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been thirsty so long I forgot how to drink Anonymous 2016-03-10 08:44:44 Post No. 16898651 [Report]

/adv/, I've been going through a dry spell, a severe one of a couple *years*, partly as a result of life-upheaval and several moves. Finally got my feet under me again and I have lived in the Bay Area for about a year. Problem is, I haven't found love, haven't even gotten laid, and I haven't even made much of an effort to.

I've had a couple OKC dates, but I wasn't feeling it with anybody. I had a crush or two at work, but the old "don't shit where you eat" advice squashed those in the bud. I feel like I've forgotten how to 'put myself out there' and meet women, flirt, all that kind of thing. I used to fall in love like every month, and those days seem very far away.

OKC has been very discouraging--not that I've been rejected/ignored more than anybody else, but more that I don't even feel interested in almost anybody on there. I feel like I'm too up in my own head after so long without having a relationship. What do /adv/?

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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:24:23 Post No.16898723
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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:24:23 Post No.16898723 [Report]

>>16898651
follow up on the work thing. where the fuck else are you gonna meet women and not be a pervert?

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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:27:33 Post No.16898727
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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:27:33 Post No.16898727 [Report]

Got any hobbies where you might meet people of the opposite gender?

Friends of friends?
Friends of family?

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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:36:33 Post No.16898744
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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:36:33 Post No.16898744 [Report]

>>16898723

Yeah, maybe. They're all too young for me there, though. My real crush has a fake ID, which stopped me dead in my tracks.

>>16898727

I do Pilates, which you'd think might be a good place to meet women, and there are plenty of hot fit women there (my age, too) but little conversation, and it feels sort of wrong to hit on people there.

I think it's not so much lack of ideas where to meet people as it is lack of motivation. It's not like I'm not lonely, but somehow I can't connect that with the motivation to get out and meet people. It's hard to explain.

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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:41:38 Post No.16898753
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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:41:38 Post No.16898753 [Report]

>>16898744
>but somehow I can't connect that with the motivation to get out and meet people. It's hard to explain.
Then don't. It'll come back as soon as you're ready. Relax and chill.

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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:57:07 Post No.16898787
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Anonymous 2016-03-10 09:57:07 Post No.16898787 [Report]

>>16898753

I'm afraid I'm going to get so used to being alone that I'll never get out there! And that it might be a red flag if I haven't been in a relationship/gotten laid in so long.

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Anonymous 2016-03-10 11:11:52 Post No.16898876
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Anonymous 2016-03-10 11:11:52 Post No.16898876 [Report]

>>16898787
So you're dealing with internal conflict of how you feel and what you want. The times they are a-changin'. Don't sweat it.