How long does it normally take to get over a big break up?
My long term boyfriend of a few years broke up with me 3 weeks ago and I still feel empty and dead inside while he seems to be just fine. Since most of my social life depended on him (I had lots of friends when I first dated him then over the years the majority of those friendships were lost) I'm essentially staying at home a shit ton now and it's making me feel really depressed. I only go out to work or occasionally meet my best friend or have a drink with another friend of mine, as in I socialise like maybe once or twice a week.
I have few friends left but they are all super close to me, pretty much 4 of them are left and 2 of them are leaving to move overseas permanently soon. So I'll be stuck with only 2 fucking friends.
I'm really shy and awkward when I talk, too, so it's hard for me to make friends. I used to be very sociable in high school but I seem to have lost that knack since my relationship. I've nearly finished college too so I don't know where to meet new people.
Because I feel empty as well I don't have motivation to do stuff and a few guys have already asked me out on dates, pre-relationship I would've just gone but now I just feel like I've changed and I'm not interested at all. Especially I'll be super suspicious that they just want a fuck and I'll protect myself from potential douchebaggery by just rejecting them.
I just don't know how to get out of this funk, or if it's something that only time will heal.
Time will tell. Go out with your friends, cry yourself out on their shoulders if you are super close. Not getting into a relationship is a good idea until you are emotionally stable because it impairs judgement and you may get into a relationship that you regret later.
Maybe you shouldn't have neglected your friendships while you were smugly in a relationship
>>16775743
I never said that those friendships were lost due to me being neglectful. A lot of them were high school friends (I started dating the guy when I was fresh out of high school) and as you know once everyone's out of highschool they tend to change and have different groups of friends, move overseas, etc. In fact most of my friends either went to a university overseas, and a couple of them I had a disagreement with because they weren't being good friends.
>>16775720
I guess that's all I can do at the moment. I'm just in a rut because it's the summer holidays now and no classes are on, so I don't have anywhere to meet new people. I don't meet my friends as much anymore because they've graduated and are working full time jobs now where as I'm only part time until I finish this last semester, and it doesn't start for another month.
It takes time. Less if you're attractive and willing to let guys who don't mean anything build up your ego.
>>16775931
>I guess that's all I can do at the moment. I'm just in a rut because it's the summer holidays now and no classes are on, so I don't have anywhere to meet new people. I don't meet my friends as much anymore because they've graduated and are working full time jobs now where as I'm only part time until I finish this last semester, and it doesn't start for another month.
Even if you don't meet your friends try to find some occupation that keeps your mind off of him. Start new hobbies, do something constructive that gives you a sense of achievement, hell even giving good advice on /adv/ is good as long as you are occupied by others problems and not yours.
