What do I say so it doesn't seem like I just want to bone? Husband knows all about this btw.

>>17058295
>Is it weird for a married woman to be friends with an unmarried man?
Only if he doesn't become a mutual friend of your husband, and you don't include your husband when it comes to meeting up. My husband knows I would never do anything to wrong him, but I still choose not to hang out around guys one-on-one out of respect. It's just something that many people look down upon.

>We have quite a bit in common and I'm not exactly hot after just having my baby. Will he read into it too much?
Doesn't matter, he probably will.

>>17058391
I do plan on letting him meet my husband and stuff; he knows I have a kid, we're friends in Facebook. But I have days during the week off, my husband works Monday-Friday and I want someone else to hang out with?

A good wife and mother wouldn't even consider this. You have a kid now, expel these thoughts from your mind.

The nagging feeling inside you is correct. You think your husband doesn't see shitloads of girls cuter than you? Humans are great at creating rationalizations to justify their primitive impulses. Like a porn addict who "just wants to see what's new" and is jerking with 32 tabs an hour later.

Don't trust your mind. Trust your gut. Stay away.

protip: this is why wives in previous times were confined to the home

>>17058460
Lol, that comment was basically useless when you added that shit at the very bottom.

>>17058477
Problem? Is OP not demonstrating the necessity of such restrictions?

>>17058487
Yes, necessary to -only- lock up women, in case they hang out with other men...

>>17058460
Also, not that it is relevent, but my husband is more attractive than the friend. The friend and I just happen to have both been in the military and be in the same field for work. We have things in common that I don't have in common with my husband.

>>17058496
humans aren't rational. they follow primitive impulses. least OP could do is be honest when she finds someone she is aroused and intrigued by and prevent it from growing into anything else.

>>17058295

He wants to bang you.

>I'm not exactly hot after just having my baby

So.... ??

>I will have days off in the middle of the week while my son is in daycare and my husband is working.

He wants to bang you.

>>17058516
How did you draw this conclusion?

Also, yeah, I am intrigued by him, that doesn't mean I'm gonna sleep with him.

>>17058524
>Humans are great at creating rationalizations to justify their primitive impulses. Like a porn addict who "just wants to see what's new" and is jerking with 32 tabs an hour later.
Stop.

>>17058531
You're saying I'm rationalizing my impluse to fuck him?

>>17058524
Lots of experience is how I draw this conclusion. Lots of experioence as a man I might add.

It doesn't matter if you're pregnant, recovering or missing a limb. Spend enough time with a guy and develop a rapport and he'll want to bed you at some time.

At some point when you two are alone, just when you think hubby isn't pulling his weight as a daddy, or you're feeling undesireable or useful as only a food factory and sewage treatment facility, you will give in and let him kiss you. Suddenly the fire will ignite within you and it won't be controllable.

New moms can be easy to seduce if you know how. And it starts by treating them as sexually desirable women, not like new moms. After that it's pretty easy.

>>17058550
I forgot to add.... that's why there's tons of them on OKC, PoF and adult hook up sites. Most don't do anything except lead guys on but they need to feel like desireable women, not a busy mom.

>>17058550
Oof, that might have hit a little close for comfort? I am kinda freaking out, finding my identity and shit after 9 months of being pregnant and 11 months of caring for a baby. My husband is great, but I associate him with the baby, and sometimes I just want to get away from that.

>>17058405
>But I have days during the week off, my husband works Monday-Friday and I want someone else to hang out with?
This isn't going to end well. You have no business hanging out alone with another man.

>he knows I have a kid, we're friends in Facebook
And that isn't going to change anything when you're actively giving him attention. To him, whether or not you're actually interested, you are going to give off the impression that you at least enjoy his attention. Which you do.

>>17058295
You probably shouldn't. A friend of mine went through that as the guy. He didn't know she was married (didn't mention it nor had her ring on at the time) and got real bummed when he found out. Single guys like that are more often than not looking for a relationship, so don't put him through that.

>>17058505
>We have things in common that I don't have in common with my husband.
And that is precisely why this is a bad idea.

>>17058575
I do enjoy his attention, I can't lie, but more in a friendly way than a romantic way. It's not like I would fall for him or leave my husband, or cheat on my husband for that matter.

>>17058576
I'm not trying to lead him on, I was pregnant when we first saw each other during classes and such. We went to class together for 3 semesters before we even started talking. I mentioned my son all along the way. I just know he's fresh out of the military and doesn't seem to know anyone in the area either, except for family and highschool people.

>>17058585
>>17058588

Best intentions but...... open to opportunity, open to tempatation.

You need to tread very carefully. A promise to be faithful is like a balloon, one prick and it's gone.

>>17058606
Thank you for commenting! I am definitely reeling myself back to avoid crossing the line. Yay mixed mediphors.

>>17058295
Does your husband know him ? If he doesn't, this all seems real shady, since in my opinion, if he wanted friends, he would try to make more aquintaces, and couples with children don't have a lot of time to hang out.

TLDR Talk to your husband, how would you feel if he hung out with a woman because he has "stuff in common with her"?

>>17058568
there is no getting away, this is you now, you need to bring things together, not get away from them.

>>17058642
My husband knows of him, because like I said we worked on two final projects together, and I talked about him (the friend), and the project.

Honestly, I wouldn't like if my husband was meeting up with some random woman, but I'm the jealous one and he's the laid back one. I tried to tease him about it before and he just shrugged it off.

>>17058646
That is so scary though. Do other people go through shit like this? I feel like I'm having a quarter life crisis.

Would you like it if your man starts hanging out with some strange woman after work? Someone who he "has so much in common with"? How would that make you feel?

>>17058652
He is shrugging it off for now. Because he is the laid back one you should give him respect, not shit. You are in this together, and it's not fair to take a day off to give attention to some other guy while your husband is working. The fact that you never mentioned hanging out together in a group is indicator enough that this is no good. Since you mentioned he is laid back, the only reason you don't hang out in a group is your, or your "friend's" agenda.

>>17058660
They do, this is living. When you go into new waters that scare you, people try to swim the other way and fuck up. Go with the current (family), not against it ( hanging out with men while hubby works), this is the only way to go forward.
Again, if your husbands friend or coworkers see you with the guy, what will your husband think ?

>>17058669
No, like I said, I have days off during the week because I work weekends. Husband always works Monday-Friday. We just do full-time daycare for our son because it's cheaper. We are too busy nights and weekends to hang out with other people, but if I have a day off in the week (I don't have control over my schedule) I want something to do other than lay around in my house by myself. Friend goes to school and works part time.

>>17058679
Well, I would tell my husband what I was doing, so it wouldn't -look- anyway.

I should say I haven't even asked the friend if he wants to hang out sometime because I'm too nervous to make a move even with people I want to be friends with. I have no friends because of this.

>>17058295
Are you horny ? do you want him ?

>>17058692
I'm not like -horny- for him. But I do want to talk about something other than the baby with someone other than my family or my husband. I feel like socially brain-dead.

>>17058691
Are there any couples that take their cildren to the same daycare ? You could try and make friends there. You would meet people you can both hang out with and get advice.

>>17058700
Is it wrong for me to have just a friend for me, though? I feel like my whole life and everything is centered so much around the baby and husband that I want something that is just mine. I don't really want other parent friends because then we have to talk about kids all the time.

I should say too, I would be okay with my husband meeting up with other moms or parents or whoever while I was gone on the weekends. He also has friends at work he can talk to about non-baby things.

>>17058696
Why does it need to be a male friend; specifically one that if you asked him to have sex with you he would probably say yes?

This kind of friendship is pretty disrespectful to your husband. If he did the same with a single woman I doubt you would be accepting of it.

>>17058706
It's not wrong, the context is iffy, i take it that most people in this thread don't trust this guy and think he will go after you, and that there is a chance that you will respond to his advances when you need validation.

Talk to your husband about that, tell him you need an activity that isn't about the baby.

>>17058717
It's just easier to make male friends? I have some great female friends but they live across the country from me.

>>17058718
Yeah, I understand that. I will talk with my husband about it more for sure.

>>17058725
Well of course it is easier to make male friends as a girl, they want the chance of something physical down the road at some point.

>>17058732
That's true :/ but I just don't even consider myself sexual or attractive now with the baby weight and stuff, so I didn't think he was interested in that way at all.

Didn't/don't

YEAH THATS EXACTLY WHY YOUR GOING TO CHEAT ON YOUR HUSBAND!!!

I never understand why women can't see their shitty actions for what they are... cause thats how i felt in the moment...

>>17058761
What?

>>17058767

this guy is gonna make you feel all those things you lack... and in the moment you will bang cause " my feels told me so "

>>17058295
>unmarried man
but is he single, does he have a gf, you fox.

>>17058774
I dunno if he has a gf or not. He doesn't really use his fb and he never mentioned a gf before, so I was assuming not. He doesn't even have internet at his house. I would be totally cool with hanging out with him and his friends or girlfriend she exists.

>>17058770
Why does everyone assume he wants to do me though??

>>17058790

BECASUE WE ARE MEN!

MEN WANT TO BANG ALL

just cause you dont think your attractive dosent mean a MAN thinks the same. If you can breed a man will be interested.

>>17058790
Because why else would a dude want to hang out with a married woman with a kid?

>>17058802
Even fat chicks?? Dude is pretty skinny and little. Honestly if we were to bang I would be afraid of squishing him and being self conscious about it. I can't believe that dudes actually go around wanting to fuck anything that moves.

>>17058802
>>17058804

idk m8 I'm not gonna bang an overweight ugly mom just because we had a few classes together. Also this dude doesn't have internet at his house....

>>17058804
I dunno, cuz he's lonely? He never talks to anyone else but me in class.

>>17058810
Lol. I'm not like 300lbs but I'm around 200lbs (5'8"), which is fatter for me.

See? He totally doesn't want to do me, anyway.

>>17058809

well, you are not a man! so don't think you can understand how they think...

It all depends, but men will bang anything if nothing else comes up.

>>17058818
>200lbs (5'8")
Jesus, how about you spend this free time working out instead, you joints and your husband will thank you, maybe make friends at the gym in the process.

>>17058864
Lol, I don't really give a shit what you think. I have been working out, but I developed a hernia from the pregnancy and had to stop until I can have surgery later this summer.

But I mean, once we started talking dude sat next to me everyday in class and we did work together. So we've established that I'm too fat to bang so he must.want to be friends, right?

>>17058907
If your husband thinks it's ok then why not lol, what's the worst that could happen

whats weird is a socially retarded autist is getting married in the first place

>>17058921
I'm the married autist? I'd like to think more introvert but uh, ya know. Husband is autist too if that helps explain it.

>>17058684
That is damned retarded. Someone with that logic will let herself cheat u expectedly.
What do you mean full time daycare is cheaper? So if it's cheaper pay the damn day but keep your son at home and spend time with him. He's your son. You must be trolling this isn't /b/.

The fact you have to post here tells you that the remaining moral person In you still resides. So don't do it.

>>17058295
Look, guys never "just want to be friends" .. i've learned this the hard way. Sure they are nice to you, but they will put the moves on given the chance even if you are married. Don't set yourself up for being betrayed by someone who you think cares about you.

>>17058405
Why is your son in daycare when you can take care of him a few days a week? It sounds like all you do, is cost money to your husband.

>>17058928
Come on. You know this situation is wrong or else you would not be asking this.

>>17058864
thats not that big dude, i'd bang someone that size

>>17059143
This anon gets it

>>17058295
Fuck no. All relationships will create some kind of bond and you're fucked up unstable illogical female mind will convince your stupid ass for some fucked up reason that you were meant for this guy and you will leave your poor husband.

>/inb4 me having insecurities