> "Just be confident bro!"
> People put me down for things I have no control over, my height, being ugly, having bad hair, etc
Why do people repeat this meme?
How the hell do you get confident? I've been going to the gym, dressing well, got a good haircut but nothing I do will make a deference because on a genetic level I was doomed to fail.
>waahh people r meanies!
learn not to give a fuck, its called growing up
I suppose it depends on how you define confidence.
If it's comfort in knowing an absolute, you can be confident in the fact that everyone you know on this planet will be dead within a hundred years and a hundred years from that time, no one will remember any one of them or you.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing, either. This means that you really only have now, and you have to share the planet with these idiots, so you might as well have a lark while you're here.
>>16980998
I'm asking for advice. Saying "lol just grow up pussy" isn't advice.
>>16981017
don't be so fragile and stop taking things personally. If you're upset about what people say about you, I can almost guarantee you don't come off as confident. I mean you even took his comment personally.
>>16981026
> don't be so fragile and stop taking things personally
It's kind of hard to when people have been judging you for being a short ugly manlet your entire life.
>>16980986
Think about all of the famous men who are ugly. There's tons and tons.
It's because you don't need to be beautiful to be successful- it just makes it easier.
Keep your chin up and don't try to be something you're not. Do your best but don't rely on looks of that's not an area that you excel in. Maybe you're really funny? Or really smart? Don't try to be "the handsome guy" if you're ugly. Instead try to be "the funny guy" or "the really interesting guy".
I'll tell you that as a girl- I have a bar. But once you're above that bar, looks matter significantly less than other things. Like i would take an ok looking guy with a good personality over a good looking guy with an ok personality any day of the week.
Some girls are more shallow than others. Don't let the bitches get you down
>>16981036
I get that, but who gives a fuck is someone "judges" you? Especially if/when you're an adult. Their judgement does nothing. It does not kill you. It does not take food from your hand.
You'll endure and survive regardless of what other people think. Where does your need for acceptance stem from? Do you just have tfw no gf and need to fuck a bitch or what?
The fact that you want the acceptance, or at least the confidence to not need the acceptance, suggests that you have some goal or unfulfilled desire. So why beat around the bush?
What do you actually want?
Copy-Pasta
From someone who grew up cripplingly shy, got sick of it, and decided to change.
You need to put yourself out there.
First have your social skills in general up to scratch, then work on dating skills.
Using the video game analogy.
Level 1 social skills, these are the quests that have a low fail rate and give you experience:
>Maintain eye contact for more than 5 seconds
>Fix your posture
>Smile
Level 2 activities that give you XP
>Say hello to a stranger
>Shake peoples hands
>speak up in class
Level 3 activities that give you XP:
>Introduce yourself to a stranger
>Have a short conversation
> etc. etc.
[...]
[...]
Level 9
>Have an in-depth conversation with a total of either gender
>Have a serious conversation with a total stranger of either gender
>Make friends with people of either gender easily
Level 10. New skill tree unlocked: [Dating]!
Dating level 1 quests:
>Have a conversation with a girl you're interested in
Dating level 2 quests:
>Ask a girl out
Dating Level 3 quests
>Have an earnest conversation
[...]
Unlock at level 4 trainable skill: [Flirt],
[...]
Dating level 10:
New trainable skill unlocked: [Interpret signs]
Fail condition for trying to use ability where you don't have enough experience: Spill Spaghetti.
Spill spaghetti may or may not give you xp, but will you give temporary [confidence] stat debuff.
You get the idea. Do it. That's how you get experience.
>>16980986
I became confident after finding Christ. I realized we are all evil and to just expect it but shrug it off. Don't hang onto it and walk with the Lord instead. Everyone of us a sinner in dire need of help.
Amazingly my life is a lot better after this change in viewpoint.
>>16980986
don;t worry bro, just be yourself, go talk to her dude, works for me.
>>16981045
>Their judgement does nothing. It does not kill you. It does not take food from your hand.
Not true. Manlets, baldies, uglies, etc asre statistically proven to be paid less, get worse jobs, have less relationships, and die earlier.
Food/money is literally taken from your hand. The judgement actually does end up killing you.
>>16980986
Genetic short straws are sadly, a fact of life, and confidence manifests in a large array of things, do some soul searching man, fid out what form of confidence makes you more attractive, such as being a good comedian, not caring about petty insults etc. Plus I've never met a girl who's NOT into weird guys, simply because being spontaneous and random keeps things interesting.
>>16980986
You have two choices. It's a simple decision.
Want to improve yourself? Stop going on /r9k/, stop being such a whiny faggot, start doing something.
Want to remain a bitter manchild loser? Get out of /adv/ and go back to /r9k/.