How shameful would it be to lose ones virginity to an escort? Im 30 and have only had one 2 month relationship that involved everything but sex in my 20s.
Pretty average looking and most people think I am normal and not a virgin which is why I shy away or act uninterested around women (they are expecting more from a guy my age).
I think I have angered some women in the past because I would rather just act aloof and ignore their signals than admit my situation to them if we started dating.
Escorts are quasi legal here and there are lots of review sites that cater exclusively to my city.
>>16875565
Fucking an escort will not make you feel an better about yourself. It will not magically change your personality.
Buckle down and change yourself. Stop pushing women away, treat them like people or friends and shit gets a lot easier.
>>16875565
Sex is overated, and you don't need it to become a better person. If you have self esteem issues it is rooted in some other personal problem
>>16875565
It's not shameful, OP.
Dont be ashamed.
Just do it. Make sure to look for a "normal" Girl and not a crazy professional. It should be somewhat normal sex.
I understand that you are nervous, because you dont want a Girl to notice that it is your first time.
>>16875571
>>16875573
Its the fear and nervousness about the unknown (sex), and the fear of having to admit this to someone I would like to have a relationship with that makes me hold myself back.
>>16875580
>dont want a Girl to notice that it is your first time.
This, If I was a teenager or early 20s it would probably be no big deal.
>>16875565
I've worked as a prostitute, not on street, just had an ad up on the net and would have guys coming over to my place.
I think the creepiest experience I had was a guy who was scared of germs. He liked me because I only did massages, handjobs and oral (when I started I did the whole shabang except anal, but I was very young and tight down there so the rabbitfucking really hurt bad). So that guy would always put on rubber gloves and then play with my bellybutton. Fuck I was scared.
Anyway, nah, go for it, it will take pressure off of you, plus if you ask for tips, escorts will be honest.
>>16875601
Should I tell them about my situation during the planning phase or wait till we actually get together?
Do I need to bother with foreplay or can I just stick it in?
>>16875602
You don't have to, but it sure would make the escort less scared and more prone to give you tips. Like any person who works with people- you never tell the client your opinion unless asked.
Foreplay isn't as simple so maybe you might want to practice. If you choose so, definitely mention it to the escort beforehand, since many are against receiving oral. Also, if you choose to do it, definitely suggest to take a shower together- that is not unusual.
>>16875610
Im sure escorts are cleaner than some whore from a bar but Im not really interested in giving or receiving oral.
Maybe a bit of fondling and whatnot to get us going.
>>16875616
oh yeah, getting you hard is in the price lol, so caressing each other, groping, grinding, stripping. Then again, some are against kissing on the lips, I never understood why guys wanted to so much.
>>16875610
How much time should I book? Im hoping to nut atleast 3 times.
>>16875626
Then you have to ask if you can cum several times also. I allowed that and I think that was a big mistake, so more experienced escorts might not allow it, just ask.
I worked on hour regimen- 30min massage+30min blowjob, the fucking usually was 30min, they came, they cummed and they left, so, in other words, these guys were "professional" prostitute fuckers or something. You might not get hard right away due to nerves, or you might go soft right before cumming, it's normal for virgins, actually the two virgins (out of work) I've done both had the issue. So book an hour.
>>16875638
I figured the first round would be too short if I get past the nervousness and I do want to try different positions.
>>16875644
In that case, do tell you want to lose your V card, say you need an hour and ask if you can cum several times! Good luck to you and your little anon!
>>16875591
Are you actually in a relationship? I get the feeling that you aren't, because somebody that is really in one wouldn't be concerned about it unless they have lied about it.
>>16876057
Actually never mind what I said since it seems like you have already resolved to do this, so there is no convincing you
>>16875565
I'd pay a 100 for that one
>>16875565
does it matter? who do you plan to tell? literally no one ever has to know so what does it matter what kind of karmic shame you supposedly build up? is it any more shameful than just never having sex?
>>16875565
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I think I have angered some women in the past because I would rather just act aloof and ignore their signals than admit my situation to them if we started dating.
Why do you do that if it doesn't get you the results you want? And what "situation"? That you're a virgin? There's a lot worse things you can be.
