My gf broke up with me becouse during sex I cum to fast.
I tried holding on but I either lose erection, can't cum or cum real fast.
I'm hurt, I miss her and I have been crying for days none stop.
I dont know why is this happening to me?
I need only read advice please. I'm man enough to say that I'm realy hurting and miss her to death.
What can I do???
Please help...please give me the awnser.
Thank you.
>>16999948
assuming this isnt b8,
she broke up with you for a rather shallow reason. there were probably less shallow reasons as well, people rarely break up for one little thing (kek) but this was the easiest to explain.
for future reference, try edging. it takes a little practice when its something as nice feeling as a vagina. but its great. edging is like having a miniature orgasm, and it makes your actual orgasm feel even better.
Uhm... Maybe it will ease your pain to know that she didn't really break up with you SOLELY because of that. It might have been the one thing that threw her over, but there where a LOT of other reasons. Maybe most wheren't even your "fault". My bf cums fucking quickly and i love that guy to death. I would never leave him because of this. This is not a single bit of a reason to break up. You'll find a better girl, OP. She wasn't the one you are looking for
It's a little disappointing when they cum too fast but it seems to be a very common problem for men. Agree with the others that it probably wasn't the only reason.
Some SSRIs fix premature ejaculation. Everyone's different but this may be an option.
>>16999958
dude edging is the answer, takes a lot of skill not to give in but if you can manage it, you last way longer and when you finally do cum mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
>OP HERE
>>16999958
>>17000004
What is edging?
I tried a couple times rubbing my dick on her clit, she loved that but I came even without penetration.
I feel like a total loser.
I dont know why else she would brake up.
I am sure its becouse I cum to fast. She said a couple times that I need to last longer during sex but I just could not make it.
To the other anon's, I dont want any onther girl.
This is the one for me. I miss her I miss her I miss her!!!
I just cant stop crying.
I woke up this morning and i thought felt better than yesterday but than I started to cry and I have not eaten anything for 2 days now.
Thank you all for your advice so far.
I really really need help.
Is it me or sex is just a huge effort on the guy's side just to keep the girl satisfied while the girl just stays there getting fucked and then complains about how the guy sucked at it? Is sex worth the effort?
I only had sex once and the chick was drunk as fuck so I didn't really care. But otherwise it seems to me as inexperienced as I am that sex is too much effort for what it is.
>>16999986
I was taking one made that made it so I could never cum. It also kinda killed my sex drive.
Never fucking again. I stopped taking that shit after a month. I could fuck for hours and it sucked massive black cock for everyone involved.
OP there are times where ya can't help yourself. Slow the fuck down and use your tongue and fingers. Kiss her, finger her, and tell her to work herself a bit until she's close. ANd then for that last couple minutes fuck the shit out of her.
This has worked 100% of the time if I have ever been over excited (hey, it happens. Sometimes the buildup is just too fucking much). if you just cum and go to sleep no fucking wonder she left you.
>>17000043
yeah it definitely wasnt JUST cuz you came too fast. the way you are acting shows you are far too emotionally immature man.
shes gone. move on. plenty of other fish to cum too fast int.
as for edging, its just getting yourself to that point where you are just about to cum. then you stop. you stop moving, then you just kiss her or play with her tits, or reach down and rub her clits. when ur cock stops being so sensitive you fuck again, then stop right before you cum again.
>>17000057
A lot of girls fucking suck at sex. They don't know what to do at all.
With the last girl I was dating she always said she was awkward during sex and had a hard time having an orgasm. Told her that it's better for her to rub her own clit during sex while we fuck if it's that hard for her to cum.
After that she loved sex. It takes both penetration and clit rubbin' for most girls to cum. Which is an incredibly difficult task to put on the guy alone.
>>17000057
Not a guy, but sex shouldn't ALWAYS be like that. Admitedly, there are times i am lazy af, then i love my bf going down on me and then fuck me till i cum all within the comfort of hardly doing anything. But i think it's important to keep a balance there. Just yesterday we both woke up in the middle of the night and where horny af. I started to play with his dick, then proceedes to gice him a blow job. He then told me that he's too tired to actually fuck me so i just got on top of him and rode him till we finished, rolled back down and we went to sleep again.
It goes both ways, anon. But the most common scenario is that we both do our part. Just don't fuck passed out girls if you don't dig star fish sex
>>17000099
That shit always makes me incredibly nervous. When I was working a job I hated I was with a girl that only worked a couple hours a day and wanted sex all the god damn time. Sometimes I would be too tired from work because I had to work extra hours and she would say "oh, it's ok anon you don't have to worry and finish whenever you want".
Later she would get angry at me because I didn't return the favor. Which you know if that happened all the time I would get but it wasn't a common thing.
Like fuck that shit. Way to make sex stressful.
>OP HERE
>>17000068
>>17000078
>>17000099
Thanks for explaning what edging is.
To the other anon. Yes i wanted to go down on her I really really wanted to go all the way even swallow her juice, stick my tongue up her ass all that.
But she broke up b4 I could please her.
I dont know if life is worth it without her.
I think I really love her. I'm sure that she is the one for me.
This was the first time that I was willing to go all the way....I'm crying again, becouse I miss her. I know she wont come back. She is kinda stubern.
>>17000173
Yeah, that's not fair. But we where on vacation and could sleep in. otherwise i would not have bothered him at night. He didn't seem to have any complaints. But if your gf starts keeping track of those times, yeah that's no good...
>>17000178
that would be considered "too little too late". You had to have done all that shit before.
Like other anon's said it's not the only reason.
Go out maybe find another girl. Finger that girl, cuddle her do whatever. Get your confidence back and then you can just go on and not care about that shit. It'll suck for a few months but another girl does wonders for forgetting an ex. You'll get past that "she was the only oneeeeee" when you're smelling a new kind of shampoo and perfume while laying with someone else.
You don't HAVE to do that but whatever. Getting with someone else for me after my last long term relationship where I cried for days and weeks after was a huge boost of ego and practically erased all feelings I had of the ex. It was like "fuck her. Shes wrong for miss out on this. This girl fucking having the time of her life with me while my ex was missin out".
You'll still think of your ex from time to time but it won't be fondly.
>>17000004
>edging
Ain't nobody got time fo dat!
>>17000178
When I read you, I know why she broke up. Stop being so stupid, change your ways, stop caring about someone who didn't care enough to understand your feeling, she broke up with you for the lack of good sex, was that all the relation had ?
Now shut the fuck up and get yourself a new girl, yeah you'll miss the other but who gives a shit, you'll get better ones
>OP HERE
I dont know what to do anymore.
I cant move on.
All my time I spend thinking of her.
I dont want to move on. Not without her.
How do I practise not cumming so fast?
Jerking off is verry diffrant than pussy.
The way she feels, looks and smells I just cant see how I can hold on and not cum fast.
I dont want pills or other medication, becouse I cant time when I possibly have sex.
Why does love hurt if it's that great???
Why cant I have her back?
Why did she do this to me?
I love her. I would do anything for her.
Why would she not like that?
I'm hurting right now. Not going outside and I'm not eating. I dont know what to do.
SSRIs you take daily and it builds up in your system over time. It's not like you have to take it right before sex like viagra or something.
But anyway you should stop being such a bitch about this. Nothing is going to improve until you stop crying and decide to move forward.
>OP HERE
>>17000204
>>17000214
>>17000232
Okay, so yall advice to me is to hook up with an other girl.
I can't find an other girl. I am willing to try this.
But I doubt I would be as happy as I was with my ex gf.
One anon explaned that he hooked up with a new gf and he is happy better off..
The thing is I think my ex gf might easy hook up with someone else and forget about me.
I could tottaly imagine her beeing happy fucking around and never ever looking back or thinking about me.
I'm fucking sad. I cant help it.
It hurts.
I know i sound like a bitch. But I have to get it out of my system.
I regret that I did not go down on her and go all the way. I just had not had the time yet.
I think she was looking for a fuck budy in me. But when she found out I cum fast thats why she dumped me.
We dated 4 weeks.
Had sex 4 weeks multiple times a day.
>>16999948
Get viagra and penis numbing condoms to last longer
>>17000273
anon I hate to tell you this but shes fucking someone else RIGHT THE FUCK NOW. Odds are she wouldn't have broke up with you if she didn't already have plans.
You need to calm your fucking tits. It hurts. It hurts like a mother fucker. I was like you crying for days and weeks literally didn't sleep for 10 days after. I was batshit insane. She constantly played with me during those days and months after teasing me then dropping me right after.
Don't message her. Don't contact her. Ignore everything she says online and anything she sends you. Don't be a dumb faggot. Cry it out and talk to friends and other people. Eventually you'll meet someone and you'll fuck them too. It took me 3 months for be with a new girl and those three months were lonely hell. But right after I felt amazing and good again.
Again, don't contact her, don't reply to her, don't look her up don't do any of that shit.
I know you are going to but for fuck's sake be a man and have some self control.
>>17000273
I would leave you too just from reading your posts.
What are you, 15? You only dated for 4 weeks you fucking wimp.
>>17000273
I get that you just lost your gf and are upset about that. But this attitude of yours is a much bigger turnoff than premature ejaculation. And you're not taking any of the advice seriously. You're actively looking for reasons to dismiss the advice before trying it, and are only here to cry about shit.
Get off of 4chan. Cry in bed, then get up and do something productive. Stop complaining.
>>17000305
this
girls don't break up with their boyfriend to be alone. They wait until they find a new dick to jump on. If you're lucky they break up with you before fucking them. Usually they fuck them first and then justify it with whatever they don't like about you, then come break up with you in some self righteous rage just to solidify the lie in their own minds.
>>17000221
going to take a while man. My GF broke up with me a month ago and it still sucks. Only recently started going on tinder, trying to talk to other girls, get some more female friends so im not so desperate to talk to a woman.
Only time will make things better. I still cry from time to time. Nothing you can do about it but try and be positive and stay busy. Spend as much time with friends as you can. If you're like me and have issues loving yourself, get input from people on what makes you a great person. Focus on that shit. you have to pump yourself up and get your self esteem back. Being abandoned is hard but you landed a girl once, you can do it again. Maybe when youre ready focus on talking to new girls without any intent of forming a relationship. just make small talk.
Sucks bro, I feel ya.
>>17000287
I fuck without condom.
And viagra and other pills take time b4 it works.
I dont know the time I have b4 sex.
I dont know when I have sex again.
I dont know how to hook up with girls.
I think I will ve single for a long time.
Maybe some girl is willing for a pitty fuck but I doubt I would be that lucky.
How do I practise not cumming fast?
I do not have much money and I would not fuck a whore without condom, bit is this a good way to practise?
After how many times of fucking do you last longer in bed?
What if I cum to fast the rest of my life?
What if I wont be abble to please a woman?
What is life worth without sex?
Why live?
>>17000305
>>17000312
>>17000315
>>17000321
>>17000325
Yes! I understand yall.
This is great advice and I understand my behaviour is not helping me move on.
But you make it sound as if its easy to land an other girl into your bed.
And yes I have problems loving myself.
Now I just hate myself.
Yes all odds are that she is fucking someone at this moment.
I wont bett against those odds. She is beautifull and perfect in so many ways.
>this
>"girls don't break up with their boyfriend to be alone. They wait until they find a new dick to jump on. If you're lucky they break up with you before fucking them. Usually they fuck them first"
This is the best lesson I learned from this thread.
Thank you anon.
ALL Girls are sluts.
Filthy fucking whores!!!
This is what they do and this is what they will be doing till the end of times.
A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT IS A SLUT!!!!!!!!!!
I HATE HER!!!!!
WHY DID SHE DO THIS TO ME!!!?????
FUCK HER!!!!
FUCK THIS DECIEVING CHEATING BITCH ASS WHORE!!!!! FUCK HER!!!!!
I AM NOT GOING TO KILL MYSELF OVER THIS LYING WHORE I WILL NOT KILL MYSELF OVER THIS EVIL BITCH I WILL NOT KILL MYSELF OVER THIS COCKSUCKING HO I WILL NOT.....I WILL NOT KILL MYSELF OVER HER.
I WILL SURVIVE THIS BITCH.
I THINK I CAN DO THIS.
I WOULD LIKE TO BELOEVE THAT I CAN SURVIVE THIS.
I HOPE I HAVE THE STRENGHT TO SURVIVE.
>>17000385
no, she really really isn't. How old are you? If you say 12 I would believe you.
Guess what faggot, this is going to happen to you again probably multiple times. Each time you're going to say "oh she was perfect!".
And you know what? It's going to hurt even more than the first time Love the second time around is always more passionate and the fall is always that much harder. Then there will be a third time where you will still hurt but by then you'll find out you can live without some bitch telling you what to do all the time.
>>17000580
at this point I'm convinced this is bait.
>>17000593
>>17000593
>>17000596
It's not bait asshole.
I'm 22 and this is not my first gf.
First time I felt this strong about a girl yes.
I have some emotional problems.
I love her and I hate her for leaving me.
I feel that the only way for me to move on is to HATE her.
But I fear I will lose myself.
That the hate will consume me.
What if I cant controle it anymore?
I dont know what to do. I really dont have anyone to talk to or that I trust.
She was the best thing that happend in my life.
I love her. I dont know what to do without her.
Shit..crying again.
I hate her. My life was okay b4 I met her. Now my life is a horrible mess.
I'm a wreck. I'm a fucking loser.
I have nothing. I am nothing.
I dont know what to do.
>>17000385
No one is saying it's easy. I'm alone myself. But there's no use crying about it.
>>16999948
You dodged a bullet. She wasn't willing to work on the issue with you? Well, better she leave then cheat on you later for it.
She should have asked for more foreplay if that's what she needed. Don't go back to her OP. Let the pain settle, work through it, and when you feel like it, start looking for other girls.
As for the problem, it's a common one and there's lots of tips. Jacking off before hand helps, giving the girl lots of foreplay.
Also OP, you may want to start practice masturbating on your own. It builds up your tolerance and lots of guys actually have problems coming in bed from straight sex because they lose the sensitivity when using their hands too much. But this could actually help you.
>>16999948
Your girlfriend left for a shallow reason, but it sounds like it's time to revisit your strategies in the bedroom.
As a man whose stamina could charitably be described as modest, my answer was to master foreplay forwards, backwards, and sideways. I've found that it simply isn't possible to be disappointed in the sexual prowess of someone who gave you 3-5 orgasms before actual intercourse even began. If she even remembers how long you lasted, she won't care.
>>17000715
>>17000736
I understand.
I'm weak. She wont come back. Becouse she is a type that wont change her mind. I'm sure she is fucking someone else now.
Cant stop crying, cant move on. No matter how much I try.
I am worried that this will happen again.
I need to last longer in bed.
I need to do this without pills and medication.
I dont have much money otherwise I would fuck prostitutes to practise.
What hurts the most is that she never got to know the real me.
>>17000771
the real you is a melodramatic cunt so she dodged a bullet on that one.
