So I was together a girl for 7 years (20-27). she moved out for work, cheated (pretty sure about it) and dumped my sorry ass. After that I went on a negative spiral hating myself and skipping med school exams.
So I would have already enough reasons to hat her, right? wrong. I've stumbled upon a recent picture of her and I fucking love how she looks. Also I still do not despise her as a person. It hurts a lot and makes me miserable.
I feel like I need to hate her so I can move on a little. I found another gf recently but things are going into shit because we are not that compatible after all. And I hate the fact that I still compare this girl to my ex (which I honestly liked more)
Please teach me how can I really start hating her with my whole heart. 18 months since she dumped me and I'm still not over it.
Hating her is going backwards.
If you hate someone, you still care about them.
You need to stop caring about her.
>>16798781
>>16798781
I have been no contact 16 months, and I have no intentions of breaking it. I know that ship is sailed. But somehow I still take the blame for almost all and I think I'm the one who burned a good thing down.
Keep in mind she had a strong family desire and I was just lazying out of med school. She dumped me and then immediately dated/fucked some 45 yo coworker. I feel like I blew it and almost forced her to do this.
>>16798800
> I feel like I blew it and almost forced her to do this.
Just fucking drop it. Maybe you were a massive douche or maybe she was never worth a damn and jumped ship as soon as things got stale and a fresh dick showed up.
Move on. Improve if you think you need to, but don't torture yourself.
>>16798781
this
>>16799292
It's hard to move on when you have so little going on in your life. after almost 12 months since the breakup I found another girl who seems to love me, and I played along with it, but in reality I feel like 1/10 of the emotional commitment I had with my ex. At this point I don't know if I'm scarred for life and a little jumpy on relations or just found the wrong girl. And in the meanwhile I torture myself with remorse
