There's nothing inherently wrong with me, and I am grateful for what I have been given in life.
There is one issue though, I am pretty lonely.
I want to sound as modest as possible, but in the last two years I have had a good amount of female advances (I've been told I'm decently attractive/funny).
But when an opportunity comes my way, I have lose all motivation or interest to pursue.
I either don't find a specific girl to be interesting/I don't see myself forming a connection with her, or the girl is just throwing herself at any decently looking guy at a party in hopes to hook up (which is also something I am not interested in).
I've been told to not look for anything in specific (don't pursue a relationship so hard), but that's literally all I want right now, as a 20 year old college student. I just want a girl to talk to at this point.
My friends all have SO at the moment, and every other night I am literally lying in bed dreaming of cuddling up next to a girl.
>>16974885
I can't wait for you to be disappointed as fuck when you realize women aren't all they're cracked up to be.
>>16974885
you have the opportunities, but oyu dont seem to pursue them.
girls are often in your position. they got guys lining up but dont give em a chance and/or assume they only want one thing.
my advice? ask for a first date. give a girl at least one real first date to prove shes not right for you.
given your situation thats literally all you can do cuz ur basically saying
>i want a relationship but i dont want literally anyone who ever approaches me
>>16974890
>I can't wait for you to be disappointed as fuck when you realize women aren't all they're cracked up to be.
This is my issue though. I feel uninterested in a lot of female advances because I know how horrible the majority of them are. Same thing goes for men, the human race in general is shit. It's actually making me go full on waifu claiming mode.
>inb4 edgy
>>16974900
Then it's time to go full sociopath and use them for their bodies which, unlike their demeanor most of the time, are actually quite pleasant.
>>16974900
sounds like you want an abstract idea. you see a friend kiss a girl and you want that moment. and you are applying a concept to that moment.
all relationships are unique. all relationships are different. you cant really force certain feelings as convenient as that would be, and the evidence suggests that the more you try to force it, the less people seem to be interested. you're about 1 step ahead of the rest of the gang in admitting you cant seem to find interest.
i recommend focusing on living your life to the best of your ability, doing things you love to do in an interactive social way, and seeing what comes of that.
>>16974899
>ask for a first date. give a girl at least one real first date to prove shes not right for you.
Already was planning on it once schools out and I start working again. I am a broke college kid at a shit state college in the middle of nowhere, with no transportation besides my bike (thankfully I am transferring to a college in my home city). I am just stuck right now with 6 weeks left of school, with a tremendous desire for a girl to talk to. I've even gone as far to consider an online relationship. Videogamedunkey met his gf online, and in my opinion, she is 10/10 perfection.
>>16974919
>i recommend focusing on living your life to the best of your ability, doing things you love to do in an interactive social way, and seeing what comes of that.
This is really what I've been doing for the past 1.5 years, and what I'll be continuing to do until I find some girl worth getting to know. I appreciate the insight though, I guess it means I'm on the right track. I'm honestly just getting sick of this shit, it feels like I am waiting around for, what feels like, nothing.
>>16974979
see the issue, like i mentioned earlier, is that you are waiting around (or rather, hunting).
why are you waiting around if your life is already good? you are suggesting that talking to a girl on skype will somehow make this abstract pain go away.
it wont. niether will forcing yourself ot be with a girl.
focus on growth and focus on you.
>>16974990
Your advice is as rational as it is true, I am willing to admit I may just be blowing this out of proportion, which is something I have a tendency to do.
thanks anon/femanon, you actually made me feel better about my situation.
>>16975039
>your advice is as rational as it is true
for a second i thought you were going in a negative direction with this.
good luck mate. my advice, expand what you love to do. heres some tips im reposting from an old thread. soem parts are strictly dating, but others will explain how to take even the solitary hobbies you have and use them to meet people while still at the very least, discussing what you like:
>>16975071
>dont just hit on a woman
its no secret that women are the ones who are approached, and they make decisions on which men to keep in their lives. that being said, desperately drooling over each and every girl as if they are a potential love interest is silly.
give yourself more value by not letting a woman sway you on first impressions alone. before you ever begin to say anything remotely flirtatious, talk to the girl. see what she actually acts like when you interact with her. have a normal conversation. if there isnt anything special there beyond her looks, friendzone her. or simply stop talking to her. you do not need to hit on each and every girl that looks good enough to be your partner.
doing this gives you more value, and the psychological effects are great. in addition, women will take you more seriously. instead of being 1 of 500 men in new york who went straight for the kill, you took the time to get to know them. whether it goes anywhere or not, this approach also just gives you practice talking to girls in a casual context. its less pressure than trying to impress them.
>>16975078
>only ever use dating apps as a supplement to your real life dating.
dating apps are toxic. consider the following
>people use dating apps because they arent having much luck in real life
>they go to a dating app where they are introduced to an entire smorgasbord of men who want nothing more than to bang and/or date them
>after just one day they will have seen everyone in their area
>within one week they would have talked to everyone they are interested in
so anyone who has been using the app for more than a few weeks clearly has some sort of issue. likely, they are the female equivelent of what i discussed in my first post.
they want a 'bf' but because they have a very specific idea of what a bf is, they arent finding it anywhere. instead of seeing if they have real chemistry, they are simply walking down the aisle, trying to figure out what is the ONE thing at the groccery store they can buy, based solely on pictures and labels.
if a woman is on tinder for too long, they are losing their ability to feel chemistry.
you as a man can fall into a very similar pattern here, but with the added harshness of constant rejection.
it is an app made for people who want to date, yet no one seems to have success there for very long. that should tell you something.
>>16975095
>but anon, how do i use it as a supplement to an existing dating life if i dont have a dating life.
effort. lots and lots of effort. and also, doing what you like. going out is in no way restricted to bars and clubs, though if that is what you enjoy, by all means, go to bars and clubs.
the truest way to find chemistry is to experience your life in the most enjoyable way, and see how you match with the people who come into it. interacting with someone in a casual way shows you how you ACTUALLY get along, not how you hope to get along cuz you really want this to work cuz you need a gf.
so write down a list of all your hobbies, and find a way to externalize them. most people live at least near a city these days.
go to any and all hobby shops and ask about local events. gun shops might have hunting trips. or you can just go to a shooting range. comic book stores have game nights. or live commentary movie nights. if these shops do not host events, offer to host one through them, after all it will only lead to more money through them.
you can even go to a more casual store, lets say, a book store, and stand in your favorite aisle (lets say, horror). talk to everyone who comes by looking for a book. ask what book they are looking for. tell them what book you are looking at. try to spark a conversation abotu your favorite author. maybe take some suggestions. if you really hit it off, try to trade numbers.
its okay if it doesnt pan out. this isnt a scoring system. there is no man in a cloack in space making down on a cosmic chalkboard how many failed conversations you had. 99% of interaction is dumb. you are waiting for the 1% and enjoying talking about your favorite things with strangers until then.
>>16975104
>but anon, going outside somewhere to find out if maybe they have an event doesnt suit my lazy lifestyle!!1!
and for those who simply cannot bring themselves to get up out of the house without a guarantee go to meetup.com and look for something of your interest. no matter what your interest it is on there in a group you can meet with. and if not, you can start your own meet up.
Now, some of you may argue that these sorts of tailored events are attended mostly by men. yes. mostly. but some women too. whats important here is you will be doing something you love, with people who love what you love, and when the right ladies come along you'll know they love it too. you will have that common ground.
>>16974885
Christ says those who are able to accept being celibate should for the glory of God.
It is a blessing to not be apart of the day to day relationship nonsense.
>>16974979
You're overthinking it.
Just find a girl with 1-5 common interests and something to do on her own. So that there would be something to share, but something to stay a complete person when you are apart. In that case everyday routine won't get annoying.
>>16974885
I'm confused. I was so sure your macro was some animu fanart of that annoying dyke Sera from DAI but the image name says Evangelyne.
