Something is wrong with one of my friend
She didn't talk about it with me so asked her by message if everything was okay
It was yesterday
I know she connected on facebook since but didn't look at the message
How much time should I wait before messaging her again ?

>>17143702

Maybe just leave it until she reads the message and responds. If there's something wrong, she may just not be checking her facebook properly.

Give her a few more days then maybe ask if she's ok.

Guys in their 20s (please state your age):

Say you meet a girl who is very mature, self sufficient, independent, and attractive (basically your perfect girl) but she's 18, would you feel okay dating her? Or would you find her too young? Would you worry about what friends or family would think?

I suppose this is a question to both genders. I got my first BJ a couple days ago and it wasn't quite what I expected it to be. I'm trying to figure out what, if anything, my girlfriend did wrong. Guys: I definitely felt her teeth the whole time.. Is that normal? Should I tell her that I shouldn't ever feel that? Ladies: what tips should I offer her to improve her bj skills?

Thank you everyone!

>>17143785
I'm 21
>would you feel okay dating her? Or would you find her too young?
No problem with that
>Would you worry about what friends or family would think?
I already have a reputation of prefering youger girls and my parents have a much bigger gap between them
3 years is nothing

>>17143798
>I definitely felt her teeth the whole time.. Is that normal? Should I tell her that I shouldn't ever feel that?
No teeth in a blowjob

>>17143785
>(basically your perfect girl)
> would you feel okay dating her?
yeah, id be fine with it. not concerned with whether or not others are fine with it. that being said, i think it would be extremely unlikely for a girl to be "perfect" for me while being so young. but if she was, you can bet your sweet, barely legal ass id go for it.

>>17143785
24

There's no such thing as "too young" when it comes to women. Well except if it's a child, obviously. Why do you think old farts with piles of money date and marry 20 years old girls? Most men like 15-25 YO girls the most.

>mature, self sufficient, independent
That's not my definition of a perfect girl. Just saying.

>>17143815
forgot my age
>29

>>17143822
>not my definition of a perfect girl
So what is? I thought men liked girls hat weren't clingy and childish and had their own independent life

>>17143849
we do. the anon youre replying to clearly has more eccentric tastes.

>>17143849
Well kind of.

We like innocent and cheerful girls and these are "childish" traits. Of course, we don't like women who act like children in every way, but we don't like them one hundred percent "mature" and serious either.

We don't like clingy, but we do like to feel needed and appreciated. Same with independence, we don't want girls that have absolutely no life, interests and passions, but we do like to be depended upon and we do like to be a big, important part of our partners life.

So basically we want something in-between mature and childish, something in-between self sufficient and clingy ... you get the idea.

>>17143798
the use of teeth are a clear giveaway that she has little experience.

>>17143849
Also ignore this faggot >>17143858, he either doesn't understand what he really wants or has the shittiest of tastes.

Most men don't like strong, independent womyn.

First kiss turned into third base, couldn't go for the home run because she didn't feel comfortable having sex.
Not sure whether to be proud or upset.

>>17143927
How is that relevant to this thread?

Guys

How do you know what sunglasses look good on you? My mom is taking me sunglass shopping this week as a gift for graduating college and I don't know how to tell what looks good on me. And my mom's loving heart would tell me that everything looks good on me so yeah..

I guess this is kinda related and doesnt warrant a separate thread.

How do i ask her out without becoming a hot blabbering mess?

>>17143952
Uh, ask the people in the store?

>>17143915
Not the op of the question, but that sounds really hard to live up to. How do you know if you're toeing the line just right? For example - how do you know if you're being the correct amount of dependent on a man while also maintaining this full life that you are expected to have?

>>17143970
>how do you know if you're being the correct amount of dependent on a man while also maintaining this full life that you are expected to have?
You don't, he does

>>17143952
Determine your face shape. Look online to figure out how to do this. Once you find out your face shape, look up 'sunglasses for ___ face shape'. Profit

>>17143970
Fellow femanon here, but I'm going to give you the biggest cliche as advice: be yourself. Unless you're one extreme or the other, most guys won't care. That's how it is with most things; everything in moderation. The more you overthink this stuff, the more neurotic and unstable you are, and the less attractive you are as a partner.

>>17143849
Clingy girls are fun
Childish only if its her sense of humor well a part of it

Someone I have sex with every so often always says that I seem nervous whenever we do it. I don't feel like I'm being nervous UNTIL she tells me to relax, and then my mood's totally killed. She likes it rough, which I'm not used to, but I'm trying my best and am honestly coming around to it... Still, the fact that I'm conscious of that at all might be an issue. I also don't have the greatest health. Long story short, I look healthy on the outside but have lots of blood and metabolic problems I'm trying to work around. When I try to ram her really hard and fast, I lose energy really quickly. I've been working out and making progress, but it's slow. Also, even though I've had girlfriends and flings in the past, she has way more sexual experience than me overall, so that crosses my mind from time to time. In spite of knowing about my health problems, she says that it's all in my mind and that I don't have anything to be self-conscious about. I don't feel stressed out or anything when we do it... Or do I? I don't know! This has never happened with anyone else before and I don't know what to do. If I really am stressed, what should I do to mentally prepare myself for sex the next time I see her?

>>17143937
oops forgot to mention the question.
How do I ensure that I can seal the deal next time?

I'm with a girl who suppresses a lot of her thoughts and I'm sure it's not doing her any good. For example when she's anxious about a meeting at work, she avoids thinking about it until the very last minute when she has a complete panic attack. She's never learned to face issues because she can ignore them instead. I've tried talking to her about it, but it's something she doesn't want to think about. Should I keep encouraging her to think about things or should I think about moving on? I don't think I could handle her staying like this in the long term.

>>17143970
There isn't an objective line. The point I was trying to make is that we like girls that aren't too far gone in an extreme (although a minority of guys will like those girls). First of all you can't really decide how independent and mature you are, it's almost like trying to decide how tall you are. And, you know, different strokes for different folks. Some guys will like girls that are more mature, some will like them a little childish.

>>17144023
Tell her that you know she's trying to help, but telling you to relax kills the mood and makes you not relax when before you were fine.

>>17143957
Could someone point me to the right place to ask this since it doesn'tseem to belong here?

>>17144053
It does belong here
We need more info

>>17144053
>>17144055
It doesn't belong here, this is the 'ask the opposite gender' thread.

>>17144042
this is definitely something that needs to be addressed. you and her need to work that out together, the worst thing you can do is run away because things are getting bad.

>>17144058
The opposite gender can't answer his question ?

>>17144063
it's a general question that doesn't belong here. If you look carefully (carefully is the operative word, you might miss it if you're a dumbfuck), people asking questions here, have started with which gender they're directing their questions to

>>17144055
I don't know what to tell you honestly. Heard of that "game" yandere simulator? Think that, but with male protag. When i get near her i just lose control. Worst part is im completely obsessed with her. We do know each other and talk and stuff but still i just cant be near her.

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do girls do that thing that guys do?

>>17144082
They talk about sex
They watch porn
They masturbate
They are shy in front of their crush
They are confused/annoyed by guys behavior
What else ?

>>17144094
that thing that guys do

Hello anon girl, I am anon man.
How can I maintain an interesting conversation with you?
I have some skills, I am confident ONCE I know the girl I am talking with and it doesn't have sexual tension but when it comes to start a conv. With someone new AND I like I got blank.
Please give me some topics, tips, where to look at or conversation compliments to start

>several hours without an ATOGA thread to shitpost on
:(

>>17143785
I'm a 28 penis.
I'd be a little insecure about it, but if she is "my perfect girl", I'd get over it.

>>17144051
I've basically said something to her along these lines but I feel like this is going to keep coming up somehow. Do I need to drink before I have sex or what?

>girl friend hits me up with random jokes and links she thinks are interesting
>we chat about it for a while

>I hit her up with anything that doesn't have a direct question in it
>no response most of the time
I don't get it

Guys & Girls
Should guys make the first move? Vice versa, and why.

>>17144437
As a guy, I'd really appreciate it if the girl makes the first move.

I'm sure girls are going to say the opposite, because no one likes doing it.

>>17144352
I know that feel bro.

>>17144437
Both genders should make the first move.

>>17144094
They need food, water and air to survive.

Femanons: would you ever be part of a poly household? If so what stipulations would you have?

>>17144437
Men should always make the first move. If a male can't even do that then he is not a real man and the female he is with will cheat on him with a real one. Women don't like chicken shit guys. They like the opposite and appreciate when guys lead them. Every girl likes to be shown who's boss

>>17144479
No, I'm 100% monogamous

>>17143849
I like women that have drive, passion, with something that they love. It shows that they don't need me (independent) but if she likes me enough to spend time with me, then that's proof that she likes me back.

I've had trust and love issues in the past...so if they can prove to me that I'm worth their time, I'll play my part and do the same, otherwise I'll drop you like the deuce I'm dropping as I'm posting this reply.

i slept with a boy that i met at my summer class (started last week monday) and got this earlier today

>I really hope that’s the last time we talk for a while. Like a long long time. I really don’t even want to think about you ever. Ever. Ever. I’m sorry. I want to forget you. I really am trying to forget you. I know that sounds harsh but it’s the best for you too. You know? I want to make it easier for you to forget me too. Because I know how much it hurts sometimes. I’m so happy right now and I need I need I need to cut you out. I love who I’m with. I love her so much. I need need to cut you out. I want to start over and be healthy. I need to cut you out. Permanently. I need to stop caring. Fuck.

we have lab tuesdays and thursdays together..should i try to talk to him or just tell the professor that i need a new partner? i didn't think it was that big of a deal.

>>17144621

>infidelity
>not a big deal
If it is to him don't do it

>>17143785
>>17143785

I'm 27

as long as I'm super into her, no problem (18 is legal consent where I live).
Problem is finding such girl at the age of 18 lol
but if I did, no problem

>>17144627
well i didn't really want a relationship, i just meant does it sound like one of those things that he's guilting himself but in a few hours he'll get over it and be a normal human being again? because im way too lazy to send emails to the prof if i dont have to.

>>17144635

It's still sexual infidelity

>>17144621
I feel you. So annoying when guys catch the feels.

If you're feeling lazy, just make him do the work. Don't text him or anything, but keep going to class like normal. If he thinks you guys need to change partners, he should contact the teacher himself.

>>17144042
Encourage her to get to a therapist. You are not her therapist. Do not be your therapist. You will ruin your sanity if you try to be her therapist.
Don't do this alone.

If she's unwilling, move on. Because nothing will get better if she's never going to put effort into fixing things.

>>17144023
>In spite of knowing about my health problems, she says that it's all in my mind
What a fucker

>>17144487
You seem like the kind of person who likes to put out "hints" and when someone acts on them you act all confused and shoot them down.

>>17144437
I am a grill. I don't think it matters at all. I made the first move on my bf. We've been together for 6 years now.

When I was interested in him, he didn't even notice me. The only way to ever have a chance was to initiate.

I hate doing the dating dance too. My friends fill my head with shit I should or should not do when I'm dating someone new. Like wait 4.5 minutes to text back so you don't seem busy. "Play hard to get." Wait 90 days to have sex so you're not a whore. Blah fucking blah.When I made my feelings clear, it prompted him to do so too. I liked having that "control" of initiating contact.

>>17143785
>Would you worry about what friends or family would think?
never
>would you find her too young?
no
>would you feel okay dating her
yes
>self sufficient, independent, and attractive, but she's 18
no problem
>a girl who is very mature and 18 years old
I don't believe this this is true.

You shouldn't be looking for a guy in his 20s. No matter how immature you may find 18yo guys, at 18 years old you should NOT be dating someone that much older than you because with age comes baggage that 18s aren't emotionally equipped to adapt to.

I would say that dating anyone older than 22 would result in nothing more than a tumultuous month or two.

>>17144437
As a guy, I think I should but I never do because (1) I still live at home and (2) I have no money to spend on her. So I just cockblock myself.

But if she asks me out, I ignore the above logic and say yes every damn time.

>>17144774
>bf
>for 6 years
I'm sincerely curious: why haven't ya'll gotten married?

Men: how good are you at cooking?

>>17143785

25, way too young. Not an issue out outside judgement, I just wouldn't be comfortable dating someone that age.

>>17144352

People like sharing their shit with other people and having it validated. That doesn't necessarily mean they have any interest in returning the favour.

Gotta admit, I'm guilty of this (trying to improve, with success). Over the moon whenever someone listens to a band I recommended or talks to me about a link I sent them, but any time shoe's on the other foot I'm generally too lazy to check it out. It's just self absorption, and maybe a little social awkwardness if she just doesn't know how to respond unless there's a direct question for her to answer.

Ladies. How long would you say you would avoid a relationship after ended a really long one that didn't work out, but was overall good until the end? Would you aviod all realationships or just serious ones?

>>17145214

Pretty good.

What are fun and friendly topics/things to say for a first message on a dating site?

I want to be genuine and can hold fun convo, but have trouble initializing it. Esp if the girl's profile is sparse with details.

>>17145214
I can cook rather well with direct heat (frying pans, grills, etc) but if I have to combine ingredients and then put it in a pot or in the oven it turns out mediocre or gross.

>>17145282
So the physical act of cooking is fine, it's just prepping the actual ingredients that you can't do? Then you can't cook.

Ladies

How long could you personally carry a torch for a guy who you used to be in love with but were never in a relationship with? Particularly if you were both proud, stubborn people who spent as much time emotionally tormenting each other as you did flirting.

It was intense and passionate, but not healthy.

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>>17144437
>Should guys make the first move? Vice versa, and why.
Guy here, girls should really do it too.

First of all, it'd help reduce the instances of lost opportunities, since right now only 1 person has to somehow screw up in order to prevent a potential relationship. If girls also made the first move, they could turn a lot of those could-have-beens into actual relationships.

Plus it's not really fair to expect guys to bear this burden forever, feminism and shit right?
I think pic related is a bunch of dogshit. Girls should be equal partners in the relationship, not sleeping princesses waiting to be rescued by prince charming.

Are there girls out there who thinks its hot to crossdress guys and sissify them and make them wear a chastity cage?

Assuming its in a loving relationship and its consensual and such.

I mean does dressing boyfriends up as girls appeal to woman for any reason?

Girls,

So physically I'm good looking, I'm 6'6", very muscular, dress /fa/, hitler youth haircut, neat stubbly beard. I look like a Chad essentially. But I'm very nice and goofy, pretty much opposite of what a Chad would act like. I'm also into nerdy stuff, but I'm not an autist. But here's the deal, I have my own apartment, my own car and I don't relie on anyone for anything. BUT I don't have a job, I go to school full time, and I get paid a salary for going because I'm a military veteran. So I have a lot of spare time to do stuff, mainly my hobbies. Is this a kind of deal breaker? I mean I have my own place and I'm selfsufficisnt, but I don't have a job (even though I get paid a salary to go to school) and I have lots of free time. Would that be kind of a deal breaker?

>>17145335
Are you aware that having a gap in your employment history doesn't look good to employers after school? Also
>6'6"
No thanks.

>>17145335
Heck no. You're independent and improving/enjoying your life. You aren't living off of your parents or welfare or anything.
Being into interesting hobbies is good. You sound fantastic. Where are you located, actually?

>>17145339
It's unexplained gaps. Going to school full time is a perfect explanation.

>not liking super tall guys
More for me

>>17145339
Yeah I know but I'm taking 4 or 5 classes a semester, I'd rather put 100% into school, than get stretched too thin with school and a job. And I'm planning on working for Google, most employers understand certain situations involving having a gap in your work history.

>no thanks
Your loss sweet cheeks

>>17145352
No, gaps in general. A degree alone won't land you a job, and being able to say you worked and studied looks better than just studying.

>>17145346
Thank you! Im in Southern California

>>17145335
I have a friend in the same situation who's 5' 9" but goes to a local college and lives with his parents. He lost count of how many times he's gotten laid. Military in USA get pussy like none other. When you're young and in college, not all girls need you to have working hours. I haven't ever seen him in the act of getting girls though, so he might have the prowess of James Bond for all I know.

>>17145335

>full time occupation of your time
>that you get paid for

Nigga, that's a job. Doesn't matter that it's only study, you're working at it full time and making money. There's no problem here, it sounds like you're in a great situation. Adding a job to that in place of having any kind of a life is pointless. Be happy and make the most of it.

The person I'm dating she keeps looking for pointless arguments and when I try to find a constructive means to an end she doesn't do anything and just stays silent.
Not only that she acts as if she can't do no wrong and won't answer to any wrong doings. Can I even salvage this?

>>17145385
They sound just extremely argumentative and annoying. There's really no point in continuing, I recommend you break it off with her.

>>17145390
She was great until recently over a stupid argument after that she was different...

>>17143785
22, 18 is too young for me because i want someone who can drink legally
>>17143952
use a mirror
>>17144437
within our lifetimes, men will be expected to make the first move. this will not change
>>17145214
made it this far without starving or dying

>>17143785
28 here.

I'd be hesitant to date her. I feel that people are still growing at 18, and it doesn't really stop till 25. The person you are now is certainly unlikely to be the same person at 25, and you may find your preferences for a partner change.

That said, if I ever were asked I'd probably say I appreciate the offer, but no.

>>17145395
Well wait and see if it blows over. If she's still acting this bitter for a week after (what you seem to imply) was a minor disagreement, that's a red flag.

My girlfriend is extremely touchy with other guys, especally when she's drunk. She will just be very flirty and give lots of compliments, give hugs that are very tight and long, gives lots of attention to other guys , and once I saw her grab another guys hand and hold it tight. I notice sometimes its with guys that are more attractive or that she is closer friends with. It really makes me uncomfortable and jealous. Shes a very caring and nice girl so I dont know why she does it. I told her how it makes me feel and she says they are just friends and not to worry, but it still makes me feel this way.

>>17143684
do women mind a 30 year old virgin?

I won't go into details, but I just want to know why guys settle?
This guy I have been dating for two months seems to have a crush on another girl. Still he has a crush on me too. We are exclusive.
My ex did this too, he wanted another girl but couldn't get her so settled with me but still tried to get this other girl during the time he was with me.
Why?

>>17145427
You should have a calm conversation with her explaining this clearly. Don't start this conversation in the middle of some unrelated argument, bring it up at a good time. Make it crystal clear to her that you are absolutely not comfortable with this.

If you don't do this OP, it will only go downhill from here.

>>17145443

Dude, have some self respect, you deserve better than guys who are actively trying to get someone 'better' while they're with you, what the fuck?
The issue isn't that these guys are settling for you, it's that you're settling for complete douchebags who don't want you.

ladies, is it improper or flirting if I compliment a female friends outfit or hair?

Like, those shoes are cute! or You look gorgeous!" when they buy a new dress or whatever.

If it matters, I also work in fashion and specialize specifically in womens fashion..

I'm worried me not drinking limits my fun and having fun with girls

>>17145450
I'd think you were gay if you said that shit.

>I also work in fashion and specialize specifically in womens fashion..
Never mind, I'd already think you're gay

>>17145450

Hell no, that's fine.
For me at least, it's pretty much just manners to tell someone they look nice when you meet them at a party or whatever.

>>17145447
Yeah, but the thing is with this new guy that when I ask about this girl he just says she is a friend. Pretty much the same with my ex and my gut is saying that he likes her but of course I should ignore my gut and trust him? Maybe. The girl lives far away and is a bit younger than us.
And these guys are actually really good guys, current guy doesn't have sex with girls until at least dating for a month.
It's just difficult, last time I ignored my gut feeling and got burned. This time there might be paranoia involved but I know that when I ask this new guy about the girl he answers very calmly unlike my ex who would blow up and accuse me of being jealous.
I am kind of feeling better since we are not that official, like my family doesn't know about us yet so I still have time to think and look how this situation plays out.

>>17145459
And another thought; it has been only two months of us dating. Why wouldn't he just leave me and try to get the other girl? But of course, paranoia may be playing a part here..

>>17145459

It might be that you're just paranoid because this was a problem in your previous relationship, considering the warning signs aren't the same - eg how your current boyfriend responds calmly to being questioned, completely different to your ex (who was transparently trying to deflect his guilt and make it your problem, accusing you of jealousy).

>>17145329
Some yes, but it's a minority.

>>17144479
Nope

>>17145214
I can make microwave meals and most pastas including but not limited to macaroni and cheese and spaghetti.

>>17144479

Maybe. But I'm a bit weird. Then again, anyone who's cool with poly is going to be a minority, and probably a bit weird.

>>17145471
Yeah and if he is a good guy and has feeling for this other girl then he will either let the feelings go or go for the other girl, right? The ex was an asshole secretly, well not an asshole but a very disturbed and mentally ill person, he did a lot of cheating. I should try to remember that not everybody is like that. What I am scared of is being with this person without knowing the truth. If they like each other; great, I will be happy alone and find someone who likes me really, I just don't want to live in uncertainty for years again. Although I wouldn't let it go that far if I actually felt for sure that my jealousy is a real thing, God it feels good to talk about this.

I'm 19 and I've tried getting into relationships for a while but I just can't bring myself to care about the other, before we get anywhere I just drop the person out.

I still wouldn't want to die alone but I'm worried that the day I meet someone in the distant future (I'd like to concentrate on my carrer now) my lack of experience will be a turn off.

Ladies, how much of a bad thing is lack of experience on a man on his 20s?

>>17145454
gay men make for terrible women's designers. They can get the "girly" parts right but fashion is about sexuality. Gay men just don't understand what it takes to make a lady look sexy.

So, yeah.... that.
>>17145456
See that's what I'm thinking. I'm just being polite and nice. Especially because of what I do. When I compliment someone's outfit it tends to hold a bit more value on that subject.

But my GF insists I am flirting with every girl I see. Like, I'll see a pretty girl wearing something unique and beautiful I get excited. I want to look but she gets so god damn angry at me. I'm not checking out the girl. I see interesting shoes or hair or tattoo or whatever. At first I would say to my GF "Hey, look at that girl check out her hair. It's so wavy and curly and beautiful." because I wanted to share literally my favorite subject with her but she just gets pissed.

I love my GF. I tell her she is beautiful and love every aspect of her. I love going shopping with her and finding new ideas and outfits but good god the jealousy is killing me. She knew I loved women's fashion and aesthetics before being with me. She knew what I did. I have never cheated in my life and I never talk about anything sexual with any other girls. To me it makes absolutely no sense. There is a difference between admiring adorable styles and saying "Hnn god I want that ass"

There is a sexual aspect of fashion but I don't mix it with sexual desires.

>>17145493

I dunno what to tell you, you guys might just not work out. It's a pretty big deal to be entirely disapproving and delusional about your partner's passion.
It's never happened to me, but over on /ic/ I've heard about people's relationships ending because their partners just can't get their head around drawing nude figures without it being sexual, or drawing bone and muscle without it being creepy, etc.

It sounds like she just doesn't get it and is too wrapped up in her own insecurity to hear you out. And this is your life, there's only so much you can do to pander to her.

Is it a turn off/deal breaker if a guy has a higher speaking/singing voice?

My speaking voice is a rather sweet tenor voice.

I get self conscious sometimes because my voice is a little higher than most guys.

Im 20 btw.

My voice is something in-between this guy: https://youtu.be/DOE4CX3BNBM?t=1m31s

and Morrissey from the Smiths

>>17145339 >>17145353 >>17145354
>school is a gap in your resume
What the fuck? Every single resume I've read either starts at graduation or has the period for an advanced degree (masters, PhD) listed as a job, which it is.

>>17145470
>Why wouldn't he just leave me and try to get the other girl?
I don't understand this either. I guess I don't understand why girls or guys cheat in general, other than that they can't control themselves despite supposedly being functional adults.

>>17145329
Ha ha yeah, I don't really know why but for me it might have something to do with me being in charge and making him look slutty or something. I would probably only do it on special occasions.

Femanons, I was going to take a holiday in a month/&ahalf/two when some stuff is done, and I was going to take my girlfriend. Penthouse suite of a five star hotel in Brisbane and shit. However we broke up, and yet I still want to go, but I think it would be much more enjoyable if I had company. If I met a femanon before I go, how weird would it be if I was like "want to go on a holiday for a week?"
> not literally like that, that was just the gist.
I can pay for everything really, it's money I'd already set aside and now when I think about it I just kinda think bugger it. But then I think, it probably just seems creepy or weird or something and I should go myself.

More a rant than anything, but why is it impossible to find a girl who is crazy in bed but not actually crazy? All the best sex I ever had was with girls with glaring mental issues or a history of abuse/rape

I am insecure about my looks. I have rather large nose (with hump) and crooked teeth (I am getting braces this year though)
I also 26
Apart from that I have nice body, six pac, athletic and average personality
Would you date me?

>>17145560
post pics

some people dig crooked noses and teeth

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>>17145540
I find it super cute.
Extra points if it's whispery.
honestly screw others that say a man has a "girly" voice or a woman has a "manly" voice. Cannot stand those people desu.

>>17145553
I wouldn't go, I'd be suspicious that it was just a way for him to trap me or guilt me into sex

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>>17145565
I had a feeling. I probably wouldn't do anything anyway,
> only really had long term relationships, never bothered looking for casual sex.
But I understand the whole "I don't really know who this dude is that well".

>>17145585
HEEELLL YEEESSS

I don't know what I should do.
I feel like the girl I got a crush on is avoiding me.
She didn't reply to a message I sent her on friday, and I haven't seen her at all in the apartment complex, despite her saying that she'll be staying here for the weekend.
So either she hasn't gotten out of her room at all, or she isn't actually here.
I dunno if I should ask her if she wants to do something today via facebook, seeing how she flat out ignored my last message.

I don't understand why she would do this. I thought we had good time on thursday, when we hung out together, and things were fine.
Unless I am just over-analyzing, and misinterpreting this situation.

>>17145593
Thanks, I feel better now :)

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>>17145565
My current GF and I did something just like this.

We started talking online flirting a lot. Eventually we started to like one another after a few days and she told me she had a trip coming up in a month. She was going to an event and was staying a week in a fancy ass hotel in a nice city.

After only talking to this girl for a month online I flew to the same city alone(we lived thousands of miles apart), met her at the airport in person for the first time, and had the best week of my entire fucking life. A 5 star hotel, amazing food, fun exploring the city together(neither one of us had been there before), went to the event with her, and fucked about 50 times

After the week was over we both went back to our home towns and kept a long distance relationship for a few months before getting back together. We are still together after 2 years so far :D

I met her on facebook July 1st. Talked on facebook for about 3 days, then moved to skype. We skyped video chatted almost every night. On the 6th day of knowing her she told me about her trip. On the 8th day she got the courage to ask me to go with her. I instantly said yes. On day 18 I was packing my bags for the trip and on the 19th day we met in person. Made out in the cab, checked into the hotel, had sex for the first time, and then went for dinner and then had sex for the second time and ect ect ect. We left the city on the 27th and had very very sad skypes for those long few months.

It can work. Taking a girl with you to stay at a hotel for a week implies relations though. Also, if you just met make fucking sure you have a lot in common with her. Talk to her A LOT before the trip in person or video calls. Spending a week with someone you don't get along with will be fucking miserable. Text chat is not a good way to get to know someone.

>>17145608
Rant out of characters :(

We split the bill on the hotel. Originally she was going by herself and she planned on staying somewhere not as expensive. But we talked about and decided to go ALL OUT since I had never been on a holiday or vacation in my entire life. It was like $450 a night so the trip, with food and events and transportation was about $2500 each.

I am not a rich person. I am actually fairly poor. But man was it worth it. I cannot stress enough how amazing that week was. That week was like a romantic movie.

>>17145618
That sounds basically like the trip I had planned. Ex didn't have much money, either do I technically, plus this was going to be my first real holiday too. I just imagine though that it would be the rare woman to actually go on a trip like that. To be a dude and be invited is a little bit different as well.

>>17145640
I was the one to initiate any romance. She never would have asked me if I hadn't messaged her on facebook first and started talking to her.

If I didn't take the initiative she never would have never know I was into her. She knew who I was before but she wouldn't have asked me before.

So it's not THAT different.

>>17145660
I meant the bit about the fact that it's a girl asking a guy on a trip, not the other way. Not about the initiation of romance and whatnot.

>>17145601
Someone pls tell me what to do.
Would asking her if she wants to do something be too pushy? Should I just wait and see how things develop?
I can't concentrate on anything, because this shit keeps bothering me.

>>17145700
what I'm saying is after romantic intentions are made clear and both parties want to see each other, spend time with one another, and both want the sex it's not strange for either sex to find a way to get together.

>>17143684
>ex was very emotionally eeak
>new bf two weeks after we ended our 3 year relationship
>her mother is suicidal and sleeps around with multiple men, has no husband, has no job
>her family is all broken up with divorces and fights here and there

Is she becoming like her mother? I always thought about maybe winning her back after I spent some time away to chase my own dreams and goals, but now that I'm done feeling depressed about the break up and can see things clearly - she seems to be showing behaviours similar to her mother
So to the girls
>are you like your mother? How much did your upbringing affect the woman you are today?
>have you been on a rebound relationship? Why? How did it end?

>>17143785

Im 21, I have a realtionship with a 17 yr old since 9 months because of that reason. Its legal where I live.
I did worry a bit but figured it didnt matter and if someone judged they could just go and f ck themselves.

>>17143952
Ask a profesional at the store wich one suits your face best.

I went out with a girl two days ago, had a really good time but at the end of the date sperged out and ended it with a fucking handshake.
Texted her yesterday for a bit, she told me it was a very pleasant evening and tanked me for some things I said.

Now, I really hate texting, it just feels so unnatural. I barely made it this far without forced "how's the weather" questions. Is it ok to just respond conclusively and then text her in a few days and ask her out again?

>>17143798
Ask her to look up a proper guide online. (Of course be a bit more diplomatic than that... you could look one up yourself and link it, asking to try a specific thing mentioned. She'll likely read the whole thing anyway.)

No, you shouldn't feel her teeth unless requested, but the difference between an average blowjob and a stellar blowjob isn't easily taught or explained. It's a matter of passion and being in synch with your partner, as well as having sensitivity and creativity towards the options of your body and hotspots of your partner. It's like learning how to be a sex god can't be done with a five steps explanation. And of course practice helps as well.

>>17143915
Being mature is less about being "no fun allowed" and more about knowing when you can be playful and when you should take responsibility and be serious.

>>17145959
Not a female but I have a girlfriend I'm very close with, and she's a lot like her mother. People, especially children, and especially women(hence why all Comercials and all empty political statements are geared towards them) are like sponges, they absorb anything and they imitate like bats. Girls generally rebel from their fathers and imitate their mothers.

>>17145984
Yes that's perfectly okay, depending on the girl, if she has any sophistication to her it's fine.

>>17145959
Give her a break here. Sure, it could be that she is genetically predisposed to resemble her mother. But it is obvious and more likely that she struggles with maintaining healthy relationships, because for the first two decades of her life everything she was taught (implicitly) about how love and relationships work was wrong and toxic. That is very, very difficult to really overcome. Not to say that it cannot be a reason to want to stay away from her, but it is more complicated to me than just being her mother's daughter. Growing up in a toxic environment is difficult bagage to rid yourself of.

Paired up with you wanting to walk away to do your own thing as a single man only to turn around and reclaim her once you're ready for a relationship again, it seems like you're both better off focusing on different people.

>>17146023
Great, thanks. I was really hoping that'd be the case.

>>17146024
It sounds extremely selfish of me but I felt as though if I just moped around and begged her to come back to me I'd just be a loser.
I thought that maybe if I went off and discovered my own flaws and overcame them then I'd be a better person for the both of us, but to see her move on so quickly is quite disheartening, especially considering she's known me 8 years now and we've been best friends for so long.
She seems really happy with the new guy but a little over the top, as if she's gone into damage control mode with pictures if them together plastered all over the place. It doesn't bother me because I feel like she needs that emotionally support while I improve myself, it's just a shame she didn't do the same.

But thank you, the first few years of her life were dreadful. She's never met her father and her mother was very emotionally abusive to the point in which she was forced to leave her house and live with relatives. Her sister is her only real family but she isn't a great role model, she used to emotionally abuse her when she was younger and she has also gone through bad relationships - getting a divorced withing months of getting married too.

I feel pity towards her because I believe I did genuinely take care of her, and that she seems to be trying to fill the void I left in her instead if becoming a better version of her.

>>17146012
That explains a lot, she always said she'd hate to end up like her mother but as the years went on she got more and more emotionally unstable and started showing more and more similarities between her and her mother

>>17143915
Speak for yourself nigga, different strokes for different folks

>>17146059
Eh, that makes sense, the way you worded it made me read it like you broke up with her to experience single life again and expected her to either hang around or still be up for grabs when you were done with that. For whatever reason this is a popular strategy for young people who want both the security and freedom.

I don't think she moved on. If you date someone for eight years and have a normal break up (say, you haven't known for the past two years that the relationship was a dead end waiting to be formally done), no sane person is ready to have a healthy relationship with someone else. That she is running into someone else's arms is a sign that she can't cope with her feelings about the break up, not that she's over them. Wanting to rub in your face how happy she is only confirms that. People who truly are happy together don't care to constantly broadcast that to the world, they want to forget that there is an outside world. Not that this is your problem.

The other anon was right in that people are susceptible to imitation. But this goes beyond that... think about it. When you grow up as a toddler, your parents effectively familiarize you with the world. They teach you what exists (like exotic animals), what has existed but is gone (dinosaurs) and what is fiction (monsters). They teach you through games that if you cannot see someone, they can still be there. By mirroring what they do you learn to speak and how to carry yourself. You actively learn what it means to be human and how a human being acts.
If within that learning environment, you receive on a daily basis countless signals that love is unsafe - because the person you are closest to in the world and loves you, and assures you of this, hurts you and makes you sad all the time - that marks you as a person. And that has nothing to do with character strength. While other kids were taught that the world is happy and safe and love grand, you were taught that the world was scary and love hurts.

Is it possible for a man to change his stance on wanting kids after meeting someone else?

My ex always swore to me that he never ever wanted children. Now he is dating someone new and I heard her joke that they already have baby names and when I last asked him he said he was ambivalent about the issue and was sort of considering it.
Can it just be that another woman makes a man change his mind?

Why whenever I show weakness/vulnerability/sensitivity to a woman, does she get turned off?

I'm usually very happy and good emotions, something it seems women are very attracted to, haha. But then the moment I feel down and discuss my feelings, they get turned off. Why is this? Must I hide my true feelings from women if I intend to keep sleeping with them?

Feelings generally consist of me being confused about my future, worrying about succeeding, and feelings of ineptitude when compared to others. All my family are high-achievers, as are the majority of the women that I generally pursue, although even the ones who are not very successful themselves, get turned off when I discuss how I actually feel, when promted.

>>17145585
you're attractive stop worrying

>>17146082
Are these women people you have flings with, since you mention continuing to sleep with them? If so, it's probably that they perceive it as part of a different (committed) relationship they don't want. Unfair, but male emotions are in that regard seen as heavier than female ones.

If they are women you are trying to have relationships with, I'd say emotional immaturity and wanting an entertainer more than a partner. Don't hide them. You sound like you are reasonably succesful with women and in life, why bother appeasing someone like that when there are women who want true emotional intimacy and partnership. Let them look for someone stoic if that's what they want...

>>17146094
I forgot about this but think it's important to include. Given that you describe yourself as generally upbeat and quite happy, it is also likely that you attract women who value that a lot... so try to make sure you don't project a one sided image of happy go lucky guy with no negative emotions in the early stages.

And if you try to date girls considerably younger than you are (relatively speaking), it's worth looking for someone who has similar life experience. Even apart from having had more time to mature, it is also a common thing for young girls into older guys to want a "rock" to lean on while they get to be all over the place young things. So that's something else to consider.

>>17146070
It's possible, but it could also be the combination of different things... a break up and amount of time being single makes most people think, and he got a little older as well, maybe his first friends started having kids. Maybe his new girlfriend made it clear that children were a non-negotiable thing and forced him to soul search. There's no point in blaming yourself when you just don't know.

>>17145214
Decent. There are a few dishes that i do really well. But i lack some of the basics when it comes to cooking knowledge, so i guess i average out as maybe 5/10

>>17146070
Yes it is possible for a man to change his opinion

>>17146094

Yeah, only ever women I have flings with, haha. I don't really discuss my personal issues with friends. Girls I am sleeping with always prompt me though. After sex or whilst drunk, they'll realised they know next to nothing about me, and ask probing questions. When I straight up tell them the truth, it generally leads to a spiralling down of the fling, sadly.

I've never pursued a relationship with any of these women, merely friends with benefits type stuff. I'm not yet ready to commit to a relationship as I don't feel emotionally mature enough and am terrified of breaking some poor woman's heart.


Also, why do girls find it so hard to believe that I am seeing other people and not interested in dating them? I am always completely honest and open about my intentions, but women are often surprised that they're not my sole focus, and it confuses me. Sorry if that question is too hard to answer, but I was just wondering.

>>17145557
Anecdotal evidence says no. I've got a similar impression.

>>17146117
Because maybe they felt a connection to you and thought they actually meant something to you. When they discover you're doing the same to numerous others, they start losing interest in your feelings, especially her you don't give a damn about theirs

>>17146117
Sounds to me like they have a drunken emotional moment where they want to connect, then sober up and are scared off thinking they insinuated more than they wanted.

It is logically easy but psychologically difficult. You are vulnerable when you sleep with someone and it is inherently an intimate act. That does not mesh well with lighthearted, casual, no strings attached fun, no matter how much you rationally want that. And being penetrated is also psychologically more intimate than the other way around, ask any guy who knows both sides.

>>17145557
I'm crazy in bed! I have issues too, but if I fall in love, I'm the most dedicated, stable, kindest woman you could ever wish to meet

>>17146141
That sounds unhealthy.

guys:
how weird would it be for you if you had sex with your wife, who's currently breastfeeding, and her boobs start to leak milk? how would you react?

>>17146155
>how weird would it be for you if you had sex with your wife, who's currently breastfeeding, and her boobs start to leak milk? how would you react?
I'd love it

>>17146098

Oh, I am still quite young myself. Twenty-one pretty soon. Older women tend to be prejudiced against my age and lack of life-experience, so are just fine with having me as a boy-toy and aim to move onto a relationship with a man their own age, so don't tend to question my goals/aspirations in life (so no serious discussions needed).

Women my own age and younger are often more inquisitive. Some have wanted relationships and even after I have told them that this is not a possibility, will continue to see me, which I find really confusing. If I am seeing several women at once, am open about not being ready for a relationship, why do girls continue to see me, if a relationship is their end-goal? It just really confuses me.

>>17146136
I'd say everyone I engage with means something to me. I just don't yet feel ready to date. I am terrified of breaking someone's heart or having my own heart broken.

I tell them I am seeing other people before we fuck, generally. I mean, it isn't something that I hide, as I would hate for anyone to get the wrong impression, and think I am looking for something that I am not.

>>17146139
How can I make them not feel so bad about it?
Oh, one last question.


Why do girls like being dominated so much? I used to be very vanilla in my sexual activities, but have recently found that girls seem to love being dominated and doing 'naughty' stuff.

What I mean by naughty is, girls seem to get off on doing stuff they've never had done to them before. Sex in public, being tied up, being gagged, held down, etc, etc.

>>17146155
Pretty weird but I wouldn't mind, I'd say neutral.
Women tend to overthink things about themselves. Had sex with my gf lately and she let out a massive fart, and she was shamed to death. I just laughed and laughed. Had to go tell her I don't think she's disgusting for doing that for half an hour before she believed me

>>17146155
Happens now and then with my wife, so not very weird. It's not like it's a lot anyway.
Besides, i'm 50% responsible for her having a kid to breastfeed.

>>17146173
>why do girls continue to see me, if a relationship is their end-goal?
Wishful thinking. When you like someone, it is hard to believe that the feeling isn't mutual, especially if you act in some ways like it is, because you think it's fine as you have told them how you feel already. They'll think you'll grow feelings over time, you'll start seeing how awesome they are, or find yourself looking for them in other girls. Romantic daydreams.

>How can I make them not feel so bad about it?
Be superclear. You have to not just tell them that you don't want a relationship, but make it clear through all your actions that you want sex and nothing else. No cuddling after sex, no staying over at their place, no getting drunk together. You come over when you want sex and after you've had sex you leave. That's how you avoid feelings.

I know this is probably less fun for you as well, but an in between rarely works. It's like the girl who complains that her friend will keep vying for more after she told him that she just considers him a friend, but meanwhile she has heart to hearts with him all the time, they go on dates-but-not-officially-dates together, she tells him secrets etc. Your words need to line up with your actions.

>being dominated
Most heterosexual preferences boil down to the differences between men and women. Men are physically stronger than women and the traditional roles are that the man leads the woman and has the final say. Domination plays into that. Being submissive also allows you to submerge yourself in sexual enjoyment without worrying about whether you're doing things right, it absolves you of responsibility and is thus more relaxing than being dominant.

And everyone likes doing things that are to a more or lesser extent taboo. This is the appeal of so many fetishes and kinks including relatively normal stuff like anal. Virtually everyone wants to feel like they're out there, it's part of the excitement.

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>>17146183
That sounds reassuring. I asked my fiancee about it and he said he would think it's pretty damn hot. Might be that it's a fetish of his i haven't discovered yet. Was just not sure if he's only saying that to make me feel less selfconscious about it

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Men: I am considering buying a shikibuton because I move around a lot, am cheap, and want a more firm bedding than typical western beds for back health. It will be twin size and will be placed either on the floor or with a rug or mat of some sort under it. (And I have a comfy down feather duvet, and a buckwheat hull pillow in japanese size, which is smaller than western pillows and feels similar to a bean bag. It solved my neck pain so don't call me a weeb.)

Is this a turn off for sexy time? Would you cuddle with a girl who had this bedding? I have spent the night with two people on a twin mattress before. I found it comfy.

>>17146191
Not a guy, but i can totally see this working out. I've had a similar setting for a while and there where never any complains. Also, my bf has those pillows too. They are comfy af

>>17144833
Not where we want to be financially.

Personally, I don't see marriage as a first step, it's more like a final step. Both of us want our career goals met first. We're both pretty poor right now. Bf works min wage full time job and goes to school, I work part time and go to school. We wouldn't make enough money to live comfortably. And when we do get married, I want all the financial and living situations to be settled prior so there is no stress on the marriage.

>>17145335
>goofy

I hate goofy guys. Nothing turns my cunt to a desert faster.

As long as either in school or having a job, it's fine. Has to be a real degree and a real job, though. No arts majors. No retail store managers.

>>17145450
>I also work in fashion and specialize specifically in womens fashion..

Totally normal then.

>>17145553

Unless you were a close friend I would assume it would be rape.

>>17145557

Society taught us porn is bad and sex is shameful and a sin. So you need a girl who doesn't follow this philosophy, which is hard because the majority of women conform to social standards.

>>17145560
>rather large nose (with hump)

This is my fetish. >>17145585

Would fuck if you trimmed the beard closer or shaved. 5 oclock shadow is fine...beards are for fags and hipsters.

question for the ladies. i was clubbing yesterday but at one point i wasnt dancing or anything, just walking with my friend looking for someone, and some girl ran up to me, and started grinding on, was annoying as fuck, why did she do that? obviously if i was dancing or something it would be different, girls hate it when guys start grabbing them and shit. thanks .

>>17146216
she was drunk

>>17146216
Because it's a popular trope in media that some guys also reinforce that men always want sex and are happy to get any form of sexual attention. What she did was harrassment and absolutely not okay.

As for why, it could've been a ~so random drunk thing, maybe friends dared her, maybe she thought she'd do you a huge pleasure and got off on that... it doesn't matter. It was not okay.

>>17146218
i understand that but can some people not control themselves at all? i do stupid shit sometimes when i drunk but im still somewhat self aware. was just uncomfortable, and i didnt know what she expected me to do because it was kind of out of no where, and i was walking as she done it.

>>17145959
>are you like your mother?

No because I hate my mother. My upbringing had some effect but I went back and repaired all the damage my shit childhood did. I'm still introverted because I like it and it's acceptable to be so for my future life plans, but I'm not "broken" and I'm not shy or weak or anything. It depends on the individual, if they get their character internally and forging their own path forward, or if they just tumble where life pushes them and don't actively edit themselves.

>rebound

Did once, would not again. Only went with the guy 3 dates if you call that a relationship. He didn't understand what no meant so I dumped him.

>>17145984

Just say you hate texting, ask her to x on y day.

>>17146221
>Because it's a popular trope in media that some guys also reinforce that men always want sex and are happy to get any form of sexual attention
yeah, i think this was probably the case. i mean, im not that bothered by it, im just like wtf lol. i got a few compliments for looking good that night so i think she thought i would try to fuck her if she done that or at least get my attention. as she done i just smiled at her and carried on walking lol

>>17146187

Some of them really are awesome and I do develop crushes, I just don't think it is such a good idea for me to date, until I am more secure in who I am. I know it is cliche but I really feel like I just don't know myself well enough yet. I'd hate for a woman to start dating me and for my personality to change over the next six months to the point where we have to break-up.

Oh god, haha. Pretty sure girls would go mental if I denied them after sex cuddling and sleepovers. They seem to absolutely love that stuff. Gotta admit, it is pretty great to wake up to a girl's head nestled into your chest, and your legs entwined. Sleeping women are so cute.

I've been in that situation where a female friend and I got in too deep though, yeah. We used to hangout all the time, go on drunken adventures, sleepover and cuddle, but it just got too much. She was a foreign model (a rubbish one, don't worry, haha. I'm no Chad) and had taken my virginity so I had feelz, but she was more interested in what I brought to the table, than actually being into me. By what I brought to the table, I just mean the events I could get her into, the people I could introduce her too, and all that silly superfluous social shit. Dropped her when she left my bed in the middle of the night to go fuck another dude and I realised I was just a stepping stone. Not sure if it was incredibly beta of me or not, but as she was walking to my door, I just showed her my phone screen, and was like, "you walk out, I delete your number".


Haha, it does feel like a bit of a cheat-code though. Do something taboo and they're more likely to drop their panties. The same with protecting them. They might be pacifists or just against violence, but if you protect them in some way, they seem to be really thankful for it. It makes sense in cases where I have gotten my head kicked in to stop a mugging but not so much in other cases.

>>17146082

People have their own issues to deal with. They don't need a crying manchild whose hand they need to hold and tell him he's a good boy and everything will be fine. Man up. It's simply unattractive for a man to be emotionally weak. Especially if you're new in the relationship, like less than 3 months.

>>17146198

Thank you, sister. They are comfy! One of my most treasured possessions. You had bedding like this, did you like it? Why did you stop using it?

>>17146243
I understand your point, but part of the thing about being in a relationship is that you can help each other develop and grow. You are never a "finished product", people always change. You can be fifty and get in a car crash, depression or mid life crisis and become a different person.

>Pretty sure girls would go mental if I denied them after sex cuddling and sleepovers.
They would if they had feelings for you. Most women who enter a casual arrangement are also careful to protect themselves and are happy to adhere to boundaries, even if that means missing out on some of the good stuff.

Of course it feels good, but don't you realize that what you describe is in no way a casual fling but just a relationship that is not officially a relationship and not exclusive? If all your actions towards a women scream that you are into her, and you try to add a disclaimer that you're actually not, it's unsurprising for her to be hurt when you're balancing other women at the same time.

What I said is really the only way to have a good chance of avoiding feelings developing. Emotional intimacy and tenderness are benefits of a relationship, not of casual sex.

You were right to cut her off. That's pretty much what I mean. When you have casual sex you're supposed to go for something else than a relationship. Most people, like you are now, are more looking for a relationship without commitment than for no strings attached stuff. That is a very fine balance to strike that hardly works out.

>>17146245

I'm not a crying manchild, haha. It'll be like, I fuck their brains out, we're lying in bed, and they're like, "so what do you aspire to be?". Or when we're drunk together and they ask why I can't ever be serious and then when I say, okay, I'll be serious, and am actually serious, they get turned off.

Just as an example, was drunk in a park with a girl, whom I fuck on-and-off, and she showed me some of her university work. I read through it and admitted I didn't understand it, she started asking about what I study, and what I want to be. I admitted that I'm not doing very well in university, and doubt I will accomplish my lofty ambitions. After I fucked her that night I didn't hear from her again.

Perhaps that is reading too much into it, but I can't really think of any more blatant examples off the top of my head, where a woman has delved into who I am.

I'm not upset about the hand I have been dealt with in life, I'll manage. I'm just confused as to why they react so badly to me admitting to it.

ladies: what's the softer, non-offensive, yet direct way you've been asked for sex, both by your bfs and by strangers?

boys: how do you ask for sex in direct way without being offensive? do you even ask strangers?

I'm kinda aspie, and I don't even know how to ask for sex... I also have trouble making jokes and making sexual puns. I'm not even ugly, just... stupid and a-social ;_;

>>17146191
Wouldn't be a problem at all really
Dont worry about it

>>17146267
i have never asked a stranger for sex in real life. i have asked girls for sex on tinder, and pof. i normally just say something like "do you wanna hook up for some fun" 95% of the time they say they are not that time of girl, and sometiems they say yes. i havent done this for like a year because its not worth the effort.

>>17146267
You can't go in cold and ask someone for sex. It's something that an opportunity arises for if you sense chemistry. For example, in a relationship the guy normally does not "ask" for sex... it organically happens. You kiss, it turns into a steamy make out session, you start feeling each other up etc. If you're on a date, you get tipsy together or just generally mellow and comfortable, you start flirting, looking each other up and down in an appreciative way, sharing sexual experiences. Then one of the two invites the other one home.

Not to be offensive towards you because of course it's scary, and weird to imagine if it's never happened, but I feel like sometimes people almost forget that sex is still a social interaction and not some static exchange...

>>17146147
What being crazy in bed, or being stable and kind? I happen to be both! stop stereotyping people

>>17146255

Do you think it is worth going into a relationship? Does it help you develop a lot as a person? There is this one girl I have been seeing who is pretty cool and refuses to have sex with me unless I date her. She sleeps over and we go on dates together, but I am just not yet convinced that she is worth it. She's not the most attractive but is obsessed with going to the gym to improve her appearance, is a lot smarter than me, and comes from a decent family. Only issues I can see are that she's slept with five by 17, lost her virginity at 13, and I wouldn't be surprised if she was an avid /pol/ user. Personality wise we mesh very well, but I just wonder, would I develop more in a relationship, or more from being single and continuing to bed various women?

She's tried making me jealous by going on dates with other men, but I figure if she's not fucking me without dating me, why would she fuck them? And if she's not fucking them, why should I care? Only reason I'd care if she was fucking them, is because she's not fucking me, haha. If she was doing both, I'd just not date her, see her casually, and not care.

I've really no idea what a relationship entails. I've never dated before. Just had casual flings and stuff.

If I'm not to date and continue just casually seeing women, what do I do about the ones who travel to see me? There is one girl who travels to my city once a fortnight or so and she stays over. Should I tell her to stay with her friends instead or what exactly? Sorry, I'm just confused as to how emotionally detached I need to be to save their feelz. Obviously this will vary from girl to girl, but just as a general rule of thumb?

>>17143785
I'm 30
I have never met an 18 year old girl which can be described with the words you used. Until they get out of the 20s they are nothing of that at all. It just seems to be and is all in your head. Your Penis-head.

And I have felt this even when I was in my 20s myself. Didn't think highly of my 20-ish behaviour either.
If she was my perfect girl though, I would have risked everything, would have not cared about family or friends and would secretly do long term plannings for our life when we are old. And if I lost her despite all of my efforts, ... things would be just they way, they are now.

I hate that I come from a dysfunctional family, and it set me back in life, even though I've done well for myself, because men assume I must be crazy and if I fall in love, they consider my background and assume I'm not worth it, so I'll probably hurt myself in the end unless I find someone of value, who wants me for who I am

I found someone but he likely doesn't remember my name. I don't know what to do

>>17146296
Absolutely, but only if it is someone who feels right, not getting with someone for the sake of getting with someone. There's no point in that. There are tons of attractive and fun people, but with some people you sense a feeling of being on the same wavelength, them touching or moving something inside of you. Those are the ones to go for.
If you need to think about it that rationally, then you don't want to date her. If you want someone you don't need to make a list of arguments for why, you just sense it.

You can grow from being single but this is mostly learning to be your own person and not relying on someone else for your sense of identity. Once you have that down and have an independent own social circle, idea of who you are, future dreams/aspirations, hobbies etc... there is little more to learn from being single itself. The shallow flings with other women might give you an idea of the different people out there, but because it doesn't go deep you can't really expect to learn much there of use for a long term relationship. After all, most people would logically cut a fling off if things get hard. In a relationship that is when you need to start working extra hard.

Also apart from you having to list why you would or would not want her, this particular girl does not sound like a prize. Trying to make you jealous is immature noise.

It has ups and downs, like everything. You have someone to account for, you can't just prioritize what you want all the time. The honeymoon excitement wears off and it becomes comforting rather than sizzling. But you also reach psychological intimacy that goes deeper, there is a sense of belonging, of shared history. Sex becomes more intense if you really love someone, not to mention with how well you grow to know each other's bodies. It is a very intense feeling to have someone love you despite knowing all your flaws and having seen you at your worst.

>>17146325
This is of course just an impression. Some people blossom in relationships, others struggle with it. It depends on your personality. I'd say it's worth trying it but again, with someone who really sparks something in you. There's no point in trying to go to the deep end with someone who doesn't make you immediately want to go all in.

Express your hesitation, that you have thought about why women keep running into a difference between their expectations and reality, and that you realize you might give off mixed messages by treating girls like girlfriends when you want them to be friends with benefits. If they start saying that this is not the case for them and they won't take it the wrong way, there's little you can do but go with it. It's ultimately their responsibility and they will be offended if you argue against their personal assessment. All you can do then is change the way you go about this with future women.

>>17146280
>>17146281
thanks anons.

>sex is still a social interaction and not some static exchange...
do you really think that happens all the time? I think some (most) guys just fake all of this to get sex, and just forget everything after it happens. I don't really think all the sex that happens, happens "naturally"

anyway, even under situations in which I could sense being wanted... I was scared. and I'm not even young anymore.

>>17146331
Also wanted to add that of course if a girl agrees to basically play your girlfriend without the commitment etc, you are not doing much wrong by going with it. Just realize that your actions say something other than your words, and don't be surprised if she values your actions more and ends up disappointed/attached/sad anyway. They will need to learn as well, in that case, to keep their distance.

>>17146333
Faking social interaction is still social interaction, just not sincere. I don't just base this on your post, but also on stuff like guys saying they hate interacting with people and are cripplingly insecure, but still want to fuck. Which has me thinking... do you realize you need to maintain eye contact under pressure when having sex? Undress and have another person, a stranger no less, see your body with all its imperfections? That you will probably still interact during sex about what either of you wants or does not want? It's like sometimes people think sex is this closed off independent thing that has nothing to do with humans or psychology, only with fantasy and getting off.

That is understandable but you'll have to overcome that fear yourself, there is no magical shortcut for that.

>>17145601
Anyone?

>>17146318
For one im a guy who doesnte really remember names well

It feels awful when i can't say who you are but i remember faces

Ask him out and tell him hey its x from y

>>17146371
Wait a little longer, at least a week. If she is having doubts you don't want to up the pressure. Be a bit more relaxed (or well, pretend to be it). If she's going to reject you, the difference won't be that you should've messaged her just a couple of days earlier. You already showed interest, back off for a bit now.

>>17146325

I've caught feelz before but I don't think I have ever met someone I have truly wanted to date. There is one girl, who I have known my entire life. I have always had a thing for her, and I think I would work well with her, but she's not really interested. I think she's heard the word about me sleeping about and lost interest. I used to be a super nerdy shy boy who was too timid to even do stuff with girls who were vocally interested in me, such as her. But then I did acid and somehow became a lot more extroverted. I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing. Also became a lot more spontaneous and feel like my mind is permanently clouded. That could just be me overthinking my mental state though. She and I are still good friends but I don't think anything will ever come of it, sadly.

Getting back on topic though, I totally agree. There are lots of pretty faces in the world, but not all have the personalities to set them apart. I just fear that I won't meet someone I am interested enough in to date. Originally started fucking around to gain the confidence and ability to secure a relationship, but the more women I see, the more I realise I don't actually connect. Sure, they might be cool people, and we might be good friends. But beyond a small crush, I never really feel anything towards them, sadly.

I've got the social circle, my dreams/aspirations, and hobbies, down pact, but still really no idea of who I am, or what I'll do if I fail in the pursuit of my goals. Which I fear I most likely will. Lack of motivation and low intelligence being the main factors, sadly.


I've never really had things go hard in a fling. The women usually get a boyfriend and stop seeing me (some have tried to continue seeing me but I'm not interested in helping someone cheat) or slowly lose touch after I express my failings.

Haha, I understand why she is trying to make me jealous.

Cont

Last girlfriend 12 years ago. I hurt her during sex, because went in too deep. Was a fucking (literally) accident. She forgave me but still broke up soon after.

Now 12 years later I found some human woman who likes me and hopefully I will be able to live up to my natural function finally again and have sex after more than ten years.

Suddenly I realize, I have not yet overcome my guilt-issues from my last relationship. The more I think of it, the more relationships I had turn out to be overshadowed by my unfulfilled sexual desires. I try to be clear with myself with this for a long time, so I talked about it to friends, and with the aforementiones new-woman in my life. But now things get real and it seems that all the talking and self-awareness had little use, besides me being able to verbalize it.

I feel brainwashed and started to hate my past "love" for not accepting me as I was. That frigid girl changed my whole outlook on women because she made me look wrong just for wanting much sex with her.

Thank you I could write this and probably join shoulders with another heartbroken man, whose natural desire for sex was too strong for love.

Sorry... actually, I have no question about this.

>>17146325
>>17146398

She's obviously caught feelz for me and sees me as a good potential boyfriend. But not entirely sure why.

Bit worried that if I did date her, she will turn out to still be uninterested in sexual activities, or provide only star-fish sex. This would most likely end in me just dropping her, sadly.


Is there harm in getting too attached during a relationship? If I had someone I had to account for, I fear I would become too selfless. Or I might just continue to be a weirdo and disappear for days at a time. Not sure, haha.

Sometimes I just get sick of being social, stop using social media, and don't contact anyone for a week or two. That wouldn't work so well in a relationship, disappearing and doing my own thing, haha.

I do really like that idea of falling in love though. That sounds terrific.

Had a few girls tell me they love me in the past and I have felt awful when I've not been able to reciprocate those feelings.

I will definitely try having that conversation with the women I currently see. I think the one who travels to see me understands that we're just friends who fuck, but I should try make sure. Really don't want to hurt anyone.

I'm talking to two girls I met on Tinder. Seeing them both next week.
I don't know what will happen with either of them, but we talk a lot, they're growing on me, and I'm starting to wonder something.
When does it become bad/unethical to basically date the both of them at the same time? We're not in a relationship but i don't feel comfortable, and I can't point why.

We had a great connection, chemistry, respect, friendship, fun, you name it. We had it all! I had had mainly meaningless sex before him, just not enough feeling, and finally find someone that I have nothing but feeling for, and get awkward when sex comes up, worrying about performance, having to make out I'm not bothered about sex when he's the perfect sex partner for me, I'm just shy because he said he liked me, and I don't want it to be a joke and get rejected, and feel like I'm from another planet. I'm learning to trust, it's taken time. I fell in love and yet, the completeness in me is missing, the spark is there with him. I just need it so much

>>17146351
yeah, guess you are right.
I'll have to work on socializing... I don't really have problems with my friends, but I'm shy, and it's difficult for me to meet and talk to new people, at least in most contexts. you can imagine I haven't had a single date... plus, as I said, I'm a bit of an aspie, and I don't get social clues easily.

>>17146338

Sorry for being so lost btw. Just not comfortable discussing this with my friends. They're all in long-term relationships or virgins and aren't too keen on me seeing multiple women. They think it would be a lot more satisfactory for me if I just dated. I tend to agree with them, but I've yet to meet a girl 'worth' dating, I guess.

It kind of makes me feel bad to think this is playing at being in relationships. I can understand why women get attached if that is the case. I just figure if it feels good and makes me happy, why not do it? Though if this is the reason they get attached, I really ought to tone it down.

>>17146318
I am a guy and must admit, that I remember feelings much better than actual facts of words. You can win my heart when you help me in these little things, do not make a big deal of my flaws I hate so much about myself already and care as less about them as I do.

>hey, it's [name] from [where you met and introduced] [content of message]

>>17146427
I obviously don't know you nearly well enough to say it, but for what it's worth, it indeed does not quite sound like you're ready to me. Or rather, it sounds like you have not met the right person yet. I wouldn't panic yet, you're still very young, there are many people who only sense a real connection a handful of times on a lifespan. That it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't. You also become more receptive towards others when you are in a place in life where you feel comfortable with yourself and curious about others, might have already happened or not yet, either way, it's possible that in past years you were also just not open to feeling more than something fleeting.

As for the girl, yeah, it seems likely that that ship's sailed. It probably hurt her to see you go after other girls despite not responding to her attempts. Whether that's accurate for what happened doesn't really matter, especially if this happened a while back.

It's good that you're self aware and working on growing as a person, but again, you're also still twenty one. So many of your peers don't know where they'll actually end up, or have difficulties disciplining themselves into being productive. That's completely normal.

That's good, hope it remains that way.

Not getting too attached. But there is a difference between being very devoted and accomodating, and losing sight of your own dignity. Loving and respecting someone also means holding them to standards, and not allowing them to treat you badly. If you don't do that, that's bad.

All kinds of people are in relationships. Especially as you grow older people will understand differing needs between individuals. There are absolutely people who would be fine with what you describe (taking weeks off for yourself), provided you communicate clearly and there's trust in the relationship.

>>17146444
Definitely. It's shitty to leave your comfort zone short term, but long term it makes you more comfortable in your own skin and in life. If you have friends that you trust, it could help to voice this to them and encourage you to bring you to places or introduce you to people that force you to explore different sides of yourself or deal with growing comfortable with something. Good luck!

>>17146069
That makes a lot of sense and makes me feel a lot better.
Our break up wasn't gradual either, in fact we had a lot of fun the day before the break up - I just got super angry at her because she ignored me the whole day whilst posting things online. One thing lead to another and we both said harsh things and then that was it, done.

Two weeks later I messaged her and she sounded incredibly arrogant and mean, she was very spiteful and had told me she was already seeing someone else - but yeah, I understand now. Just got to keep moving forward. It's a real shame since I did love her, a lot. She got along well with my family and stayed with us for awhile, I remember one time she said "I've never felt this kinda of love before".
Ah well, I'll see what happens when her current relationship crumbles. They're moving extremely fast,

>>17146451
That's fine, I understand.

>if it feels good and makes me happy, why not do it?
You ought to realize that you have a very clear reason (not having feelings for the individual + not feeling ready) to not want a relationship. So where you are going "cuddling feels good, why not do it?" but it ends after that, the girl could be thinking "being together for real feels good, why not do it?" They draw the line somewhere else than you do. And it is natural to start to like someone more over time (this is even a psychological effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mere-exposure_effect), this is then combined with the hormones of sex and the intimacy of skin on skin and exposing a personal part of your mind and preferences, and then you add the tenderness and emotional intimacy of pillow talk and cuddling. All of that steers towards full on intimacy and if you have no reason to want to stay away from that, it becomes more and more tempting with each additional step.

>>17146443
30, m
Sex also has to be practiced together. It's rather complex to summarize. It involves time, conversation, overall postivie outlook tnaf, too few.

What are some aspects you would consider to be part of a pleasurable "performance"?

>>17146459

I only started fucking around in the past year or so. Before that I'd get with girls at parties, end up in bed with them, only to realise I didn't want to lose my virginity to them, and make things awkward.

In total I have probably gotten with close to twenty women, and of those I have had sex with 10 to 13. I don't know the exact numbers because at the start I used to get blackout drunk and wake up in strangers houses. There are some girls I only ever saw once and have no idea if we fucked or not. Once woke up in the bed of someone who only spoke broken English. That was awkward asking if we'd fucked or not.

I've now gotten over my need for an alcohol crutch and rarely get shitfaced at parties.


Some women my age just seem so lost. I was seeing one girl for awhile and was thinking about asking her to go exclusive with me. She was pining for it but I wanted to get to know her better first. She then announced that she was thinking about going into camming. I told her I'd never date someone who did that, and yet she did it anyway, and then got upset when I later broke things off.


Why do some people only sense a connection a handful of times? Is there a way to increase this number and meet those people? I don't like the idea of only having a small amount of potential long-term partners.

>>17146478

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense actually. Iunnnooo, I just never really put two and two together, I guess. I figure if I don't feel a connection, why should they, kinda thing. Yeah, that makes much more sense though. I'll have to make it more clear with the women that I see. Or at least be more aware of what I am doing.

>>17146500
A lot of people your age are lost. In different ways and to a different extent, but it's a time where you figure yourself and life out, that can be scary and confusing. You still have a lot of lessons to learn... so yeah that makes people do foolish things sometimes. Not that this means you should condone it or want to be around them.

I don't know. I don't think anyone does. Some people fall in love all the time and others just don't. Some people get along with everyone and their brother and some don't. I wouldn't dare say with the reason(s) for that is/are.

>>17146378
Alright.
I just don't get why she would act like this.

>>17146527

Isn't it strange that some people are already making irreversible decisions though? Not to be judgemental, but it scares me that some people my age do drugs multiple times a week, get tattoos spontaneously, have unprotected sex with strangers, and other crazy stuff. I mean, I guess it is just as strange that I interact with a lot of these people, but I try not to go off the deep-end quite as much.

Though I do think I sleep with too many people. I would never date someone as promiscuous as myself.

>>17146543
That's the thing, to a lot of young people "the future" doesn't mean much. Or they really think they'll be boring old adults who don't care about how a tattoo looks on them because they're old and unsexy anyway. I'm not like that either and find it a bit unsettling at times as well, but simultaneously this YOLO vibe also makes a lot of people really enjoy these periods of life. It's a double edged sword.

Well, yeah, I mean, if you're being safe about it chances it wrecks your life are small, but it could be that a girl doesn't want to be with someone with your past either. What are you going to do about it? Not do what you want to do today in favor of a hypothetical future? I think that's how most people reason.

I'm really good friends with this girl that I like, I thought she liked me too but when I flirt around with her (tickling, playful shoving, poking, etc.) she'll tell me to stop even though she seems to be having fun. Does she actually want me to stop, and if so why does she start it up? I always have stopped because it's important to me to be respect boundaries.

>>17146561
Hard to say, I think basically everyone goes "stahp it" if they are tickled etc, even if they overall enjoy the experience. But it could also be that she's really sick of it. I think most important is that you stop as soon as she changes her tone of voice or repeats herself, stops laughing etc. Pay attention to bodylanguage. No one likes someone who pushes a playful thing to where it's actually not fun anymore.

>>17146561
I personally don't like being tickled and poked and bothered. I often smile because that's what I do when I'm tickled/embarrassed/trying to not make someone feel bad.

Can't you flirt in any other way?

>>17146576
Yeah I do, it's just with this she will initiate this interaction and I usually reciprocate. It usually just leaves me confused. I'm bad about not wanting to make physical contact with others, so this often leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

Are several weeks of texting enough to ask to meet someone in person?

>>17146604
Yes, it's acceptable.
It's not guaranteed that they'll feel comfortable yet, but certainly ask.

>>17146212
>Society taught us porn is bad and sex is shameful and a sin.
Kind of strange how this is still true.
Wasn't there supposedly a "sexual revolution" or something?

Boyfriend and I live around an hour from each other. We try and see each other as often as possible which averages out to once every week/two weeks. Things are great when we're together and for the few days after I leave, he's very affectionate, really complimentary and reassuring.

The longer we spend apart, the less affectionate he is. We still talk every day but it tends to be about general things, rather than us. When we see each other again, things are always great and then the cycle continues.

It doesn't bother me too much, as I understand constant comments on how wonderful our time was together would get a bit boring. I was just wondering if it's normal for someones affection to slowly die down the longer they've been apart from someone? I was going to suggest that maybe we starting increasing the time we spend together over the next few months because it's something we're both very keen on.

Just looking for dat reassurance really, guys.

>>17146742
Kinda yeah
Look dont worry

I was in the same deal with my ex who constantly needed reassurance about it and spebding a week or two apart made me less sweet and all sometimes but we did spend alot of time together as she would live half the week at my place

Girls
More precisely, religious girls
How would you react if a non religious guy asked you out ?
She's muslim, I'm agnostic and I really like her

>>17146807
Hugely depends on the girl, the following, and your town's culture.
My congregation is very open and welcoming. In the environment I live in, it's actually a lot more common for people to be areligious.

I've met muslim girls who don't blink at dating someone of a different religion. I've met muslim girls who are completely banned from dating outside the religion. I've met muslim girls who are not allowed to date at all!

You can only know if you try. Ask her out.

>>17146807
This depends entirely on the girl. She might be a casual Muslim. Meaning she's religious because her family is, but she's not really "into" it and doesn't care if she falls out of the religion. This can be common among girls raised in America where pop culture and modern social norms have a big impact on how young people feel about religion.

If she's a hardcore practicing Muslim, and her faith is very important to her, you are likely to run into problems. If not immediately, when the relationship gets serious. Her family would pressure her to either convert you, or outright leave you if you're not willing to participate in the faith. She just couldn't marry a non-Muslim.

The best thing you can do is get to know her and gauge her involvement in her religion. Talk to her about it. Act like you're interested in learning. It will be pretty obvious if she's very attached to it, or if she's casual.

How can I tell if a girl is lesbian? Her facebook has a picture of her with another girl sitting together reclined back with the other girl's hand kind of around her shoulder.They both have short hair but the styles and their sense of fashion or her behavior doesn't obviously strike me as lesbian.

A straight male friend was suspecting she was but we've both been wrong in assuming that another unrelated person was gay.

>>17146908
You can find out by asking her out. It's part of the risk we take. It's worth it. Do it.

>alternatively, ask mutual friends.

>>17146807
Become Muslim, see the light, probably date her for a few months or a year, break up, go overseas and study Islam, see the light some more, come back, marry a Malaysian or Lebanese qt, profit?

>>17146923
I'm going to ask my lesbian friend what her thoughts are based on the few times they have interacted. Problem is both the girl in question and the sister are part of our social circle at work (they are not my coworkers nor work on the same floor though) and the rest of the people in our group aren't socially aware enough to be able to tell either..we're all engineers btw.

>>17146930
>Become Muslim
No, thanks

>>17146944
>I'm going to ask my lesbian friend what her thoughts are based on the few times they have interacted.
No, that's not how it works. Gaydar is flawed. Find someone who can CONFIRM that she literally said she's into girls.

It's also unclear if you are a guy seeing if this girl likes guys or if you're a girl seeing if she'll like girls.

Plus, bisexuals exist.

Just ask her out. Stop this nonsense.

guys:

this morning i came across a very strange post from my crush who suddenly stopped talking to me for half a month after professing his feelings. assuming he found someone else, i had deleted all mutual messaging accounts last week to cease contact and move on. today he wrote about being depressed because the love of his life stopped talking to him and how worthless he feels.

is this directed at me or am i reading too much into this? as a guy, why would you post this after ignoring someone out of the blue? i'm so confused by all of this, what is the right thing to do?

Why would a 30 year old married woman dance go to a party and dance with my hammered 20 year old ass? We were grinding. That's just weird as shit IRL man.

>>17146957
I'm a dude. I was thinking about asking that lesbian friend to confirm because her gaydar has been spot-on before. Alternatively I can ask the sister, or just straight up ask the girl out like you said...

>>17144352
THIS! This thing i fucking hate in people in general. If I ask you, how was your fucking weekend or whatever, how fucking hard is it to ask back the same god damn question?? It's not that i had a really fun weekend and I want to really ralk about it, I just want the interaction to move forward instead of only me asking questions/bringing up topics. It's like people have no idea what is small tall.

>>17146959
>is this directed at me or am i reading too much into this?
I would guess it's directed at you (statistically speaking).
This seems to be a classic case of miscommunication.
You should probably talk to him and clear it up.
Especially if you still like him.

>>17146988
>how was your fucking weekend or whatever, how fucking hard is it to ask back the same god damn question?
Extremely hard for me, but that's because i'm slightly autistic and even waving hi or making eye contact is difficult.
Trying to improve though, I think i'm getting better at it. Though now i suspect i'm just reciprocating all questions by default and some of them should actually not be returned.

>>17146979
Just. Ask the girl out.

>>17146959
I never post stuff on social media as is because its kinda stupid but statistically speaking ot should be about you yes

But damn people are so stupid i mean you dont say no a person then cry about how you arent together and fuck if i dont hear that stuff all the time

Talk to him if you like him, if you don't then don't

Was it something I did or does he just have issues? Or i misunderstood?

>have been hooking up with a guy friend who likes me but is moving far away
>he says this is probably the last time we'll see each other
>he was super cuddly yesterday, laughing and asking me about my life etc
>fall asleep he is cuddling me
>i am not affectionate in general so i wasn't reciprocating too much but it was nice
>wake up later and he's turned his back away from me, blankets completely covering his face, not even touching me
>we make eye contact later and he has no expression on his face and turns away from me again
>in the morning i get up, try to say bye but he doesn't wake up so i just leave

>>17147033

He sounds like maybe he was either really tired and genuinely slept through you leaving, or he has issues with having to leave you and was trying not to get too involved.

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I'm a man with a question:

I have a friend I have known for many years. We both flirt with all our friends often, usually just to mess with them or give credit where it's due or something like that.

I have noticed that lately she and I have been doing it with each other a lot more, and it's getting a little more suggestive, even if around other people.

I'm not that naive, I'm pretty sure an outside observer would start asking questions even considering that we like to flirt with everyone. But at the same time I'm not in an objective enough position to be sure and this shit is NOT as easy when its people who have known each other a really long time.

Is it time I fucking do something or am I justreading too much into things?

>>17146908
Have you gone to the about section of her page to see if she put down what gender she's interested in?

>>17146977
She wants to have fun, youth is universally seen as attractive.

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So...ladies, how mad would you be?

>Be at party last night
>Sister and her best friend are there
>I've known my sister's friend a long time
>Since we were both like 5 years old
>We're both 25 now
>She's blonde and tall
>Wearing shorts and a t-shirt only
>She asks me to come outside with her
>We end up talking for a bit
>She tells me to follow her into the woods a bit
>We're down this trail behind the house
>It's pitch black and hot as fuck out
>Using our phones as lights
>We go off the trail a little bit
>End up making out behind a tree
>We end up 69ing on the ground


We end up going back inside, my sister sees us walking back in together and she's pissed as fuck, a while back she told me she wanted me to stay away from her friend because I would end up hurting her, I FULLY ADMIT that I did a lot of "hit it and quit it" things in college and ended up hurting a lot of people, but those days are behind me and I thought my sister knew that, so now my sister is pissed at me, my friend's sister is pissed at my sister for being angry with me, and blah...

So how would you feel if your brother/sister had sex with your best friend?

Girls, would you bring a nice big purse on a afternoon stroll? Not a canvas bag, I'm talking about a neat leather glossy purse, and about a 1.5 mile walk from home.

>>17147107
I'm asking this because I was studying at a coffee shop and saw a girl perched outside, alone and looking around. I'm all for going for asking a girl out, I get nervous but I stick through it. I just couldn't figure out a good line to start with at the time until after she walked off. I want to see her again, but there's a small chance she'll be there. It sucks because after she left I was distracted at the thought and couldn't study.

So I am a male with a question for females -

I am recently getting into this whole online dating thing, should I just be honest about my life, or should I try to sugar coat it and be mysterious in a sense? I am legally an adult now but still in high school because I had a fucked up childhood, so that probably puts people off. Then I have said that I am into video games, and that I was rather anti social as a child. Did I fuck up? They told me to be honest but I think I fucked up ;-;

Also, just as a footnote I didn't say I had a fucked up childhood, just that I was in high school still instead of college or a job.

>>17147107
No, unless I hadn't been warned about it in advance

>>17147121
I have no idea what this context has to do with the question

>>17147130
Maybe she was waiting for someone. Or got off from work somewhere nearby. Just wanted to know if it's normal to bring a nice purse on a lazy walk. Thx

>>17145214
Not starving to death, haven't destroyed kitchenware in several years, rarely burn food.

>>17146070
Some women sort of inspire it, but I don't think anyone does a full 180 just like that.

>>17146155
Prolly try sealing it with tape, I wouldn't know what he fuck.

>>17147087
I mean if you do like her and wasn't trying to hit it and quit it then i wouldn't be pissed but your sis isn't the caretaker of her friend and has no say in her friend's actions. Her friend has her own agency and her FRIEND was the one who decided to initiate, not you.

I've heard it's not good to keep condoms in my wallet because they can tear. So if I think I might get lucky where should I keep them?