I wasted me youth, never invested much in social live, always thought it would get better on it's own, but it never did.
I am 35 now, good job, good money but:
>no friends
>no gf
i need to change, i don't wanna end up an hero one day. How do i get more social?
I am not used to going out, i would have a hard time just going to bars alone and talking to random people. And i don't really think thats the best way to make friends anyway.
But what else can i do?
dont you have any colleagues?
>>17145526
33 bro here. Married at 30. Onlly have like 3 friends, and they all live out of town.
You can get friends anywhere by just joining an interest group or church or social club or something. They're a dime a dozen. I don't really have any friends and I"m perfectly happy. Online gaming and shitposting fulfills virtually all of my social desires. I wouldn't worry about that.
However at 35 you are starting to fall off of your peak in terms of desirability to a sexual partner. You'd better start working out, eating properly, and dating. I would recommend online dating websites such as okcupid, because they're easy and fun to do and can sort of get you out of a rut. It's not terribly hard to get pussy from sites like these.
>>17145526
Don't look for people. Look for things to do. People will follow.
Join a club. Join a church. Join a gym. Do volunteer work. Go to concerts, museums, clubs. Take a "useless" class (art appreciation, cooking, etc) at a community college.
You'll be in the company of people doing the same thing, so you automatically have something in common. It will be natural to chat, go out for a drink after, plan activities.
And some of them might be female-type people.
>>17145638
I thought it was normal to lose contact with your friends after you marry.
>>17145658
Maybe it is. I never really had many friends anyway, and the ones I did have I usually got bored with and alienated them on purpose.
