>>16785386
>I'm starting to think that sex isn't this great thing.
Sex is whatever you put into the sex. Without putting yourself into the sex, it's just a mechanical act kind of like taking a piss.
>When I do end up having sex with someone, I don't cum, orgasm and generally it's feels like nothing.
Learn to make yourself orgasm first. Then teach your partner how to do it too.
>I recently lost my virgibity last year and idk I'm kind of disappointed, if I knew it was not that great I might've just saved myself.
Sex is what you put into it. Are you putting excitement into it? or are you putting "yeah whatever, man" into it?
>Does any girls (or guys) feel this way? Physically sex does nothing for me like nothing and i end up feeling horrible for engaging in an emotionless and empty act.
I've felt this or something like it during my sexual journey, yes. But I came to realize that... sex really is what you put into it.

I've had sex with strangers, sex with best friends, sex with romance, sex with foreigners, sex in foreign countries, sex in public, sex with young people and sex with old people. I've fucked my way across this great world of ours in many situations and with many colors of people.

Sex IS what YOU and the other PARTY (or parties hehe) bring to it. That's all it is. That's it.

What are you bringing to your sex?

>>16785416
What do you put into it? What do you do that makes it exciting?

>>16785416
I know how to make myself orgasm but it seems like they can't hit the spot well enough and it's just lackluster and then I feel real bad about it and fake it (I know I shouldn't and it's wrong but I feel so bad)

>>16785429
Well see.
>I know how to make myself orgasm
How are you doing it? If you're using your fingers or something reasonable, great. But if you're using the rabbit vibrator that fills you up, rotates, vibes your clit, and makes you eggs and pancakes in the morning... then no, dicks can't do that in real life lol. Be sparing in your use of robot dicks just like men should be sparing in their use of jerking it to porn.
> they can't hit the spot well enough
Is it a size issue? If you need him to be deeper, there are positions you can work at. If you need him to keep going, the only way he's going to know that is if you communicate with him. identify the problem, figure out way to compensate.
>I feel real bad about it
Everyone has sex that just doesn't go well. An ex of mine put it well, "I've had a lot of bad sex." But you shouldn't feel badly about it - you should just try to be the best that you can be at sex.
>and fake it
Stop faking it. How is he going to learn if you fake it? If the sex isn't going well, try and make adjustments to improve it. That starts with you knowing how to make your sex better. Which starts with knowing how to make yourself feel good.

>>16785426
>What do you put into it?
I view sex as part of how I live and how I express myself. So what I put it into it has a lot to do with what I put into myself.
>Gym
I workout and eat a lot. I had to learn how to cook to support myself doing that. So I have good endurance and a good physique - not body builder status but healthy. I can go hard and fast in bed or long and slow. I can pick up women and move them how I want to move them. The girl I slept with today put it nicely while I was in her, "You're so fucking hot." I almost purred. I'm still almost purring.

>Presence/Confidence
I've worked hard to have a lot of positive traits. I studied hard. I worked long hours in college. I've tried to be a knowledgeable and free-thinking person. So I walk and talk with confidence.

>Hard Work
I've worked very hard to be good at sex too. Other men get jealous and want to hear lies in bed or about past lovers. I want the truth. What did he do that you liked? What did he do that you didn't like? I want details. I take what past men have done that women have liked and then I steal it and improve on it where I can. Thanks guys.

>What do you do that makes it exciting?
I think I'm just honest. If I want the sex to be exciting, I think to myself, "HMM what's exciting to me" and then I go try to make it happen. There are many forms of exciting.

Exciting is all about atmosphere and attitude. The simplest things that be exciting or boring depending on the person or people. The first time I made a girl snort a line of coke off of my erect dick... that was exciting. The first time I made love to my first girlfriend in the missionary position... that was exciting. It all just depends.

I make it exciting by keeping myself excited.

I guess all of my experience comes from relationships, but I found that being honest and keeping practicing make it better.

My first gf lied for a few months about orgasming during sex, and after she told me we worked at it and found positions or things I could do (for her it was rubbing her clit) that would make her cum 100% of the time that we had sex. It was a really stupidly easy fix that was solved in just a couple sessions of open communication of her telling me what did/didn't feel good and me getting a good feel for it. And if your partner isn't willing to put in that time and effort... you probably should look elsewhere.

>and i end up feeling horrible for engaging in an emotionless and empty act
Different people feel different ways about sex. For you it seems like there has to be more feelings involved for you to enjoy it? Some people can have one night stands and enjoy it, others can't.

Really great answers guys, thanks!

I'll just have to explain to him that's it's not really working for me and maybe we can do something different

>>16785535
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