I know not everyone orgasms from penetration, but isn't penetration meant to feel at least a little bit good?
Even the so called g spot ome hither stroking doesn't work. I just have no feeling there at all.
>>17109572
>I just have no feeling there at all.
See a doctor. Sometimes numbness can be a psychosexual reaction to childhood sexual trauma.
>>17109584
I don't have childhood sexual trauma
You could be thinking about it too much which is preventing you from really relaxing and enjoying it. Have you tried doing it yourself with a toy or something?
>>17109624
Yes I've done it to myself and I'm alwyas really relaxed
>>17109613
>I don't have childhood sexual trauma
Then go see a doctor.
>>17109624
I think it's the other way round. Have you ever done it with a partner?
>>17109613
>>17109632
I've gone a few times in the past year, every nurse and doctor I've seen has said that apart from an awkwardly positioned cervix I'm fine
>>17109635
Yes, I don't feel anything either with someone or by myself.
>>17109572
Some girls are just more genetically lucky with regard to feeling good during penetration. I'm not a girl so I can't say for sure, but the advice I can give is to increase your foreplay and make use of your mind. Even as a guy I don't feel good fapping without thinking of my favourite fetish or watching porn. The sensation just disappears and I often can't even finish (if I'm fapping without something to think about).
So work on your mental game. Either watch some porn if you're solo, or increase foreplay if with someone.
>>17109737
But even if I'm turned on and fantasising I still don't feel anything
Fuck life is unfair.
>>17109572
I'm kind of the same way, anon. I have a great sex life and I enjoy the mental aspects (having my guy inside me, fucking me, etc), but the feeling just doesn't send electricity through my body the way my clit, nipples, ears, scalp and neck do.
I think there's just this set expectation that vaginas are supposed to be super sensitive, when in fact, they're not always. So we get disappointed and let down when some of us don't have a special button there.
Hopefully you can achieve orgasm in other ways? I call it conservation of erogenous zones. I've never masturbated vaginally - no need to since every other part of me can get the job done. If you can't orgasm otherwise, you may want to see a counselor since it's definitely a mind thing.
>>17109572
Try the hitachi wand on yer clit. It has never failed me.
>>17109762
Try different material. Maybe you haven't found something that genuinely makes you horny enough yet. Girl bodies are weird, even if you think you're turned on you might just have the equivalent of an erection. I can have an erection and not be truly horny enough to have a good orgasm.
>>17109957
> doesn't send electricity through my body the way my clit, nipples, ears, scalp and neck do
God you're so lucky, I don't have any erogenous zones like that except for my clit, and that doesn't send electricity through my body, it just feels good
>>17109572
I would just allow your partner to enjoy your body and use clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm
Why worry about what you cant fix?
>>17111625
Or maybe switch to achieving pain
Not an orgasm
But you want sensory expansion
Pain will do it
It very relieving as well
Do you orgasm generally though? From clitoral stimulation or something?
>>17111631
So what you're saying it that experiencing a lot of pain will lead to those areas being sensitive to pleasure?
>>17112037
The other guy may be right but don't hurt yourself either.
>>17111636
Sort of, I can get a release type feeling but it's nowhere near as strong as what people say their orgasms are
>>17112668
All girls orgasm differently, I have a lot of friends who think they don't "really" orgasm because they don't go all shakey-screamey like they think orgasms are supposed to be (thanks, Internet porn) and then are disappointed.
If you orgasm, you know it, fair enough. But don't compare your orgasms to some real or imagined ideal of what they ought to be.
>>17112675
I wish they were stronger though. Like I wish I could have a full body orgasm
>>17112729
In my experience that's pretty much exclusively vaginal orgasm territory.
>>17112757
So I guess I'm just unlucky?
>>17112758
Yeah might be. Or you need to practice more.
>>17112668
I was exactly the same until 6 years later my boyfriend made me orgasm the first time.
Only the right guy can fix you OP, it's not something you can do yourself in my opinion.
I've been sexually abused in childhood that trauma caused me to cramp up and never feel good, neither with clitoral nor with vaginal sensations. Neither by myself nor with my piece of shit first boyfriend.
Fixing me took my second boyfriend over a year of worshipping me and my body, trying to make me feel good before anything else every single time we did it and being endlessly loving and understanding.
He taught me to love and respect myself again.
He made me not feel worthless anymore.
And yes after I've learned to trust him completely and truly love him and myself again, my orgasms were always windblowing.
>>17112862
I meant mindblowing of course.....
>>17112862
Yeah but I think the difference between you and me is that I can already orgasm and masturbated a lot, You're a lot more sensitive than me
I also don't have childhood trauma so I don't cramp up or anything.
I also wouldn't know how to get a loving boyfriend.
Sigh.
>>17109572
I'm the same way OP. I've never ever felt turned on from penetration. I am 28 and have been with several different people and it always felt bad. More annoying then hot. I don't have sexual trauma history either,though I am am depressed. idk, OP some people are not made for sex.
>>17113110
this is me too.
>>17112862
not everybody can be "fixed" by the right guy, or loves having their body "worshiped." Some people genuinely don't like penetration, and they don't need you to tell them that they secretly do. It's fucking demoralizing.
