Hey /adv/isors I have a bit of a problem here.
I am a 19 yr old female in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who's 20. We've been dating for 10 months now and I've noticed that whenever I bring up sex or wanting to masturbate with him, he reacts / behaves strangely. We both are into the same fetishes and kinks (BDSM, torture, dom / sub and related) and he's never had a problem telling me about his fantasies.
However, I'm always the one to bring up masturbating or being in the mood. A couple times he's gone with it and masturbated with me, but hasn't in months. He often plays it off and tells me to go masturbate. When I directly ask him if he would like to, he changes the subject and won't answer me. I mention being in the mood to him maybe once a month, if that, although I have a high libido. I understand being tired, not in the mood, or have already masturbated that day, but this happens so often that I'm doubting any of those are the problem.
How can I talk to him openly without the subject being changed and get him to be more responsive on the subject of sex? Our relationship is rather lacking in this aspect.
Thanks!
>>17155888
Just tell him to come over for a weekend to fuck.
You have to just try talking to him. Be calm and considerate but be firm. A couple needs to be able to communicate in order to work out as a couple. If this is going to be a problem it has to be addressed.
>>17155888
>Our relationship is rather lacking in this aspect.
You're long distance, of course your relationship is lacking sexually.
Maybe he just doesn't feel like webcam fapping because its weird emasculating. Its not really strange for someone not to want to do that.
Shit, I wouldn't.
You can't talk to him unless he agrees to. There isn't a magic string of words that works on everybody and makes them comfortable talking about a subject they're avoiding.
Say you want to work things out in your relationship. If he doesn't want to talk or avoids it, break up. Long distance relationships are a lot harder to fix or maintain anyway.
>>17155888
Basically your bf has access to HD professionally shot and edited porn with an almost unlimited supply of girls way hotter than you doing anything and everything he could ever want and there's no reason for him to watch you finger your cunt when he wants to jack off.
Being in an actual relationship is different because he can actually touch you, but with LDRs porn is simply better for busting a nut.
>>17155902
We don't use webcams because its weird as hell. Its always been just messaging erotic stuff to each other and saying what we want to do etc.
>>17155899
Should I bring it up soon if I asked him to masturbate with me today? Or would that be considered overbearing or annoying? I'm pretty spergy when it comes to good communication
>>17155920
>We don't use webcams because its weird as hell. Its always been just messaging erotic stuff to each other and saying what we want to do etc.
Holy fucking shit you dumb cunt. This is basically torture for men. It doesn't do anything for them. I hate it when girls want to do this. I have no idea why they enjoy it so much.
>>17155937
I'm a guy who enjoys it, although it's better when they send pics and videos along with messages. I did think the same as you until I stopped watching porn though
>>17155888
Either doesn't feel like boning, or he is thinking about/talking to some other girl who has him more interested...
