Can't get it up?
Images are sometimes not shown due to bandwidth/network limitations. Refreshing the page usually helps.
You are currently reading a thread in /adv/ - Advice
You are currently reading a thread in /adv/ - Advice
To keep it short, I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for a few months now. The first times sex was great and there was no problem in it whatsoever.
But lately I can't seem to get it up, I feel like it's a 'head-thing'. You know, anxiety, stress, pressure. Need urgent help, it's really affecting my relationship..
Somebody got any idea how I can perform well again or just get these thoughts out of my head?
>>16899469
Stop masturbating and watch porn. No matter what the actual issue is this will fix 99% of them.
Add in cardio for that last 1%
>>16899469
Blue bombers.
>>16899476
Trying that, last time I did is some days back, having the next go on the weekend.
>>16899478
I'd rather not.
>>16899491
>last time I did is some days back
my sides. It takes a month to see any progress. Up to 3 months to fix the problem.
How long have you been together?
What do you think, why you get anxious NOW? usually it's more a problem untill you get comfortable around somebody. Has something changed? More stress? Diet? Exercise?
>>16899494
Well, it's not like I'm masturbating on a daily basis. Once a week maybe.
>>16899500
The last few weeks were exam time so I sure had some stress back there.
Stress should be gone by now, though. Still I don't feel as relaxed as I should.
It's like as soon as I wanna put the condom on I go limp (doing it without is no option at this point).
>>16899504
Why do you think that matters?
>>16899517
What does? Getting hard?
In my opinion (and as well as in hers, apparently) sex is an important part of a relationship. And it's straining since she thinks it's her fault for not being attractive and all, but that's not the issue. I get hard during foreplay, when she gives handjobs and all. It's just when it comes to inserting it.
>>16899469
STOP MASTURBATING
>>16899531
no the frequency of your fap sessions. 1 to 3 months
>>16899545
Oh, that. Guess I'll try waiting longer, then.
>>16899557
also cut out handjobs bro. A vagina doesnt feel like a hand.
>>16899508
Well, chances are that it WAS due to stress and now you have performance anxiety. If my bf would ecperience this i would try to take pressure off of him. My personal approach would be to keep sex free from being a "performance" or having expectations. I don't know how i would word it exactly, but i would suggest that we get physical nonetheless, but not necessarily with the intent of having PiV sex. Maybe i would make out with him, cuddle, and so on. I would also offer to give him massages. That way i could make him relax a bit more, i can touch his whole body without him feeling he needs to "perform". I would also try to have dinner with a glass of wine to make him loosen up a bit. Maybe you can do that with your gf too.
>>16899581
Sounds like a good suggestion, thanks!
>>16899469
>To keep it short, I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for a few months now. The first times sex was great and there was no problem in it whatsoever.
But lately I can't seem to get it up, I feel like it's a 'head-thing'.
It's not a b8ing problem, alcohol, foreplay, and time are your friend.
