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>Brandon and frogposters
Fuck off
Old Thread: >>16868706
How long can a girl go without showering before it gets nasty down there?
>>16872570
If she remains still most of the day, a day.
If she moves around a lot, it can be earlier. (Please shower after exercise)
Shower twice a day (Morning, evening) and you're fine.
>>16872570
bruh, shit gets musky and sweaty down there in a day.
take a fucking shower.
>>16872570
Maybe a day. I shower every evening and wash armpits, face, feet and down there every morning, and no one ever complained.
Girls: does your VAGINA female gurl PENIS IN THERE feminity strong and independent vagina period gurl make-up?
>>16872596
Also, shopping?
Girls, how often do you masturbate? Ever in the shower? In bed?
What do you generally think about whilst doing it?
>>16872799
Twice a week.
In bed or on the couch.
I usually watch porn or sext with my boyfriend.
>>16872799
Multiple times a week usually. Yes in both shower and bed (bed is the norm for me). I think about my boyfriend and me doing lewd stuff.
>>16872828
To that end, what sort of porn do girls typically like?
>>16872518
What's between liking you as a friend and liking you as a boyfriend? What does that even mean?
>>16872799
Not often when I'm sexually active. I prefer using toys because I'm not very good at it. I look at /d/ until I'm squirming.
>>16872799
>removable shower head
>>16872799
Few times a week, depends on my mood and my menstrual cycle really.
Bed or bath/shower (showerhead/faucet, all that stuff) are pretty much the only places I do it.
I think about friends or just girls I find cute or ex-girlfriends. Rarely watch porn since most of it is sorta bad to me.
>>16872848
Pheromones, senpai.
>>16872848
attraction.
your criteria for a friend and your criteria for a romantic interest is going to differ. pretty simple senpai.
>>16872844
Anything goes really. Funnily enough I really like watching anal even though I'd never do it myself.
>>16872844
Heh, depends on the girl.
I got off to pretty much every sort of porn which didn't involve humiliation/pain.
My favourites tend to be anal and lesbian stuff, two things I'm not even really fond of in real life.
I hate porn with bimbos or bad acting. I don't like porn with non-white actors. Other than that, not huge problems.
>>16872865
What about them?
>>16872870
So what do I do now?
Do girls prefer shaved genitals?
>>16872877
>I hate porn with bimbos
based
>I don't like porn with non-white actors.
extra based
>>16872898
On myself, yes.
On guys, absolutely not. Trimmed pubes (still pretty long tho), shaved balls would be the best.
>>16872799
only a couple of times a week but I'm working on doing it more. Never in the shower, always in bed.
I think about HIM of course.
Girls or guys,
Today I noticed that the guy I'm dating is really nice to me but kind of...okay, not kind of, but completely and not at all in a small way, an asshole to other people when he thinks he's smarter than they are. The problem is that he knows he actually IS smarter than them, because he's got his PhD and dream job and all that bullshit. He is objectively above-average intelligence, and usually has quite good people skills. But it seems lately that he's starting to get impatient with "dumb" people more easily. Not mean or irritating dumb people, but innocent and sometimes nice and friendly dumb people. So I'm kind of torn. On one hand, he's kind to me and actually quite sweet and holy shit a giant spider is walking up my wall. But on the other hand, I care how other people feel and I feel bad when others do, because they don't deserve to be derided not being as quick as he is. I'm also worried about the tables possibly turning, because even though he currently treats me well, I would hate for him to start making fun of me for small dumb shit in a mean way rather than his usual joking way.
I don't know what to do. He's usually just fine, but sometimes it's like a switch gets turned on and he feels a need to point out every little thing that someone did or said wrong instead of moving on or letting it slide.
Should I stay with him to see where this goes, because he seems good to me and maybe he's just having a bad week, or is this a red flag?
>>16872912
Guy here. I would call this a red flag. Something like this never gets better, it can only go in the other direction. It sounds like treating others as inferior is deeply part of who he is.
Right now, he's not doing it to you because he's not taking it for granted. But one day, he probably will. Once he will start treating you like they, he will never stop. If that happens, it's time for you to leave.
>>16872912
I doubt that this is only a week-long phenomenon, even if it's only recently been bad enough for you to take notice. I suspect it's been a part of his personality which you've been picking up on for a long time.
I can sympathize with being frustrated toward truly dumb people. Though as you say, it's extending toward people who mean well but have dimmer wits about them. That's a dangerous path to walk down. I'm not a fan of telling people to break up because of "future crime" so as it stands you might just keep an eye on him. The fear, however, is that your emotional investment might become too big to easily abandon if you only see things get worse months or years from now. That's your risk to weigh.
Maybe ask the spider for some feedback too.
Fellow guys, and girls
so I went to Europe last year and had a ton of fun. Well now that I'm back in the US. I don't see American girls the same way anymore. It's like I'm not attracted to them anymore. I don't really know how to explain it. But I just have no interest in talking to girls here in the US. It's like the European girls were so gorgeous that it tainted American girls in my mind.
Has anyone else experienced this before?
>>16872907
4chan grills have surprisingly good taste. As far as porn and masturbation is concerned.
>>16872570
Does take about a day. If it's humid and hot and we're in restricting clothing, it can take only a couple hours outside for it to get musky and feel dirty.
To reduce this, wearing very light clothing and sleeping without underwear and in loose clothing does help.
>>16872799
1-6 times a week. Excluding the week of my period because it's just messy and I'm usually not in the mood unless I do it in the shower.
>>16872898
I prefer trimmed. Shaven is alright, but the prickly stubble hurts.
>>16872946
I've gone to different cities and realized most people in my hometown are assholes compared to other places. But it has not effected my dating life much.
>>16872907
>>16872947
First time I get compliments for my taste for porn. Thanks, anons.
>>16872927
>But one day, he probably will.
That's what I was thinking... thanks for your input. I do think that him seeing himself as smarter than everyone else is a part of some sort of identity he has created for himself, so it's part of who he is. And that's not good.
>>16872941
Yeah I think you're right, that it likely isn't just this week. I've known him for almost a year now and haven't seen him like this before, but then again, we hadn't been together until a couple months ago. I understand that he can get frustrated at other people, but these are people who mean well and not ones who are perpetually doing the same dumb shit. If it was someone who was being fucking retarded and doing the same shit over and over again, that would be reason to get mad and tell them off. He was a total dick to one of my friends today, who was, admittedly, taking a long time to understand something he should have already known, but it was almost shocking how snarky he got and later just flat out mean.
The spider actually climbed so fast I don't even know where he is now. It was a sizeable daddy longlegs.
I'm not sure if I've seen enough to break up with him now as a preventative measure, but I will be more aware and have my eyes more open.
>>16872955
>'ve gone to different cities and realized most people in my hometown are assholes compared to other places. But it has not effected my dating life much
like I literally don't find Americans attractive anymore. I made tinder last week and I swipe 99% of the girls left. I know I am not a 10/10 by any means, but for some reason, I just don't like girls here anymore
>>16872912
>Should I stay with him to see where this goes, because he seems good to me and maybe he's just having a bad week, or is this a red flag?
Sometimes there really are days/weeks when you just have zero patience. I know for a fact there were a couple weeks in the summer when I completely freaked my girlfriend out because I warned her from the start that I don't at all handle heat well, but when that heatwave hit, and I started getting super busy at work, it's like all semblance of my usually impenetrable patience evaporated, and I was just on edge all the time. (Put me in 20 degree weather and I'm cheerful and happy. Put me in 100 degree weather and I'm half-asleep and kind of grumpy--this has always been true since I was a kid.)
But, if there's nothing else going on his life and he's just selectively doing it... kind of a red flag. Tread carefully because who knows what'll happen once that new relationship sheen wears off.
>>16872972
and thank you for giving me hope that others like you exist. you would not believe how awful most of the girls i fuck with are, both in their porn tastes and otherwise. im sure its not an absolute indicator, but i think good taste in porn correlates to good in bed, compatible sex drive, and compatible personality
>>16872978
Could you post a specific example of this behavior? Like, what a dumb person did and his reaction to it. I'm really curious for some reason.
>>16872844
I feel like I may have bizarre porn tastes, but that is because I've never asked any other woman.
I like that fantasy hentai kinda stuff. Not actually because I want to have sex with an alien or demon, but it just kinda takes the idea of sub/dom stuff to a whole new level for me. I actually don't like doing much of that stuff in real life, but I like giant alien weird shit because the women look so fragile and innocent and dainty and that's how I like to feel when I'm having sex with someone. I want to feel tiny and cute while a manly man roughs me up a bit..
Second is college hazing lesbians. I guess I have bisexualish tendencies. I've been with women before, but I prefer men more. I just would love for some ridiculously cute girl my age to be forced to lick my vagina by some other cute girl my age... Isn't that what we all want?
And I pretty much switch off between these two things depending on my mood. Various other hentai stuff too. Generally involving some super cute young girl and a studdish/dominant guy in like a high school setting.
So... There's a fella I really dig, and I believe he feels the same way on his actions alone when we're together unless either one of us are having an off day. Well, he said that he would text me if I did, and I sent him one last weekend.. I playfully asked why he didn't reply today and he says that he didn't know he got it. I'm not sure if he's legit or really that distracted. Granted he had a busy weekend so he says.
I'm gonna text him after work, maybe around 3-30 - 4PM and see what happens...
My question is: Did I do wrong by asking him why didn't he reply? I didn't make a huge deal, I just nudged and asked with a playful smile.
I really want this to work, so.. Male and Female can answer this if they'd like,
>>16873035
The question was fine. He probably was serious about having missed the message (saw it and forgot, etc.). However I also have my doubts that he digs you as much as you dig him. I suspect that his actions toward you are positive but that you're reading an agenda into that positivity. There are plenty of reasons for someone to act nicely when around you which don't involve romantic and/or sexual interest.
>>16872985
I'm trying to think about something in particular causing him to be this way, but can't really think of anything... I definitely understand your heat example. I don't know. I don't want to offend him by asking him outright and directly, but maybe I should.
>>16872998
Well the event that happened that made me want to ask /adv/ was regarding my friend asking him for help. It's hard to explain the details of how the situation came up, but basically the guy I'm dating (S) offered to help my friend (C) with something, and when C took him up on it and came over to talk and understand how to do this particular thing that is in S's field of study, S treated him like shit. C asked for clarification on something that is pretty much foundation material, and S kept making a face and saying "obviously" in this strained tone of voice. So C tried to apologize and explain why he was asking this thing, and every time he said something, S would say things like "But that's wrong. Why are you even thinking about that? No, you shouldn't be doing that. Why. Why are you thinking that when you know it's wrong" and it became this back and forth, over and over again, and S wouldn't let it go. Maybe he thought C was making excuses, when really I could see C was just sort of getting scared and couldn't stop talking as a way of constantly apologizing but all he got in response was derision. And then after this constant back and forth, S finally said "o-KAYYY...?" and it just got quiet and they were staring at each other. Awkward silence. For SECONDS. This was with like 3 other people in the room, too. So to stop them I called C over pretending I needing to see one of his documents.
cont..
>>16873056
cont.
And so other people talked for a while, but then C had another question and started to say, "Should I just use words--" (obviously about to say "should I just use words as explanation, without using mathematical statements as proof, or are using equations necessary" and yes this is clearly what he was going to say, because it's something people ask all the time) and before he could even finish, S cut him off from "Should I use words--" to say, "Yeah, using words would be good. That sounds like a good idea" in this fast, bitchy voice. Like damn, wtf? At that point I had to outright call him on his bullshit, by saying "SOMEONE'S snarky today!" and it's like he then snapped out of it and was like "Oh. Right. Sorry. Yeah I should probably get out of snark mode when someone asks me questions...." and he became normal again. But C is such an innocent little guy. Maybe he just can't stand C, even though he has never said anything to me about not liking him. I don't know. It was very out of character for him to be like that, but a couple days ago he was really distant and kind of bitchy but more at life and general stuff, not at me, so I figured we were just tired.
>>16873056
>>16873068
This is probably not something you care for a stranger saying about your loved one, but I think you can probably do better than a boyfriend with the personality of a conceited android.
>>16872518
>meet a girl
>hang out
>hook up
>spend time together
>after a while, when she gains my trust, she starts asking me questions
>"anon why are you so moody sometimes? I know that you're hiding it from most people, but I want to get to know the real you"
>hahaha no man, there's nothing wrong with me don't worry it's just the weather
>"don't bullshit me anon. I can see it in your eyes, the way you speak to the other people. There is something bothering you"
>since I trust her I open up about depression and stuff and tell her how I feel
>tries to help me but doesn't realize I'm on therapy and a single person can't help me, not even a partner
>a week later
>"anon... we gotta talk"
>yeah, what is it?
>"I think it would be better for us to just stay friends"
EVERY FUCKING TIME.
Why? Why ask about my problems if you're not able to live with knowing them?
Am I an asshole if I'm dating someone where breaking up is an eventuality? I don't see myself marrying this woman but I do enjoy her company. I will eventually break up with her, this is a certainty, but I don't want to right now.
>>16873053
I was hoping the question was fine, I just don't want him to feel pressured when he sees my text like, "Oh hell, she's bugging me again..." even though he said it was fine, I just worry that he's being friendly - like you said - for the sake of being nice. That's what's keeping me from acting.
>>16873095
If you promise her you'll love her forever, yes.
If you're honest, no.
>>16873077
I'm starting to think the same... we haven't been together very long so it's not like either of us is in love (well not on my part, and I'm relatively sure not on his either). We get along so well when it's just the two of us or when my best friend is with us, though he does tend to leave her out of the conversation. When he's in a good mood, he's my favorite person to be around because he's so damn funny and very caring towards me. But now after seeing his ego out the way it has been these past few days, I'm starting to think maybe his place of "caring" comes from him trying to help a girl who has potential to reach his own level. He's never patronizing to me but I'm starting to think (from other unrelated things I didn't talk about in this thread) that he doesn't see me as an equal.
Yeah this is pretty bad. If this is him exiting the honeymoon phase and showing how he's really going to be, this shit isn't going to work.
>>16873097
But the only way to find out whether he's just being friendly is to act decisively. You have to make your feelings known to him. Yeah, it might get awkward if he's not interested. Welcome to adult situations. The only other alternative is some silly high school notion that just being around someone can actually make them like you when they otherwise wouldn't.
>gets me going
Fishnets, kneehigh socks, stockings
>get me worked up
Facesitting, female takes control
>gets me diamond hard
Being pissed on, period sex
At what point should I reveal the top three fetishes, the second two, and the final two? I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks, I already told her about kneehighs but don't want to come across as a weirdo by mentioning anything else too early.
>>16873090
because no one wants to deal with someone elses mental illness when we all have our own problems
>>16873108
A person can be great to you and still not be great for you.
>>16873090
Because they believe they are able to save you, and you already decided they won't (rightfully so, since you have a therapist for that, and bringing your problems into the relationship isn't going to help either you or the relationship).
Show very little of your problems, and very slowly, and hope it's going to be fine.
>>16873111
After you establish a regular and comfortable (as in, you're not still both paranoid about your bodies and such) sex life together. Then do it one at a time with a chance for her to also share hers in equal measure.
>>16873111
protip: most girls experience increased sex drive during menstruation, so that one you dont have to worry too much about that one as most will appreciate it
>>16873111
thats all pretty benign stuff, turbo-vanilla. nothing to be scared off with the exception of maybe period sex
>>16873111
After you have sex for a while and you're comfortable with it.
I prefer if my boyfriend gives me hints and not straight asks me to do certain things, it makes me feel a bit used.
So, like, I'd rather if you bought me a pair of kneehigh socks or sexy stockings instead of telling me to buy them and wear them. I'd rather if you encourage me to take control ("it was really sexy when you were on top, I really loved it"). Stuff like that.
>>16873127
being pissed on is not turbo-vanilla
Girls,
I have a friend I hooked up with and I'd like to be a better friend and talk to her more. We barely talked before hooking up but she's cool and gets me. How can I talk to her without leading her on? Or should I just not talk to her?
>>16873068
>>16873056
Thanks for typing that out. He sounds like a horrible teacher and has impatience with others regarding his field of expertise. Not saying he's a bad guy, but I doubt he's much of an overall genius outside his sphere of knowledge and maybe he needs someone like you to ground him a little. I have a PhD, too (philosophy and symbolic logic), but I'm still just a normal guy and I work with people who never attended college and can still respect them. Maybe get him to volunteer somewhere with you for a weekend.
>>16873114
That's true. I initially was overwhelmed by how great FOR me he seemed, because I'd never met anyone like him before who I got along with so easily in person, plus everything on paper was perfect, even to my parents' ridiculous standards. But I don't think the way he is is what I want in a relationship. I don't need someone with this same level of academic accomplishment and who gets all my dumb movie and vidya jokes. Even if he's very kind to me, there is clearly a lack of empathy with other people that has the potential to turn towards me if suddenly his illusion/perception of me changes.
Thanks anons. You've all been very helpful.
>>16873134
>Asking me if I'm comfortable doing certain stuff makes me feel used
Lol, wut?
>>16873142
>I don't need someone with this same level of academic accomplishment
To be fair, I don't think you were unreasonable in putting so much weight behind those qualities. I say that because you could just as readily find someone accomplished and intelligent who is also socially well-adjusted. That might sound like an unrealistic dream but, no, there really are just great people out there. It's really not that far fetched. Happy hunting.
>>16873157
this
i would terminate a relationship over this without hesitation. both parties must be comfortable making and taking requests of a sexual nature
>>16873157
lol wut?
Way to completely misconstrue a statement (presumably to fit some weird woman hating agenda)
she said
>I prefer subtle encouragements and hints. >Outright demands make me feel used.
She even gave examples.
>>16873157
>Lol, wut?
I wouldn't like if a guy I just started dating told me "You know what gets me off? X. You should do X". It feels like he's not there for me, but because I'm okay with doing X.
I prefer if he takes things slowly, if I end up doing X "naturally" or because he encouraged me in a certain direction without being extra straight forward.
This obviously in the first few months of a relationship. I've been with the same guy for years, if right now he told me "You know what really gets me off? X" I'd gladly do it, and feel fine with it, but he proved me he loves me.
>>16873141
You're right, he's definitely very good at a very specific field, and not one that I am strong in, which is why we seemed to be a good match for each other, because I have a ton of respect for what he does and how well he does it, but I myself have experiences and knowledge in other things which he is not so great at. The funny thing is, he took a traditional route of going to college then immediately getting his masters and PhD in a timely fashion, but I bounced around a lot as a young adult and worked odd jobs while going in and out of college trying to figure out what I wanted to do, and he doesn't treat me worse for it. I wonder why he thinks I'm a special case. He's very elitist when it comes to college education and which school people attended, even going so far as to diss a specific college in front of a group of our friends without knowing where any of them graduated (which turned out okay by sheer luck, but still, yikes). Maybe it's because I ended up graduating from a good university in the end and my family has ties with his alma mater to make up for how much of a fuck up I was when I was younger. I don't know, though. Sometimes I do wonder what is special about me to him that I am somehow exempt from his usual judgement. I don't ever want someone to pity me just because I've been through some tough shit earlier in life. I'm naturally suspicious though so that might just be my insecurity talking.
>>16873160
Thanks. I find it's getting harder to meet suitable people as I get older, but hope is a good thing :) Talking this out has really helped me put things into perspective.
>>16873169
>If you misunderstand something you hate women
What. The. Fuck.
>>16873170
Oh, sorry, I get it now. That makes sense.
>>16873176
It's 4chan. That is the reasonable assumption. Look at the boards.
>>16872799
Daily
Both
My crush, celebrities, etc in various scenarios. If I need to just rub one out real quick I'll watch porn
>>16872844
creampie compilation, public sex, femdom ( especially facesitting and humiliation), pregnancy/lactation
Women, when you have sex does the penis normally fit. Like length wise.
Ive never had sex where my penis fits in a girl. And Im only like 7x5 maybe 8x6 depending on the circumstances but is this the norm. Like with enough foreplay the width isnt an issue, I think. But I never go balls deep.
Why do women even want big dicks if they dont fit in them.
>>16873213
They're nice to look at but a pain to fuck.
I barely manage to go ball deep with a more "average" dick (6"x5"), and sometimes it hurts. 8"x6" would be terrifying.
Does having a crush ever make any of you sad? Like your crush gives you a not-so-great look and it ruins your whole day? What the fuck causes these feelings? It's really distracting and ruining my concentration on the shit I have to get done. What strategies do you all know that can help get rid of a crush? I can't stop thinking about all our interactions and how the next ones will go. I wonder what they will think of me if I do something in particular or say a certain thing. I can't ask them out because I'm in the process of trying to get my shit together, so I'm not ready for a relationship even though I have these feelings. How do I make it stop?
Help
>>16873287
You need more people in your life so your crush becomes less important. Basically having multiple smaller crushes are a lot easier to manage than one big one.
>>16873289
So, minimize the problem by acquiring more, smaller problems so the main one's enormity seems smaller in comparison? Hmm. That actually sounds like it might work, anon. But what do in the meantime, when I haven't found anyone else to replace them yet? It's like I can't concentrate. For a while it was making me a harder worker, in order to impress them, but now it's just flat out distracting.
>>16873138
Open to guy advice too if you've been in this situation
>>16873138
If she has a thing for you, there is literally nothing you can do that won't lead her on. Sorry, anon. But if you don't thinks he has feelings for you, then just talking and hanging out in a non-romantic way (group settings are good) are ways to develop a closer friendship. But again, if she's into you, you're fucked and are better to just leave her alone.
>>16873213
Men really are the ones obsessed with big (especially long) dicks. Aside from outlier size queens, the average girl means "just a bit above average" when she says "big".
>>16873328
Youve never heard women talk about penises. Its pretty brutal.
>>16873293
I am dealing with this exact same thing anon.
I've been working out a lot recently because for some reason she motivates me. But if she's not having a good day, it ruins my entire day.
>>16873333
I'm a woman with many female friends in my lifetime. I'm pretty convinced we aren't the minority.
AND even when it's catty bitches bragging about their "huuuuge like 9 inch bf", they usually have no spacial reasoning and he's truly 6.
>>16873293
Talk to people you find attractive. They don't even have to be your top picks, even mildly attractive, in fact the lowest attractiveness you can stand the better. I'm not even being facetious. You need people you /could/ care about, but not every moment of your life. All of their problems stop being yours because you can prioritize yourself over them. It sounds like mean advice, but it's to keep your emotions independent of someone else's.
When you have your new social circle then you can sort out the best fits for you.
I'm taking a qt asian grill out tomorrow night to a concert/ art show in the city. It's the first date and I need a hair cut. What kind of haircuts do girls like?
>went on a date, told the girl I like stockings
>she said she's never worn them, doesn't seem so interested
>she wore stockings on our second date, but I had to leave because my mother went to the hospital
I could have got some, couldn't've I?
Quick question for the ladies. Am I ugly? Rate pls be honest. Sorry for messy hair. I just got up from a nap
Inb4pooinloo
I'm dating my first gf, things are great.
Question for girls: the best way to introduce kinks? There's a laundry list of weird shit I want to do, have her wear or say, etc. How do you test the waters - during sex, after sex, in the middle of the day out of the blue?
Also does "if you let me do [somethings she doesn't want to], I'll let you do [something I don't like]" actually work or that just a TV thing
>>16873369
You look fine. If you seek rating only, please visit /soc/ instead. This board is for general advice.
>>16873366
It definitely means she likes you enough to do it for you. Whether or not you could have gotten laid is irrelevant. You had to leave.
Console yourself with the fact that she is more than willing to see you again. If she asks why you had to leave, and doesn't already know, be truthful with her.
>>16873357
One that compliments your facial structure. Ask your hairdresser about haircuts that will suit the shape of your head. They are trained in this, and if she can't tell, find a better hairdresser that can.
>>16873369
Not ugly. I don't normally like poo in loos but you're qt so quit attention whoring rajeesh
>>16873381
Just ask get what she wants to try in bed or what her fantasies are to test the waters. Then ask her if she has any fetishes. When she asks you roll out with the most easy to digest ones then slowly incorporate the crazy shit as time goes on.
That is the safest way to go about it but maybe not the best or most honest
So you know how some dudes like to be called Daddy during sex? Do women like it when they are called mommy during sex, or is that not cool?
>>16873401
Some do, some don't. I'd guess most don't but not all.
What causes girls to become attention whores?
>>16873401
Not cool unless we are doing a roleplay specific to that
>>16873369
No you're not ugly. You like fine. Despite the messiness, the haircut looks a bit weird though like it's supposed to be all at the top?
Lot of /soc/ r8 me's here today.
>>16873386
>>16873389
T-Thanks.
>>16873413
Probably a combination of all sorts of things. Genes (specific to them or maybe universal to humans), certain home and cultural environment, hormone production and exposure, individual experiences, ect.
In the end, it's just who they are.
>>16873413
Insecurity, mostly.
>>16873417
Top front. I should shorten my bangs.
>>16873422
If that's actually you....holy hell. Your body. Exactly my type. Would definitely fuck.
>>16873429
Yes that's me bb. Let's go out this weekend.
>>16873429
Are you male or female?
>>16873436
Can't. Have to study for midterms and pine over my crush who is a 3/10 at the very best. I clearly don't love myself.
I need out of the friendzone, I want to smash awesome chick I know.
I have been hanging out with this chick for a few months and I always grinding up on her, rubbing/bitting her ass when she's laying down. Everytime I get near her pussy with my tounge, she pushes me away like "uhh what are you doing dork" so i go back to rubbing her back..then.ass..then try agai ..no go.
I think she sees me as just a friend but i want to fuck her. When we are out in public,she's always letting me touch her like in a "im right behind you squeezing that ass,rubbing your waist" type of deal. I think she's just being a tease. How should I just tell her "look...I'm horny as fuck..let's do this!" I'm thinking next time,I hug her from behind, kiss and kneck and tell her "you know I want you, right?"
females of reddit:
Whats the way you prefer to be asked out, or what qualities make you attracted to someone when being asked out cold. i have about a million girls on my college campus that seem single, cool, and good looking but im not able to really approach any because half the time i dont even have class with them and when i do they are with friends so its too awkward.
So how to i walk up to girls im interested in, but have no previous relationship with, and initiate? same goes for online dating as well. there are a million girls with a million messaged from a ton of guys. how do i get you to respond? tell me what about other guys that have just asked you out made you say yes.
>>16873446
I have a question. Why am I being rejected? I might have approached 7 girls so far this semester and they all rejected me. Do you have any idea why? Does it have to do with my ethnicity?
>>16873442
Female. I love beefy gym rats but am currently suffering a crush on an ugly nerd in my major who makes me laugh but thinks he's too smart for me. He is one of the weirdest looking guys I've ever met but makes me feel all fluttery inside, and he's a lot more social than the LoL-addicted neckbeards in my major. I can't tell him how I feel because he's a TA in one of my classes.
>>16873455
Just straight up ask her to fuck. I don't understand how she's letting you bite her ass but not fuck you? What?
>>16873456
Asking out a girl you don't even know is creepy and likely won't even work if you're attractive, anon. It's weird. Why should they trust you?
>>16873460
Might be your ethnicity, if the only girls you're asking out are sheltered white girls who grew up with other sheltered white people, but is likely your personality is shit. No one with a body like that gets rejected unless there is something very clearly wrong with them. Or maybe you smell. Shower, use deodorant, and don't overdo the cologne. Preferably don't wear cologne at all, just deodorant.
>>16873467
I use old spice and I shower every morning after the gym before I go to campus. I also use a 5 star rated on Amazon cologne.
>>16873462
It's me from >>16873455
I should just tell her like "look,you obviously tell I want you..want fuck for a bit?" If she doesn't want to,should I go back to just playing with her body?
I remember she would tell me she hates when guys sc her dickpics and asks for nudes,but I'm starting to think that's b.s. she's a chuncky girl with like 30 cats. Nice tits..sexy lips..
>>16873481
Maybe too much cologne? Like I said, probably your personality then. You already know your body is A+, now work on your people skills.
>>16873483
If she says that she doesn't want to fuck, then ask her if you can keep touching her body the way you usually do and if she's alright with that. It might also be a good idea to ask her if she wants you to stop, because then she'll have to think about whether she wants your attention or not. If she says some bullshitty line like "Idk! I don't care either way!" then ask if that's a "yes" because you'd like to keep doing it.
Basically just make sure you have permission and go ahead...biting her ass or whatever it is you're doing. I have a feeling she actually enjoys your attention because otherwise she would have asked you to stop already.
>>16873490
What makes you think I have a shit personality? Are you being stereotypical that guys who work out are assholes? That's quite a prejudice you have there.
I like this bookworm girl. We can have fun conversations together, but sometimes she's not very talkative and I can't really think of anything to say. So we'd just sit together and read our books in silence. Feels comfy, but is it bad to do this most of the time? What should I do instead?
And yes, I asked her out a few times, went out once and got excuses the other times. Spare me the "move on" please, I'm not going to put in more effort there.
So tl;dr is quietly reading books together a decent way to bond? I don't know if I should fight the urge and think of something to say, or just enjoy the comfy together most of the time.
>>16873495
Give her a massage in one of those reading sessions together.
>>16873495
No, it's not. It's so obviously not. It's what people do when they have social issues.
You should go places and do things.
Why do some girls advertise their virginity with purity rings, tee shirts et cetera. Is it female on female slut shaming or are they actually whores who use it to get extra attention
>>16873494
I'm saying that if your looks are above average and you have good hygiene, yet 7 girls rejected you, the common factor is you, unless you were simply asking out girls who were way out of your league.
>>16873509
>it female on female slut shaming
>>16873512
No, they were pretty average. Assumptions on top of assumptions.
>>16873490
Me again with ass biting:
RIGHT?! I figured that if she did not like that at all, she would have told me to stop a long time ago. This happens everytime we are alone in my room and she's laying on my bed watching TV or anything. Last time, she was leaving because "it was getting to late" so i playfully pushed her bacl on my bed (so she's face up) and got on top of her and told her playfully "set some alarms,you don't have to go anywhere" then she was like "no dorkface I really have to go" pushing me off but with a smile.
Funny thing with this chick, one of my close fiends was cool with her and hung out alot with her but never attempted to do the things I do with her. He himself would tell me. So i guess I'm somewhat alpha lol
>>16873520
Dunno then, mate. Go ask them why they said no.
>>16873524
It probably turns her on that you're being alpha, initiating all the physical contact. I still feel like you should have a frank conversation with her about the sex though, because girls can string a guy along forever without being bothered by a lack of sex in a relationship. We have vibrators for that shit. If she really just wants to be a cocktease for the power trip (which is understandable), you're going to have to move on, and it's better to find out sooner than later. But again, I have a feeling she wants it.
>tfw no gf
Girls and boys, how did you met the love of your love?
It's been a year since my last (and first) girlfriend left me, and I haven't fall in love again. I had a few affairs, those were fun I guess, but In all this time I haven't met any girl that made me want to share things with, made me want to do things with, to hang out with more, to explore things with, etc...
I'm kind of concerned about this. Right now, I feel, I'm living a moment in my life in wich I'm stuck. I'm finishing a grade, but not the whole grade but a few subjects I have to pass in order to get the degree. All my classmates passed this subjects, so I'm going with a new class, but only 2 hours per week, so basically I rarely have time to talk with people. I'll be doing so until June.
In my social life, I've been broading my social circles, and getting to know closely the people I used to just know, and so far it's enjoyable and I feel I'm slowly becoming accepted and loved, yet at times I feel I'm just an outsider that gets invited to parties from time to time. Overall, I feel I have no social circle: Just a bunch of friends from various social circles that from time to time invite me to their parties (I get along very well with their friends) So most of the time I feel I don't belong there (Until I man up and just focus on having fun, then I really have fun and feel great)
So this clearly translates to my love life, because I rarely seem to have the chance to meet a new girl. How I'm going to meet that one girl that will love me for who I am, if I'm still in this "stuck" point of my life...?
It seriously concerns me, and I'll love to hear your stories about how you met your significant other.
My girlfriend was waiting by herself for her friend to meet her for coffee so I offered to call her on the phone for company. When her friend showed up, she really abruptly said "I have to hang up, bye," and like I understand that her friend was there but I felt kind of shorted, like unappreciated. I was like "okay, I love you, text me when you get home," and she was like "I love you, bye" and just hung up. Am I being petty here or overreacting? It's like you don't have to rush anywhere, just talk to me like a person and not like someone you don't want to be on the phone with. Is this worth bringing up to her?
>>16873543
>telling your girlfriend you love her
She's sucking Chad's cock mate. Wake up.
>>16873543
It would have been rude of her to keep talking on the phone as her friend stood there waiting for her to hang up. She needed to greet her friend. Maybe the friend was walking the wrong direction and your gf had to call her over? It's understandable that you felt bad, but I don't think it's worth bringing up to her because she was just trying to be polite to her friend. Also, do you seriously say "love you" every time you hang up with her on the phone? That seems a bit overkill, and I'm a girl.
>>16873532
Me again with ass biting :
Thank You sir for the advice. If you are ever in Houston,TX I will buy you a drink.
>>16873460
Personality. You look great.
But they can smell self hate and anger from a mile away, the first thing they say is they want "confidence"
What that even means and how to stop hating yourself I have no idea
>>16873552
I didn't ask her to continue to have a conversation with me, I just wanted her to be polite with me, her boyfriend, not some dude she doesn't want to talk to.
>Maybe the friend was walking the wrong direction and your gf had to call her over?
I actually know this is not true, she told me he was walking up to her.
And we do say I love you a lot, that's just how this relationship is I guess.
I'm upset but I don't want to be petty.
>>16873561
You would think having a fit body was a sign of self love.
I asked a girl out today, we have known each other a bit and hit it off quite well. She replied: Why not :)?. After that i told her the specific date i had in mind and she just replied that she probably has time. Is it just a bail-out clause for her, that she will most likely will bail out on me when the date comes or shouldnt i overthink it?
Girls whats your take on this?
>>16873541
I met him through mutual friends in school
>>16873577
It could go either way. She might actually have something she has to do (like a school project, if she's like me and waits until the last minute to start and then finds out she's fucked and should have started it earlier) but really wants to make the time for you, or, like you said, it could be an easy out. It's hard to tell without having seen her face when she said it. Don't overthink it, anon. If she blows you off and you try to reschedule and pulls the same shit, you'll know she wasn't worth it.
>>16872799
Can I hijack this, how long do you girls/guys usually masturbate for? Sometimes it takes me so long I just get frustrated and give up but on other days I can get off pretty quickly.
Girls
A girl asked for a picture of my butt. I've never taken a butt picture before. What is it you are looking for
>>16873741
>A girl asked for a picture of my butt
>WHAT COULD SHE POSSIBLY EXPECT FROM ME
Anon how high are you
For girls or guys with adequate social skills.
I just started uni in a new town and would like to make friends but I'm not sure where to start.
So far me and one of the other guys have really connected, he's shy and introverted like me so we work well together, I've spoken to some of the other guys and unfortunately they're all the loud, look at me type and they've all been orbiting these two girls every day (before this I hadn't ever seen "orbting" irl) so I'm not even going to try with them.
This sounds egotistical but so far I think I'm the smartest or one of the smartest people in the class, that or I'm just applying myself more, I'm constantly answering questions, doing all the public speaking during group assessments, lectures say they love me etc. I'm extremely anxious in social situations (like fighting a panic attack for the first 20 minutes after I walk in every day) but I find if I focus on the task it goes away so I do.
So to summarize I guess; Guys suck, a few girls have introduced themselves to me, most of which are new quirky personalities I've never dealt with before, how do I further our friendship which right now is based on study?
To all. How do I kiss a woman, she suck my lips and all I do is kiss her lips, I don't use tongue. Techniques or something to try? Thanks.
>>16873797
>I don't use tongue.
Well try doing that. Suck her tongue, bit her lip a little. Just make out with her and try things, it isn't hard. She'll let you know if she likes it or not.
Okay, women.
Seems to me that dating is sort of hit-and-miss. I've gotten rejected a lot, I assume because of my unkempt appearance and fat belly. People have also told me I come off as a jerk.
If I groom, get in shape, and make nice with everyone (I really do try to be a very nice man), will this improve my odds, or is it really a roll of the dice?
>>16873842
From your posts here, you do come off as a jerk. That fact that you even namefag at all is telling.
>>16873741
If she wants to see your butt, then she will have to do it in person. Don't send out nudes. You never know who else will see.
>>16873842
So you're fat, you don't take care of yourself, AND you're a dick, and wonder why dating is "hit and miss"?
>>16873830
Thanks.
>>16873857
>>16873847
Thank you.
I namefag because I'm really used to forums.
>>16873600
Guy; about twenty minutes depending on whether I want it to last a while or not.
>>16873894
No, like a minute.
captcha says tea. makes me click coffee. I am now disappointed.
>>16873900
Speak for yourself then.
>>16873876
Well stop it
>Question for the bros, from a bro
>Do you get somewhat emotional when some dies in a war movie
>Like dude saves his friend or someone gets shot up who was a main character
>Just wondering
>Tears of the sun and t.a.p.s make me emotional
>>16873906
Maybe? Feeling sad in a sad movie is natural but I never shed a tear or anything.
>>16873906
Band of Brothers oh my fucking god.
>>16873900
>A minute
lol, Speedy Gonzalez over here
>>16873905
Ever hear of a thing called money?
>>16873940
People pay you to namefag?
>>16873943
I'm saying I can be persuaded.
How long is too long to talk to a girl before asking her out? Does it matter?
>>16873947
Never mind please keep namefagging so I can filter you
>>16873906
Nigga I cry during Disney movies. I find it hilarious when guys act tough and refuse to show any emotion during sad scenes of movies. It reeks of insecurity. If you were truly confident you wouldn't give a shit what people think. And if you don't cry because you just "never think anything is sad" then you're a sociopath and that isn't cool either. If you think anyone is impressed by you being an emotionless broody edgelord, then you're autistic as fuck and already too far gone.
>>16873959
Dig it.
So I invited this female coworker out to lunch this weekend,I didn't phrase it directly as a date.
How do I determine of she thinks its a friendly hangout or a date?
we've never hung out together previously, just office chatter.
>>16873962
>If you supress bawling like a baby then you're an edgy sociopath
It's called having self respect.
I blubbered internally at the end of Toy Story 3, but I'm not gonna show it, come on.
>>16873906
>Do you get somewhat emotional when some dies in a war movie
Not generally. That's not to say other movies don't provoke emotions though, e.g. Irreversible.
>>16873462
>currently suffering a crush on an ugly nerd in my major who makes me laugh but thinks he's too smart for me. He is one of the weirdest looking guys I've ever met but makes me feel all fluttery inside, and he's a lot more social than the LoL-addicted neckbeards in my major.
It almost sounds like you're angry that you like him.
>>16873962
I don't know how crying during a movie has anything to do with self-respect. It's not like you're eating out a guy's asshole. But hey you bottle that shit up. Do you bottle up your emotions in other scenarios? That shit isn't healthy man.
>>16873970
Ok, dude, I have no advice but an anecdote.
I had a class with a girl.
Worked up the courage to ask her out for coffee.
I thought it was in the bag.
We talk for literally 3 hours.
It's great.
Turns out she had a boyfriend.
Fuck me.
All I'm saying is make it clear
>>16874008
thanks, I'm 90% certain she is single, she's mentioned repeatedly how she stays home with her pets most night, after she posted a pick of snap with her and a guy she sent me a 3 paragraph message about how she hung out with her brother the night before. whch seemed really out of pace until I saw the snap.
I mean shes had chance to mention a BF and had asked me indirectly if I was single
>>16874032
Sounds like you're in the clear.
Go for it.
The next time you meet, explicitly ask her on a date.
>>16874039
Now that the asking out anxiety is passing and I can think clearer I'll treat our lunch as a informal get to know her better and if it goes OK ask her on a date directly.
Treat it as a test drive
>>16874053
You betcha.
If she likes you, she likes you.
M/F;
it is it considered cowardice if i avoid seeing someone because they hurt me emotionally? i just want this person to worry about me and my well-being by not showing up in the group of friends.... plus, i may be running a fever so it'll most likely work out in my favor.
i ask this because right now i want to yell at him for leading me on for months only to suddenly say "oh ur sweet but i am spoken for" when i bring it up after he said earlier today how he "needed to find a good woman" ...
>standard deal breakers for women
- he has no job
- he lives with his parents
- he's short
- he has no car
Of these, which is the worst/which is the least likely I can make up for with other aspects?
>own my own company making $90,000 a year at 25 years old
>6'0, 180lbs, fit (ottermode)
>have my own apartment with expensive furnishings
>don't have a car because my office is 5min walk away, post office is 10min walk away, I live 5min from the main strip in my city with access to restaurants, grocers, entertainment, bars, etc
>not once in the last five years have I thought "man, this'd be so much more convenient if I had a car"
>only looking to date people close to me anyways
Am I a lost cause?
>>16874121
A car is something of a statement these days, but unless you're after any ultra rare /o/ girls you should be alright. Wealth alone should catch their attention; as should being a nice person.
girls who have casual sex, could you not always let the most charming, attractive guy get in your pants? Cause he does it often, he's very good at it and he's getting laid 10 times more often than other guys.
thanks
>>16874199
>wanting golddiggers
in this day and age, women often get paid nearly as much as men. if she expects you to cover all her expenses, youre just her little manslave
I ran into this girl I met in one my classes a year ago and managed to arrange a coffee meetup with her. Thing is, back then I noticed she had a crush on me, and I also had a crush on her but never did anything because I was too anxious.
This is my first "date", so any tips to follow?
>>16874209
Don't blame yourself if it doesnt work out. She has just as much control over whether you date or not as you do. Sometimes, there's just no convincing another person you would be good together, but it might be because that person cant see it, not necessarily because you weren't convincing enough.
>>16874205
It shows you work hard and are dedicated; she might not want your money, just appreciate you have the capacity to aquire it.
I want to send a message to my friend who's currently living in an out of state dorm.
Problem is, I feel like it's awkward.
Here's my situation. We used to have feelings for each other and it really went no where because I never did anything about it. But now I just want to talk to her and have a conversation but I feel like it might be weird. Our last conversation was like a couple months ago, and I was on kinda drunk (lol) and it ended suddenly cus I said something weird and she said she was going to sleep. It wasn't weird weird, it was just so awkward.
Anyways, should j do it?
>>16874226
Then why do bums seem to have more relationships? Hard working people dont have time for that shit. Relationships are a hedonistic pursuit 90% of the time.
Does it mean anything when a girl won't stop talking about a new guy she's seeing?
>>16874121
>>16874243
It means she hates his guts and wants your dick so badly instead.
asking again from last thread
How do I politely ask a girl if she is married? She has a military ID and a hyphenated name
Too weird to ask "hey are you married" because we already spent the night together
>>16874241
You wot
>>16874262
I knew it!
>>16874267
Did you ever consider that her father just took her mothers name?
>>16874273
Yes. Do you pay attention to the world around you?
>>16874295
You're joking. Surely.
>>16874289
woudlnt explain the military ID. She doesnt live on the nearby base and neither does her family
>taking large lecture class that breaks into sections on Fridays
>talked with a girl (who's in my section) a couple times after the large lecture classes
>when we talked this past Tuesday she said she had a pastry class later
>I said something like "oh we should get coffee and pastries sometime"
>after a pause she said "yeah" and when I looked over at her she was smiling
>when we went different directions she asked if I'd see her today (Thursday)
>didn't talk to her today/didn't really get a chance to
>want to get her number tomorrow after class, but she usually takes forever to leave the classroom
How should I handle this? We're breaking into groups of three tomorrow and I won't be in her group so it'll probably be difficult to talk to her during class or sit next to her. Should I just put my stuff in my backpack extremely slowly when class ends? I don't really want to talk to her right when class ends because it's a tiny room and everyone will be listening.
>>16874297
I'm not. Here's an example.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2415087/Harvard-University-Survey-finds-65-cent-universitys-freshman-class-virgins.html
>>16874116
>i just want this person to worry about me and my well-being by not showing up in the group of friends
He's a dick, but you're being childish as hell... Plus he probably won't give a fuck either way.
>>16874201
>girls who have casual sex, could you not always let the most charming, attractive guy get in your pants?
Rofl. I'm a dude but come on man. 'Sif if you had the choice of sleeping with a 400 lb woman or a super model/hot actress, you wouldn't choose the hot one every single time.
>>16874229
>I want to send a message to my friend who's currently living in an out of state dorm.
Depends on why.
If you just want to say what's up for the sake of what's up (which you're not making it sound like), go for it.
If you just want to get in her pants/have feels for her, that means you're just doing this because you're desperate, and that shit will be immediately evident in your conversation, and it'll just be cringeworthy as hell and not only make things awkward as hell for her, but make you feel like shit afterwards.
>>16874307
Phew, relieved. For a moment I thought you were actually serious.
>>16874304
You could just wait outside the classroom for her.
>>16874304
Wait for her outside or something, it's okay, just don't stand there for two hours, if it's a short while just wait and be like, "So, about that coffee, you free [whenever]", if she says yes, get her number.
Girls, what's the most amount of orgasms you've had during sex? Or when masturbating? And how long do you normally masturbate for?
>>16874315
>>16874316
Hmm, alright. I was thinking I'd do that too. I guess I should just pretend to mess around with my phone while I wait? Courting/dating is so annoying ugh
>>16874267
Maybe not jump straight into asking if shes married, but ask her why her name is hyphenated. Could be parents as the other guy mentioned, some weirdo open marriage thing, hard to say.
>>16874328
Not really, like I said, if it's a short while it really is ok.
You don't have to disguise your every move, you waited to talk to her, and that's fine if she know it.
Protip: She probably liked your comment about coffee because you made your intentions clear, guys nowadays are too much of a pussy.
>>16874328
Forget the phone crap. The only person who cares about that is you.
>>16874341
Awesome, thanks Anon. Tomorrow will be the first sections class I've had with her since suggesting coffee so maybe she'll leave class a little quicker.
When we talked on Tuesday I asked how her weekend went and she said she mostly just worked. Seems like she doesn't have a bf or anything like that. She's a transfer student like me so that probably doesn't hurt either.
>>16872518
To the female sluts out there. How do I get you. What exactly does a guy need to do to get you. Say a bar.
I always see taking a girl out to coffee as a suggestion on college campuses that make it clear that it's a date, but I don't like coffee. Should I take a girl out to coffee anyway and try to stomach it or order a pastry or something?
>>16874397
You could get a latte. Or you could get tea, most coffee places also have tea. Just don't get chamomile or anything like that. Earl Grey or green tea or something else earthy/non-flowery.
Girls: When do you feel is appropriate to talk about dating?
I took a girl out on a coffee date last Sunday and we've been hanging out and talking pretty frequently since then. This week was busy due it being the last week before Spring Break so midterms and whatnot but I'm asking her out again after the break. Not sure how/when to bring up the subject of dating
Just the thread I was looking for and luckily it was on the first page as the first post.
Girls: How do I become the man with whom women will want a committed, monogamous, lifelong relationship? I'm the guy who can get laid but can't keep anyone. I can get the first date but an engagement/marriage seems illusory let alone a girlfriend. I know it could be for any variety of reasons. Woman want someone who's financially independent, done with their education, and living on their own. I'm almost there. Also, I know maturity and not being stuck go a long way. Any help or advice appreciated. I'd really rather prefer to have a spouse with a family some day as opposed to dying alone, possibly bitter.
>>16874404
I would never order a latte, but tea is probably a good idea. Would there be a problem with tea being too feminine?
I'm not physically attractive, 5-7 depending on who you ask, lower with clothes off because of bad skin, but want to sleep around with attractive girls.
How do I do this?
>>16874422
I think it would depend on the girl. IMO, black and green teas aren't feminine. Plus I think tea has shifted away from being feminine to being more 'alternative.'
The girl would probably find you drinking tea more masculine than you drinking a latte like whiskey lol.
Well it's official, i blew my chance with her, how do i get over her?
>>16874483
Find another one(s).
Stop putting all your eggs in one basket.
what should i do about my small penis
>>16874498
Get abs and over compensate by owning a large truck
Is it good to tell a person that you have feelings for them or just let your actions speak for themselves?
>>16874418
Thats really hard to answer without knowing you
>>16874506
If you're ALREADY close, it can be nice to hear. But actions speak louder than words. Especially when you're dealing with virtual strangers.
Don't spill spaghetti to people you're not in a relationship with.
>>16874525
Not a virtual stranger, she's a classmate and we've been doing stuff together (going to the movies, coffee, etc) for quite a while, I'm obviously interested in her but I don't know how to let her know. What do?
females:
are you capable of fucking a guy without becoming attached?
if you say youre not emotionally available right now due to a recent breakup, should i take this as a sign that you will never be interested in a real relationship?
why is it that when im not interested in a female romantically her interest grows, but if i show that my intentions are to date a female after fucking her, she almost immediately loses interest?
Girls, lets say a complete stranger walks up to you, which would be the less creepy way to aproach a woman? How would you react? And which is a nice ice breaker? Please help me, I'm a social retard with new people when I'm not drunk
>>16874443
>Plus I think tea has shifted away from being feminine to being more 'alternative.'
Since when was it considered feminine to begin with?
>>16874508
That's fair. Maybe I'll have to look within and find out for myself.
>>16874121
Height is probably the biggest deal breaker for women just because you can't change that. You can get a better job, you can buy a car, you can work out, you can live an interesting life; but if you're 25 and 5'8", you can't really grow any taller.
Granted, you're 6'0" which is a safe "tall" status for women
>>16874559
I'm not capable of separating sex from emotional bonding
>>16874327
I've not had sex yet so I can't answer that, but during a masturbation session I've gone for over 10 times. I have no idea how long it lasted because I lose track of time and then usually fall asleep. Probably more than an hour.
Two for femanons
Has a guy ever pursued you and you showed disinterest for whatever reason, only to find a few years down the road he's more successful and attractive? How did you feel? How would you feel if he got back into contact with you?
Also, why is it you get into sustained relationships with shitbags, bitch about your life situation, and then get pissed about being told you're being held down by your shitbag boyfriend?
>>16874267
My last name is hyphenated because my mom wanted to keep her maiden name, so us kids got both.
Women. Assuming you have little to no experience with firearms, how willing would you be to go to the range with your SO if he invited you, assuming he had a vested interested in the hobby?
>>16874672
They're generally interested in shooting with you if they're into you in my experience, however, it depends from girl to girl really.
>>16874672
I've never held a gun in my life aside from an non-functional antique my grandfather had. I wouldn't mind going once or twice to try it. I couldn't guarantee I'd like it, but I'd try it. I don't see it any different that trying archery, which I also have.
>>16874672
I'd love to. I know nothing about guns and would probably be horrible, but I think it's good to learn proper firearm use and safety.
>>16874682
>I don't see it any different that trying archery
I think the biggest thing in my experience is people get startled by the noise and recoil.
I remember some girl panicked after she fired and dropped the rifle. That was an experience.
>>16874662
Literally never.
>>16872570
If you change undies everyday and don't do anything you can go two days.
>>16872799
I don't anymore.
>>16872898
No, I like waxed better.
>>16873095
Yes
>>16873138
Lay down the law right away and tell her the truth.
>>16873213
The cervix is a sensitive thing that you can't ram away at.
>>16873366
no she was seeing if you would react.
>>16873369
yes
>>16873401
That's my fetish
>>16873741
I look for bubble butts and butt holes to peg.
>>16874564
Face her in direction she is looking at and speak nice words about her.
>>16874662
>>16874686
Yeah literally that doesn't happen ever in real life.
Most of them turn into shitheads and try to harass you while you're doing better without their stupidity.
Girls
What defines a good male butt? A girl asked for a picture of my butt, but I honestly don't know if my butt is good or not. So I haven't sent it to her.
What is it you like about guys butts?
>>16874711
Shapely, firm, somewhat muscular.
Would a girl lose interest if I hold off on asking her out too long?
Basically
>have to do group presentation in a class
>get in a group with this qt
>seems like we're hitting it well enough
>presentation is in a month
I was thinking of holding off on asking her to do something until at the least the day of the presentation so that if its a no, shit wont get weird in the group and that we can finish the presentation thing without any issues. On the other hand, I feel like waiting is just going to make her lose any interest if she has any, and that its better to just go for it. What do?
>>16874711
As long as it's not flat, it's probably a good butt.
>>16874672
Would do. Probably best to scope out her views on guns before asking if she wants to go to the range, though.
>>16874662
I've never rejected someone and then felt regret because he got attractive later. The real quality that a guy has to have for me to date him is that he has to smell good, and if he doesn't have that, he never will.
>>16874564
It's less creepy if you talk to her in a place where people usually socialize, as opposed to just talking to some girl on the street.
>>16874559
I think I can have sex without becoming attached, but I don't think I need to try it.
>>16874506
Better to just ask them on a date, and if you're past that, actions speak louder than words.
>>16874423
Get money.
>>16874418
Be stable in mind and in finances. Don't feel like you need to put on an act to impress anyone. Don't be a jerk. Be kind to your mother.
>>16874406
You're already "dating." If you mean relationship/exclusivity, generally after four or five dates is the right time.
>>16874397
Coffee shops often have tea, and depending on where you go, non-coffee beverages. You're not a bitch for just ordering a pastry.
>>16874739
How do you actually find attractive golddiggers who don't already have a ton of STDs, though? I'm a young guy who is also pretty mediocre looking but I make almost $200k and would love to have some fun with a few bimbos. Just not a prostitute or an escort. Should I just flash my wealth around college campuses until a girl flirts with me?
Man here.
I have this sinking feeling that my current girlfriend is cheating, but I refuse to invade her privacy because 'scruples' . What do?
More info: we've been dating a year, living together ~9 months, no fights, no problems that I know of, opposite shifts currently but that's newish. About a month ago she started acting more distant, wanting to do less things together, wanting sex less (2-3 times per day down to 5-6 per week), canceling dates (sometimes when we were sitting right in front of the restaurant, but that could have easily been her social anxiety).
Recently she was picking me up from work and had to give a (male) friend who I hadn't heard of a ride home, she dropped me off, left with him to wait for the towtruck then stayed the night at her godfather's place (supposedly), now she keeps her phone on her and on vibrate constantly (both very out of the ordinary for her) and has been 'staying at her mother' s', a lot lately(3 times this week) for various reasons.
>>16874768
Oh and I forgot to mention she's been having a ton of trouble with her job, like she just got demoted (for no specific reason) kind of trouble
>>16874738
I think you have it right. Making it weird amidst working on a project sounds like a bad idea.
It's not like you'll lose contact, you'll have to interact with her for the month before the project anyway. Maybe flirt subtly and try to maintain the spark, but don't take the plunge until after the project is done.
>>16874768
"Are you cheating on me?"
Her reaction should tell you all you need to know.
This probably isn't the right place to ask, but when is the right time to tell a guy you're dating about your history of abuse? I'd like advice from both guys and girls.
I've been dating a guy for a bit over a month and we were friends for a semester before that. We're both seniors in college. I don't tell many people about the emotional abuse my parents put me through (particularly my mother) and the things they said and did to me as a kid that still affect me today. Only two of my closest friends know about what I went through when I was younger, and they were both shocked by it and one of them treated me differently for a while after I told her because she said she didn't know how to act around me any more because it apparently "explained" a lot about me and she couldn't stop thinking about some of the things I told her when I would just be making offhand remarks about mundane shit during the day, so it was awkward for a while trying to convince her not to coddle me.
Basically, I don't know how to tell someone who I haven't known for very long about my past. It's not physical or sexual abuse, but basically my parents were verbally and emotionally abusive to me as a kid in kind of fucked up ways that really screwed me up and I don't really know how or when to tell my boyfriend. I feel like not telling him is hiding it, and I don't want to be dishonest. I haven't known him for a very long time, but I do feel very close to him and know he cares about me. But I don't want to ruin anything by scaring him off with how messed up I am.
I'm sorry I'm rambling. I pulled an all-nighter yesterday and should probably sleep. But I'd like any advice anyone can give me.
So I met this girl through a friend last year. I was interested and we started chatting and saw each other at parties our friend invited us to. She ended up saying to my friend that i was too nice and I dropped the whole thing and moved on.
Last time I saw her was on her birthday where our mutual friend asked me to come to the bar for other reasons.
The girl's best friend kept insisting that i wish a happy birthday to the girl , that it would make her happy. but I was busy and frankly didn't care.
Fast forward to yesterday. I receive a tinder match followed by a message from her asking how I've been. We talked all evening and since she couldn't come to the party I was at (she changed her behavior and isn't going out all the time anymore in order to study more and not fail this time.) she agreed to say tes to my next proposai.
My friends say she probably changed her mind about me. What do you think?
>>16874837
Just fuck her and find out
>>16874840
Any ideas on what to propose now? I admit I'm a social retard with these things.
>>16874806
>This probably isn't the right place to ask, but when is the right time to tell a guy you're dating about your history of abuse?
Tough one, I think it's more of a matter of where your relationship is at rather than some given time period. I'm assuming you havent introduced him to your parents, I think it might be worth talking about it if he wants to meet them. Explain why you'd rather not and all that.
To everyone whos had mono. Would you tell you partner or the person you are kissing. Herpes as well.
If not why wouldnt you.
>>16874806
I've cared about two women who've had histories of abuse. One of them is my girlfriend.
We had kind of a whirl wind start. Our first date went epicly well, we were a couple by our third date. And took our first thousand mile trip two weeks after we became a couple. Next week will be a year that we've been together.
All of this is completely irregular to both of us, but we just got swept up by the pace of everything, but everything has always felt natural and easy with us (even the few times we've had minor arguments),
I think it was our second date she started to tell me about her past. I had unthinkingly put my hand around her back while we were walking and she immediately jerked away. I apologized and she said it was ok. As we were walked back to the car she took a deep breath and stopped me and said, "Hey... There's something I kind of want to tell you because I don't want to hide it and think there might be something here, so you deserve to know.. I'm not ashamed or anything, but I really really hope this doesn't scare you away. I was raped and abused by a family member growing up. I still have a few triggers sometimes with people touching me, which is why I jerked away, but I've done therapy and while I don't advertise it to everyone, I'm mostly over it. I'm sorry if this is too much for you, and if it is, that really really sucks but I understand"
I just told her, "Thank you for choosing to share something so personal with me.".
Over the last year I've picked up more and more details (like that it was her dad, and that he physically tortured her as well) and there are a few times she's wanted to tell me more, but holds back because she just doesn't want to re-live it, and I completely under stand that. All through it I've supported her though, because I really do love her and think she's a pretty strong person.
If you want to tell your boyfriend, do it only when you're comfortable, and at your own pace.
>>16874851
Mono goes away after a few months.
But if I had some contagious diseases of course I would mention it if it crossed my mind.
>>16874851
>>16874856
Mono is still contagious just like herpes. Just not as contagious. Your chances to spread it lower to 1/5 of what it was after you recover.
Question for guys
What do you consider 'too many' partners for a girl to have had before meeting you, assuming you are romantically invested in one another.
Been having sex with a guy once a week as we both have different work schedules and travel a lot. We both agreed that we don't want a relationship or any attachment, but we prefer having regular sex with just one person as it's more satisfying and there's less awkward encounters with strangers which doesn't interest us.
Thing is, the periods between us hooking up is becoming less and less frequent, from once a week, to every three weeks and now four. I did explain to him that I have a high urge for sex and would like to have it more frequently and that idea excited him. He's more than happy to talk dirty and flirt with me via text daily, but this is just a tease for me because I get wound up and he says he's too tired or has too much work to actually meet up. I've gotten to know his schedule pretty well and I just feel he's almost too lazy or can't be bothered which is fair enough, it's okay to not be in the mood.
I just feel like it's a waste of my time waiting for when he is feeling available when I could find somebody else who is able to meet more frequently. I enjoy the sex with him very much and I admire him as a great businessman and has a quirky sense of humour. I would hate to end things with him as I enjoy him so much, but it's just a pain in the ass that a guy can be such a cunt-tease. I have never known other men to be as bad in withholding sex like this.
>>16874853
You sound like a great guy and I'm happy that you and your girlfriend have each other. Thank you for sharing your/her story with me. It means a lot.
>>16874871
Dunno. I don't really care about sexual history but maybe like 50? 100? I'm pretty open minded but if you've got anywhere near triple digits, I'm definitely going to do a double take and wonder if relationships are for you.
>>16874871
Honestly I think more about the why than the number more so. So if I find a chick who's had 10 partners but were all in relationships, I'll probably look more favorably on her than a chick who's just had one night stands or casual sex, even if her partner count was only 5 or some shit.
>>16874871
I would say that depends on their age. 5 or 6 is fine, but 7 and up is where I start seeing it as too many.
