I have a girlfriend that I like. Unfortunately I am horny all the time and her sex drive is not the greatest. I maybe get a blowjob once a week.
How wrong would it be if I text or sext random girls just to get off when my girlfriend is not in the mood? Is this one of those things where if she doesn't know what I'm doing it won't hurt her?
I would never cross the boundary of anything physical, but I feel so blueballed and porn doesn't do shit for me. Flirting always has worked better for me.
Okay I'll tell you a story.
I've been with my gf for four years. We recently decided we both need some space. We've been talking again as of today.
A few months ago her sex drive started diminishing because she was stressed with school, her job (which she quit) and is now looking for a new job.
I have a very high sex drive. Our sex is great, but when she's stressed the sex is mediocre or we just hang out and do other shit.
I started a tinder and an okcupid account just to flirt with random girls to boost my ego.
I've met up with a few girls from online and had sex while taking a break with my gf. Today I had an epiphany.
It's a waste of fucking time and money. Sure getting laid is fun, but after I busted a load in this Asian girl's mouth today I realized that I'm just wasting time and money.
Focus your energy on your gf and you will get more sex. Anything that makes her happy is foreplay. Hold her hand, help her with the dishes, watch seinfeld repeats with her.
Learn how to give a good massage.
What you have now I like to call the "beast" or one of my coworkers I was talking to calls it "woof." A sexual desire that is trying to be quenched.
Don't feed it. It never stops, it just gets easier. First you're sexting, then you're meeting up, then you're hooking up. Before you know it, you just spent a whole week texting like a teenage girl and wasting money on gas and food.
Also stop looking at porn. Never ever fap to porn, you're basically rewiring your brain.
If you love your gf then don't be an asshole. If you have blueballs, jack off. But you really shouldn't get blueballs more than once every three-four days.
IMO you're at the starting phase of a sex addiction and you need to get control of it fast. The first thing you should do is cut porn out of your life completely. That includes 4chan threads and OP images.
>>17169652
I don't think I am addicted. I just think my sex drive is really high. I'd prefer to get off at least once a day.
I haven't been watching porn as much as I have in the past. It doesn't work for me at all. Usually what I do when I jack off is just think of different women. (Sometimes being my gf, and sometimes other girls)
>>17169609
So you get a blowjob once a week.
And what does she get?
Maybe if you thought more in terms of giving her pleasure, she might have more motivation to have good-for-both sex more often.
>>17169823
I try to eat her out whenever she lets me (about 3 times a week.) I also bought her a vibrator and use it on her and she seemed to like that a lot, but she lost it.
She does try to give me handjobs every now and then (like twice a week), but I don't really like them.
>>17169789
Look op if your giving it effort and she's not fucking you I'd say bail.
Talk to her about your issue.
If your giving it effort doesn't work then bail
I repeat it because there are plenty of women out their that will swallow your load.
Is it worth spending all this effort on gf? I'd say not if your young if your 30 sure this bitch is their for the long haul.
18 to 25 women change 25 to 30 they change 50 and up they change again.
Hormones and shit that's why most young marriages fail .
>>17169652
I do this. I just need sex and my boyfriend is not very horny. I haven't stopped yet. I probably will if sex improves with him.
>>17169915
>>>17169652
>I do this. I just need sex and my boyfriend is not very horny. I haven't stopped yet. I probably will if sex improves with him.
What exactly do you do, and how long have you been with your bf?
>>17169927
I made some profiles and met someone purely for sex. He knows the situation and is cool with it being on the low. I've been with my bf for 2 years
>>17169652
No fap babies use the argument of brain rewire, like everything in your life rewires the fucking brain.
>>17169934
Wow your bf is a tool Ahahaha
Mine gave up on me the moment we got married. I say fuck it but it really depends.
>>17169945
He didnt say no fap
He said no porn
>>17169949
One of my worst fears
>>17169609
>i have a girlfriend that i like
>willing to throw that away for some random sluts to write some dirty shit on a screen for me to get off too
You sound like a fucking idiot
>>17169934
>>>17169927 (You)
>I made some profiles and met someone purely for sex. He knows the situation and is cool with it being on the low. I've been with my bf for 2 years
Your bf knows, or the guy you are doing it with?
