/adv/, i need advice
im currently into this fetish called financial domination (findom) but im looking to quit it
its taking far too much of a toll on me mentally and as much as i love doing it its becoming far too blown out of proportion. i am currently with this chick IRL and its nice and all but its too much at this point
has anyone here ever been into it but quit? how did you do it? if its too difficult to quit how do i at least keep it to a minimum?
>>17154988
>how do i quit
by not setting up back ups like
>how do i keep it to a minimum
if you cant quit than you cant control it. so quit.
>but how
take any reference you have to it in your history, book marks, etc. and delete it. look for an extension that will let you block certain search terms. put anything related to findom on it.
kick the girl out.
>>17154999
i have already blocked it on my browser and such but when i am feeling horny i just find a way around it you know? its when im turned on its a problem!
i know it may not sound sane but you know how you sometimes think with the dick? its like that
>>17155009
idk if oyu pay women on line, but if you do, delete all your accoutns at these places, get rid of your paypal / easy payment methods etc.
as for the blocks, set it up with a password, and either type something random or ask a friend to type it in for you.
find a friend who you can share this problem with and let him know whenever you get the urge.
kick her out.
I saw a findom video once and I thought it was a joke. A girl demanding money from you and you paying it really gets you off? Why not just use it on something more tangible like being pegged by a dominatrix? Truly perplexing.
Anyway, my advice for getting over a fetish is to just explore other parts of your sexuality. Cutting the findom cold turkey will probably be the best bet, and just keep masturbating to other stuff in the mean time. There's infinite amounts of porn out there, I'm sure you'll find another fetish that is much less of a burden.
>>17155015
i have done it and i usually do when i have no other choice but to.
and good idea! i'll try that! but sharing it is not an option, sorry...
>>17155019
nonononono its all about the power play! i know it does strange to the uninitiated but its like the best form of domination which is why im finding it so hard to quit... also why finding other porn hasnt worked out for me, nothing just excites me as much as it does and i have tried which is why i am here because i am all out of ideas
>>17155035
>sharing it is not an option
if you cant even get someone on skype to talk to then you arent going to get through this mate. admitting you have a problem is the first step. admitting it to yourself is not what that step talks about
>>17155052
i am admitting it now! i just want to be discreet about it and i cant talk to anyone IRL since the girl knows my friends, thats how i meet her
>>1715503
So it's like this?
> you pay, you get humiliated, you get off
> you want to quit, you are humiliated because you can't, you get off even harder
It certainly seems like an endless loop of misery from a cursory glance. You probably can't get over this in your own.
Is there some way you could afford a psych?
If not I'm sure you could try a support forum or something, I'm sure they exist.
>>17155070
you gotta tell someone who has a station in your life.
you're firing the girl anyway so they're gonna find out.
>>17155086
that would be far too humiliating in the wrong way if she did tell them which is why im kinda anxious about doing that.
ive been trying to just fade out but its hard when she calls me when she knows that im in town and wants to go to and see a movie or something and just hang out, she is really sweet and nice to talk to and such but then she takes me out shopping or asks for a tribute so im not too sure what to think...
>>17155080
i could do that but i think its a bit of an overkill... Like its just a fetish not a mental disorder or anything
