When I hear or see people enjoying sex I get so jealous, whenever I've tried sex I never enjoy it, and whenever I masturbate my orgasms are nothing like the ones people describe.
How do I make peace with the fact that I'm missing out on life's greatest pleasure?
>>16969550
A) don't evaluate your happiness based on how happy other people are, that's always unproductive
B) >whenever I masturbate my orgasms are nothing like the ones people describe
How are you masturbating, and what are your orgasms like? Is it possible you aren't actually reaching orgasm?
>>16969554
I masturbate a few different ways, either with a wand vibrator or with hands with different strokes
It's definitely an orgasm because the vagina pulsates and muscles twitch and I feel relaxed afterwards. And there isn't much pleasure, it's very unsatisfying.
>>16969572
>muscles twitch
what muscles? Abdominal, pelvic, or just right up around your vagina?
>>16969572
Also, what's compelling you to masturbate? Are you already aroused by fantasies or some other subject matter, or are you just sitting down to stir one out from a sense of obligation?
Do you use any companion material, like erotic fiction or movies?
>>16969576
Abdominal and around my vagina.
>>16969554
>How are you masturbating
Like this:
RAAARRARARARARRRRAAAAAARRRRRR huffa huffa huffa huffa huffa huffa VVVVVVVVVVVrrrrrroowwwwwwwwww POW POW POW POW TSHHHHHHHH
>>16969581
Sometimes I use porn and erotica, other times no.
It's like an itch I can't really scratch. Horniness that I can't calm down because my orgasms are so unsatisfactory.
>>16969572
Are chicks so capable of platonic not-gay same-sex friendships that you could just ask one of your friends to show you how to masturbate without it being super weird?
Chicks can apparently climb all over each other in their undies, make out, give each other massages, and skinny dip together and it's not gay. Can you teach each other to masturbate no homo?
>>16969598
I already know how to masturbate lol
I've tried sex with a girl, nothing.
>>16969592
When I have unsatisfactory orgasms it's usually because I'm distracted or because I'm racing to the finish line. My best orgasms are from edging - a good half-hour to an hour of reading stories, watching porn, jerking while hard, and then bam, massive orgasm that I have to clean off the ceiling.
But I'm a guy, obviously. Does edging improve things for girls too? How quick are you wrapping things up?
>>16969609
I've tried edging man nothing fucking works
I just want to know how to stop feeling jealous, I would be so much happier.
>>16969619
How many orgasms have you had in your lifetime
5 - 50 - 500 - 5000
pick the number closest to you
>>16969623
5000
Before you say take a break I should say I stopped masturbating for 7 months, didn't make a difference.
>>16969598
Probably really depends on the girl and how close friends they are, but I once "taught" a friend how to get herself off because instead of rubbing her clitoris she rubbed the vaginal opening, the dumb cunt.
>>16969627
Then here's my theory - your orgasms are just fine, you are just letting the suspicion that other people's orgasms are better cloud your judgment.
I'd say I've probably masturbated around 12000-13000 times, (saying 2-3 times a day for the last 15 years) so let's say you and I are in the same league. No way would I do it that many times if it wasn't pretty satisfying, and I find it hard to believe you'd do it thousands of times if it wasn't personally satisfying to you. I think it's maybe the comparison that's tripping you up, but since you will never feel what it's like for someone else to orgasm, what's the point?
>>16969572
>It's definitely an orgasm because the vagina pulsates and muscles twitch and I feel relaxed afterwards.
How are your orgasms physically different from what other people describe?
>>16969646
My orgasms are not fine though they're not that pleasurable and they're not satisfying.
I do it to fall asleep easier because of the relaxation, and because of frustration.
I will never get to have as much pleasure as them, I'm missing out.
>>16969653
>they're not satisfying
What happens when/have you tried/is it possible for you to power through to orgasms 2,3,4,5, and so on? Stimulating the inside of your vagina?
>>16969550
>How do I make peace with the fact that I'm missing out on life's greatest pleasure?
Hardly anyone nowadays gets to crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their women.
>>16969651
Other people describe waves of pleasure going through them, I don't feel much pleasure at all.
>>16969653
Maybe you just need someone to yank on your hair, call you a good little princess that takes care of her daddy and sodomize you the next time you are getting off.
I mean it works for some of us.
>>16969659
I can go up to 4 orgasms in a row, but they don't feel better or anything
I've tried fingering myself in a come hither motion I even found the g-spot, but stimulating it doesn't do anything.
>>16969668
I've been choked before and spanked and all of that...I mean it's a mild turn on.
>>16969550
Have you ever had sex with someone you genuinely liked or even loved, who you thought was hot/sexy, who you trusted and felt comfortable with?
Because in my experience, sex gets a lot better once you check all those boxes.
>>16969664
>Other people describe waves of pleasure going through them
I would say that's technically inaccurate. I get waves of muscle spasms, pelvic contractions, and a feeling of release. I associate all that with pleasure, but that's a matter of interpretation, really.
I'm the same way, I wouldn't call my orgasms pleasurable. Sometimes relaxing or a little intense, but not pleasurable. Sometimes I only know I've climaxed because of the muscle contractions and ensuing wetness.
It's fucking annoying.
>>16969674
I haven't
But normal sex should at least feel a LITTLE good.
>>16969680
Maybe visit a sex therapist then.
That sounds like it sucks. You need to show that lazy-ass little vagina of yours who is boss.
>>16969675
Pelvic contractions? Do you mean like your hips thrusting?
>>16969688
>I haven't
>But normal sex should at least feel a LITTLE good.
Ding I think we found a weener. Try this OP.
>>16969692
yeah, and what feels like a big-ol' pulsating knot about three inches behind the base of my dick.
>>16969694
What do you mean try this? You have to be lucky to find someone you love who loves you back, it's not something you can just get.
>>16969697
>it's not something you can just get.
Oh...is this where I apologize for being a cisgendered priveledged good-looking white male?
>>16969696
That sounds disgusting.
>>16969550
See a doctor. You probably have porn induced sexual problems or your pituitary is underdeveloped.
>>16969703
Do you have any horrible, repressed sexual history?
I mean I guess it could sound disgusting, that's just a shot in the dark.
>>16969702
No, but talking about finding someone who likes you back like it's going to the supermarket is very strange.
If I had the opportunity to have sex with someone I love I would have by now.
>>16969703
>That sounds disgusting.
Have you seen what happens on the OUTSIDE of a boy when they cum? It makes what happens inside seem pretty tame.
>>16969705
No, I guess I was just reminded of a big knot of worms, you know when they all wrap around each other it's a big disgusting pulsating ball of worms, that's the image I got in my head.
>>16969710
What, cum?
I can swallow cum no problem, I don't see what the fuss is about.
Sometimes it does taste awful though.
And when they're really sweaty afterwards and they cuddle you, urgh, I'm getting shivers.
>>16969704
I don't know about the porn, but it could be that you have some hormonal issue.
>>16969550
by differentiating between pleasure and happiness.
there are people who do nothing but sit around all day and have orgasms and they lead miserable lives.
>>16969728
GOOD orgasms
I'm so tired of people not making a distinction, talking about orgasms like they're all equal.
>>16969730
there are people who do nothing but sit around all day and have good orgasms and they lead miserable lives.
pleasure =/= happiness.
orgasms = pleasure
orgasms =/= happiness
good orgasms still =/= happiness.
tickles are not happiness.
>>16969736
I'm not in search of happiness, I'm in search of pleasure.
>>16969741
your claim was that you were in search of advice
specifically
>How do I make peace with the fact that I'm missing out on life's greatest pleasure?
i answered that. by differentiating between pleasure and happiness. you can live one without the other.
if you want advice on how to find pleasure, than make a thread asking that. not how to deal with a lack of pleasure.
retard.
>>16969749
When there are no routes left to pleasure all that's left to do is deal with lack of pleasure, which is what I asked for advice with.
>>16969758
yes, which is why i suggested you differntiate between pleasure and happiness. because you can have happiness without pleasure.
>>16969765
You're missing the point, this has nothing much to do with happiness.
>>16969772
jesus you are one dumb cunt. good luck with that.
