After having sex with my boyfriend, I just want to be alone. How do I fix this?
He is big on post-orgasm cuddling, so I try to appease him, but all I really want is for us to go our separate ways, which makes me feel guilty.
I love him very much, I don't feel any sex-related shame, I'm female, and I am usually left feeling satisfied. I don't know why I feel this way, but I want to change it. We are both normally very affectionate and romantic towards each other.
>>17158957
Do you just enjoy the buzz?
Bump out of interest. Not op here, and I'm a guy, but I get the same thing. I lose a lot of interest in my partner post-orgasm, whether or not I'm dating them.
First thing that comes to mind is you not being sexually attracted to him.
>>17158962
Well it's sort of normal when guys do it.
>>17158959
I feel like I just ate a full meal and am done with the plate. I just want to walk away from the table.
>>17158996
>not being sexually attracted to him.
This can't be it, he is my personal 10/10 and sex with him is always very passionate and fulfilling. It has to be something internal, but I don't know how to fix it.
>>17158957
Do your parents still love each other?
>>17159009
They're still married, but they're not very loving.
>>17159016
Ditto, and I'm >>17158962, wonder if it's related at all. I've only ever seen my parents kiss a handful of times, and never passionately.
>>17159033
I've never seen my parents kiss. My mom will actually push my dad off if he tries to hug her. It's fucked up.
It may be partly this, but for you especially, it's probably also just certain hormones being released and maybe fatigue. Not unusual for men.
sounds like you do enjoy sex, but you have a subconscious aversion to affection/maybe the emotional aspect of it all. it's very possible to have something blocking you from accessing your emotions and you not realize it; little things like not wanting to be affectionate are usually good indicators.
how do you usually handle your feelings? when you're stressed or upset, do you feel like you handle those emotions in a healthy way or do you just bottle them up/block them out?