probably gave you a placebo so you would think the pill would work and finally relax to get an erection

instead it's still on your mind and the placebo had no effect. a lot of performance issues really are because of anxiety. being in the right mental state could mean the difference between getting it up and not being able to get hard at all, even when your super hot gf's ass is right in your face

You want help?

Calm. The fuck. Down. Chill. It's not gonna be the end of the world. Pills are not help. Never. Be strong.

>>17090488
complain about generalized anxiety and get a script for benzos instead. i guarantee you'll calm down

>>17090488

If she is cool with it and understands that it isn't her, then just keep trying.

Used to lose my erection after foreplay. Like I would be rock hard while making out, sucking on tits,etc, but once I took my pants off and got in between her legs I'd go soft.

Been with my girlfriend three years and now I have not had trouble with getting an erection in over 2.5 years.

Also, which is cool, I couldn't use condoms, now I use them all of the time.

>>17090488
I didn't respond to either Viagra or Cialis. Of course, I was on a bunch of psych meds at the time, so maybe there was conflicting chemistry, but I really don't think that was the issue.

Truth is, erections aren't as simple as we're led to believe. There's a part of your mind that you can't control, and part of what that controls are things like the limbic system, in which is included the mechanism for producing an erection. It's pretty complicated, and your dick isn't broken.

I can't answer the question for you, but I can tell you that for me, it had a lot to do with the difficulty in accepting that I deserved pleasure, and questioning whether or not I was "with the right person," and all of the self-doubt associated therewith.

It's okay to just lose sight of everything else, and focus on the sheer joy of celebrating your partner's body, and reveling in the physical pleasure two people can bring to each other. The hard part (no pun intended) is not overthinking it, which is basically what I was doing, and I'm sure I'll have an issue with forever.

The pills aren't going to do that for you, though.

>>17090507
It's a script for Sildenafil, which is apparently the same thing at a fraction of the cost

And you're right, now that it hasn't worked my mind is even more wrecked. That shame of taking off the condom after it hasn't worked is really bad

>>17090518
It's not that easy though. As great as she is, knowing she's more experienced terrifies me

>>17090526
Maybe this will work. Or alcohol. Who knows

>>17090529
She's completely fine as far as I know. If anything she likes that we have something to work together on

Was there anything specific that helped you, or was it just a matter of time before it just clicked

>>17090541
oh my bad i assumed it was a placebo. some medication just doesn't work for people I guess

i think in your case it's your mindset going into sex. i used to have problems getting it up with my first gf, she was patient too and once i finally got comfortable being sexual with a girl I had no problems with future gfs.

me not getting it up never had to do with me not being attracted to my girl. i was just nervous, and then felt bad for disappointing my gf and got even more anxious resulting in a vicious cycle of sex-related anxiety. i think her patience + my perseverance eventually cleared the issue. what i did that helped me was i just kept on trying until eventually i could get hard no problem. although my first gf and i ended on bad terms, i do appreciate the patience she gave me.

>>17090561
Sounds like a mirror situation for me. Nervous, then guilty because you feel like you disappointed her, then more nervous because of it = bad cycle.

We'll just keep at it. Thanks man

atleast you have a girl. the girl im talking to told me she was going to get a restraining order.