she didn't like me. i don't want to be too blunt in asking, either, since i'm autistic. it's difficult for me to be tactful at times
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>>17173490
Yeah, that's how i am. Very scientifically proven.
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I recently realized I'm the anxious preoccupied in my 8 month relationship, and perhaps my girlfriend is anxious avoidamt. How can I become more secure? What can I do to help this relationship become long-lasting and meaningful?
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>>17173479
wow neat thank you for sharing

i only ask about the taste bc i'm the same girl who asked yesterday about how to ease into oral sex with my boyfriend. i'm afraid the taste might be a deterrent because it is pretty strong. i don't smell though. i dunno man
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