I must be ugly
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As a woman, I don't understand why guys don't approach me or try to seem interested. I am known to be very fashionable and put in plenty of effort to look good. Everyone says I'm pretty but it's hard to believe because I'm in my 20s and has never been intimate or in a relationship. People have responded it's because I may seem intimidating and shy. Do guys find it hard to approach a pretty girl? Am I ugly or just overthinking it?
>>16939312
How are we supposed to tell u if you're ugly without a picture?
Do you know how scary approaching girls is? Also, being rejected by an uggo or fattie is even worse and can destroy your self-esteem.
It could just be that you're vain. But I don't know you, so I'm unsure whether or not that's true...
Also, if you put most of your effort into your looks and are without a hobby, people are going to find you less interesting.
My advice: step outside of yourself, and turn your eye inward...do you like who you are as a person? Would you be friends with you?
>>16939312
Nice bait. There is only one thing women have to do get laid:
>exist.
Also, you probably have some orbiters that you do not even consider. So, how about fucking them. There, problem solved.
/thread.
>>16939312
If people say you look good your probably look at least okay, the problem is most likely you coming across as closed off or "mean" looking. Or it could be you live a lifestyle that seperates you from most guys,
No way for us to actually tell without a picture.
>>16939312
Post pic
>>16939361
Greatest advice
>>16939371
This is nonsense. Humans aren't animals, we don't just exist to be baby makers, if she wants a relationship it's more complicated than to fuck the beta that's been following you around.
>>16939489
OK, to rephrase, we do exist as baby makers, but as beings with a higher intelligence we get to choose whom we start a relationship with, its never this simple.
>>16939312
Because you're intimidating and shy?
Work on fixing that and ask a guy out instead.
Not gonna lie here, you sound a bit full of yourself. OP, I also enjoy putting effort into how I look. I like putting on make up and I like wearing cute clothes and shit but that's all face value. If you don't have some kind of engaging personality or qualities, you're just a good looking person. That's it.
>>16939548
>you're just a good looking person
>implying that isn't enough to get guys to talk to you
>>16940020
Yeah it's enough to get guys attention. But not enough to get one that actually wants a relationship instead of just a quick fuck.
>>16940038
Strongly disagree.
>>16940050
Yep
Even a dumbass will cling to a hot chick who does nothing but wipe her ass with him.
>>16939312
It's called modern feminism. Simply approaching a woman is now considered rape on most college campuses and can get you expelled. It isn't worth it.
Do you have dyed hair or problem glasses? Are you a member of any social justice groups? If so you're literally a toxic asset. Just adopt some cats now.
I am interested in seeing a picture of you. A girl who's a virgin in her 20s is very rare.
In Japan women complain about men never talking to them, I wonder if the same trend is beginning to pick up in America.
God, I know how you feel, only I'm a guy. I've always assumed that I'm ugly or something, but whenever I asked my friends or people I know, they always say that I am the last person that they would ever expect to have issues with girls.
At first, I didn't believe that they were honest, then I took molly with a bunch of people, including hot girls, and they said they same thing (molly is basically a truth serum).
Truthfully, it's because I am a pussy and when I know a girl is attracted to me, deep down inside, I refuse to believe it anyway because I am insecure. Basically, you have to reciprocate when someone shows even mild interest, or they get intimidated and insecure about themselves.
>>16939312
Maybe. Can't tell without seeing a picture first.
Third wave feminism has made it a crime to be masculine in public, and flirting is borderline sexual harassment.
Thank your dipshit "sisters"
>>16940459
The red pilled men are a very very small minority. If she's not getting approached by the occasional chad or even ugly beta, then there is DEFINITELY something wrong with her. She's either:
1) Too ugly but that's very unlikely. Women have it way too easy.
2) A delusional narcissistic cunt that thinks ugly men don't "count" and expects chads to marry her. It's probably this one and she probably made this thread for attention.
>>16940459
>equates masculinity with bothering strangers about how your penis feels
>throws cryfits on the internet that women don't enjoy it
Congratulations, you're part of the problem. Guys can thank "brothers" like you.
>>16940475
Jokes on you, I'm gay.
Enjoy your projection.
>>16940475
>equates masculinity with bothering strangers about how your penis feels
>throws cryfits on the internet that women don't enjoy it
>unless he's a 6'7'' 10/10 chad then it's totally awesome :^)
It's exactly this kind of behavior that so many men are sick of. If you don't like how we approach you, then approach us. If you actually had to deal with the kind of rejection the average male deals with, you'd either be driven to suicide or act exactly as smug as those guys on the street, because they know they're gonna get rejected anyway, so they might as well have some troll fun.
>>16940475
>thinks striking up a conversation involves talking about your dick.
Real life isn't tumblr you faggot
>>16939312
Nobody gives a fuck about how "fashionable" you are. You probably have a resting bitch face or something.
If no guys have ever talked to you:
You're mean.
You're fat and/or ugly. A pig in a fancy dress is still a pig.
You're not telling us that you're religious.
You're not white, get plenty of attention from men of your own race but reject all of them because you want a white guy.
You're tall for a woman and won't date a guy unless he's taller than you; limiting the pool to the tallest guys who are all already taken.
But that's not the case, you can't even leave the house without getting male attention. The real answer is you reject all the average guys because you only want a top-tier guy just like every other girl.
I'm a girl in my 20's that's never been asked out by anyone in person.
On the internet, however, is another story.
Using the internet to get dates has defintely changed my life.
>>16940877
I'm not the original poster.
But, I'm female, 23, and have never been in an intimate relationship with a guy. I've also never had sex.
I'm curious -- do you think you could be gay, OP? Or like, have you dated any women in the past? Are you self-conscious? I think that guys don't really pay attention to me or I give the vibes that I'm not interested because I'm pretty confused about my sexuality a lot of the time.
I hate labeling myself bi or anything. Because I don't think I'm very sexual in the first place. Maybe you're just the kind of person who is like me and you are looking for something very particular.
You should just be honest with yourself. What are you looking for? Are you really looking for sex? Are you looking to bond with somebody?
I think that your problem lies beyond your exterior. I think it's fine for a woman to be a virgin in her 20's, and it is not very unusual as you might assume.
Life is not like people present things around the internet and such. If you can manage to be a bit proactive yourself, you'll easily get people to open up, too. I am supposedly looking good too, and normally people will assume that someone attractive will get a lot of action already or be otherwise actually put off by it. My girlfriend said that when she first met me she found me intimidatingly handsome. Of course not everyone feels either or both those things, still: all the s/adv/irgins crying about women always getting millions of proposals illustrate the principle very well. "If she is so pretty, why bother?"
I never approach to a woman
>>16940910
how can you not know if you're a queer? are you so fucking retarded you lack the basic self awareness to look at your goddamn genitals?
>>16940887
You're a slut, and no one likes you
>>16940924
You know that's bullshit, girls can't be "too hot". If she was seriously smokin' then all the hot guys would be swarming around her, and the fat betas too but she'd be freindzoning them.
>>16940943
I beg to differ.
If no one liked me, no one would have fallen in love with me, but clearly I have had relationships and online dating works.
>>16940955
this
i lol hard at how many delusional guys there are on /adv/
>>16940935
Oh woah, lookie here, another homophobe.
Anyway, what do my genitals have anything to do with what you are saying? Like, I know what my sex is, obviously.
I think that a lot of people feel conflicted about their sexuality and don't want to wear it on their sleeves. I think that people that are clear cut and dry straight have it easier in the dating department, since they know what they want and society finds it acceptable.
I mean, if I was going to date a male, they'd have to be really accepting and open-minded. I'm just looking for something really particular is all I am saying if I were to consider a relationship.
I don't just put myself out there, which is maybe why the original poster is having her issues. Or it could be self-confidence, or a bit of both. It's the human condition, brother.
>>16940979
Just calling things as I see them. Only a retard would feel "confused" by something as straightforward as sexuality.
>>16941002
Sexuality is complex and fluid for the majority of people.
But yeah, keep being a jerk and you will continue to be lonely and as sad as you obviously are.
>>16941020
>makes a wall of text sobbing
>haha YOU are the lonely one haha TOLD
>can't even look at her fucking genitals to see what she likes
>hurr durr here's some statistics out of my ass
If your own sexuality is too hard for you process, I dread to wonder what ACTUAL complex things would be like for you.
You sound like a boring airhead. That's why nobody wants to date you.
>>16941040
k.
It just sounds like you're homophobic and can't accept the fact that people aren't as simple as you'd like them to be.
>>16941040
>>can't even look at her fucking genitals to see what she likes
what?
>>16939312
You probably keep on dreaming for that football billionaire player when some guys wanted to go out with you and you declined.
Climb out of you fucking cave and give normal people a chance you ass.
>am I ugly?
>no picture
Come on, sis
>>16940459
Good answer. That's why i have stopped recently. It's annoying having to be on edge, especially since they are my demographic
>>16941057
>b-but i'm such a special snowflake!
>you must be homololbic!
i'm bisexual you imbecile cunt
just fucking kill yourself, i'm dead serious
cunts like you not only give queers a bad rap with your "confused" special snowflake garbage, but you also vote for the government to take away our freedoms because you can't even think the simplest of things for yourself
23 years old and she doesn't even know if she likes men or women.......
just. fucking. kill. yourself.
>intimidating and shy
Those are pretty mutually exclusive traits. It's hard to be intimidated by someone timid.
Anyways you're hardly giving us a lot to work with. There are innumerable potential reasons. Maybe you're more standoffish than you think you are, maybe you're just boring. When you describe nothing substantial about yourself, it's impossible to give any significant input.
>>16940979
>Oh woah, lookie here, another homophobe.
Homophobia has nothing to do with what he said. If you're into men, women, or both you should be able to tell just by looking at them. It's pretty straightforward, it's only as complex as you want it to be.
Jesus christ go fuck a meat slicer.
I actually had this problem in high school. Once I got out a tonne of guys were like asking me out on dates, and said they were too afraid to in high school. So it's totally possible OP.
I'm actually average looking, but it was more so of my personality. It made me unapproachable. super quiet, kind of weird, didn't have many friends. But I was that nice intelligent girl that guys didn't have time for.
>>16941089
When did I ever say I was special for something so petty?
I do know that I like people. I have liked both men and women. However, I think I made it pretty clear that when it comes to dating, I feel conflicted about my sexuality because a lot of people refuse to understand.
People like you are quick to judge, and I wouldn't want to do with people like you. I think that when it comes to dating, I'm really particular and I don't just go out and put myself out there in public. It doesn't work that way for a lot of people.
Maybe you feel comfortable with defining your sexuality and wearing it on your sleeve, but a lot of people don't. Especially women. If I were to tell most men that I was "bisexual" like you like to refer yourself as, they would label me as promiscuous or label me as a SJW or a "special snowflake".
This is what I was talking about. You're just jumping to conclusions about me from the few things I have written.
And this thread isn't even about me -- I have no idea why you are targeting me. I think you rely too heavily on stupid labels to define who you are and get frustrated when people don't fit into your take on the World.
>>16941114
>they would label me as promiscuous or label me as a SJW or a "special snowflake".
You called him a homophobe because he said you were over complicating sexuality.
Seems pretty accurate m8
>>16941114
>When did I ever say I was special for something so petty?
>a lot of people refuse to understand
>I'm really particular
>stupid labels
>defining your sexuality
day of the rope can't come soon enough
>>16941135
kek
>>16941109
>Jesus christ go fuck a meat slicer.
>>16941135
>>16941161
>>16941149
>>16941140
>>16941135
>>16941123
>>16941109
ARE
>>16941183
YOU
>>16941202
KIDDING
>>16940453
> Molly is a truth serum
ahahahah
>>16941242
ME?
>>16941243
>>16941247
C - C - C - COMBO-BREAKER
>>16939312
>I am known to be very fashionable
As attractive as this is nothing intimidates me more than a seriously well dressed woman.
I mean sure sometimes I'll ball up and approach anyway but I will be mentally crapping myself the entire time.
It is 10/10 hotness though.
>>16939312
Well firstly you should probably ask yourself if you're actually putting yourself out there enough.
Second one is what sort of guys are you actually after.
Firstly most guys don't have the guts to approach girls on places like the streets, school, gym or library which is fine because not all the girls want to get constantly approached by strangers whenever they go out for business and actually have something to do. Due to this i'd probably recommend clubs, parties, the beach, parks and the like especially during times when people are celebrating new year or something.
If you're after the more introverted guys you might actually need to approach them yourself, give them enough hints since a lot of them are very shy and barely have any experience in women due to their small social circles. They hate bars, clubs and crowded places so for someone socially active they are a very bad choice but more fitting to the more reserved/nerdy girls.
Interesting thread
Bumping
>>16941002
You're straight and probably male, almost all of media and porn is created to cater to YOUR taste and tell YOUR experiences as the default. Not everyone else gets that cultural background growing up, grow some empathy and try thinking for once.
you are probably ugly. I´m an ugly chick in her 20´s so i know all about it. embrace it though, there is nothing you can do. focus on your career and try to make as much money as you can. the pain eventually goes away.
I always get nervous around pret girls so i tri 2 ignore my feels;-;
>>16942728
Ugly guys still ask out ugly girls
>>16942739
not really
>>16942739
maybe I´m just super ugly
>>16939329
This. Just gib people small hints to let em know you may be interested
>>16940429
With the whole mgtow movement and stuff like that, tbqh, they would actually desserve it
Where are the girls in this thread from?
Not trying to orbit, just curious.
>>16943211
I'm with this guy, I want a date too.
I don't get out of work til Friday tho.
>>16943211
from Venus or Feminiland
>>16943211
Virgin girl on the internet:
[ ] neet
[ ] obese
[ ] 15 years old
[ ] severe mental problems resulting in frequent hospitalization
[ ] high standards
check all that apply
