I want to love and respect my boyfriend like I did before I learned of all his fuck ups. How do I do this? 3 year relationship.
Do I need to see a therapist for this?
What fuck ups?
>>17094607
If everyone could see every single shitty thing you have done all throughout your life, I bet the vitriol you'd receive would be hilarious.
People do all kinds of shitty things throughout there lives and your post kind of makes you come across as a bitch.
Seriously just break up with him, its not a big deal you said you don't love or respect him so just leave for gods sake.
I don't see the issue here.
>>17094631
Including but not limited to:
Nearly cheating with a stripper
Camming with girls, escorts, phone sexing and the like.
Being lazy, even in sex.
Sex is shit in general and we average twice a month mainly because of his hand to dick compulsions, he's never in the mood.
Fucking up my parents rental by staying there but never cleaning it. He just hides mess in the cupboards. Rotting socks in places I didn't know existed.
He bores me. We have good conversation but I find myself bored with him a lot because that's all we ever fucking do. Talk. He has no sense of play time and serious time, he wants to be silly ALL the time.
Any hint of criticism lands me in hot water with him, he shuts down and out and I don't hear from him until I let whatever issue I have go. He is hard to talk to about this.
>>17094673
Haha nice shitty boyfriend. You do it to yourself, you know that right? You do it to yourself
>>17094679
>it's ur fault you got raped
Get out, retardo.
>>17094644
For the record, this was all while together, I don't give a shit about his past.
>>17094686
>>it's ur fault you got raped
Are you an imbecile?
By choosing to stay in a toxic relationship, you yourself is the one who is making it continue.
From what you're saying i can hardly see a single reason why you two are still together.
>>17094686
>being raped is the same as staying in a shitty relationship by choice
Hi there reddit!
>>17094673
Nope. You shouldn't love or respect him. It's hard because it doesn't make sense. When you add 2 and 2 you shouldn't get 5. You're searching for an illogical answer.
>>17094697
Jesus Christ, what the absolute FUCK is wrong with you? That makes everything a thousand times worse.
He doesn't give a fuck about you. At all.
>>17094673
that's a lot of sexual issues. did you gain weight? i'd consider shaping up a bit and see if it changes. there's something seriously wrong if a guy would rather masturbate than have sex.
does he know you want to have sex more often?
>>17094673
Break up with him. He is comfortable now. It sounds like he lives his life enjoying instant gratification and only thinking about his own present happiness. Leaving him will most likely spiral him into a depression but he will get over it. You will feel like shit for a tiny bit but ten your life will get so much better.
>>17094673
Oh my god...you are me and dating my boyfriend. I'm glad I'm not alone!
>>17094607
Your disrespect and irritation at him is called GOOD FUCKING SENSE. THIS GUY IS A LOSER AND A HALF. DUMP HIM
Dump That MoFo Already
>>17095404
Yeah, nice club you both belong to.
>>17094673
>He's a lazy, useless, cheating, lying, angry, childish complete fucking retard
>But I want to love and respect him
You can't and won't without hitting yourself in the head repeatedly with a hammer. You'd have to be a complete and utter fucking moron to love and respect this guy, but given you want to love and respect him you're on the right track I guess.
Learn to love and respect yourself, bitch.
>>17094673
leave him its not too late you DONT have to put up with this. ino how people say how would you know if you couldnt handle something as small as this. newsflash. this is HUGE!
>>17094673
I hate to break it to you but you're dating a loser, sugar tits.
You don't respect him because he doesn't inspire respect. So effectively this thread is asking how you should go about deluding yourself.
Leave him. Now. I know you're worried about wasting the three years you've invested in him, but what you should really be worried about is wasting three more.
Also, and this is something you may not know, but you don't love him. You love the familiarity of him.
Do what you know you need to do and move on with your life.
