It is completely reasonable to be upset about this. Dump him. You did the wrong thing though. Fess up and then dump him. This relationship isnt healthy on both sides.

Usually when men take up jacking off instead of sex it's one of these reasons:

You aren't attractive to him any more, and he doesn't have a desire to have sex

He feels like you with hold sex or reward him with sex so he'd rather just jack off

Hes unhappy with the relationship and is staying with you because you love him and he knows it but he doesn't love you.

Instead of breaking up, try to be as sexy as possible and get him riled up, try lingerie and shit like that. Just remind him how good and ready you are, and he will probably want you and you only again. And if he doesn't you might as well admit you were snooping, because you could at least bring it up and his reasoning instead of breaking up on the spot.

>>16995279
Agreed. You shouldn't have snooped, and he shouldn't have cheated. Neither side has clean hands anymore, but that means this relationship has gone mutually toxic. I am sorry, but for both your sakes, it is time to end it.

It is good that you understand your mistake, though. Learn from it, and resolve to do things more cleanly next time.

>>16995279
yeah it's just I guess if it wasn't a mutual friend and just some random porn it wouldn't upset me that much you know? like I thought maybe I could look past it but it makes me feel sick

>>16995283
that's what I was afraid of... I have been trying lately to get his attention but he's not that interested. but like apart from sex he is still affectionate towards me and nothing seems wrong in that sense

>>16995291
what would have been a cleaner way to do it? I asked him several times what he was masturbating to, and while he didn't outright lie he was being super secretive

>>16995283

What about if a guy jacks off after hours of sex with his partner? Sometimes he can't cum and later on goes to masturbate and I'm ok with this. Other times he can orgasm fine. Should I be worried?

>>16995296
Just admit you snooped because you were concerned, he will get mad but you should at least bring it up if you feel it'll cause the relationship to crumble

Don't listen to these idiots saying you should just break up, the only case where that happens should be when they cheat, which he hasn't done, hes played with himself to his friend

Just talk to him

>>16995301
Hes got death grip and can only cum when he hasn't orgasmed in a few days

If he cuts back on jacking off it won't be an issue. You could always offer him more sex as well, then whenever he's turned on he won't have to jack off. Once again, talk to your partner, ask them to cut back on touching themselves if you would like them to orgasm from intercourse between you two

>>16995303
talking is always the best solution huh. I'll sit him down when he gets home then

>>16995313
I just don't think it's really fair to either of you to not try to understand each others views on this

>>16995321
I agree, I'm just not sure I trust myself to stand my ground and not give in to him

>>16995328
What I suggest with future problems is try to talk to your partner first.

Seriously, it will give you judgement and shit on what they think. He most likely does love you but there's something keeping him from making love to you, it can be many things. What I really suggest is you show him how important it is to you what that reason is, if you show you care about what makes him not want to make love, then he will probably actually tell you.

>>16995333
thanks for the advice. I'll do my best, here's hoping things turn out not disasterous