Hey /adv/, I just need some advice on how to not fuck up an almost

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2016-03-14 08:14:18 Post No. 16914332
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Anonymous 2016-03-14 08:14:18 Post No. 16914332 [Report]

Hey /adv/, I just need some advice on how to not fuck up an almost 3 year LDR relationship.

We've been together for almost 3 years now with almost no issues, however, earlier this night she said she doesn't know whether or not she wants to break up with me. She claims to love me and doesn't want to hurt me, but she knows fully well breaking up with me would do the worst. (Not suicide, but, severe depression.)
I know it's because of my constant pestering about who she's talking to or what she's doing, but that was only because she just closed up. She was open about this kind of thing and now it's driven a wedge between us.

I've changed and I've gotten over asking her constantly what she's doing or who she's talking to, I've given her the time away she's wanted but.. I don't think it's going to change her mind. I believe she truly does want to end it with me.

I don't want to lose her, she's my best friend and I've done so much for her. I do want to live a long life with her, but now I don't know how she feels. I try to not message her but I get upset and guilty message her.

How can I not fuck this up so I don't lose the love of my life? I don't want to be a lonely prick and lose the best thing that has ever happened to me in my sad little life.

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Anonymous 2016-03-14 09:01:26 Post No.16914395
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Anonymous 2016-03-14 09:01:26 Post No.16914395 [Report]

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Any way of finally meeting up? Long distance relationships only work with the prospect of working towards meeting up and actually continuing the relationship together. Think to yourself, is there any possible way you could finally be together? Am I willing or prepared to make this happen? What will my future look like with her? And plenty of other questions like that. If your answer to most if not all of those are no, then break up is probably your best solution because it's a dead end relationship. If yes, pack your stuff and go (so to speak). Your call, anon.

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Walkabout (ID: !n3FNQs/sjw) 2016-03-14 09:12:26 Post No.16914414
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Walkabout (ID: !n3FNQs/sjw) 2016-03-14 09:12:26 Post No.16914414 [Report]

People change. Within three years, chances are she has changed as well. She is acting differently than she has before, which is more evidence that she has become a different person.

This doesn't necessarily end a relationship, but you did heavy damage by being controlling when she "closed up." You didn't accept her, and she mentally stepped away from you and realized she preferred it.

You can pull things back to being good, but it will take something drastic, and even then it may be too late.

Sad OP. I feel pity for you, but there are other women, it will just take you finding the next one.