I am at this turning point in my life. I ended a 4 years long

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2016-02-06 21:46:59 Post No. 16775963
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Anonymous 2016-02-06 21:46:59 Post No. 16775963 [Report]

I am at this turning point in my life.

I ended a 4 years long relationship, moved out of his appartment. I am a first year at uni, dealing with the annual exams. Also, I was promoted at my job.

I feel Iike I am constantly rediscovering myself, working on myself. But I sometimes also fail. I quit smoking a couple of months ago but ever since the break up I started smoking again from time to time. I just get random moments of anxiety and they make me feel like I am about to be crushed into little pieces.

What should I do? How should I approach everything? Can someone tell me their past experiences?

I am the one who ended the relationship, I am the one who wanted it. We didn't fit together but I didn't feel ready to let go for a while so it took me some time to take the step.

Also, how do I know when I am okay to date again? I wouldn't want to just rebound.

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V 2016-02-06 21:50:39 Post No.16775976
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V 2016-02-06 21:50:39 Post No.16775976 [Report]

>>16775963

The other day I ate some chocolate. I went on a date and she told me to call her tomorrow, then she made an excuse but said she would love to do something, she just can't atm and then blew me off again.

What should I do? How should I approach everything? Can someone tell me their past experiences?

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Anonymous 2016-02-06 21:54:00 Post No.16775990
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Anonymous 2016-02-06 21:54:00 Post No.16775990 [Report]

Stop trying to make every single thing in your life go right.

You, and every other human being in the world, did something that ended up not going to plan, despite their best laid intentions.

Evaluate your own behavior, you're just anxious, do something to relax.

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Anonymous 2016-02-06 21:59:05 Post No.16776001
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Anonymous 2016-02-06 21:59:05 Post No.16776001 [Report]

General advice. There is nothing wrong with failing, but you can never allow yourself to give up.

Typically, you should wait to start dating until you are stable emotionally, there is no magic time frame for this. Just wait until you feel okay about yourself and have accepted that the former relationship as run its course. Provided there was no abuse a good metric of this is when you no longer have negative feelings toward the ex.