I have a strong fetish for femdom. I already told my girlfriend. Usually I'm not beta or something, strong, tall and fit body. Dominant in daily life situations. But I often ask my girlfriend to be my femdom in bed, whip me, milk me, etc.
I'm not sure if she really enjoys giving me pain but she said she likes to see my dick hard and edging it. Now I wonder if that probably damages our relationship in some way I don't understand? Also how can I convince her to be a bit more active as a femdom? Any way of making it more attractive for her? Thanks for the help.
>>16895710
She's gonna femdom her way out of your relatioship
>>16895717
Is that common in that case? I mean it is not like we have lots of normal sex.
Body worship, the cutesy Domme nick names like Princess/Queen/My moon and stars, learn to give massages/manis/pedis/do chores.
>>16895725
This could lead to serious problems. You should be able to handle your fetish in a more lighthearted manner. There should still be "normal sex". And i personally think that in a relationship "making love", as cheesy as it sounds, should happen from time to time too...
I'm into being a bit domintant im bed too, so i really don't mind that my bf likes to be submissive sometimes. But it would make me wonder if that would be all he ever wants. Honestly, i would feel like a sex toy more than a gf. Cause it would seem as if the acting out of your fetishes is the only thing that makes you want to sleep with me. I also need to feel like my bf wants to have sex with me because it is one of the most intimate things you can do with another person. That should also be loving from time to time...
The otger aspect that some guys fear when being submissive is that they will look emasculated infront of their gf. I can only speak for myself, but i have absolutely no prob with that. My bf is very manly in looks and personality. And i can imagine that it ia draining to always being in charge and strong. I think of it this way: me being dominant in bed is his save haven where he can let his guard down for a while and let somebody else lead.
I can't guarantee you that your gf has the same mindset, but i hope so.
If you want her to get into it a bit more, watch a ot of HIGH QUALITY femdom porn with her. She should also read up on the subject online and in books. It's also important that she feels powerfull and irressistible when doing a session. The way she dresses, Her make-up/hair, her body language, the environement, everything has an impact. Music is a big one for me too. There's music that get's me into the right mood quiet fast.
I was in the same place as your gf. My husband wanted me to be more dominant. It was kinda weird at first and I wasn't used to it, but I loved his reaction to it and that was fun.
I got more comfortable with it over time and now I legitimately enjoy it. If anything, it's made our relationship stronger, since our sex life is fantastic. As long as you make sure she's both comfortable and getting what she wants sexually, there's absolutely no harm in this. Good luck, OP, and happy sexing.
>>16895786
Great advices. Thanks a lot. This makes me understand it a bit more. We definitely have lots of "normal" sex where I am the dominant part and I really enjoy it as well. I have not thought about music and other impacts before.. going to test that out.
>>16895795
I can imagine my gf getting turned on by my reaction to it as well. I'm going to keep that in mind. I appreciate the help.
>>16895795
I can comfirm this. The one thing that makes me enjoy femdom the most is seeing (and hearing) how much my bf is loving it... Definitely don't hold back with showing your pleasure op!
>>16895815
Do you also have sex wherw neither one is "dominant or submissive"? Cause that's more what i was thinking off. Altought, you being a bit of a switch is DEFINITELY a big advantage. It keeps everything im balance and helps to make the whole thing not that stern and a bit playful.
>>16895827
Definitely. With dominant I just meant to chose position, speed, etc. .. just being the man.
>>16895824
Thanks, anon!
>>16895837
Sounds like you are on a good way! Have fun anon!
When we're at it: i watches some really good femdom vids and i can't find them anymore... Maybe you can help me out. The dominatrix is a very classical beautiful, redheaded woman. I'd say around 35. She does very "tastefull" high end porn. As it seems she must be quiet popular. I can remember one vid where she has a really young male slave. The set is inside what seems to be an abandoned factory. The slave is very unexperienced and she slowly eases him in. It's set in some easter european country... Pls anon, i want to watch her again. She's perfect!
>>16895862
Give me a minute. I think I know which video you mean.
>>16895862
Hm not sure if it is what you are searching for but google "Maitresse Madeline and Chris Hollander". She has red hair and that guy seems pretty young.
Tell her to call you a fuccboi
