I need to move and my girlfriend's roommate is moving out, so she suggested I move in. I thought about it for a while and after looking for other places and not finding anything I agreed that maybe it's worth a shot.
The problem is that it recently came out that she was expecting us to be sharing a bed when I was expecting to have her roommate's room.
Now things are a bit awkward since we obviously had different perceptions of the relationship.
Would it be a mistake to move in with her now?
>>16959363
Why wouldn't you share a bed?
>>16959364
This. I don't understand why you wouldn't have expected this
It would be a mistake to move in with her without having a talk with her first. Why don't you want to share a bed?
>>16959364
Some people can't co-sleep.
My girlfriend and I are having a similar discussion now (talking about getting an apartment with my best friend--who's really wants to get out of her current lease) and what we've resolved is we're getting a three bedroom no matter what, because while we do love each other and do think it'll work out, it just provides a sense of comfort for a what-if scenario. (We'd just use the extra bedroom as a spare/my office).
Have a talk with your girlfriend.
Nothing gets done if you don't have a discussion.
>>16959364
Mostly due to insomnia and that our work schedules are so different.
>>16959379
We had a thorough talk about it and she seemed understanding, but disappointed and embarrassed.
>>16959418
It's nice to have a space to be alone sometimes. I love her, but I love myself more.
