How does /adv/ feel about porn during a relationship? I used it during because I was so used it before it started, but I just got engaged a while ago so I stopped. The more I avoid it the more I want it. I used to kik girls all the time but recently deleted it to avoid temptation, but naturally I'm craving it more and more now (despite my amazing relationship). Any other anon's in the same boat? Thoughts appreciated!
can't you just bang your soon to be wife and not be temped by boring porn?
Religious, no sex before marriage bro
>Getting married
>Haven't even discussed porn yet.
Have fun with the divorce.
Please don't marry someone unless you've discussed LITERALLY EVERYTHING with them.
>>16998509
>haven't discussed everything yet
Obd.
We both come from religious background and I assumed it was just wrong. So I stopped watching porn and didn't feel the need to bring it up. Why would I bring up old porn habbits? I know 100% she doesn't watch it. There's just no need.
But I don't see what was wrong with it aside from the guilt that followed. It's purely lust driven to satisfy sexual drive when apart for lengthy periods.
That's why I asked here. Not to get marriage advice.
As long as it's solely porn and not involvement with other girls like the kik thing you mentioned, I'm personally not bothered by it. Nobody is 100% loyal in the sense that they can't say that they absolutely never look at other people while in a relationship, I don't see getting off to some random chick on a porn site a crime. It's different for other girls though, some are really bothered by it. Definitely talk it through with her.
>>16999077
*different for some girls
My view is no sex before marriage, remain pure for your partner. But you're soon to be married anyway, right? Why not just talk to them about it and when they get upset about the porn thing, lean in real close and kiss them and say: "But I think I found something even better..." It sounds cheesy but it will work.
Also, please keep in mind, whatever you do, avoid the whole kik thing in conversation, we really don't like hearing about it. We want to feel like we are special to you.. at least in that way.
What else....
What I can tell you is that every time you get the urge, go to your soon to be wife instead. Sometimes you don't even have to say anything, try to subtly get them horny, and then you might not even have to say anything. Just slowly walk over to them with a nice smile, stop and stare into their eyes silently and move in to kiss them. If you don't know what else to do after that, I'd rather just direct you to a health class.
tl;dr
Use your wife as your cumdumpster instead of your hand.
>>16999136
Leaning 100% on your partner for your sexual needs becomes problematic in a relationship. There will be situations where you are horny and your wife isn't. That's totally normal and is a pretty good use case for porn.
