Is 24 years old too late to start over?
>never had a girlfriend
>no friends
>shit job
>no social media
>depressed almost all the time
Anybody relate to this? I'm starting to consider ending my life not so much out of self-hatred as out of a lack of desire to continue living.
24? Just hang up the towel you ancient, decrepit, old man. Forget about the 56 years of controllable life you have left.
Not..
OP there's people who live their entire lives without "getting it together", life isn't some scripted event and it's never too late to better yourself.
I was in the same spot when I was around 23, was overweight, dropped out of school, kissless virgin, sat home playing video games and had no ties on social media either. Although, I had a few friends.
I started lifting, which was kind of a domino effect in self improvement. Lifting and getting fit gave me the confidence to go get a job, start hanging out and going out with my friends, buying nicer shit for myself so I look and feel better.
I'm still not much for social media, but i've had a few really cute asian girlfriends since, I got my degree, became an RN, got my own place and overall I feel pretty good about myself.
Only thing about being depressed, is finding the discipline and motivation to WANT to change, and thats something that comes from a personal level. You have to hate what you are now more than you don't want to put the effort in to change.
>24
>never had a girlfriend
>no friends
>shit job
>no social media
>depressed almost all the time
Exactly me
Entering a race a decade late and expecting to catch up to everyone else? lol
I'm probably going to jump off a bridge by fall
Imagine you were sick until age 24 and you were finally better enough to go out and live, starting from scratch but with a clean slate. That's basically what happened to me. It's not too late. Some people haven't had the choice, but you do. It's scary and you might fall prey to comparing yourself to others, but it's a great feeling too. Compare yourself to yourself. If you've improved since a year ago or five years ago, you've succeeded, and that's doable. Get help if you need it. A therapist, classes, self help books, all are fair game.
>>17082900
Life isn't a race and you have a piss poor attitude
>>17082876
25 same here...don't have the brains, patience or energy to start over anymore
>no social media
This is advantageous. If nothing comes up when you Google yourself, fantastic, keep it that way.
At least, until you have a clear idea of what you want to be known for. Career-wise or whatever. Make it good, not real-name shitposting like too many young people do.
You want to turn things around, look up self-improvement info online. Maybe join a forum dedicated to the topic. Using a pseudonym, definitely.
>>17082876
>start over
>first problem you list is lack of gf
your priorities are messed up, and 'starting over' wont fix those.
do whatever the fuck you want to do. there is no age where you just can't unless you physically cannot.
>>17082876
Make sure you dont have nice guy syndrome
>>17083084
OP here. I definitely used to have it though much less so now. I mean I briefly knew a girl in 2014 and she was extremely into me but I managed to spaghetti hard and she became distant but after a while I realized I wasn't that into her, even when she asked to see me again. I was raised by a depressive single mother who threatened to commit suicide throughout my teens and really fucked me up in that sense, though it's no excuse for allowing it to continue to influence my life. Right now I'm just distant and cut-off from people, in the sense that I don't allow anybody to get close to me. I was accused by my father (who I have rarely met since I was 6) of being a narcissist and I think he's probably right, but the thing is I'm not consciously trying to hurt people or anything, and I long for intimacy so much, I just have such a low estimation of myself that I suppose I wait for them to approach me, which obviously isn't a good move at my age. I used to be filled with anger and hatred but now I'm just filled with nothingness.
No, it's not too late. Finding friends when not having any is easier than finding a job (even a shit one) when not having any. You just have to find a place where you can meet somebody with mutual interests, or even try it online (just searching for people who live near by), hang out with them, and hope they are more sociable than you and will introduce you to even more people
>>17083084
I think I might have this. Can you elaborate a bit on what exactly you mean by "nice guy syndrome"? I'd be really grateful for that.
I dunno man. I know you want us to tell you it will get better, but I'm not really sure I believe that. I mean, I've never heard any success stories.
I see the kids who were losers in school grow up to be miserable factory workers either eternally single or with a fat wife that's emotionally distant. Drinking away the cosmic loneliness. I see the kids who did well in school grow up to be successful in the white collar world and raise their loving kids to be captain of the sports team, a new generation of winners.
How will I make friends, who wants to be someone's only friend?
How will I meet a girl, who wants to be an adult's first kiss?
What's the point in going to college, who wants to hire a 30 year old graduate when there's 22 year olds available?
It's like everyone else got off to a running start while we were still tying our shoes.
It's fucked.
Basically I'm alive because I haven't talked myself out of the idea that if I killed myself I'd go to hell.
I have things at the house to kill myself with I just haven't yet. Keep suffering through minimum wage and porno hoping it'll get better but I know it wont'.
>>17084656
>I mean, I've never heard any success stories.
Exactly
OP, have you thought about joining a social club or a class? It's a great way to connect with people and you might even strike up a romantic relationship with someone. The most important thing is to have fun.
Also, sounds like you might be dealing with some feelings of sadness. You aren't alone Anon. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone about it. Friends, family, or you might want to even consider talking to a professional.
I'm just leaving this here in case someone on this thread needs it.
US Crisis Hotline: oneeighthundred2738255
UK Samaritans: 08457909090
>>17084800
I heard if you call a hotline cops will come to your door and take you against your will
>>17084919
From experience, no. Obvious troll is obvious.
I feel you. I'm 26. I have plenty of social activities but they don't solve the problem. Both in real life and online.
I'm different. Socially odd. And I look like a serial killer.
I'm in good shape. I do martial arts and I go to the gym. I just hate the world and want to die. I'd be happy to have someone to share my life with and I had plenty of opportunities with women to do so, but my anger pushes people away. I have a short temper. I think I might be a sociopath.
>>17084934
>And I look like a serial killer.
lol same problem
>>17082876
>Anybody relate to this
Almost the entire population. Congrats, you're a normal human being.
>>17084919
>>17084927
If you call and say "I have a gun to my head I'm going to kill myself" or "I have plans to kill myself tonight" they will come and get you.
if you call and say "I'm feeling really shitty and need to talk to someone, anyone" then you're fine.
If you tell them you are going to end it and have a means to is when shit hits the fan.
>>17082876
lol, so much in common we have, nto to mention the age
>>17082876
There are people that WISH they were still 24, to put things into perspective.
>get in shape
>get a better job
>buy nicer clothes
>go to concerts
>watch some good ass movies
>find out what you want to do
There are MANY people that graduate and end up hating what they do and end up going back to college. Find out what you want to do in life and stick to it and in that way, you'll be in a good place.
>>17082876
I feel you OP. I'm 2 years younger but in a similar situation. I'm into engineering right now but will drop out in a couple months due to not being able to pass a single exam in two years. Stopped going to the gym two years ago to gain more time to study the same fucking exams that i ended up not passing (the irony!). Tried most of what people tell you to do to become a better person but nothing seems to work. Still kv, no friends and depressed as fuck. I never gets better.
>>17085077
Bullshit and you know it.
>>17082876
26 year old khv here. Also have no friends, a dead-end job, no social media and I'm constantly depressed. I have no motivation to do anything, no goals, no hobbies, no nothing. I even went to a therapist to try and fix myself but nope, it helped temporarily but I reverted back to my old self eventually. Although I have no reason to live I also have no reason to kill myself or do anything.
I feel you op
I have been trying for years which is the worst part. Lost a bunch of weight and read a pile of self help books. "Lowered my standards" and tolerate this fat clingy girl I don't really like. Did all the improving and starting over and goal-reaching I could nothing changed, still no one likes me and I'm still miserable and lonely
When someone asks if 24 is "too late" to do something, then you know the problem is a lack of perspective. You aren't nearly as old as you think you are.
My dad was married when I was born. 4 years later, divorced. He dated multiple women, moved in with one, sold his house and everything, and had to rebuild as a jobless 40+ year old man.
He went to college, got certified in his trade, several temp positions later, he bought a house, a truck, a race car, and is doing great.
So, no 24 is not too late to start over.
>>17086361
Other people are having kids and I'm living the same life I was 14
>>17086382
>and I'm living the same life I was 14
And this only proves me point. If you think you have ANY idea about the real world under these circumstances, then you're wrong. You aren't even qualified to make judgement calls about your own life.
>>17082876
do you even read posts on here that describe how to get friends or are you one of those people that hate understanding and just complain?
