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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
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>I like someone. What do I do?
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>How can I tell if someone likes me?
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>Where do I meet girls/guys?
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>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
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>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships.
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
>Brandon
Fuck off
If you were giving head and the guy told you "tell me it's big" would you be turned off at the insecurity or think nothing of it
>>16996553
The first one.
Well, after laying off dating for over half a year, I started dating again. It wasn't going to work out - and I think we both sensed it. She was moving to another state for grad school, and I'm going to be moving to SF for work.
My priorities are to find a job first and foremost. Girls, should I have fought harder for this? I mean, we both liked each other, but the stresses from being preoccupied with work and grad school would have been too much.
If you've experienced both, which is worse, being rejected by your crush or the regret of not asking them out?
>>16996599
You get out what you put in. You were half-assing it, so you got a half-assed relationship that ended. I can't tell you whether you should have fought harder for it, because I don't know how much you actually wanted to be with her, or even liked her.
>>16996612
"No" is closure. You're sad for a day then you move on.
"What if" is torture.
Also, don't fall for "let's just be friends". That's going to hurt more because it's just more what if's.
>>16996553
Turned off at the insecurity. A man needs to be alpha and not a little wuss in bed.
Men: why is it that when I argue or debate with most men, rather than actually attacking my point they go off on semantics and nitpick really stupid details that are irrelevant in the grand scheme of things, as if they are making an attempt at simply dismissing my argument rather than addressing it?
>>16996659
Sounds like you got the genders the wrong way around to me.
>>16996659
Because most men, like most women and most attack helicopters, are more emotional than analytical.
How can you tell whether a person is ignoring you because they're depressed, or because they're tired of your shit?
Girl's been in a slump for weeks and told me in the beginning she's unable to do anything, even though she wants to. At first we managed through text, even if it was me who hit her up all the time. Ever since I said something stupid recently, she won't reply at all. Yet she logs in dozens of times a day before and after reading my messages.
Kind of getting tired of the one-sided effort and afraid I'll come across as the
>pls respond
type. Is there any way to tell it's still nothing personal?
>>16996613
I think we both were deluding ourselves. It wasn't going to work because we were both moving. There definitely was a spark and we both felt it. I feel like if we were both younger with less things on our plate, maybe it could have worked. C'est la vie.
>>16996612
Regret. I'm glad I took the chance to ask the girl out. We had fun, but ultimately it didn't work out.
When asking someone out, is it better to explicitly state you mean it in a romantic way? What's the least awkward way to do so?
I tend not to sweat the details myself, but every time we become serious it turns out they got the wrong idea and unwittingly led me on for ages. Apparently it's normal for my country's culture to have very close romantic boy-girl friendships or something, I don't know.
Just curious if it's wrong to say upfront that I'm interested. I mean, isn't that supposed to be half the dating game? Guessing if they are or aren't interested?
>>16996612
I would probably laugh.
>>16996740
Oops that was for >>16996553
>>16996731
The issue I have with explicit statements is that they don't consider what comes next. What exactly is the other person supposed to say? You're not really asking them for their feelings. You're not giving them an opportunity to weight their own thoughts about you. It's just a statement of fact. Things like that can be quite awkward.
I think it's enough to separate asking someone out (during the invitation) from the romantic context (during the date itself). You can accomplish this by simply flirting on the date. If they don't flirt back then you have your answer and you can go on having a nice time together. If they do flirt back, it's because you've set them up with something to which they can actually respond. It's not just a bare statement.
>>16996659
Depending on the discussion, semantics and details can be extremely important.
Girls, how much does your body image affect your interest in sex?
>>16996756
What?
>>16996756
It used to affect me a huge amount. I hated my body, hated being naked and would only have sex in the dark while I was clothed. Then I hit the gym and began feeling marginally better about myself, but still had a lot of hang ups.
Eventually I met someone who makes me feel so confident that I don't even think twice about it. I adore having sex with them, feel like the sexiest thing ever and wouldn't think twice about whipping my clothes off at any point.
So it can have a hugely negative effect, but the right person can help improve this.
>>16996762
Pretty straightforward question. How does your perception of how you look physically relate, if at all, to your desire to have sex? For example, if your don't like the way you look does that have a negative impact on your sex drive, or does that not change anything as long as your partner tells you your sexy?
>>16996763
thanks for the insight
girls, if you are going to a guys place you barely know, do you want to have sex with them even if you don't act like you do? last weekend I came home with a girl who I'm attracted to, but we just got high, then after a couple of hours she left.
>>16996768
Oh sorry, I didn't read the question properly. To answer your question, I don't think I've ever been so unhappy with how my body looks that I'm not interested in having sex. There are bits of it that I'm not happy with, but my partner has never complained and thinks I'm the epitome of attractiveness despite what I see as flaws.
Question for the guys:
Have you ever pretended to orgasm? Is this an easy thing to do or would you just not bother even faking it?
>>16996659
Because you might not be wrong, it's the semantics that might make the difference.
I often have arguments with other men where I realize we aren't necessarily disagreeing, our useage of language is different enough that we are essentially arguing two different subjects.
>>16996704
No. Maybe take a break, come back when you have something interesting to say or some question you actually want to ask.
>>16996799
I do it all the time. Just keep a bottle of sunblock at hand in your pocket. It's great at parties.
>>16996774
>do you want to have sex with them even if you don't act like you do?
>even if you don't act like you do?
Noope.
Contrary to what sitcoms will tell you, it actually is possible for women who do not want to jump on your dick to be nice to you, they may even like you in a completely non-sexual way!
>do you like me?
How are you supposed to react when somebody goes full awkward teen girl and asks you this? Even now I'm wondering this. If you're alone together, kind of hanging out but nothing date-serious, do you deflect it with charming wit? Reply honestly? How far do you go if you do have feelings?
>>16996799
I've never had to fake an orgasm, (and you should really question if that's something you want to do), but considering how many girls have pulled it off it can't be too difficult, especially since we can have dry orgasms, where no semen comes out at all.
Is it unattractive for a guy to hang out with friends who are more beta than him ? Is he associated with them and looks more beta than he really is ?
>>16996829
She's into me, i'm pretty sure. The whole night we were cheeky to each other. I know she isn't jumping on dicks on the first date, that's why I was surprised when she said that she's okay into coming up. She told me "but we will not have sex. I couldn't do it with no one right now". She had her period, I think. At my place things just went weird a little bit, awkward silence etc... maybe because of the weed.
Guys, for those of you who have female friends, do you get distracted by their bodies?
>>16996869
Nah, usually never.
>>16996868
Well, then I guess just invite her over again or meet for drinks and see if she wants to come up with you again?
>>16996869
I have a lot of them. With some of them I had sex before. Even if I consider them as friends, I am a straight man, so every time I hang out with one of them I always measure her and I'm not hiding it.
>>16996882
thanks ;)
we will see it on this weekend. Damn shes haaaawwwt. I like her.
18 year old here. I'm dating a 17 year old that's been my best friend for a few years. She recently broke up with her college boyfriend and I found out that they still talk.
From what I learned, they talk about their feelings. They still have feelings for each other but she so said she's getting turned off by him not giving up on her.
When he asked if she was dating me or had feelings for me she said "kinda not really"
What does this all mean?
>>16996887
Best of luck anon.
Once again, I spent the evening with the girl I got a crush on, and once again, I did not really know what to do. I like her so much. I caught myself just looking at her with a dumb look on my face a couple of times while she was distracted. We played some card games, and watched stupid videos from youtube just by the two of us for all the way up to 20 past 1 am. I just wished her good night and am probably gonna go to sleep soon myself.
God damn, what the fuck should I do? The ambiguity of the situation is driving me nuts. I dunno if she likes me as anything more than as a friend, and I am too afraid and clueless to make any moves. I haven't asked her out in a while due to her basically rejecting those suggestions the last time I asked, but I dunno what else I should do.
I wanna spend more time with her, just by the two of us but as it is, it seems that I only get to do that during week day late evenings, when everyone else has already gone to bed, and we are only left in the common room/kitchen of our student apartment.
I still don't know what she thinks of me. Clearly, she doesn't flat out dislike me, (why would she spend time with me if she did?), but at the same time, I dunno if she sees me as anything other than just a friend.
I want to have some sort of resolution to this shit, as it is driving me mad, and also making me hate my room mate, as I get super fucking jealous whenever he is around with her. There is clear tension between me and my room mate whenever she is around, and I am starting to resent him, and her too, for it. I hate drama.
>>16996799
I don't even know how I'd do that.
>>16996890
You're a rebound or something like that. Unless you want to be a cuckold fetishist, break up with her.
>>16996908
How long ago did she reject you? You are probably still in the friendzone.
>>16996948
But she told him his efforts are just driving her further apart
>>16996564
>>16996740
>laugh
:(
>>16996960
She still doesn't seem to like you. What kind of answer is "kinda not really"?
>>16996948
A week or two ago.
Though I dunno if it in the end, was even really a rejection. I did not flat out ask her on a date. I just asked her if she would like to go out or something, to which she replied with ambigious responses like "dunno" and "we'll see" and I was too insecure/spergy to really ask her again.
We did go to the movies together twice, and once just hung out together in the city before that though.
>>16996970
I really don't know. I've convinced myself she told him that to keep the peace.
Seems like a non answer?
>>16996970
>>16996986
Addendum:
Since they broke up we've been hanging out nearly every single day for at least 5 hours. We cuddle and whatnot so I mean it seems like she really likes me?
I just don't understand why she'd say kinda not really
My 1 year and a half bf has developed feelings for a mutual friend of ours. I still love him, and he says he still loves me. We still haven't broken up yet, we've talked over it and we agree that we still want to remain friends. I'm not angry at either of them, she doesn't even know what is going on. He worries about me being upset if we do decide to break up. I want him to be happy, but I know I'll be suffering. I want to be able to move on, and let go if it does happen what do I do?
>>16996612
I've always ended up confronting my crushes. In retrospect I never regretted it, as I know i would've never gotten it out of my system otherwise. Besides, all of the rejections were worth it for that one time my crush reciprocated.
If a girl wants to keep you a secret from say her parents, is that a good thing or bad?
>>16997027
Awful
>>16996799
I used to fake it with an ex sometimes. Just have to ensure that she can't verify the presence of semen, for example by using a condom.
>>16997030
How awful, I'll give you some context
>met her once, spent the whole day together
>seemed to go well, she was supposed to come round soon for dinner
>spoken on the phone a few times, with her hiding it from her parents
>recieved a text today with the premise 'I'm not trying to keep you a secret, but my mum will still be asking about you in 6 months lol'
>>16996869
Notice, yes. But never distracted
>>16996799
Why? And, even more, how? No, it's not a thing we do, as much as I know.
>>16997041
So she doesn't expect you to last six months, perhaps not even six more days.
Help me please. Someone is trying to destroy me. I was targeted by this person for reasons I don't know but he was definitely sent to trick me and hurt me so badly that I would disappear, but I haven't and it just keeps getting worse. My response was not what they expected and so it's just been endless tension and bullying and ghosting and sending people out to try to hurt me again. But I'm not falling for it and I've got a good guy on my side whom I would like to be with. They know this and its making them hate me more. I still don't know why I was targeted initially but I someone/something wants me to crawl under a rock. But this I can't do because FUCK these Wicca bitches and their Shit. I am one of gods soldiers and until I die I won't stop because I am here to shine a light into their darkness. I am a slayer of dragons and Viking blood runs in my veins. I will keep fighting their evil until I die and then I will take my rightful place at the table of Odin.
>>16997050
Cont. uh... I apologize for the awkward pairing of Norse and Christian philosophies but There it is.
>>16997011
If it's just a crush, it's no biggy. These things happen in mature relationships. Besides, him being up front and honest with you about it is a good sign. It'll probably wear off.
>>16996869
>>16997044
This. It can happen to notice it, sometimes, but I never get distracted by them.
>>16997046
Okay thanks
>>16997011
Are his feelings for her a deep love? or simply lust? Also, how did you discover the fact he was feeling that way?
>>16997061
We never keep things hidden from each other. Hopefully you are right and that is will wear off him, though on the slight chance that it goes sour. How do I move on afterwards. Obviously it will take time, but my last heartbreak took me over 2 years to get over. He doesn't want me to be sad and alone
>>16997100
We tell each other every thing. He told me himself
>>16997100
He's never said he loved her, he described it as an admiration.
>Hey, can I take you out for dinner one night?
That's straight up my line for the ladies when I'm out and about.. Would you be creeped out by that? It usually goes over pretty well and get their number but nothing happens from there. Think I just need to converse with em' from that point on instead of getting digits and walking off.
Just wanted a opinion on that line. Cheers as
>>16997141
I think your problem might be that you're not giving them anything to be excited about. Your offer comes off as you asking them for a favor. You want something and you're literally asking if you can have it. What's in it for them? I mean obviously they get to enjoy your continued company but there's no value built into the question. It sounds like you're trying to trade their time for a plate of food.
You don't even have to change the activity to get around this point. Just rephrase. "I'm thinking of going to (restaurant)/having some (type of food) this weekend. Want to come?" Now it's presented as an offer to share a fun experience with them. It's worded in a way where you're giving something rather than asking for something.
>>16996977
Ask her out properly and you will have your resolution.
>>16996986
OK, you may be right.
Why does she keep talking to him, though?
>>16997158
Legenddd.
Yeah I've only gained my confidence the past month so I actually have the balls to walk up to girls now and initiate a conversation. I'm still learning but I'll get there. Cheers
>>16997163
I have no idea. They're close friends but even so I don't think them talking is doing anything helpful.
It just seems fishy that she tells him she still has feelings for him. But then why would they break up? Why spend all the time with me?
Guys,
Do you always masturbate to porn or also to your imagination and such?
Seems to me guys are much more visual.
>>16997170
With all respect, bro, she sounds like a dumb bitch. You need to do something about it.
>>16997175
90% of the time, to porn.
>>16997175
I've used my imagination now and again. Porn just handles the creative aspect for me, when otherwise it would be a distracting effort to form the scene as I go.
>>16997175
24 year old man here.
I typically always masturbate to imagination. 30% of the time I find a random girl on tumblr to sext
>>16997175
I can masturbate to my imagination, but I usually have a picture of the person I'm masturbating to, even if it's a non sexual one.
>>16997131
>>16997131
I can't really judge the situation accurately because not enough context with what he said about his feelings towards her and his existing relationship with her.
Just be sure the words are coming from him and you're not filling in the blanks.
My current GF is convinced I want this other girl, she told me a bunch of times that I'd be better with her, to hook up with her and all that. She thinks she's holding me down from experiencing other women because I haven't had a ton of experience. She doesn't want to split of course but she's conflicted and pushing me away because she think she's going to get hurt. All of that started because she asked me if she was hot one time, and I said objectively yeah. She's tried to distance herself and even encourage splitting up. I actually have no feelings towards the girl but love the GF madly.
so basically don't overblow his feelings towards her, unless he's the one that did that himself stating clearly he likes her as more than a friend. or wants that. Or it's obvious he is developing feelings.
>>16997181
Should I tell her she needs to stop talking to him for us? We only just started dating.
I'm also thinking she's only dating me to make him jealous. He can't go to our prom and I know they were fighting before they split...
I've been pining after her forever though
>>16997181
>>16997182
Thanks.
Doesn't it seriously bother you how "bad" porn is? I mean, badly acted and such?
Or do you all just watch amateur stuff?
>>16997184
>30% of the time I find a random girl on tumblr to sext
Didn't think that's a thing even, huh.
>>16997195
It is. Just go through the kik or snapchat tag, real easy
>>16997175
Porn. I have no imagination. Especially after tube sites became a thing. When you start fapping to that from a young age it's hard to get off imagining things and it's also less personal to just watch a video and not conjure up some erotic scenario involving work colleagues and dominant teachers like women seem to think of. sometimes you just want to jack off to get rid of the nagging feeling and porn is a rampant rabbit for men-- a quick masturbatory aid.
>>16997195
Oh I don't watch the mainstream garbage. That absolutely spoils the experience. I like the plot heavy stuff with an imaginative premise.
As for what the other Anon said, it is indeed really hot to exchange words and pics with girls. Just as with porn it takes some of the creative load off but it's also original every time. Given that I'm as picky about porn as I described, you'd be correct to expect that I enjoy only a small number of favorites. Plus it's way better when it's made just for you. I can get off to plain text on a screen as long as it's a girl talking to me about me.
>>16996612
Guy here.
Rejected.
It's not even the rejection itself - "I'm just not attracted to you, sorry" wouldn't really bother me so much. I'd be all like "different strokes for different folks, I guess. I'm just not her type, no big deal I can move on".
But women aint that nice.
They gotta be harsh and cruel. It's like they thrive on the amount of pain they cause. They have to call you a creep or roll their eyes or say "ewww".
I don't ever regret not asking them out.
I just shrug it off and tell myself I was smart, rather than a coward. I prevented unnecessary pain.
>>16997194
Well, if you only just started, give it some time. But if this problem persist, tell her to stop.
>>16997195
Are you a girl?
No, it doesn't bother me. For me, porn is mostly how hot the "actress" is, nothing else matters much.
I don't think most guys are like me, though.
>>16997207
What if your "girl" has a penis?
>>16997222
Dunno it's never happened, but if she had a nice ass and a cute body it doesn't really matter as long as I get my rocks off
>>16997207
I'm surprised really, but whatever works I guess.
>>16997211
>sometimes you just want to jack off to get rid of the nagging feeling and porn is a rampant rabbit for men-- a quick masturbatory aid.
That makes sense I suppose, although fantasies can be just as quick I thought.
>>16997213
A connoisseur? Do you often re-watch the same videos then (small number of favourites) or just constantly search for good stuff?
>>16997222
I am a girl, yeah.
>porn is mostly how hot the "actress" is
That's so incredible different from how I think about porn or erotica generally, thanks for the perspective.
>>16996612
asking is always easier, it's definitive and/or closure
>>16996659
the nitty-gritty is the most important part of the argument
>>16996799
no
>>16996869
i don't hold a sexual attraction to my female friends
>>16997175
porn
>>16997195
>>16997195
Amateur stuffs nice sometimes but often It's more about the visual stimulation of how "hot" or "exciting" it is than trying to portray a realistic scenario. Sometimes the more far-fetched the better because it's so far removed from actually having sex with someone you like. I've made porn with GF's and it's totally different from how we actually have sex and way less personal but I like watching it.
when it comes to porn I'm not trying to get into the head of these two actors, watching to them grow close with a background story and eventually make soppy love for the purpose of raising a child. it's not fucking twilight or fifty shades aint nobody got time for that.. Sometimes you just want to watch this tanned creature bounce a giant oily ass on a plastic dildo the size of a coke can and jerk it so you're done in a couple of minutes onto better things. I don't care about the fake orgasms or ridiculous positions it's purely entertainment value.
It's like watching hollywood action fims. It's clearly not real but you're just their for the big guns and cars crashing through skyscrapers.
Girls care WAAY more than men when it comes to porn being realistic/having a storyline/ being sensual
>>16997231
I'm by no means a connoisseur. Just picky about my personal tastes. I'll poke around for new stuff with the same genres/actresses/studios that I know and like when I have the time, but if I'm impatient (or I come up empty) it's back to the standard collection. And when everything there feels too stale, that lights a fire under my ass to get out there and score some new content from real women.
>>16997243
>Girls care WAAY more than men when it comes to porn being realistic/having a storyline/ being sensual
Yeah I get that feeling too, no idea why though.
>>16997231
Yeah, I don't know why I am like this and sometimes I wish I weren't like this (because it seems to shallow).
My favorite pornstar is Shyla Stylez. I'd buy her and marry her if I were a millionaire.
>>16997243
>I've made porn with GF's
Post the links.
>>16996659
Lots of people will try to grab some irrelevant detail hoping it will make their argument fall apart.
The fact you're trying to make this a gendered thing makes me think it has more to do with you than them however.
>>16996869
I'll notice, but it's not like I'm going to stop and gawk. Cute girls are nice, but it's not like the movies.
>>16997011
If I was in your position I'd focus on having him set up some boundaries with this woman and then afterwards decide if you guys want to keep the relationship. You should decide if you're going to conclude the relationship or not before you chase other people.
>>16997267
>My favorite pornstar is Shyla Stylez.
That woman is halfway made of plastic man
>>16997191
I'm not filling in any blanks he's said that he does like her, and would like an opportunity to be with her, but doesn't want to be sad about it. He says he loves me but feels as though he'd miss out on something with her if he doesn't take the chance. I don't want him to go, but I also don't want these unsure feelings he has for her eat away at him. I don't want him to hate me for not allowing him able to figure his shit out. I don't want to lose him as my boyfriend, but would pain me the most above everything would be to lose him as both my boyfriend, and my close friend. I'd rather have him as just a friend than not at all.
>>16997283
He doesn't want me to be sad about it. Sorry speed causes me to fuck up
>>16997280
It doesn't matter. I think she is perfect.
>>16997283
I'll never understand you (for letting him go) and your bf (for openly saying he wants someone else).
>>16997299
Not my kind of porn, but thanks for posting, man.
>>16997283
Oh. I guess that is pretty clear then.
How would you react if he "tried things" with her, and then came back to you weeks later saying it didn't work and that he's full of regret for leaving you? How about months?
It sucks because if he stays with you he'll have that lingering doubt in his head, whereas if he splits and you take him back you're letting him treat you poorly, even if he at least is honest it's still inappropriate to expect you to just sit around waiting for him to come back to you as a plan B.
>>16997315
I understand. It just means she loves him enough to want him to be happy even if it means selflessly losing him. And he respects/loves her enough to be truthful in his feelings without doing what many couples do any just sneaking off to cheat so they can have their cake and eat it.
It's a difficult situation but at least there is integrity in the relationship
>Two convos with cute grill classmate
>Semester is pretty much over
Girls, would it be weird if I approached her outside of the classroom?
>>16997315
We are a different kind of couple I should say. I have yet to let him go.
>>16997319
He doesn't want me to wait for him to see if it works, he wants to know that I'll be OK without him. That I won't close myself off to other guys that come my way. I myself can't bring myself to trust people easily, to open up again to another person frightens me. I don't know how long it would take for me to be OK being in the arms of another.
>>16997356
Though if it come down to it I won't stop him from going
Girls and guys
I'm shutting myself down. this past year has turned me into a extremely bitter 25 year old. I'm completely done with girls. I don't care about them anymore, I don't care about sex anymore, I don't want a girlfriend anymore. Shit, a lot of things I don't care about anymore. I haven't turned on my PC in 3 months (I just use my phone). I haven't played vidya in that time either. Literally all I do now is I go to work, go to the gym after work (every other day depending how I feel) and I watch politics for a while then go to bed.
I feel very empty and bored. Literally the only thing I look forward to is going to the gym. But honestly I don't even know why I go to the gym, getting in shape doesn't really do anything for me I guess. But I guess it's from boredom. that and I just watch political news which is interesting.
How is this plan? For the next 3-5 years?
>>16997421
Well you seem pretty bent on this cycle. I'm sorry for what caused you to fall into this rut. Perhaps it will help clear your head, and who knows maybe someone might come along and get you out of it. All I can say is I wish you the best of luck
>>16997471
It's mostly my fault Tbh..
But thanks anyways anon.
How much do you girls dig romance?
>>16997547
If you gave me the choice between my boyfriend never having sex with me again, or never saying "I love you" to me again, I'd really have to think long and hard about it.
>>16997547
It depends on what you mean by romance
>>16997576
Massages, rose filled baths, constant dinner dates
>>16997603
I love massages... rose filled bath would be amazing... dinner dates would run up a huge bill though so I'd prefer we go to the park.
>>16997421
Who do you support this Presidential Election?
>>16997576
all I want to do is take this girl on a vacation and go on a late night stroll through the city, arm in arm and just talk for a long time.
Maybe find a bench to sit down on and just sit close and laugh. Then I'd like to take her back to the hotel, cuddle up in bed with her while watching foreign TV and make fun of the shows. Then fall asleep together while holding each other close.
That's all I want. I don't even care about sex, but sadly. This "fantasy" will never happen.. :(
>>16997639
God.. It's a fucking mess on all fronts. But I voted for Senator Rubio in the primary. Obviously it didn't do too much, although he won the delegates in my County.
Hillary- is a pathological liar who just wants to accomplish her childhood dream of being president, that and wants to live in the White House again.
Bernie Sanders- is a socialist who I don't think actually cares about the people. Particularly the middle class, because if r did he'd realize his ridiculous $22 trillion spending bills and wage raise will buttfuck the Middle Class. he also contradicts himself by saying that we need to only focus on our selves and not get sucked into other shit, yet he supports taking in more Syrian refugees.
Donald Trump- is rich, and on a certain level, intellgient. But I don't think he understand what he is actually doing. He's said a lot of stupid shit the past few months. and he completely lost my vote with his speech regarding Nuclear Security before the Summit this past week. WOW...
Ted Cruz- is a little shady, but has some "ok" policies. I think his National Security plan is solid. So if he gets the nominee, I'll vote for him. Although I think he's too far right.
Governor Kasich- I don't really know what the deal is with him Tbh. At the debates he sounds like he's knowledgeable. But I've seen some of his plans that I disagree with, and he backed/backs the Assault Weapons Ban? What??
Basically. We are fucked.
>>16997628
Yeah I love giving massages.. key to any girls heart I think
>>16997673
To add. If It's Trump vs Hillary. Hillary will win. She's a lying little bitch. But she will win the vote of the undecided voters.
If Trump doesn't get selected as the Nominee and runs as a 3rd Party. Then we are 100% fucked because that will split the vote for the Republican Party and Hillary or Bernie will win.
Hillary is almost guarenteed the Democratic nominee because she is too powerful. She won't get indited. And if she did, President Obama would Pardon her charges because he desperately doesn't want Trump to win. Bernie doesn't have a chance because his policies are insane.
So pretty much, we are very likely going to be in for another Clinton presidency unless something drastic changes the next few months.
So um is shit like this >>16997666 a troll or are females literally afraid of being raped 24/7?
>>16997699
Yeah, Clinton has the nomination on lock because of the super delegates.
My current hope is that Trumps doesn't get at least half the delegates so all of the delegates get unbound for a re vote. The establishment Republicans don't like Trump or Cruz so they'll put their support behind Kasich giving him the nomination because he has several polls beating both Clinton and Sanders and he has Ohio on lock, giving us a Kasich Presidency.
>>16997724
Yeah, but then Trump will run as a 3rd Party because he said fuck the GOP pledge. So that will take a lot of votes away. We're fucked
>>16997699
The anti-establishment left leaning sanders supporters will vote for trump before they vote for Hillary.
And I still say Hillary will be indicted by June. Obama will not pardon her, she is going to be the fall guy for all of his foreign policy f*ups. Plus he doesn't like her. Plus you can't pardon someone from an indictment, you have to be convicted to be pardoned, and no way that process will happen before he is out of the White House.
Guys, what are girls supposed to smell like? What is nice?
>>16996799
I've done it before, it's weird but sometimes I just can't come no matter what and two hours in a lot of chicks hurt/aren't enjoying it anymore so I've faked it a few times in these situations. The first time it happened I was with a chick who refused to stop without me orgasming and we fucked hard for like >3 hours, we both hurt for like a week
>>16997741
Neutral to light floral scents.
That's all I ask. Don't load up on perfume.
>>16997739
Hillary is going to win the Nominee. Sander's supports won't vote at all. Trump will lose to her bitch ass.
Boxers or briefs?
>>16997839
Boxer briefs. They look better
>>16997839
Boxer briefs are way more comfortable
>>16997839
Boxer briefs?
>>16997839
Boxers. Boxer briefs are still a little too tight.
>>16997861
Don't get super tight ones? But 1 size larger. It gives you breathing room. But also holds them in place
>>16997741
light scents, don't be a cloud of perfume
>>16997839
Briefs, anything else and my balls stick to my leg
>>16997741
Light scents like a little bit of vanilla or lavender.
>>16997839
Boxers. I like the space.
>>16997712
Some do. Most don't. Laugh at those who do.
>>16997644
it will never happen so long as you see women as things to be romanced instead of complex, multifaceted people
romance and attraction should happen organically, fantasies are just that
if you plan out the details of your relationship with someone you will always be disappointed in the results because your fantastical gf is merely comprised of all the good you want out of someone, it's too subjective
don't delude yourself, actually put forth the necessary time and energy into finding someone. vulnerability and honesty are the keys, not crafted scenarios and strained interest
>>16997839
Briefs (tighty whiteys)
Can't be flopping all over the place
>>16997547
Not really a fan, to be honest. It's not very 'me'
>>16997421
I honestly couldn't care less what you do with your life, including whether or not you care about girls.
>>16997332
Depends on how well those conversations had gone
>>16997141
If that's all you're saying, then of course nothing happens. You're literally a stranger, they don't know you and you don't know them. Why in the world aren't you having a conversation with these girls first?
>>16997027
Hiding the existence of your SO is one of the biggest red flags
>>16997011
I wouldn't recommend staying friends with him, and her too if they get together. That's just going to mess you up emotionally
>>16996890
>When he asked if she was dating me or had feelings for me she said "kinda not really"
And you're fine with her saying this?
I guess this is the best place to ask other than starting my own thread.
My girlfriend needs professional help, therapy. How the fuck do I tell her? I casually brought it up once and she freaked out without me implying she needed it. And trust me, she does, she has some deep rooted issues and handles them as I did mine before I got help. What do I do? Any gender can answer I just need help
>>16997421
Try doing something else if you're bored
Anything
It doesn't even have to be something you're super interested in, just anything that might break your routine
Take something out of a hat
Do that once a week
Try new things
>>16997729
Just because he said he wouldn't support the GOP candidate doesn't necessarily mean he'll run as a 3rd party.
I haven't gotten my period in 4 months now, and I've taken 2 pregnancy tests and they were negative. This never happens to me though. Should I see a doctor?
Girls, I have a question about 'leagues.'
If you say yes to a guy, does that mean you think he's in the same league as you?
Or is the whole concept of leagues not a big thing?
Guy here, this is mostly for girls, but really anybody could help.
I went to this thing last weekend and met this girl. Really great, felt like we hit it off pretty nicely. She asks for my number. I give it to her. I haven't heard from her since then.
What does this mean?
When should I expect to hear from her, if at all?
>>16998065
Yes.
>>16998072
She might be really busy.
I have one:
TV at someone's house as a first date, too personal?
i have been (partially indirectly) rejected by one of my best friends twice, and yet she still jumps on many opportunities to hang out. i would really like to remain friends with her, but it feels like i'll never get over my emotions without some space. how do i best move on?
>>16998081
>house
>first date
I would never agree to this, or offer it.
First date, public. Like, coffee or picnic type stuff.
Second, more intimate, like dinner.
After that you should be able to tell if they're an axe-murderer and do whatever you want
>>16998103
Thought that was too much, I guess that's why she hasn't texted me back...
>>16998014
Actually he just said on Sunday that he will not rule out running as a 3rd party. And he also said that option will be more looked at if the GOP "doesn't treat him nice". His words.
>>16998112
She might be really busy.
>>16998082
get a different girl
>>16998135
She turned me down all last week for coffee because of, "school and work."
She must be really busy.
>>16998142
the problem is that we were already best friends...
>>16998146
great! that means that you have a friend! you want a girlfriend, not a friend who is a girl, that's what i'm hearing.
so go get a different girl if this one isn't interested.
go outside! join a club! take up something cool! girls also do those things!
>>16997163
>Ask her out properly and you will have your resolution.
How?
>>16998146
cold turkey
she does not want you, you HAVE TO MOVE ON
read my picture
say it out loud
do it or you will regret it
Guys. When a girl sucks your dick how much of your enjoyment comes from the physical stimulation? How important are the visual and (maybe) psychological aspects?
>>16998146
Why would you ask out your best friend... Women aren't interested in dating their guy friends unless something major happens. If she was interested she would have made you a potential boyfriend from the start, not a friend.
And I know that's brutal - I'm sorry. But guys have to learn that women almost instantly know if they are attracted to a guy or see them as friend material. Women brains just work like that, sorry again dammit
Girlfriend left me because I kept on getting this gut feeling she had cheated on me. Every time I brought it up to her she'd start crying. I never caught her in the act. Once we broke up she never talked to me again, it's been 5 months. We dated for over a year.
Do you people think she cheated on me?
>>16998234
It's pretty much a even split between the three aspects for me
>>16998238
Hmm..honestly maybe not. I figured her reaction would be anger, like how dare you accuse me...thats how the guilty would act I think. Almost like you deserved to get cheating on mentality. Now crying...that sounds like...I dunno "holy shit why does he think this i cant get through to him"
in a way i really hope she did cheat on you, cause the alternative...would really fucking suck man
>>16996839
>no response
ok thanks /adv/
good to know
>>16998234
Well I've been thinking it's been my fault for the last 5 months but come on
It would of never been an issue if she wouldn't of cried when I thought it was true and just calmly reassured me. She would lie about being sexually attracted to guys too now that I look back on it. I think it's why she won't ever talk to me again either, she won't ever just tell the truth.
>>16996839
Reply honestly.
Protip: You can love a lot of people, you can be in love with a lot of people, but you can't happily live the rest of your life with a lot of people
Wish somebody would of told me that growing up
Fuck it I'll give this s shot because I have know where else to go to with it.
I've been talking to a girl since last Monday. She's really good friends with my roommate to the point where she annoys my roommate and is up her ass. Well Thursday she got in my bed and cuddled me. Friday we ended up making out and did literally everything except sex. I was the first person she did any of this with and as bullshit as it sounds, the way she came off as a person daily you can tell. She's basically a hiko. Well Saturday morning I talked to her about maybe going steady and she said she wants to try dating me but not go that far. Today my roommate messaged her and asked what she expected of us two and she said she didn't see us working out in the future but she wants to continue "dating" me. I haven't received a text from her since Saturday without me being the sender.
Is she just rejecting me in a weird way or is it because she likes me but doesn't want to rush things?
>>16998255
are you the one asking, or was it asked to you? if you like them tell them. you dont ask "do you like me?" without SOME kind of context of that person having feelings. and if you dont, TELL THEM, dont lead them on, if theres absolutely no chance in hell youre going to be with that girl, they need to know, *early*.
say, "i like you as a friend, im sorry if i led you to believe this was something more"
>>16998280
She has no idea what she's doing. Maybe she thinks you're not even into her really
>>16998280
Hard to tell, when you say Hiko do you mean shut in hikikimori? If im following this correcntly, you mean shes inexperienced. Perhaps she *knows* the type of person shes going to marry and thats not you, i guess that fine? thats what that sounds like to me, i like you and want to be with you...for a bit and then we'll part ways.
maybe shes no inexperienced shes trying to mind games you by coming off as not needy when in fact she wants you, but she did tell the roommate so who the hell knows.
either way, pursue her, and see where it goes. she sounds confused, if its her first relationship chances are you werent going to marry her anyway
So, i work as a cashier at a private university. This shutent chick who i've never even seen before starts saying hi to me for like no reason.
Sometime after she comes and starts asking questions about some stuff my area handles. She says she'll bring some papers for a scolarship or some shit. I say theres no need because the university dont give a shit.
After that, like every day, when she passes by on her way to class, says hi to me and that she will "bring the documents".
Some days of this shit and she finally comes. As I told her, they are worthless. She begins to talk to me about my vacations and stuff. I mean, she keeps bringing stuff up to keep the conversation going (im talking about something like 30 minutes of chitchat, and we only stopped 'cause i had to tell her i had people in line waiting for me). Super nice and polite.
What concerns me is the fact that she's very good looking, way out of my league. So, this means something or not? I get to talk to lots of girls in my job but even the nicest chick ive ever met can't stand more than 5 minutes of chitchat.
TL;DR: Should the uggo cashier go for the number or no?
>>16997999
Try to explain her how it works and tell her you'll go with her. It's no big deal, everyone has problems.
>>16998173
Ask if she wants to be your gf.
>>16998234
About 80%. Girls who suck dick really well are rare, though.
>>16998344
Yes! What if you end up with a hot gf?
So I am a 24 year old male. There is a girl I know through a friend from high school. I've always had a thing for her. I messaged her and said that I'm performing in the city and asked if she wanted to meet me there, and she said she would drive an hour to come down and see me.
I thought she lived 10 mins away from where I was performing, so I was totally shocked that she said she would drive 1 hour to get there.
Also, all of her messages to me have smiley faces. Are these signs that she's interested in me? Or just being friendly?
>>16998234
About 75%. I know girls hate doing this but looking into my eyes while doing it brings it to a full 100%
>>16998376
You don't put that much effort for some random.
She's into you man.
>>16998376
Any girl willing to drive that far is interested.
>>16998376
She's putting a lot of work into it. It means something.
>>16998383
>I know girls hate doing this
Really? I love doing this for my guy/
Guys/girls
What are your kinks?
>>16998395
Ive had 3 bjs in my life and none of them wanted to look directly into my eyes. Kinda disappointing desu
>>16998344
>>16998360
I don't know man. That shit don't happen in real life.
>>16998403
It doesn't matter. THINK WITH YOUR DICK!
>>16998397
Once a girl started licking me at the very very base of my balls while giving me a handjob and I can honestly say it was the most intense experience of my life. Felt even better than sex.
>>16998405
Nigga i work there. My fucking boss was there when she started talking to me and had to leave 'cause he felt uncomfortable. What i am asking is: as a girl, would you put that much effort into talk to some faggot ass cashier if you are not interested in him? If you say there's a good chance I'll give it a try but i don't want to fuck up in my work place.
I want to wife up a girl that I recently meet, she is very pretty, down to earth, and very respectable. We also had sex on the first date... Is that bad? What should I do? Do I try to wife her up or.....adv help a nigga out
>>16998416
youre conccerned she puts out too easily right? like maybe she fucks all the guys on the first date. if its true then maybe shes still the one for you, maybe not.
maybe you guys have insane chemistry that she fucked you on the first date, thats possible right?
how long have you been seeing her? long right, go for it man, seize your happiness. dont forget that you put out on the first date too anon
>>16998416
I guess it depends of the context. Does she always get it on in the first date? Is she flirty with other guys? I dunno man, it really depends on the girl, most of the time first date fuckers are not good wife material but who knows, maybe you two just really clicked.
>>16998344
fuck that out of your league shit man. it's not like people are actually THAT shallow to write you off simply for your looks. GO FOR IT! if she's spending all of this time bothering you she's interested
So I was told I "dress like a dad". I dress plainly, usually going with simple button up shirts and jeans. Just how is someone in their mid 20s supposed to dress instead? I never thought it was a big deal until a number of my friends said otherwise.
>>16998416
You've been on a few dates and you're considering marrying her?
>>16998435
I think 'dad clothes' are more about clothes that don't fit properly or flatter you, rather than actual pieces of clothing
>>16998435
Go to H&M and buy new clothes
>>16998422
That can be true, we did have a lot.. Like a lot of shit in common and we did have a great time. If feel like we did click a lot but this isn't the first time I had sex on the first date and it always ends up wrong, I think I might just have to take things slow. Thanks
>>16998435
If you are getting enough pussy dress any way you like. If no girl comes even close to you, maybe its your looks, maybe its your clothes or maybe you are an asshole, or all above.
Either way, clothes are important but I've met younger guys who dress like dads and it works for them.
>>16998439
Ma nigga, I know I sound stupid. I just feel like it's time to settle down. I have to take it slow. Thanks, you seriously slapped some sense into me
>>16998440
It's certainly interesting
How do you know a girl likes you back? Are there like... signs of affection?
>>16998462
https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw
This should help you.
this is mainly directed at girls because they tend to be more sensitive about it and thats who its happening to in my family currently
How do you tell someone that they are getting fat and that you worry for their health without offending them? My mom is getting a lot older and shes always had a mild eating problem but shes gotten a lot more sedentary because of her age and im afraid itl start to shorten her lifespan.
>>16998466
That was entertaining, but not very helpful. So there's no real way of telling if she's into you, huh?
>>16998483
There is one. You could just ask her out. If she's into you, she'll most likely say yes.
>>16998462
yes actually, like she'll be way more responsive to your jokes and be more eager to do favors for you. also she might treat you more differently then all her other friends, especially if she has some guy friends besides you as well. but honestly anon you'll know it when you see it, if you feel it then she might actually like you.
>>16998486
What if she says she wants to get to know you better first?
>>16998376
tf anon? do you actually think she's not into your or some shit like that? of course she's into you! better do something about it if you like her back.
>>16998489
I don't know. Maybe ask what does she mean by that?
>>16998489
not that anon but it means she's definitely into you mate,or at least there's some potential, otherwise she wouldn't have even mentioned that if she wasn't into you.
>>16998486
Like, to meet up? Just the two of us? What if we're friends and while we never hung out alone, she wouldn't have a problem with it/ wouldn't see it as a date?
>>16998488
I feel like she likes me back, although I really can't tell. I'm bad with girls. I never had a girlfriend.
>>16998497
Not to meet up or hang out. Ask her out on a date. Be specific that it's a date.
>>16998497
just test the waters by taking her out to grab coffee or something, and hang out with her a couple of times. if she's highly responsive and interested in you then ask her out on a legit date.
>>16998501
>>16998502
Thank you guys. I'll try.
Just theoretically - if you already made out once or twice, would it be the same procedure?
>>16998507
in that case just ask to hang out alone since if you've made out it shows that she likes you somewhat
>>16996496
Everyone knows that most guys will take as much sex as they can get. So if there wasn't such a social stigma attached to whoring it up would you do it?
>>16998525
>Everyone knows that most guys will take as much sex as they can get
Your question is off to the wrong start. Many people may believe men would fuck anything that moves, but that's far from true. Even if there was no social stigma, I wouldnt be interested in casual sex and I know many others who are the same way.
Ladies
Is 8.5 too big?
>>16998549
For me, yes
>>16998549
#humblebrag
>>16998557
>Using hashtags
Get out.
>>16998563
But that's what it is. The whole humblebrag thing came from twitter I think.
I'm a little bit older and haven't dated seriously yet but I have a few prospects, and I want to know how best to handle an awkward situation.
I have no communication with my parents. My mother beat me as a child and stole from me as an adult until I dropped her completely, my dad is in federal prison until 2030. I moved to the other side of the country from my family so it's not like we'd see her around town.
So, I know offhand girls will say "bad relationship with his parents is a red flag" but I also assume that if you knew the severity of things you would be more understanding. However, that's pretty heavy emotional stuff to bring up.
So, how long until you meet the parents? How would you like your potential bf to explain this? I also don't want to come off as 'damaged' or secretly crazy to bluntly say "I moved away to get away from her because she abused me so badly."
But then maybe this is silly. Do I need to do a whole fucking dance or can I just be honest about the past?
Why would a 23 year old grown ass man hang out with 14 year olds.
>>16998593
Well I'm 24 and have a 14 year old kid brother, sometimes I'll go over to my mom's to supervise if he wants to have friends over and she has to work late or go on a date with her bf or something. I enjoy mentoring them and playing smash brothers or monopoly or something.
And I have a few teenage friends on steam. Brotherly instincts. There was a young girl I would play games with too and her parents freaked out, read the messages and found there was nothing remotely sexual and really I was just helping out a lonely kid.
It doesn't have to be creepy.
Girl I was with for 8 years and then friends who saw each other like once a week for like 5 years after that goes responses-only, basically stops talking to me, stops telling me stuff. I don't send anything for 6 months and don't get anything from her, so finally I just ask her "why don't you like me?". She tells me that I'm an "angry man" and generally insinuates that I'm dangerous, she relates that she's been "raped" and tells me essentially that she got a guy drunk, went into his house and tried to back out and he said something she interpreted as a threat but could honestly be a figure of speech. "You're lucky that" etc etc, something like that. She got molested as a kid and has always had an obvious obsession with it in one way or another. Oh, and by the way I'm not angry, the angriest thing I ever did was box her big brother's ears for repeated calling her a whore and refusing to leave, which she cheered on at the time. Frankly it seems like bullshit and she seemed to be taking old stuff out of context to "get there" with the idea, you know?
I care about this person but I haven't spoken to her for a year because I don't think I can get through to her and I think she might be an SJW now? Women, tell me, is she an SJW now? Is she mental?
I don't wanna fuck her I'm just worried about her. Should I talk to her again? What do I do? What's happening?
>>16996496
This is a well-written OP but can somebody explain the last greentext?
>>16996496
To femanons: Should I kill myself?
>>16998623
Why do you wanna do it?
>>16998618
"brandon: fuck off"
It's a meme that's bled over from soc.
Some gay guy who used to camwhore. Other people saved all his clothed selfies and derail every thread asking "why don't women like me" and demanding rates in threads that aren't even rate threads, just ruins everything.
>>16998624
Well why not?
>>16998627
Thank god, my name is Brandon and I have debilitating paranoia.
I guess I'm a maneater? I don't know how to stop. It looks bad. I want to just settle down with someone and have a family but I can never meet a guy I feel is worth it. It constantly(like, every week) happens that I /meet/make friends with a guy and I like them and hang out with them a lot. But it always passes quickly because I get to know them and I find we're incompatible in the long run for various reasons(such as, lack of motivation etc). The previous guys still like me but I move on. and there's always new guys who I get along with pretty easily. Literally I think if you watched me from an outside perspective it would just look bad, me with a new dude all the time. They keep chasing me and introducing themselves so I don't know how mu ch of this is on me or not
>>16998633
What are the most common reasons you decide you're "incompatible". Seems like if you're constantly writing people off after just a few weeks you must have unrealistic expectations
So I met a girl from 4chan recently and we really clicked. Like, amazingly well, things were going pretty fast. Probably too fast and I got carried away in the flirting, and the feeling that I'd found the perfect partner.
You can probably tell by now that it didn't work out and, I won't lie, it did sting a lot. But that said...
I don't want to lie around waiting for the next girl to fall into my lap like that one did. I want to experience the nervous fun flirting and chatting to someone who you click with.
So, ladies, where the best places to meet women of a shitposter variety? I could try /soc/ but there's a lot of nude pics there; I want a best friend and companion first, not a rabid fuckbunny.
How do I get my girlfriend to quit smoking cigarettes?
>>16998651
I have thought this too...Common reasons for me are: person is inflexible and hardheaded, person is annoying and puts me on a pedestal.
The latter ones are a problem because I'm sure if I had less morals I could string those along and have them buy me stuff, but I'm not a dick. I exersize, am attractive, and generally do things with my life(I am applying to law school) so its not like I'm totally reaching, but its so hard to find a good person nowadays.
There were 2 men I would have said yes too, but it was timing and they had gfs
I've been seeing a guy for a few months now, things are going very well. We've also been friends for several years. I think he's just wonderful and can definitely see the relationship going somewhere. However, I have terrible self-confidence and am convinced he is too good for me.
We discussed what our relationship is at the moment and he said he thought we were exclusively dating, he wasn't interested in seeing anybody else. He said we're definitely compatible. I asked if we were at the gf and bf stage and he said he saw this more as when you begin to mix your lives and make life decisions together which directly effect each other. As far I know, he refers to family and friends as the girl he's seeing.
Is this a good thing? Is it avoidance? I get the impression he isn't used to labels and tends to just fall into relationships (his last one lasted for years), so I'm asking him about something he has given very little thought to. I just panic that he isn't going straight into the whole "gf bf" label, but perhaps this is normal? We are both in our mid twenties.
Having a convo with my crush over text, then I say I'd answer any question you have truth fully, I'm just an honest person. First thing she asks is who do I like, I say her, and the she says "Oh. Damn." Why....am I fucked? I feel as though as if I got rejected in a indirect way :P
>>16998667
Ask nicely, and get her on that good weed senpai. ;)
Im dating this girl for three weeks, within the first week we had one meetup through a mutual friend and two dates, we made out each time and i tried to take it further but she was a bit hesitant and we didnt have sex. The next week we didnt see each other at all due to conflicting shedules, but we met yesterday for a drink.
So the date yesterday was pretty horrible, i had a sore throat and could barely talk and we both were tired, because we only met up so late. On top of that i couldnt really build up physical contact and it seemed like she wasnt interested in it at all and after an hour or so we decided it would be better to go home.
How do you deal with bad dates after you already established a connection? Is this something i should be worried about or is this stuff that just happens? I feel like we reseted the whole relationship from a more romantic one to a plain one without any interest.
>>16997839
I wear another pair of pants under my pants.
>>16998360
>Ask if she wants to be your gf.
Can you just do that?
Boys and girls,
>This Friday theres a party at this place. Its the presentation of an expo made by am artist i dont really like.
>Basically i had a lot of tension with her the night we met because she kept asking me who was my ex and kept saying names, and I straight left her there
>A lot of friends will be there, when this much people get together its promising
I'm not personna non grata or amything like that but i don't like that girl. I'm having a hard time tolerating her. But a lot of friends and people that both like me and I do like will be there. But that party will be about this girl i don't tolerate...
I don't know if to stay home or just screw it and go
>>16999002
Is there free beer?
(captcha select all drinks)
Girls,
Why do you cheat so often? Are you all secretly whores?
>>16997741
nothing, if I can't smell it I don't care
>>16997839
briefs
keeps it nice and compact but if they the briefs are a bit too small a hard on can need some rearranging
Do girls hate stingy guys? Like you can really click with the guy but he won't spend a dime on you or some shit.
>>16999009
Yeah, but funny enough i've been having strong migraines since last week, so i'm on medication...
My girlfriend wants to get into pornography. Nothing hardcore, just photos. No guys involved.
I was talking with a friend about this and how I think it's kind of gross and want to break up because of it, and he called me a prude and that my "Catholic guilt is showing". Is it that unreasonable to not want your girlfriend to get into pornography?
Am I an asshole for breaking up over this?
>>16999159
Nope. Your friend is a dick for saying that. She can do with her body whatever the fuck she wants, it's her body. It doesn't mean you have to stay with her tho. If you're not happy with the terms your relationship is on, you have the full right to break up.
>>16999113
I just don't like stingy ppl generally. Means they're not willing to give a little, independent on my relationship with them.
What do guys think of makeup? as someone that never really wears any, I don't buy into the rhetoric that other girls want to look good for themselves.
>>16999216
>I don't buy into the rhetoric that other girls want to look good for themselves
Why? That's literally all makeup is. To make yourself look good, either for you or others but mostly for yo.
>>16999231
But 'good' is such an arbitrary goal, literally defined by the culture around you. Is it not subconsciously competing with other women to look a specific way?
>>16999240
>But 'good' is such an arbitrary goal, literally defined by the culture around you
And? How does that change anything?
Why do people go to gyms, get clothes that fit them, get proper haircuts? Cause they wanna feel attractive. When you can look in the mirror and you can go "wow, I like how I look", you get a really good feeling inside.
>>16998549
>>16999244
Exactly. They want to feel "Attractive". i.e attract other people to them. But if they are having to conform to certain standards in order to do that, maybe they're not attracting the right sort of people that like them for who they are.
How good looking must a guy be for women to approach him?
When i got advice last time on improving my looks I did it all and have been doing it for over two years. Im fit, defined jaw, my skin is clearer than my sisters, and I have a good haircut.
And results yield nothing, do you think I might be ugly to the point that only surgery will fix it? Im not going that far, I was all for working hard to improve, but not surgery.
This has become really depressive for me and im so confused. Im out of idea's, maybe it's my pale white skin? Does it need to be brown or black?
>>16999253
Attractive as in pretty. You're overthinking this. Have you ever thought about that maybe doing makeup isn't a chore for girls but rather a pleasure? Why are you implying that women are somehow naive and childish for using makeup? Also how is using makeup the same as not being yourself? Are you "fake" for going to a hairdresser or for buying new clothes?
>>16999261
I think I understand now, thank you
I'm a 24 year old guy. I'm in university, I'm unemployed and I have depression. I'm getting help for depression but I have ups and downs. I make sure people can't notice though. I'm kind of also screwing up at all my job interviews.
Does this make me completely unfit to get a relationship with a girl? I'm not exactly looking to be in a relationship with just about anyone, there's one specific girl I really like who's sort of friends with me. She's studying psychology.
Any input is appreciated.
Should I try for a second round with this girl? She came on to me the first time and gave me her number, but I told her after I was a virgin (I was) and I don't want to seem like those clingy virgins everyone complains about.
Guys,
Have you ever had performance anxiety, and what are some ways to get over it?
I ask because I couldn't stay hard, let alone cum from my gf giving oral, and it's driving me insane.
If it matters, it's been about 2-3 years since last time I had some.
