Alright /adv/. So there's this girl. I adore her. We've been friends for about a year, much closer friends these last 4 months or so. Near not a single day goes by we don't spend time together. Whenever we go out to eat she teases, asking me "Oh, are we going on a date?" We text every night. Just the other day when I'd gone to bed, she sent me this long sprawling text about how sweet she thinks I am, and how much she appreciates how often I think about her. She has a pet name for me. Sometimes we find excuses just to be near each other. Tonight we drove to the park at 2 in the morning and just laid in a field and talked
I want to be with her. And I'm 80% sure she feels the same
But she has a boyfriend. And not justs some guy, but a friend of mine. Someone I work with.
Help. Please.
You're probably just a friend to her. Because you're a friend of her boyfriend, you're 'safe', that's why she's so close to you and open with you
Date another girl, see if she gets jealous.
>>16933574
That's what I'd been assuming for the first few months. But there are things that make me feel otherwise and I'm just not sure. For one, whenever we're all together, she gets mad at him for trying to do 'boyfriend' stuff (Hug, hold her hand etc). Tells him to quit it. Though I can't be certain if it's because I'm around or just a 'in public' issue in general
But the bigger thing, whenever we're going somewhere with a larger group of friends and need to take two cars, He and I drive and she always, always chooses to ride with me, despite his occasional frustration with it. Honestly if not for that I think I'd have given up awhile ago
Or would you say something like that is normal?
>>16933560
1. Figure out if her and her partner are happy in the relationship. Get each of their perspectives.
2. Figure out how much you care. Weigh the friendship of both of these people VS how much you want this relationship.
3. Have some empathy. Try to think about things from the perspective of her and her bf.
4. If you've done the first three and still are considering trying for the relationship, then get her alone and say this:
"Hey anon, don't take this too seriously but how much do you like me, really? Like if things were different and you and anon2 weren't together, would you ever date me?" Try to play it off as non awkwardly as possible and respect her if she says no. Then change topics and forget the whole thing happened.
