>friends with this dude for about two years. Never thought about being together with him cause we're just good buddies.
>during the whole time he sometimes joked about what if he wants to get to know me or can we date or so jokingly.
>thought he was joking.
>once when we were smoking outside in the balcony he holds me and ask what if we are dating or have I ever thought about the possibility of us being together.
>still think he just joking.
>my brother pretty much know all about his past. (He was my brothers friends) That all he ever wanted was just to fuck around and never wish for a proper relationship.
>warned him to not having any idea about him together with me.
>we still being good buddy. >Go to cinema together,dinner,playing casinos and all,most of the time was his treat.
>but never done anything beyond the line.
>recently he had a gf. He told me when he come back after his holiday. Jokingly said something like if his heart can be tearing out to two parts he could do just to have me or some kind of that.
> lately he got stood up by me for "not feeling like i want to go out" in the last minute when he was at the restaurant with other guy.
>didn't talk to me since. Didn't like my Facebook or instagram update.
>i met him again once at my workplace. He acted like I'm not even exist. I went with the flow,didn't talk to him too.
>now I'm feeling bad and dunno why he did that. That was not the first time I stood up him
>recently feeling like I've lost something I never had.
>he's leaving the country this July.
What do now adv? I know I can't be with him and I don't think he ever want to be with me or have any feelings for me but I don't want to lose this friendship.
And i don't even know why I thought about him a lot recently.
Bumpppp
>>17013131
There are many situations where guys fuck around but they give their time and attention to someone they really want to be with. You were that person, and instead of taking him seriously, you brushed off his feelings and made him feel like shit. He's to the point where he sees you as a user and a flake. He doesn't want you in his life anymore unless it's at his side. One-sided love hurts.
>>17013209
But if him pursue me maybe things will turn out differently.
He just cant be like because my brother said no so he goes with it. I know there's nothing I can do now because it's too late because he had a gf because he's leaving. I'm just feeling so weird,so empty and feeling like i lost something.
>>17013262
>He just cant be like because my brother said no so he goes with it.
Huh? Are you saying he can't because your brother said no? If that's the case, why does your brother get a say in this at all?
>I know there's nothing I can do now because it's too late because he had a gf because he's leaving.
Whether or not he has a girlfriend or he's leaving, you should talk to him. Tell him how you feel, but be open to anything he may suggest. Things might change for the better if you take a chance on him. And if they don't, then you can at least tell yourself that you tried.
>>17013269
>Huh? Are you saying he can't because your brother said no? If that's the case, why does your brother get a say in this at all?
he was my brothers friends. My brother knows all about his life and clearly tell him not to have any thoughts about being something serious with me cause he won't let it happen.
> Tell him how you feel, but be open to anything he may suggest
Do you think thay he never ever want to be with me? Maybe he just messing around with me.
>>17013284
>My brother knows all about his life and clearly tell him not to have any thoughts about being something serious with me cause he won't let it happen.
It's not your brother's place to tell you who you can and cannot date.
>Do you think thay he never ever want to be with me? Maybe he just messing around with me.
He stuck around, trying to give you hints, because he seemed to genuinely like you as a person. If he was just wanting to have sex with you, he wouldn't treat you so well. But you probably hurt him, which is why he feels like he needs to cut contact with you entirely. It makes it easier to get over someone.
>>17013294
>It's not your brother's place to tell you who you can and cannot date.
This. Pretty much. I wished that he could break it out and do something to make us become real. But he didn't. He keeps being nice and all. And that's it. I wish he could do something serious so me myself have a reason to go with. But he didn't.
>>17013303
>I wished that he could break it out and do something to make us become real.
You're placing this all on him, and that's not really fair. If your brother is his friend, and has been told not to do anything with you, then you have to give him reason to risk his friendship with your brother. He has to know that you like him in return and would be willing to enter a relationship. He tried figuring that out by bringing it up, but you brushed him off. If you want him, you have to put the effort in this time. You have to be the one to go to him with your feelings.
>>17013341
>You're placing this all on him, and that's not really fair. If your brother is his friend, and has been told not to do anything with you, then you have to give him reason to risk his friendship with your brother.
Never thought about it. Maybe i was wrong.
But is it too late to say all that thing to him? He's leaving the country for good. He had a gf.
>>17013371
>But is it too late to say all that thing to him? He's leaving the country for good. He had a gf.
It's never too late. And even if he does leave, you two could possibly have something worth keeping.
He loved you quite a lot it seems, and now that he knows for sure that you are never going to return that favour, he is getting away from you for his own good. It sucks losing a friend, but you also need to let him do this-for his own good. It probably hurts him too much to be around you.
And maybe one day he'll come back and be able to have a healthy friendship with you, but right now he can't.
Just be happy you didn't lose him in a tragic way like an accident or terrible fight.
