He always asks me for pictures, bras, and sends me porn. I've told my grandmother, but she didn't want to see the messages, because she thinks hes a good person. She said I was over reacting.
Cousin, brother, uncle or what?
Also are you hot?
>>17098697
He's my cousin.
>>17098703
how old is he? probably a lonely bro in his awkward years i guess?
>>17098804
He has a girlfriend..
>>17098958
Then forward the messages on to her. Your cousin will get what's coming to him, his girlfriend will gwt the chance to get out of a dead relationship, your grandmother will have to confront somw harsh realities, and your cousin will finally learn not to pull this shit on you anymore.
>>17099050
I'm not sure I can. She's so happy with him. His messages have gotten worse since he got with her, so I can't do nothing. If I made him lose his first girlfriend, I would feel awful. What could I tell him to make him fuck off?
>>17099095
Bluff.
Just tell him you'll show her the pics he's sent to you if he doesn't stop.
>>17098690
Bloody hell, OP. I'm sorry you're going through this. This is going to sound weird, but he probably doesn't understand what it feels like to be treated like that (in that way, at least), and the best thing you can do is try to explain to him how it makes you feel.
Tell him it's not about him being your cousin, but it's about the fact that he's treating you like a sex object, and that's not okay. Tell him, point blank, that he's hurting your feelings, and if he cares about you, he'll stop. Threatening him will only make him think it's some kind of cat-and-mouse game, and likely inspire him to escalate it somehow. Be honest. Tell him you really hurt, and you feel awful about what he's doing, and that if he does not stop, then you will cut off all communication with him.
Then, if he doesn't stop, do it. Stop talking to him. Don't respond to anything he says. If anyone notices, and asks why you're giving him the cold shoulder, simply say "because he won't stop sexually harassing me."
You may get some shit for this, but just tell people what he did - if they ask - and soon you'll find that he sees that his actions have consequences, and he will learn to respect you or pay them.
I'm sorry people are buttholes.
>>17099095
if you were dating him, would you not want to know this? she's happy with him because she doesn't know he's a fucking creep yet
i would definitely show her, but i understand if that would just be uncomfortable for you
>>17099319
You're not wrong, and I get what you mean, but this has absolutely, positively ZERO to do with his girlfriend.
It's not OP's responsibility to deal with, and it's only playing into the kind of manipulation games that her cousin is attempting.
OP is compassionate enough to care about him despite the fact that he's harassing her, and that sort of rips my heart out because his actions are unconscionable.
But she can only deal with him about this issue, because he's the one doing it. She has to set a hard boundary and be firm. If his girlfriend asks, of course, by all means tell her, but she really shouldn't even be a consideration in the initial matter.
>>17099349
>but this has absolutely, positively ZERO to do with his girlfriend.
Are you actually retarded? It has everything to do with her. Not only is he hitting on another girl hardcore, she deserves to know that the person she is trusting is a fucking creep. Use that glob of matter in your cranium.
First tell him if he doesn't stop you'll tell his girlfriend. Tell him you find him fucking repulsive for blackmailing yo like this too and that you've kept all the messages and will release them to your entire family if he continues. He may just stop, which would be best. If he tries to call your bluff though follow through and send her proof. You have all the power to ruin his life - you don't necessarily need to do it but you should use that power as leverage. Who cares about his fucking feelings - how do you know he doesn't do this to other family members too? Do it before he grows older into a creepy fucking old man that pervs on his nieces and nephews too.
