so due to some unfortunate circumstances, my boyfriend and i will likely be living even further apart. currently, i can only visit him twice a month. in the next month or so, i'll only be able to meet him maybe once every few months. the next time i might have the possibility to move to where he lives is one year from now.
i just feel like our inevitable option would be to break up because of the distance and lack of time spent together and whatever...
does anyone here have any experience with long distance break ups and what happened after wards?
we've been together for almost a year, and he is easily the best boyfriend i could ask for.
>>17132952
Catposters need to get the fuck off /adv/. I'd like to help you with your problem, but you need to try again without using an image of a sad cat to illustrate your own sadness. This is fucking ridiculous
>>17132975
edgy as fuark
My gf lives 8,000 miles away in asia. I'm here in the midwest. We still vist regularly and it works. We'll have a house together soon.
My advice to you is make sure both of u come from rich families.
Also, vote trump
>>17133096
neither of us have a lot of money. both our families are pretty poor.
tfw
>>17132952
A year apart? is that all?
some people do 7 inside and stay together
>>17133118
i think the fact we haven't been able to properly spend time together (as stated, we only get to see each other twice a month) makes the longer distance even harder to manage.
we've always wanted to spend more time together, but this pretty much kills it for another year... not sure how this will work out.
>>17133154
I think it sounds like you're trying to say "I want to leave this person and have a new life" but you're finding all these ways of not having the courage to say it.
Don't cling on to the person if you're going to leave them. Don't hedge your bets either.
Sit down together " it's not going to work, I don't want it to, good luck, bye"
dragging things out and wishy washy maybe maybe not hurts people more
(no crying cat either, it's a way of making them feel sad for you not wanting to wait it out, that isn't fair. just do it, you'll both feel better.)
>>17133188
i mean for both of us, it just sucks... we're used to having daily contact with someone we love in a relationship. sometimes it's hard because one of us is having a hard time and we can't be there for each other in person. a lot of our conversations also get a bit dull because we realized a lot of the things we want to talk about happens "in the moment" and then it just doesn't sound as exciting to talk about any more.
we love each other a lot, and i want this relationship to work out. every time we do meet up, it's great. but i just feel like given our wants and needs it's not going to happen with this extra distance.
and don't mind my crying cats too much, i just rarely have a chance to show off my collection.
>>17132952
if not for the fact that you think breaking up is inevitable i wouldn't see the problem. but that you have so little faith in the relationship or yourself or your bf, whatever it is. doesn't bode well.
there is zero reason a 1yr relationship where both are happy couldn't survive a 3-4 visits only year. especially if you both spend that year laying groundwork and making plan to live together once its over.
gl and the cat shit is annoying
>>17133207
What I mean by crying cats is your attitude. You want to leave your relationship but you're doing everything you can to put it back onto the other person or anything other than yourself.
stop it.
It's:
"I'm Leaving You. Good bye!"
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>>17133110
>>17133154
>>17133207
All this catposting is ruining my fucking life. I'm red in the face and trembling with rage right now. If you were all trying to trigger me, I hope you know it worked
>>17133225
>>17133226
well i guess you're right. we haven't really discussed this yet together, so maybe i should...
>>17133237
hheh
(You)
>>17133272
(Me)
>>17133226
>>17133188
>>17133118
seriously, playing around with "well, I wish we could and what if and".. is not great, worst of all you might end up staying together when you obviously don't really (heart-of-hearts) want to.
Absolute clean break and no looking back.
>>17133272
>>17133276
don't fucking do this to me
at least spoiler-tag those fucking cats so I don't have to leave
>>17133276
man, when you put it that way, i guess you're right. i guess i don't really have that much faith in us after all. thanks.
>>17133283
>spoiler-tag on /adv/
how new are you
