So im trying to decide if i should go to my cousins wedding tomorrow. Being a 24 year old autistic ugly neet loser idk if i should go. Any advice or tips?
>>17140075
Go.
If you feel like a faggot, go get a new haircut, go buy a nice suit and some shoes and just go.
>>17140075
go, obviously. just make some effort and be prepared to answer the "what are you up to" type questions
>>17140107
Why go though? What if its another bad experience for me? I already did all that stuff anyway just in case, but it still didnt not make me an ugly pos
>>17140119
I did all that but im still really worried about it going badly
>>17140122
It's your cousin's day, not yours. There won't be a single person there who gives a shit what you look like or what you're doing/not doing. They'll be busy looking at the bride and groom and the way the wedding party is dressed, what the cake and food is like, etc. Just go. Free food and drink and you'll be making a positive effort toward not being entirely reclusive.
>>17140128
How about i take a bunch of drugs and see how i feel the day of? I prolly wont gounless i can get high as shit on pregabalin
>>17140122
You want us to tell you that it's okay to be an autistic neet loser shutin?
Go! Maybe you'll have fun. You certainly wont have fun sitting at home posting on a lebanese wood carving imageboard. If you don't have fun this time maybe you'll learn something and fun next time.
>>17140075
why would you not? you are aware of how easy it is to get laid at wedding receptions, right?
>>17140161
Idk i just want someone to tell me the future, is that too much to ask :(
>>17140172
What if i cant and all the girls find me repulsive??
>>17140193
>What if i cant
this is why you fail
stop being a bitch.
>>17140206
Dude i dont want to make an ass out of myself by "not being a bitch"
>>17140218
There is a middle ground between "not being a bitch" and "making an ass out of yourself". It's not one or the other.
>>17140140
Do u family a favor abd OD. What do you want? Sympathy? Why don't you get a job and quit bitching that your family was nice enough to invite you to eat their expensive food at their expensive wedding? I bet you won't even bring them a nice gift to commemorate their love and union
>>17140256
17140256
Yes there is, theres knowing when not to do something because youll look like a fool
>>17140296
I plan on getting a job and oding right as soon as we move which is in a couple months. Ive already tried to do it once, but thanks man good talk
>>17140309
Fuck you. Handed everything in life and whine when you have to put an oz of effort forward.
>>17140119
How do you answer what are you up to questions if you're not up to anything, make shit up?
>>17140075
Where do you live anon? I'm a femanon who happens to love weddings.
>>17140324
Yeah man i know im a pos, no one is debating that. I just want to make it if i can ya know? Otherwise i want it to be as little rocky as it can be til i die. I hope you enjoyed my pics you turd
>>17140338
I was just gonna say im doing data entry for my parents business and playing tennis if anyone asks
>>17140342
Im in austin, texas it would make my life if you would come with me :3
>>17140075
Okay, so you're a total loser autist. Spend a bit of money.
Get a haircut from a barber, not some Supercuts that is ran by women. A guy that cuts hair that will trim you up nice. It's not even that expensive. It actually costs the same. Try to wear a suit, if you can't, wear a pair of Khakis and a nice button up shirt. Ask your mother, she'll let you know if you look like a total slob.
If you manage to not look like a total slob, drink a few beers or shots before you show up. Don't get sloppy drunk, just take away your weird inhibitions. Just a few, like I said. Don't get fucking trashed and show up telling people how they don't understand Hitler or how to play DOTA. No one cares about your interpretation of Star Trek or who will win WW3.
Have a few drinks and mingle, be comfortable with the people there. Keep your autism down and just talk to people about dumb shit.
>>17140356
Wah. I'm in Canada. :( Weddings are the best anon! I'm sure you'll do great!
>>17140363
Expanding on this, I can balance normie life with my own austist life.
This is just how you fit in with people. Do what I did, turn 4chan into your secret outlet. In real life no one gives a fuck and if you try to explain it you'll be a weirdo.
You just have to pretend to be a normal person. After that we'll be here waiting.
>>17140363
>Get a haircut from a barber, not some Supercuts that is ran by women. A guy that cuts hair that will trim you up nice. It's not even that expensive. It actually costs the same.
I cut my own hair lmao. It dont look too bad though if i do say so myself!
>Try to wear a suit, if you can't, wear a pair of Khakis and a nice button up shirt. Ask your mother, she'll let you know if you look like a total slob.
I got a nice button up shirt, with a sports jacket, and some khakis. I still look like a faggot though
>If you manage to not look like a total slob, drink a few beers or shots before you show up. Don't get sloppy drunk, just take away your weird inhibitions. Just a few, like I said.
I have a huge ass tolerance to everything, so i was gonna take a mass dose of lyrica and drink a few beers see if i dont feel like im on some ghb
>Don't get fucking trashed and show up telling people how they don't understand Hitler
They dont understand hitler bruh, ill tell them that sober as a bird
>Have a few drinks and mingle, be comfortable with the people there. Keep your autism down and just talk to people about dumb shit.
Again, huge ass tolerance jfmsu
>>17140371
Will you be my online gf anyways?
>>17140075
you can always just get drunk and have fun
>>17140416
I really like your meme choices... so sure! What else are you into anon?
>>17140421
Drugs.. and honestly thats about it, im pretty boring. Oh and i play tennis, but i think i already mentioned that. What about you?
>>17140418
Takes a lot for me to get drunk
>>17140437
Haha that explains the good memes. I am really really clean cut and not sporty at all. I like music a ton though! What music do you like?
>>17140445
Haha im glad you like them though, but im starting to run low.. JUST I hope you dont hate me now. What do you mean by clean cut? Im just a mess lol. Music i like grunge and hardcore gangster rap haha pretty lame
op we are the same. Except you drink a lot and I used to drink a lot.
I just skipped out on my brothers wedding last week. We share some of the same feelings. I'm a little older and have been shut-in for a while.
People talk to you less after you miss family weddings. I stayed home from the wedding because this wedding was the first time in nearly a decade the family tried to invite to me to something other than thanksgiving. I told them all for weeks before I was insulted that this was the only reason they would talk to me, is that they want support for my brothers broken relationship turning into a marriage which I know is just a way to try and turn my brothers "I really hate this relationship I want to leave but have two kids with this witch" into "I'm married so I can't leave my wife and two kids".
I'm 100% positive that if he wasnt getting married there would be no effort to include me in the things that they do. I called them out, and told them I was tired of being excluded from the family and that it will take more than just a wedding invitation to make up for the years of ignoring me.
They went right back to ignoring me. At least I have closure now that they really give no fucks. I'm free to fuck off and try and be a rockstar and probably die of starvation or fry my brain on acid trying to be the next hendrix. Or i'll change the world. who knows.
I also love drugs and tennis.
>>17140466
Nah. That possum meme is my all time favourite, so you're good. Clean cut, as in I don't do drugs or really drink. Haha we definitely have different music tastes too.
>>17140472
Holy shit dude, thats a lot to take in, my brain is already fried lmao so give me a minute to reply to your post
>>17140475
Wew did you play in high school or college or anything? What kind of drugs do you like?
>>17140479
Whew, sorry i forgot what kind of music you like! Also yeah i love the valentine opossum too. It was for you :3 do you have kik or skype or something you wanna talk on?
>>17140493
No worries! I like all kinds. I don't really feel like posting my kik so publicly! But you seem nice and I wanna keep talking.
>>17140472
Yeah man OP here iktf, i dont really give a shit about my cousin enough to call him out like that though. I prolly would if my close family and friends treated me like that too. Then again i hate to say, but they prolly just dont know what to do with us, inviting you to the wedding was a gesture on their part (or maybe it was obligation) i guess it really comes down to what we wanna do with our lives, be rockstars or try to be family men? I get you though family is supposed to be family and help each other out when in need. Maybe thats our problem we feel a little too strongly sometimes, more sensitive and it ends up isolating us. Idk just a theory, caring is not a bad thing either btw. I wanna ask how did you become an outcast and how do you support yourself? Also do you wanna be best buds?
I'm both the Tennis and drug guy and the guy who skipped his brothers wedding. Yes I did in high school, but then my betaness led me to follow a group of friends who drank to blackout on a nightly basis. I developed a horrible addiction to booze and I was hospitalized within a couple years with failing organs and what not.
Then I had MDMA, then I had acid. Ive drank twice in the years since and I'll never go back.
What about you homie, singles or doubles? Uppers or downers?
>>17140344
Your pics are shitty and so are you.
>>17140500
Shit ill post mine then idgaf just dont judge me by my username, i thought it would be funny, it wasnt lmao anyway its bigmacdaddyplaya message me if you wanna, youll make me the happiest nigga on /adv/ :3
>>17140534
I think I added you? King koopa?
>>17140517
Yeah man i feel you, i was drinking a 5th a day in highschool, i dont really like drinking anymore, but i do it some anyway. Other than that lots of benzos, amphetamines, booze, opiates, and meth. I was up for weeks at a time, blacking out and shit losing my mind
>>17140524
Gtfo out my thread you little faggot
>>17140513
Family is supposed to help each other, regardless of the need. So often I get the "We will help if it is X, but your on your own for this one" but then say things like "It doesn't matter how you feel about this wedding, family is supposed to show up no matter what".
I don't know about you, but I am given a lot of "false" acceptance. People say "We want you as a part of our group, but we dont like X about you so change it" and if you DONT accept that offer, theres something WRONG with you.
I say FUCK THAT now. I say, "Yes I want to be there too! But I have X, can you deal with that?" put the ball back in their court. Dont let them put you in a box where you have to give the answer they want and suffer your pride. Pass the ball back to them and watch what happens.
I do want to be best buds with people, but I have no idea how. Super selfish and all about me me me. And I hate that, and hate it in other people, but thats all we are and im turning into a spagetti monster
>>17140542
Yes haha das me
>>17140534
>>17140542
Something gay is happening here
>>17140545
You're the worst OP. I need you to know.
>>17140561
Don't be a jealous fag.
>>17140570
People hate in others what they hate most in themselves.
I'm sure you hate yourself too
>>17140547
Goddamn dude, you are either really smart or really passionate. Id say just give people a break maybe idk or just fuck everyone maybe. Society has some expectations, but i think family does accept us anyway for the most part. Theyd like us to change but its ok if we cant in the end. At least thats how my family is. Yeah man i used to be like you, all full of energy and thinking everyone else is wrong and they may be, but the world doesnt work our way. I think some of it is narcissism like you were saying but idk. I think just putting the ball in their court will only end badly for us
>>17140561
>>17140570
Yeah dude dont be hatin on me
>>17140577
I'd hate myself if i were a shitty neet like anon here.
I don't spend my days leeching off my family then complaining when they include me in life events.
Maybe I don't hate myself, just OP.
Its similar to my hate for bronies.
I can tolerate lots of stuff, but neets and bronies are shit tier- esp if they shrug off advice abd continue to be asshats.
So, no.
>>17140641
Lmao so mad, dude i will go to the wedding, do you feel better now?
>>17140590
I used to be young and this feeling was intense. Now i'm way closer to 30 than I want to be and it is nearly all I feel. So many people my age are dead. This fire is gone. This need (which, yeah man is a shitty thing) to be treated a certain way, this overpowering ever burning just fucking raw grrhrhha can't be put down. Doesn't that shit just fucking get at you? That "Oh yeah we want you to change but meeeeiihh we know you wont in the end so we accept you as you are (in their head: we guess we have to if we dont want to look like asses who shoved their kid out of their life).
I'm tired of the phrase "I am really dissapointed in you for X, but you can make your own choices and I have to accept that" when they could just "Hey man, I'm really dissapointed in you for X, WHAT HAPPENED? WHATS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE"
A dichotomoy: There are people in the world who accept you for who you are, and there are people who want to know why you are the way you are and how they can be a part of that. I don't think family is the first group. I think your server at Red Robin is the first group. Family is supposed to make you stronger and know who you are and want to be a part of your life. Not just use you for their things so they can have the complete family they want.
Too many people just write people off for having problems, for showing raw emotions. FUCK THAT. Fuck surface people. You dont have to accept me for shit I dont care who you are, I want you to WANT ME. If you dont want to want me, I dont want you. And there are plenty of cases where I have wasted years of my life chasing after someone, wanting them, only to painfully realize how little they want me. You get jaded to that shit.
I had my first cup of coffee in months, excuse my energy.
>>17140666
Yes, hail satan.
>>17140641
I met shit tier bronies and I met amazing human beings who are also bronies. Every community has good people or else a community would have never formed.
You do have a good amount of judgement and happy people dont judge the way you do. But that's chill, we wouldn't be here if we were all right.
If you want to be a part of your family and put on whatever mask they need you to pu ton that's on you. But when it feels like work to go to family gatherings it's not leeching its getting paid. And sometimes, people want a deeper connection than that with their families. Whenever I bring up the desire for a deeper connection I get "Theres no time for that, we need to do X already for X other family member". There is never a time for my things, and my emotions are always told to be put away so I can be the upstanding oldest son for family events. "Mom, Dad, I feel as though the two of you don't care about my future" "Look we don't have time to try and talk about this again its your grandpa's 92nd birthday in a week and I want to watch True Detective"
They have me on their family plan for my cellphone, and pay $20 bucks. You assume way to fucking much if you think I'm leeching then complaining.
>>17140667
Dude im leaving for the wedding and im about to be out of cell, kik me so we can talk about this more and be pals and shit
>>17140732
Good luck friend, have fun. There is probably someone at that wedding that feels the same way as you. Find them.
Maybe I'll get kik. probably not.
>>17140738
Im gonna try to reply to you in the meantime, if i cant i will when i get there
>>17140667
>So many people my age are dead. This fire is gone.
Yeah man it definitely used to get at me, now im so jaded and numb and fucked up from drug use i care a fraction of what i used to. Im just trying to make it at this point.
>I'm tired of the phrase "I am really dissapointed in you for X, but you can make your own choices and I have to accept that" when they could just "Hey man, I'm really dissapointed in you for X, WHAT HAPPENED? WHATS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE
I think sometimes them letting you bee yourself is love my dude. My family was the other way and yelled and screamed at me to change for them.
>A dichotomoy: There are people in the world who accept you for who you are, and there are people who want to know why you are the way you are and how they can be a part of that. I don't think family is the first group. I think your server at Red Robin is the first group. Family is supposed to make you stronger and know who you are and want to be a part of your life. Not just use you for their things so they can have the complete family they want
I think the family wanting you apart of it is love.
>Too many people just write people off for having problems, for showing raw emotions. FUCK THAT. Fuck surface people. You dont have to accept me for shit I dont care who you are, I want you to WANT ME. If you dont want to want me, I dont want you. And there are plenty of cases where I have wasted years of my life chasing after someone, wanting them, only to painfully realize how little they want me. You get jaded to that shit.
Iktf man, i think maybe you need to look out for numero uno a little more. Sorrythese are short trying to get it in before cell runs out
>I had my first cup of coffee in months, excuse my energy
Yeah im on a bunch of yohimbe and i barely feel shit. My body is FUCKED lmao
>>17140790
>Yeah man it definitely used to get at me, now im so jaded and numb and fucked up from drug use i care a fraction of what i used to. Im just trying to make it at this point.
I see that everywhere. I see that shit breaking people but that same shit is exactly what fuels me, fucking burning jade.
>I think sometimes them letting you bee yourself is love my dude. My family was the other way and yelled and screamed at me to change for them.
Theres a third option, accept and ask why. Noone needs to change but I need to have a conversation about why we do the things we do. THATS love. Connection and understanding, not blind acceptance.
>Iktf man, i think maybe you need to look out for numero uno a little more. Sorrythese are short trying to get it in before cell runs out
Still trying to learn how.
Bumpin this shit back up so i can reply
>>17140840
>I see that everywhere. I see that shit breaking people but that same shit is exactly what fuels me, fucking burning jade.
Yeah man fucking burning jade, there was this gorgeous girl named jade who i liked a lot but apparently she didnt reciprocate maybe
>Theres a third option, accept and ask why. Noone needs to change but I need to have a conversation about why we do the things we do. THATS love. Connection and understanding, not blind acceptance.
True man, but also recognize not everyones love can be perfect.
>Still trying to learn how.
I think all of us sensitive niggas are dude, keep going at it though
Sorry if answers are half assed im drunk AF
