I've started becoming sexually interested in my son. I need help, /adv/.
My son is 16 years old, and I love him to pieces. Minus the fact that his father and I divorced a few years ago, I'd say that we're perfectly functional and happy. Ever since he hit puberty, I couldn't help but love that he didn't turn into a little macho man. I find him adorable.
Not only have I been sexually attracted to him lately, I feel like he's been lonely at school. He comes home every day and seems down, and that kills me. I feel like my mind is trying to tell me that it could be to his benefit if I were to try to boost his confidence and give him some excitement, especially since I can't afford to do fun things with him.
Of course I don't want to ruin our relationship, or destroy the only really normal and stable thing in his life. I also don't want to make him feel uncomfortable or ruin what bit of his upbringing that wasn't already harmed in the divorce. Am I insane to even be considering this? I feel like I need to be talked out of it.
wf. if this isn't bait, get therapy NOW
>>17006875
It is obviously bait. No mother on earth would think/talk/write like that.
Btw why can't I sage?
>>17006879
What exactly is the point of browsing /adv/ if you're just going to call everything bait? Aside from bad advice, you're the reason this board isn't great.
>>17006869
a good idea for you would be to not go there he needs to learn how to find girls of his own age, yes it would ruin any relationship you have with him now and in the future. leave all your fantasies to internet websites and your mind.
Really? Seek professional help. Or just stop it! Stop it. That's not cool.
Hey OP, I love my mom very much but I would never even look at her that way.
Just the idea itself is pretty repulsive...he would probably be uncomfortable with it from the get-go.
I think you're doing great, he's probably down because school is very rough for anyone at that age, just make sure he has a safe home to go to.
Get into some therapy. You need to be a mother first andforemost. Right now you are not doing that with this current state of thought, you are thinking about what you might like to do or want to do (whether or not you realize it). It doesn't make you a bad person, but you need to stop and realize that those feelings should not be acted upon with your son.
Put what is best for him first, NOT what you want. Even if he reacted positively, you are risking losing a relationship with him and possibly damaging him mentally. So stop and move your fantasies to safer places like online. Get ahold of a good family therapist.
While a lot of people have incest/taboo fantasies in regards to porn, basically nobody is attracted to their actual family members.
He doesn't want to do it with you. Just hire him an escort or something.
ara ara. Fuck him.
Therapy and maybe satisfying any fantasies with internet, and trying to get rid of that feeling of attraction. Doing anything with him would fuck up his sexual life, he needs girls his own age.
If he is down then he might be depressed, get that treated for him if that's the case.
Have sex with him
>>17006869
If this indeed isn't bait, girl know. Even if he was attracted to you to, you doing something like this can only completely destroy your relationship and damage him psychologically. It will completely fuck up the way he feels about women and destroy his chances of a healthy relationship in the future.
There's really no harm in it (as long as you use contraception). The idea that incest is fundamentally wrong is a cultural construct. If you and your son want to do it, go for it.He's a horny teenager so he probably won't say no. I wouldn't recommend telling anyone else about it though... ever.
>>17006897
Are you kidding me op/samefag. I am a mother and this thread is utter bullshit.
You are the reason this board sucks sometimes.
I should not have read this
>>17006869
It's always psychologically bad to have sexual experiences with people in authority during your teenage years. Studies show its fucks people up good. Don't do it. He'll have psychological issues for years to come.
>>17006869
You want a boy fag go to a country that tolerates that shit
>>17007146
>The idea that incest is fundamentally wrong is a cultural construct.
This is what degenerates actually believe.
>>17007188
Chill, that's a bait post.
Once again, /r9k/ was right.
>>17006869
this could be you OP
https://youtu.be/9QiB56KE9Io?t=15
I've heard many tales of young boy being abused by their single mom
>>17006869
lol
>>17006869
Therapy
Alternatively date good men, don't ask me where to look for them. I don't know
>>17007127
what is your statement based upon? studies? personal experience? logic?
Please don't let the thread die. I want to respond but I'm at work.
>>17006962
>>17006949
Thank you for your input.
>>17007025
Would it make a difference if I told you that I would absolutely, positively NEVER even consider letting it happen if I didn't know for sure that he wanted it on his own? I know that porn is fake, but it doesn't seem inconceivable to me that I could draw him in without ever doing anything explicit or bad. I know at the very least that he isn't repulsed by my body.
>>17007092
The attraction is definitely something I can't help -- I tried so hard not to admit it to myself when I started noticing him in that way, but it's not just attraction to his body or anything. It's that I love him as a son. And that he's a great kid. And that I live to take care of him and make sure he's fulfilled. I've tried pushing the feelings down, and I've also tried to ease it with mom/son porn, but it won't go away. This had been torturing me for over a year now.
>>17007147
>people who seek advice for their issues are the reason /adv/ sucks sometimes.
Just let the autism of what you said sink in.
>>17007146
Contraception wouldn't be an issue. I had my tubes tied years ago.
Could you expand on what you said though please? As you can see,the concensus here seems to be that it's horrible to even consider having sex with my son even if he enjoys it.
>>17006869
bye
>>17007120
>>17007092
Could you please cite some studies or something? I couldn't deny that this is extremely risky and outlandish,but I couldn't believe that these relationships NEVER work.
>>17007127
I want to.
Find some other teenage boy to bang. But jesus christ don't let it be anyone he knows.
you cant do anything about it
you cant even get over it
give it time and dont act on it
be unhappy and horny for his sake
>>17006869
As someone who has actually been there with having their mother fool around with me when I was in intimacy and who went on to emotional incest . . . Don't.
The dynamic between Mothers and Sons is one based on trust, we want you to be stable in your emotions and how you interact with us. Throwing sexual overtures our way throws off our ability to trust and expectations of how people will respond towards us.
>>17008568
>cite
Just look at European royal families, if we were supposed to commit incest the children wouldn't turn out so fucked up, that's literally what Shrek is about.
Can you post a pic of yourself?
If not, then can you tell me what size your tits are?
>>17007381
technically nature doesn't stop it from happening, meaning it's natural
>>17008554
Look into a book called 'Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers'
You are being narcissistic. Even if he explicitly comes onto you, of his own accord, (and not even going into taboo discussions), you should STILL not be doing anything of that sort until he is an adult, at least 20/21. This a critical learning point in his life, and you need to let him be till he is fully mentally developed. Again, do what is best for your son, NOT what YOU want.
>>17008580
You may be misunderstanding me. I am very sexually interested in my son, but it's not because of his age or his looks. I know it sounds stupid, but this urge really feels more like a maternal thing than it feels like horniness. I don't have a very high drive, and I do fine without having a man in my life. I'm not lusting over my son. I just want to take care of his every need and leave him feeling fulfilled. It's just that I'm hearing about how horrible it is on all fronts.
>>17008611
>give it time and dont act on it
I think you might have misunderstood my demeanor as well. I'm coming to /adv/ because I've already given it time, and I've already kept myself from acting on it. I've spent more than an entire year agonizing over this and hoping that the feelings would just disappear, but the more I tried to ignore it and push the feelings away, the stronger it got. I'm coming to you because I think it's time for me to accept that this isn't going to go away just because I decide to sit on it.
>>17009436
Your right, it isn't going to go away-this is why you need to get a therapist/psychologist/whatever to work on it. It's great that you want to fulfill his needs-that's what mommies do, but the way that you want to do it is going to (in the longrun) be very bad for his mental health.
Think of it like if your kid is crying and crying because he doesn't feel good, and instead of offering love and affection, you offer him a candy bar.
This may seem like a good idea at the time-something sweet will make him feel better, but in the longrun it is not good for him at all and will cause other health issues. Except this time these issues will involve a warped sense of trust, love, and what a healthy relationship is supposed to be.
Again OP, you need PROFESSIONAL help. We are not trained psychologists, and the fact that you are asking here and avoiding an actual doctor just points to you looking for validation in your actions.
>>17008622
Would you go into detail about how it all started with you? How you feel in the beginning/middle/end of this relationship? What -SPECIFICALLY- made it all go bad?
>>17008637
I can't tell if you're joking, but if you're not, then I don't see how exactly you expect me to compare myself with royalty, or why I would at all. I'd imagine that incest is a pretty rare occurrence per capita, and infinitely more rare if you're throwing royalty in the mix. Apples to watermelons.
>>17008654
I'm not very comfortable with the idea of posting pictures of myself here. Though I'll check through my photos and see if there's anything I could post. My breasts are 38C. Does it make any difference, or are you just curious?
>>17009422
>you should STILL not be doing anything of that sort until he is an adult, at least 20/21
I'm sorry, I should've been pretty clear about this -- I haven't made an end all decision about whether or not I'm going to allow my son and I to have a sexual relationship, but if I do, I almost certainly won't let it happen while he's underage. I feel like this is many magnitudes more risky the younger he is.
Wincest pls go
>>17006869
Use another name please.
>>17009466
Don't ever post in this or any of my wife's son's threads again
>>17009450
>asking here and avoiding an actual doctor
You'll have to forgive me -- I can't even fathom saying any of this out loud, to another person sitting in the room. Even posting it here makes me feel sick. If I struggle with this too much, then I will seek counseling, but I feel like that's going to be a last resort.
>>17009450
>you looking for validation in your actions.
Reasonable validation, of course. Everyone likes being validated. Realistically, I knew that this thread would garner negative attention. I guess I was just trying to see how many people would agree with me, if anyone. After all, I -did- say that I feel like I need to be talked out of it at this point.
Your candy bar analogy was good though. I really do appreciate your words. Thank you.
>16
Slap that ho like a domino. He fucking wants it.
>>17009473
Literally, I -do- love dicks but my wife's son's dick is a little too small and I prefer a big black one
>>17009467
heh.
>>17009467
Lol
>>17009457
>I'm sorry, I should've been pretty clear about this -- I haven't made an end all decision about whether or not I'm going to allow my son and I to have a sexual relationship, but if I do, I almost certainly won't let it happen while he's underage. I feel like this is many magnitudes more risky the younger he is.
I'm sorry, I should've been pretty clear about this -- I haven't made an end all decision about whether or not I'm going to allow my son and I to have a sexual relationship, but if I do, I almost certainly won't let it happen while he's underage. I feel like this is many magnitudes more risky the younger he is.
I'm sorry, I should've been pretty clear about this -- I haven't made an end all decision about whether or not I'm going to allow my son and I to have a sexual relationship, but if I do, I almost certainly won't let it happen while he's underage. I feel like this is many magnitudes more risky the younger he is.
Well at least you understand that. I really don't know what to say about the rest though except maybe find yourself another man.
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Just think about how having sex with his mother would ruin his perception of relationships for the rest of his life. It's absolutely NOT normal, and no, it's not okay that you're considering it. Consensual or not, you are in a place of power in his life, and it would absolutely be abusive. It could be incredibly damaging to him, and incredibly selfish of you. As an adult, you know better. He is sixteen, he does not know right from wrong. How would you feel if a father was posting like this about his sixteen year old daughter? It is absolutely appalling of you to think that it might be okay just because he is a boy.
>>17009482
Woops. Working on mobile, silly phone
>Am I insane to even be considering this?
Yes.
If you even suggest it, he will likely hate and grow up to become disturbed/mentally ill.
Don't pretend this is about trying to help his loneliness. This is about you being a selfish freak.
Just go Motherless dot com, and look up the mom and son incest videos, the amateur ones.
See if you're still turned on after about 20 of them.
To be honest, you've already had his penis (and really, every part of his body) inside of you. The only difference is that he probably won't cry this time.
>>17006869
w/e you do op report back
>>17009457
You assume that something made it go bad? It was a bad idea the moment she started doing it because it was something she did based on her own narcissism. You don't know how your son feels, you are projecting your desires onto this grotesque conception you have that taking care of his needs means offering sex. You have boundary issues and should seek help but if you are narcissistic. That isn't likely to happen since you are probably incapable of perceiving your own flaws. Considering how you are twisting our points to reflect positively upon this notion you have, that seems likely.
Consider it this way, if your Father had taken you aside at 16 and said words to the effect of: "Honey, you seem tense and Daddy Loves you a lot, I know you're a growing young woman and that you are probably having urges . . . If you want Daddy can help you out with that."
>>17009543
Actually now that I think about it, you should go for it. Your son needs to know the kind of person you are while he has the chance.
>>17006869
Pedos deserve the death sentence, at least ones who want to touch kids this badly. Please turn yourself in
>>17009543
>You assume that something made it go bad?
Naturally, yes. Are you saying that it was horrible and traumatic the instant anything happened? Also, you've been remarkably vague and haven't answered any of my questions.
>you are probably incapable of perceiving your own flaws
Not exactly sure how you think repeated attacks on me are going to persuade me to align myself with your views. At this point, you're wasting your time.
>you are twisting our points to reflect positively upon this notion you have
I'd love for you to elaborate, but somehow I feel like you can't or won't.
>>17009597
Wanting a sexual encounter with someone who is underage isn't something you can 'turn yourself in' for.
>>17009600
Nah, you're wasting your time, you're not really paying attention to what people are telling you anyway. Which shows how determined you are to pursue this and in a way: It probably would be the best thing for everyone involved if you did try it. I'm betting your son will know what to do.
>>17009600
You seem to say that you want to do this so that he can feel fulfilled.
In what way would this fulfill him? Fulfilling sex is a part of a fulfilling romantic relationship. You can't just one night stand your son. You also surely must see that you simply can't have a long-term marriage-like relationship with your son either. This goes one of two ways: (1) he obliges and you two live on as a sexually involved mother-son couple, or (2) he obliges, but it doesn't work out for one reason or another, and your son has to go through the unnatural experience of having to break up with his mother.
In the case of (1), how likely is it that your son is going to want to live with the weight of knowing he held a sexual relationship with this mother? The Greeks wrote tragedies about this kind of thing that are still considered powerful to this day because the thought is so detrimental to the psyche. In the case of (2), what hope does your son have of a normal life if he has to learn both the ubiquitous pain of a breakup with somebody close and the additional ???? that comes from doing so with your mother.
It's not good for him, and I think you know that. What is your real reason for wanting this? People have a tendency to use benign motivations to attempt to cover up darker desires. How many times has friendship turned to adultery because the line of being 'friendly' with somebody suddenly crossed the threshold? How many times has frustration at home turned to domestic abuse because 'letting off steam' crossed a threshold?
>>17009633
>>17009600
Pay attention to what she is stating here, even after having someone try and point out how she might feel if the situation were reversed: She can't fathom how other people can see what she wants to do as wrong. If this isn't trolling . . .
>>17009633
That's more like it. Thank you for your input.
I'm still curious about the details of your experience with incest though. Could you elaborate on the things I asked about earlier?
>>17007411
Do you have the rest of this set?
>>17006869
Gouge your eyes out.
Single mothers are fucking liability to the society.
>>17009612
Just wait 'till we get the Thought Crimes Bureau up and running
>>17009657
It's not trolling, its narcissistic.
Taken directly from 'Will I ever Be Good Enough? Healing The Daughters Of Narcissistic Mothers'
>A narcissist cannot giveempathy and unconditional love to their children
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201302/will-i-ever-be-good-enough
>>17009684
I'm a different anon than the one you were speaking to previously, but allow me to intercede for a moment.
I'm roughly the same age as your son, give or take a few years. Like him, I was raised just by my mom, and my dad was out of the picture before I hit puberty. By the time I was in middle school, I did deal with some loneliness. You see, despite all of my grandmother's friends who told me how cute I was and pinch my cheeks, I was chubby and generally not noticed by other kids in school because I was a not-so-special-seeming chubby kid who got good grades. I would come home every day feeling down, and my mom would worry too: she would blame herself and wish she could do something for me.
Would you say that I sound at least moderately similar to your son? Now let's take that version of me from a few years ago, and lets say I was a friendly neighbor whom you cared about to some extent, being aware of my background. Do you envision yourself wanting to somehow "help" me as well?
My point in this isn't to coerce you into saying that you're sexually attracted in me, but to instead probe to see what the feeling is. If it's true that your maternal instinct has been confounded in some way that has led to these feelings, I would encourage you to do what my mother did: she gave me the seed of a normal life. She let me have the conventional support you'd expect from a good mother, but she also gave me enough distance to be an emotional teenager when I needed to. Being able to find this balance has been 100% vital to the shaping of who I am, and it's one of the greatest things she's done for me, simply because she was able to offer me just this one piece of a normal life.
If, however, hearing my own story, you do start to feel some remnant of that feeling, I would venture to say that you might be suffering from some degree of desire to be with a younger guy who shows some form of vulnerability.
>>17009772
>If, however, hearing my own story, you do start to feel some remnant of that feeling, I would venture to say that you might be suffering from some degree of desire to be with a younger guy who shows some form of vulnerability.
She needs to go out there and bone 16 year olds who arent her son. Get it out of her system.
There's a reason the libido for 35 year old women and 16 year old men are completely identical.
>>17009777
I think it could be valuable for her to find a younger somebody of legal age and enter into a consensual relationship with him (if she's just feeling a desire to be with younger guys).
Regardless of your moral beliefs on this, the key is to just try not to mess anybody up in the process.
I think it would be okay, just as long as you two are apart of the same egg group
>>17009513
i cant stop laughing
>>17006869
I would fucking kill to have you as my mother, 19 year old virgin can't wake up save me
>>17006897
You don't think like a girl, bro. Their rhetoric is far less well composed than what you wrote. It would also have been more emotional.
>>17009633
Is this faggot fucking serous, listen asswipe I'm a 19 year old virgin and my life is living bell because of it. I would go to the ends of the earth and back for sex. I'd do anything for it. I'm even literally starving myself to lose massive amounts of weight for it. Sex is the alpha and omega. The beginning and the end. The be all end all. The highest. The ultimate. The greatest thing in existence. So stop trying to downplay it's glory and stop trying to make this mom feel bad for trying to take care of her son. I fucking wish she was my mom.
>>17011484
lmao
>>17011484
>Sex is the alpha and omega. The beginning and the end. The be all end all. The highest. The ultimate. The greatest thing in existence
>virgin
you're unqualified to make that assessment. Thats the mindset of a virgin for sure.
>>17011888
It is the assessment that literally every single male uncut male who has had bareback sex has ever given of it.
Fuck off.
you are worst than animals, at least they avoid incestuous relationship, please kill yourself or at least go tell police this
Mommy issues the thread.
>>17006875
I wonder if OP is reading comments like this as "Get the rapey."
