So i just had my partner of 8 years propose to me, I love him but he hasn't had a job basically the whole 8 years we have been together. I know i must sound stupid i mean if i love him i should stay with him right ? I just feel like im going to be supporting him financially for the rest of my life. What should i do ?
>>16790896
Talk to him about it.
Why the fuck hasn't he worked for eight years? What has he been doing?
>>16790896
If your partner is a lazy ass it is up to you. Support him financially or dump him.
he has been looking for work apparently but i feel like hes always applying for jobs he knows he can't get and when i try to suggest a job he should apply for he says im treating him like a baby and that he looks for enough jobs as it. i mean i think hes kinda depressed from getting rejections from jobs at the same time.
>>16790919
Setting himself up for failure and evasive behaviour is textbook depression. Step one is to get him to admit he has a problem.
Then talk him into cognitive behavioral therapy.
When he has his wellbeing under control, maybe a job, say yes.
Double standard tho if a woman did not work that time span it 1 would b wrong of the man to say wtf id say yes to marry myself as well. 2 can u easily support everything ur self on 1 job? If so dude won't b just not working running a home is work in itself
>>16790919
Look mate.
What do you think 10 years down the line looks like with this guy?
Tell me what you think that might look like.
>>16790896
So you mean during these past 8 years it hasn't bothered you that he hasn't worked? Because if it has and you guys were considering marriage, why didn't you bring it up sooner?
Are you a really career-driven individual? If so, a personality-type like your bf might be good bcs he can be a stay at home dad and you can be the bread winner. If you´ve always dreamed of being taken care of and not having the family´s financial stability on your shoulders then best run for it before it becomes too hard for you to find the right guy.
