Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a few months now and we're trying to step up our intimacy. For some fucking reason though, I just can't get IN her. I'll be hard and I'll go in for the penetration, but I'll miss and almost instantly start going soft. I don't get it. What's wrong with me? I really don't think I'm nervous, but I don't fucking know. I just want to be able to fuck her.
>>17106455
How do you miss..
>> sorry I put it in your pooper
>>17106493
I don't know. At this point it feels like my dick just bends around the fucking thing like a cartoon. Plus she's tight, so unless I'm marble-column levels of hard I might as well be pushing rope.
>>17106501
Generally some foreplay.
After that, grab your dick.
If you really can't find the only wet hole,
Rub your dick head up and down until you feel it.
Slowly enter.
Rocket science yo?
Lots of foreplay to loosen up and tell HER to put it in herself. She grabs it, aims it and you thrust.
>>17106934
Ewwww I would never do that with my bf. Either he learns to be decent at sex and please me or we don't have sex, period.
>>17106501
You sure you're actually hard? Sounds like you're maximum half erect and lose it if you try to push that floppy thing in.
Also cut that porn and masturbation op. Completely. In a month or so you'll be completely healthy. Nobody realises that humans initially were not designed to consume pornography. At all.
>>17106992
Thanks for the advice anon. I'll admit that my erections aren't the strongest when I'm going in for the P in V, so I guess I need to fix that problem.
The only reason that I hesitate to cut porn and masturbation is that I've tried it before. 2-week streak with no jerking it, and all that happened was that the next time we hung out, I go blue balls from just cuddling her. They were painful enough that I could barely walk, and blue balls makes it even harder for me to cum in the first place.
>>17107010
You don't need to stop all together.
Just don't do it five times a fucking day.
>>17107010
Welcome.
Nobody cares if you cum fast. Sex is not porn where the pump session needs to take half an hour.
Just cut the porn crap out and everything will regulate itself. The more time passes the less blue balls and finished in one thrust you'll get.
Also if you fear of finishing too quickly make her cum first with foreplay. No frustrations and lots of fun for both regardless of what the penetration will be like.
>>17107033
>Nobody cares if you cum fast
I actually have the opposite problem, I take FOREVER to cum if it's not me doing the stimulation, and it's starting to make my girlfriend upset. She's worried that she's not enough for me or that she's not attractive.
>Also if you fear of finishing too quickly make her cum first with foreplay. No frustrations and lots of fun for both regardless of what the penetration will be like
Yeah, my fingering and oral game is really strong, but she seems like she wants penetrative sex, and so do I.
Basically my dick is just a fucking wreck and a riddle for some reason. I can barely get hard reliably with another person, and cumming with anything but masturbation is pretty much impossible currently. I just want to be normal, and I don't even really get what's wrong.
>>17107015
Yeah, I'll definitely be cutting down.
>>17107015
Yes he does. There is no NEED to masturbate. Every time he's horny he can have his girl. That's how relationships work. Rap the first year we usually had sex like five times a week. If it was on weekends only then we were in bed for the whole weekend.
The honeymoon phase will be over quickly enough. No need to destroy it with fapping.
source: 30 years old now, in relationship for 12 years, in marriage for 10 years.
>>17107039
>Basically my dick is just a fucking wreck and a riddle for some reason.
Then you definitely need to cut it completely.
You're desensitised by overly excessive consume of porn and your right hand. But don't worry it's reversible, nothing permanent. Just needs some time.
And yeah your girlfriend is right with being upset. I've explained why here >>17107044
And of course she'll want the D it feels completely different from fingering.
>>17107056
I want to give her the D more than anything. I don't even care about my pleasure anymore, I just want to stop making her feel inadequate. She's the greatest thing to ever happen to me, so I have to fix this.
My problem down to the T one of the biggest things that helped me was lube....lots and lots of lube even half erect i could slide in and get hard afterwards
>>17107157
Thanks anon. I'll make sure we're slippery enough to glide on sandpaper
I actually have this same problem and realized I often fap without even being 100% hard because all that matters is reaching an orgasm for me. Also I noticed I regain my erection if I tell my girl shit like "I love you", so maybe deep inside I'm axious or afraid of rejection/committment
>>17106970
You sound like a shit gf. And this is coming from a girl.
>>17106970
Different femanon, agreeing that you sound like a spoiled cunt. You're probably a starfish in bed... except you can't regenerate limbs.
>>17107089
Well then start by stopping porn and fapping and pick up some other hobbies which make you actually a decent person. You seem decent enough to pull that off anyways. So do it faggot.
>this thread
>these feels
I should cut some of the porn. It kills like two or three hours a day. I could use them for more productive things.
>>17107399
fucking kek
>>17107010
>2-week streak with no jerking it,
Wow youre pathetic. Did you expect magic to suddenly happen. I had the same problem as you so Ill tell you what the doc told me. 90 fucking days without porn or fapping. If you dont see improvement then its possible something else is wrong.
Holy shit youre so pathetic though. Muh 2 weeks.
>if you work out youll gain muscle
>but I worked out for two weeks and nothing really changed
Fucking loser.
>>17107653
>90 fucking days without porn or fapping
Not him but does having sex count when you're doing that?
Hmmm getting softy down there?
You need to re programm your brain about sex... you need to tell your brain :
"PENIS MUST BE SUPER HARD AS I GET CLOSE TO A WOMAN VAJAAYNAH"
it works... worked..
you are not an old man whose his blood pressure is so low once he pumps it he would get heart attack? aren't you?
>>17107664
One of the main goals is to get a max erection without physical stimulation or porn.
If you can do that while having sex then I dont see the problem. But if you could have sex...
>>17107671
I can have sex it just takes forever to get an erection and I'm prone to losing it because I feel nothing.
>>17107672
Id stop with the sex for like 3 weeks. Thats how long it took me to notice gains initially.
>>17107673
Thanks senpai. I'll start my new life today.
>>17107675
3 weeks is for small gains though. It help with getting better erections faster.
Honestly though I spent 3 weeks before that prepping myself. Like I only GENTLY fapped to the image of my gf at the time only. And memories of sex with her. This is what I assume fixed the mental blocks mostly.
>>17107681
I've tried doing that actually, I like her so much she's the only thing I've been getting off to since we started dating but my sytle is too rough I think, I fap like the fist of the north star.
>>17107686
>GENTLY
I mean barely touching. Its gonna suck but you want the stimulation to be mental not physical. Like I honestly can describe how gentle I mean to you because it wont seems like fapping to you. Which is the point.
Just don't fucking fap. How hard can that be? Don't you have any lives???? Get one for fucks sake.
>>17107700
Okay, okay. I had one last session to some aberrant fetishes I won't even mention but now I'm ready. Monk mode here I come.
>>17107686
>fist of the North star
Nigga, even if you use your gf as the fap material you're going to end up with death grip.
You need to just get off to the thought of plowing your girl. The thought of firing a load so deep into her it leaks out for a couple days, no matter how well she cleans up.
You need to stimulate yourself as if you were only rubbing your dick against a pillow. Gently, enough to feel something but not too much. Also use lube when you do fap. Going at it raw may cause you to get slightly callus.
>>17107399
>>17107388
'sup samefag, I don't care. I am not going to do anything I find disgusting or disagree with during sex and nobody can force me. Try to force someone irl to sex acts they don't want and don't like so you can get jailed for rape.
>>17107388
>>17107399
Pretty sure this is bait, femanons.
