How many women like having your cervix hit.
Ive read stories from a few women that as long as its not being hammered gentle tapping feels good.

>>16740000
To women:

How do you prefer to be cheered up, verbally?

I want a second date. Is one week too soon?
Should I ask now but set it for two weeks?

I'm sure she's into me but my friends have me paranoid that one misstep could fuck everything up.

>>16740021

Counter-question from a male anon: Can you actually control "gently tapping" a girls cervix? Because I tend to be pretty high control during sex (I like experimenting with positions, angles, and varying tension), but I know whenever I do it, it's either because it's in the middle of me not thinking and going at it pretty rough, or else going slow and smooth while she's not fully aroused and underestimating the depth.

My gf response: "ow ow ow".

>>16740047
>should I wait 1 week or 2 weeks

Literally the only thing that waiting will do is give some other guy a chance to beat you to it.

Stop tripping yourself up over dumb-ass games.

I kind of want to ask this girl out. Not romantically, mind you. She has a boyfriend of a few years, and she told me she's getting bored with him. She likes him and enjoys her time with him, but she's bored.

This girl and I go way back as good friends, though we only reconnected somewhat recently. Before her current guy got in the picture, we used to meet up somewhat regularly and hang out as friends. I had feelings for her back then and she reciprocated, but it didn't work out and we went back to friends pretty quick. I have no such feelings now, and yesterday she shot me down for not being her type when I didn't even bring it up.

We're still good friends though, and I'm kind of bored too. The idea of meeting up again and doing activities together like we used to seems like fun to me and she'd probably like it too, but I don't know if I should.

Is this a bad idea? Could I damage their relationship by going through with this, or won't it be a big deal since we're just friends who go way back? Should I worry that this could make me a boyfriend supplement to them or whatever? I don't really know what to call it or even if I should call it. What should I do?

>>16740079
When youre my size down there control is something you have to learn.

>>16740047
Hey, dude. The point of a relationship is to enhance your life--have fun.
>I'm sure she's into me but my friends have me paranoid that one misstep could fuck everything up.
The relationship isn't gonna go far if either partner is having fun.
To answer your question: it depends on the people and how well the first date went. Overall, it's not, so go for it.

>>16740104
I hate people that depersonalize interactions like this

Girlfriend left me in November.

>Almost Valentines day
>Still lonely and miss her
>She's off starting medical school, I'm just looking for a plain old job.

How time moves so quickly... what do for my lonely heart? :(

>>16740096
Men and women can be friends without being romantically interested in each other.

>>16740195
Don't think about it. Don't think about her.

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I don't know what to do.

I need sex in a relationship, but she doesn't even like cuddles (which is also a strong need of mine) let alone sex. We have great chemistry though.

>>16740633
>great chemistry
No cuddles
No sex.
Both are strong needs of yours?

>>16740637
Yes

Does it come across as bad if a guy hasn't been in any actual relationships in years? I'm just not at all interested in the idea of dating. I live in kind of a small city and have a large social circle so word gets around and I meet a lot of people through friends all the time, but I also feel like no one is really paying attention.

Is it still socially normal to use emoticons with your dates?

I obviously don't write like this: "hey wana catch a movie or sum shit an' chill @ my place bae?!"

But I rarely use emoticons/emojis. Should I?

What are the chances of a poorfag losing his/her GF/BF to a richfag?

>>16740021
I love it, but I'm a total masochist. Honestly, what turns me on about my cervix being hit is less the feeling, and more the fact that I'm totally filled up. I'm not sure if that makes sense

>>16740026
It sounds really conceded, but it's like, if I'm feeling shitty about myself and you remind me about "that one time you made this person's day brighter, made this kid smile, volunteered and made the world better, etc" I instantly feel better. Maybe that's stupid lol I don't know, I prefer physical comfort but that's not always an option

>>16740096
If the bf is cool with it, she's cool, you're cool, go for it. Every girl needs a guy best friend and you guys already had the "no catching feelings" conversation so it's worth a shot.

>>16740195
Use the money you saved by not being forced to buy into the valentines gimmick to get yourself something nice. Spoil yourself.
And yeah, she might be going to med school right now, but she'll also have crippling debt, and your "plain old job" is money in the bank. You're the real winner here, anon. (Sorry about the break up, things do get easier over time.)

>>16740633
So, you have great chemistry, like you can talk for hours? Physical chemistry is important too. If you think it's something that'll develop over time and you think she's absolutely worth the wait, stick with it. Gaining someones trust can be hard. But if you feel like it'll NEVER happen, and that physical contact us a vital part of a relationship for you, don't give up that part of yourself. It's a disaster waiting to happen otherwise

>>16740667
Doesn't come off as bad at all. I would just assume you had high standards (it's always flattering to date someone with high standards, because then you can assume you fit into those standards. Ego boost.)

>>16740712
I personally find emoticons juvenile, if I see any guy use an emoticon beyond :) :( or :P (if they use the sassy hand girl, the monkey or send me a fucking eggplant emoji) my vagina shrivels shut

>>16740712
If the other person does, feel free to use some. Don't go crazy.

The girl I'm chatting with now uses some smiley faces. But she uses this sparkle emoji a lot. Is there a deal with that?

Girls and masturbation, how common is it?

As much as men?

>>16740758
Well the last statistics I saw put it at 80% men 60% women. With 55% of women enjoying porn.

Guy here.

So I met this super fun hotwife. Her husband encouraged her to have sex with me, so we did.

I kinda lied about some stuff, but I came clean (after the facts) and she feels like shit. Understandable, it was a dick move.
See, I'm not single and I cheated with her... I came clean because I thought a hotwife would understand and not care. Boy, was I wrong.

Any hotwives here? Any girl able to shed some light on my situation?

>>16740021
i do and a few of my friends have said they do. p.s. u dont need a big dick to hit cervix. certain positions allow it more than others.

>>16740047
one week is not too soon. the idea that there are rules for how soon a 2nd/3rd/whatever date should occur is dumb. ask her when she's free next and go by that.

>>16740758
there are studies saying that women and men between 20-29 masturbate about the same. http://www.sexualityandu.ca/sexual-health/what_is_masturbation/statistics

I've just recently started talking to this girl at college recently (talked to her yesterday for about 10 minutes with her other friends), and we seemed to have a nice time. She had nice eye contact, and she was joking around and being playful with me. I want to get her number soon, but how much time should I talk to her in person before I ask for her number and ask her out? Also, does she sound interested to you guys?

>>16740732
>Is there a deal with that?

Emoji might as well be a different language since I have literally 0% clue what the other and new emoji shit means.

>emoji isn't a typo

Oh for fucks sake!

Just as a reminder just because someone looks attractive does not mean they are. It is the inside more than anything. I just worked out and have a haircut and just started talking. Not much. :)

I have a few questions.

Is it good that I have high standards but I'm probably not the perfect picture of an attractive guy to girls? Honestly my only problem is my weight, which could be fixed easily at my age (18, about to graduate high school in about 4 months) but I'm just too lazy to do so and I kind of don't care about it that much.

I'm 6'2" which is really tall compared to other people at my school. Hell, I'm taller than most teachers. I'm not going to ask if all short girls like a much taller guy, but is it unheard of for a girl to be a foot shorter than her partner? I kind of can't get over this one girl who's 5'2" but I don't know if it would seem weird for her.

And I had another one but it slips my mind right now. If I think of it I'll post it.

>>16740959
I don't see a problem with heigh standards. People like what they like and it's good that you value yourself enough to not date someone who you aren't attracted to. The only thing is that it is sort of unfair to expect your partner to have/not have a quality that you don't have/have. For example, the weight thing: wanting to date skinny girls and not being attracted to chubby girls is fine. However, if you're chubby, it's hypocritical to expect your potential partner to be thin. (Though obviously there are thin/fit girls who are into chubby dudes and vice versa.)

As for tall dudes; many of my friends are low 5" and are dating men over 6". I would even say very many women have a strong preference for men who are a lot taller than them, so it's definitely not unheard of. I'm 4'11" and my boyfriend is 6'5".

Girls (guy here),
If your boyfriend of a few months came to and opened himself up to you really for the first time in your relationship, like put all his emotions on the table and showed you his cards would you think less of him? Just told you about his slight depression or fears and how he feels all the time? (Nothing serious or concerning personal health)

Got a date tomorrow and today she mentioned in a text she is feeling quite nervous about it.

That's a good sign right?

>>16741085
Yes. Respond to her with "Oh I'm nervous too.. But the good kind. Adventure kind"

It's what I did on my last date and it went amazing.

>>16741095
yeah I said something similar, told her I'll being wine to help her nerves and she said she prefers white wine

Guess it will be alright

>>16741073
He trusts you enough to let down his walls. If you feel less of him its probably not going to work out because it looks like you have built up a fantasy of him without faults.are you perfect? No. This is how people are so you can either walk away or support him

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>>16741095
WELL THATS FUCKIN CUTE

>>16740026
I like a mix between cheesy bullshit and jokes. More than anything, I like being told that I deserve their affection and I made their life better.

>>16740047
One week is maybe even too late. I like when 2nd date is, like, 2-3 days after first date.

>>16740096
Go out with her but make sure that her boyfriend is fine with it, or drama will happen.

>>16740633
Physical chemistry is important too. If your relationship doesn't meet your needs, and you don't see it happening any soon, just move on. If she has issues, she should work on herself. You're not her therapist.

>>16740667
No, if you didn't fuck around a lot.

>>16740712
No. I prefer guys who talk without emojis.

>>16740719
If someone stops dating you for money, he/she wasn't worth your time. Don't bother about this kind of shit.

>>16740839
She had her husband's approval, you used her to cheat. You're a dick. Also, dump your girlfriend.

>>16740863
Next time you talk to her alone. Do not ask her in front of other people.

>>16740959
I prefer people with high standards. Wouldn't date someone who would date just anybody. But don't expect to date a fitness model if you're chubby.
Most girls like guys much taller then them.

>>16741073
No, it'd make me feel like he trusts me enough to share something really private. Especially if he's reserved.

>>16741085
Yes. It's a great sign.

>>16741073
It would depend on how serious we are. I'm more attracted to a "man's man" but my boyfriend went through a period of depression and was getting very weepy at night and of course I was there for him and didn't think any less. If anything, I was upset that I couldn't fix it.
But me and my bf were together for around 4 years at that time. If we are not that serious and you came to me with that, I probably would think less of you. Whiners are my pet peeve and that's how you would seem to me. Especially if you just came up to me one day like "Let me tell you all this shit!"

>>16740839
Just because she is hot doesnt mean she can't have morals too. Her husband is okay with being a swinger. She is ok with swinging. Your gf is not, so understandably the 'hot wife' is upset that you lied to her and to your gf just so you could get your dick wet. now she feels that you're a douchebag, which is something most people would agree with sadly

>>16740000
Guys

I'm 23 and I've been watching a lot of MGTOW videos and they make me hate myself even more for being a woman and the fact that by 25, we start to hit the wall (aging)

I'm 220 lbs and 5'2, so by the time I lose weight and have a nice body I'll be 25/26 and by then I might be considered not young and attractive enough.

Is there any hope for me?

>>16741126
Why don't you just stop being a colossal bitch then? You obviously are if that MGTOW tripe makes you feel guilty.

>>16741162
I didn't say it makes me feel guilty.

>>16741126
You'll just have to lower your standards.

>>16741126
The fuck is mgtow

Yo, its not a competition. If you want to live that way, there will always be a younger prettier woman and you will hate yourself all your life. Stop that shit. Be healthy to be healthy, not to catch a man before you get old.

>>16741126
>I'm 23 and I've been watching a lot of MGTOW videos
Stop, that crap is all garbage

Honestly, yes, being overweight isn't considered traditionally attractive, but by far the single biggest obstacle to you not being considered attractive isn't your weight, it's all that self-loathing.

I'm a decently attractive guy (attractive enough that I get looks and have had girls approach me to give me their numbers anyway). My girlfriend is a bit overweight. I have no idea exactly, nor even generally how much, nor do I care. I never thought I'd consider anyone overweight attractive (not that I was exactly prejudiced against it, just that I definitely had a strong preference otherwise); but I honestly love her, and I love her because she's an awesome person and that makes it that so long as she's comfortable with who she is, I'm comfortable with and love who she is. She's gotten to a point where she's looking after her own health and is proud of herself, and that self-confidence is part of the exact thing that made her attractive to me.

Your biggest obstacle here to your own happiness here isn't anything physical, it's your own mentality. Go ahead and get thin, but if you don't change that line of thinking, nothing else will improve.

>>16740959
>Is it good that I have high standards but I'm probably not the perfect picture of an attractive guy to girls?
Well if you dont have problems with having a hard time being reciprocated(not saying it WILL happen, it might happen) no.
>short girl
just try ti ask her out

>>16741126
>googled MGTOW
sounds like /pol/ for virgins, i wouldnt take what they say too seriously
You are very overweight, you should lose weight for health reasosn anyway,and even if you'll be older you'll look better than now for sure.

Women, which is more offensive to you in media: Sexuality or violence and gore?

Like we're talking from a single nipple slip or an accidental upskirt or boob flash to giant demons that look like bunnies that can Blendtec humans and typical gunfights and fist fights and shit.

How do you reconcile "dating down?"

My girlfriend's personality is awesome and we get along for the most part but I can't shake the idea that I could get a more attractive partner.

Is this just me being shitty or do others think of this as well?

>>16741235
I'm not her but she's right.
No one wants older women. What's the point?

>>16741126
>MGTOW
Theyre the scum of the earth
Lose weight and stop hating yourself

>>16741316
Nothing? Any girl on fucking 4chan better not complain anything offends her. If I can stay here after you faggots kept posting zippocat and shoveldog I can handle a nip slip or gore.

>>16741381
>zippocat and shoveldog I can handle a nip slip or gore

Even medical conditions?

>>16741126

>I'm 23 and I've been watching a lot of MGTOW videos...

Right there's your problem. As a 29 male, I can't think of those videos, that way of thinking, as anything other than naive at the best of times.

>>16741126
Nothing wrong with 25 year old women. You're confusing that with 35 years old and even then, 35 year old women can still find someone, but the problem is they're picky.

You just need to stop over thinking.

>>16741384
I watched 3guys1hammer and other videos so I'm pretty sure I'm good with whatever.
Like I said, this was all common a while back on 4chan. Any girl who stayed through that should be fine with gore or sexualization, especially since there was enforcement of titsorgtfo.

>>16741337
>>16741337
>but I can't shake the idea that I could get a more attractive partner.

You realize "attractive" ALSO includes personality right?

Decide if that was just a slip up of semantics, or if that's how you really feel.

If the former, stop unnecessarily obsessing over stupid shit. Grow up.
If the latter, just admit that, leave your girlfriend, and find someone you're actually attracted to.

Autist here

Girls: there's a cute girl I see in passing after class. She comes in as my class is getting out. Is there an ideal, or at least good, way to introduce myself and ask her out for coffee? I don't want to hunt her down and isolate her, yet I don't want to put her on the spot in front of other classmates.

Can I get some womens opinions on how my dick looks from a description. I know everyone has their preferences but Id like to get a general idea of how women look at it.

>7.5"-8" long
>1/2" is in fat pad
>hair grows up shaft like 1 1/2"
>girth at base is 6 1/8"
>girth 2" up is 5 3/4"
>girth halfway is 5 1/2"
>girth immediately below head is 5 1/4" - 5 1/2"
>relatively extreme curve. At least compared to porn dicks ive seen it curves up a lot.
Not sure if flaccid matters? Do women care about how flaccid dicks look. Im not insecure and need comfort. I just want womens thoughts. My ex never said anything about it besides I have a nice penis and I couldnt just ask her to describe her thoughts about it.

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>>16741677
Alright, alright. Is this the member?

>>16741677
No matter how your penis looks, if you're this obsessed with it, I'm not interested. You are fucking nuts.

>>16741339
Older men do, the ones that are not rich/good looking enough for a younger one, but she's severly overweight so she cant complain

>>16741731
Are you not able to describe parts of your body. And Im not looking for your interest. Just thoughts.

>>16741821
Thoughts are that obsessing about it is fucking nuts. That's what that Anon's thoughts are, and so are mine.

You're putting way too much thought into this. Seriously, I'm a guy and I don't even know how long my dong is. Nor do I care, and neither should you.
If you pay more attention to your dick than to your girl, you really should reconsider your priorities.

>>16741316
None of that is "offensive".

>>16741833
I hear girls describe dicks all the time. Im not asking guys what they think lol. Go be insecure somewhere else.

>>16741863
You're hopeless.

>>16741868
Didnt ask for your hope. Do you have nothing better to do then to dump insecurity on others today?

>>16741821
You measured it so that a police artist could make a sketch of it. That's not normal, that's fucking mental.

>>16741677
Sounds fine

I don't wanna open a new thread for that. My gf has a mental illness so she is thinking about moving to another country and live there alone for 6 months up to one year in order to get better. Volunteering or doing other natural work.

Should I concider breaking up? I love her and all but basically she wants to leave me for one year..

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>>16741885
I'm just tagging along for the ride. It's starting to look good.

>>16741888
Oh Im supposed to give flimsy descriptions and ask a womans opinion. its the next best thing after a picture and I measured it how youre supposed to measure a dick for any data.
>>16741892
Ive over heard far more from girls talking though. Like I doubt you wouldnt take notice of the curve and make a mental note about it. At least from the women Ive talked to curve is like the first thing they notice. Unless its freakishly large or small

>>16741950
Even if you hadn't gone full autismo, you're literally asking a question highlighted in the OP. Answer is that some'll like it, some won't. Majority doesn't give a shit.

>>16741958
I didnt ask if women like it. Stop being so insecure.

Girls, is "okay <smileyface>" the same as the usual 'I don't care'-signal "okay"?

I talked to this girl about this one activity for a bit, then told her I was planning to check it out sometime soon. Was going to invite her along if she showed interest in it, but all she said was that "okay <smileyface>"
Don't really know if I should bother now. Should I?

>>16741974
It indicates nothing specific, so you should try.

So I just got a GF and she's a straight cutie, but she doesn't generally put much effort into texting and it's fucking with me hard. I get all anxious like she's not about me. (Thanks previous onitis cunt) It's so bad that before we started dating, I didn't think she liked me back. Like 2 and 3 word replies sometimes. Or emojiis. Then in person she's sweet as ever.

How do I deal with this? Should I just be the same way and maybe only throw a few words in mine? Every other relationship I've been in me and the girl would send novels back and forth. I guess I'm trained to put a lot of words down but now it's biting me in the ass.

>>16741973
Hey, you're the one doing a full 3D-analysis of your dick because you need 'comfort' about its size being right. You're the one putting in so much effort a 3D-printer could build it life-sized.

Get a better buzzword, because this one just makes you look silly.

>>16741990
You mean the standard scientific way your supposed to measure your dick. If you werent uneducated you wouldnt be surprised.
>comfort about its size
kek. Im plenty confident in its size. Its you who feels the need to be insecure and try to cry about people saying their size.

>>16741677
It's a cock. If it's attached to someone I like, I like it. If not, it's just a cock.

Stop obsessing over it.

>>16742024
Women talk more about dicks than guys talk about breast. Why is it so hard to get some honesty.

>>16742032
lol u have small pepe it's like chernobyl's pride

Now piss off. You got your 'honest' answer.

>>16742041
I suppose there are women who think anything under 10" is small. Is that your only thought.

>>16742045
No, but it's the first one you didn't reject. We're actually making progress here.

>>16742051
Its better than the lies people try to feed. Because girls never talk about dicks right.

Since we're on the subject of dick size, I find small ones sexy in their own way.

bump
>>16741988


On the dick subject:
In my experience, if you've got a small cock and your girl is genuinely into you it doesn't matter. I say this because mine is thin and 5 inches and I had a relationship of over 2 years once with a girl who had much bigger than me. She didn't mind because we were mad in love. The only time it really matters to a girl is when you probably shouldn't be with that girl anyway.

Overall signs point to my girlfriend not being pregnant and yet she has missed a period (by about 1.5 weeks) and is feeling sick (thrown up a few times within the past few days). I'm thinking she may just be getting sick and she just happened to miss a period. She's tested 3 times, 2 were negative but 1 was very unreadable and she claimed to think it was positive (which was the most recent one, just yesterday). So while I'm playing the waiting game and praying what can /adv/ tell me about this situation?

I have my own apartment and pay just about $1,400 a month. I make only $3,600 a month, so it's a sizeable chunk of my income devoted just to living arrangements.

My girlfriend of six months asked me if I'll let her live with me. She makes $2,200 a month and lives with her parents for free right now.

I'm all for it, I'd love to spend more time with her, but she doesn't want to help pay the rent. Our incomes are wildly different, so I asked her if she'll cover $400 a month and I cover the other $1,000 and she won't budge: she says "if I love [her], I'll let her live with me for free".

What do I do? I think she's being a bit of a brat, but this is out of character for her. She's real generous and kind, so this is kind of a slap in the face. Even something like $200 a month will lift a lot of weight off my shoulders.

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>>16742109
>I had a relationship of over 2 years once with a girl who had much bigger than me
I thought oversized futa was just a fairytale to scare normalfags

I've been with my girlfriend for 13 months. Our finances are separate, although I make much more than her (about 4x more). We've never talked about money but we're both adamant it's separate.

I want to buy a $7,900 guitar. Buddy's pawn shop got a guitar in which has been my dream guitar for a long time. It's even signed by the late musician who this guitar is famous for. This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

Is this something I should discuss with my gf? Our finances are separate, I don't feel I need to ask permission, but I've never bought something this expensive before. I have $47k in the bank so it won't tremendously hurt my wallet, but it's the concept of it I guess that I think might irk my grillfriend.

>>16742149
Oh fuck off you know what I meant

Fellow dudes

Is it a big deal to you if a girl you like has a lot of guy friends?

Girls

Is it a big deal if the guy you like has a ton of female friends?

>>16742179

A woman can't have "just male friends". Any male friend a woman has is attracted to her, no ifs ands or buts.

>>16742132
>"if I love [her], I'll let her live with me for free".
Finances don't care about fairy tales. Stay firm. Having another person in the house does make things more expensive.
Plus do you want her to be an official roommate? What will you say to your landlord if they ask?

>>16742163
If you have upcoming plans toward which you'd both be contributing, it merits a discussion. If nothing like that is on the table then you're fine.

>>16742187

This apartment was meant for two people. My landlord was certain I couldn't swing it by myself but relented. If anything, having another co-applicant for the lease will make my landlord more at ease.

>>16742119
Sometimes when the body is under stress, like having a bad illness, it'll just skip a period. Honestly, just wait a week and test again. If you're still paranoid after that, get a real blood test from the doc.

Pregnancy scares are awful. You have my condolences!

>>16742183

There is a girl I like, but I know she has a bunch of male friends. Does location matter on this? She lives in Europe. Perhaps it's normal there?

>>16742132
She's being unreasonable. You're her boyfriend, not her caretaker. In a healthy relationship you live together as equals. That means you share responsibilities like rent. You're already being more giving than you should by offering to handle the majority of the rent, so that she refuses even that is a major concern.

If she refuses to be responsible and even plays the "put up with my shit or we're done"-card so she can mooch off you, I'd seriously reconsider your relationship. Sure it's nice to have her around and all, but this just sounds like she's using you. Let her have her way here, and it'll only get worse. Again, you're her boyfriend. Not her caretaker, her slave, or her sugardaddy.

>>16742201
How do I go about convincing myself that that's all it is (for the time being).

Females, what would make you obviously flirt with a guy and hang out with a guy you like ( with friends, classmates, etc) , then when he makes a move have you shy away and become distant? Would that just mean you liked him as a great friend and had no intention of moving past that? Or maybe you decided otherwise? Or what? I'm so lost with this girl.

>>16742179
Guy here. Quite honestly it unsettles me if a girl is around guys a lot. I get jealous easily, so even if I see a girl I like so much as enjoy talking to another guy, it just sets off my triggers.

It's irrational and shouldn't even happen, I know. Hell, I'm that guy who has a ton of female friends and believes being friends without romantic interest is possible. Doesn't stop me from feeling uncomfortable with it.

Not that I'd stop my girlfriend from seeing guy friends, though. It upsets me to the point where it's almost physically painful, but that's just one of the sacrifices you have to make. She does the same for me and my female friends, after all. Do unto others etc.

Girls: my period is taking longer and longer untill it "clears up" completely since i got a copper iud. This time it took a whopping 15 days... This shit is starting to get really annoying. What can i do to speed up the process?

>>16742287

Ok thanks for the response. That's how I kind of feel. Girl I like ( we are not dating) has a bunch of guys friends. Me and her like to cuddle and make out a lot. But we are just close friends. She does have a few guy friends she see every once in a while but I try to
Not let that bother me

>>16742179

Nope.

Not including each other (lol):

3/5 of my GF's closet friends are male (1 gay, 1 bi, 1 straight)

2/5 of my closest friends are female (1 gay, 1 straight, one of which is actually my best friend)

No fucks given.

I'm secure enough I know i'm worth being around, and I know her character well enough to know it'd be against her own moral code to do anything, and I also trust her to know she'd at least fess up if we had any problems in our relationship first. She has the same faith in me (though she admits she gets more jealous than I do sometimes--but she's also said she weirdly likes it when other girls check me out? Like it gives her a confidence boost? *shrug*).

>>16742304
how long have you been having you iud? I can take time to adjust in the first months

>>16742304

I'm a dude, but I've done a bunch of research because my GF wanted to switch to a different form of contraceptives a few months back (condoms were giving her constant UTI's), and I'll just say, from what I've read, heard, and seen, whatever contraceptive you're doing, there's not much you can do other than wait 'til your body gets used to it.

My GF ended up going with the Implant and she had pretty gnarly periods for about 6 months, so much so they put her on oral birth control for about 2 or 3 months to try to stem the tide while she adjusted. Now that were nearly 3/4th of a year in though, she's completely off the oral contraceptives and is perfectly fine.

I've got friend who had the same thing, absolutely killer cycles the first half year, then she went 3 years without a period.

See your doctor if they're particularly bad (like they tell you to) but there's not much they can do to "speed up the process" it either takes or it doesn't and you have to find an alternative method.

>>16742514
>>16742555
Thanks for the advice anons.
I gotnit a year ago and it seems to me that the spotting is getting longer with every cycle. I just revently went to my doc and everything is fine from a medical viewpoint. I told her about my long periods and she just said it's normal with cooper iud's. It's not that i think something's not right. I just hate it. I mean, i don't even have 2 full weeks per cycle where i'm not atleast spotting and it frankly is restricting my sex life. I just have read up on ways to make the blood flow more efficient. I'm going to try that, but if anybody has other ideas, i'm open to try!

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Girls

If you like a guys personality, how important is it to you that he has a good body? Girl I like said this to me just now "You make me feel so important, and safe. I really wish you were here.." and asked for a body picture.

I think have that body dysmorphic thing because I am embarrassed about my body. I'm not fat. I'm pretty skinny. But I feel ugly. I managed to crop this picture. I haven't sent it yet because I think I look like shit, and didn't want to send a full body photo.

>>16742706

lol... granted... I'm a dude who hates body pics (or pictures in general even).... but even I know sending a cropped to hell picture where you can't tell what the fuck you're looking at is weird as fuck.

Who knows, maybe she'll think you're just being sarcastic and it will give her a laugh.

>Be me a few months ago
>Alcoholic, live at a party house
>Girl comes over for hook up, pillow talk was actually a lot of fun
>Date for a while, realize we have a lot in common and faced similar hardships in life
> I slow down on drinking because it worries her, quit for about a month
>Find out I'm getting evicted
>Go to a party to get drunk because of stress and I cheat with someone
>Me and my gf try to work it out for a few weeks
>She dumps me because seeing me breaks her heart and she can't deal with the betrayal

How do I make it up to her? Is there anything I can do to make it up to her? I'm giving her space for a couple weeks to let my head clear and improve myself a bit.

>>16742706
Appearance doesn't matter to me at all. My current crush is kind of ugly and I still want to fuck him. Also don't send that photo, that'll weird her out. Just tell her you aren't comfortable sending one.

Are tights sexy? Are fishnet tights sexy? Are stockings with a back seam sexy? Are over-the-knee socks sexy? I'm trying to figure out what kind of legwear (other than thigh highs) is the sexiest

>>16742752
To me fishnets are the sexiest, but it obviously depends on who you're trying to woo.

>>16742706
As long as he's not deformed, smelly, or obese, it doesn't matter. Not to say I don't have preferences, I really like hungry skeletons.

>>16742742
Chances are there's nothing you can do. Giving her space is a good plan.

>>16742752
Different people like different things. I know some guys that love tights, and others like thigh highs, etc. Just ask the person you have in mind.

>>16740047
Last night I asked her out to visit a local sightseeing spot seen as romantic, and got shot down hard.
I should've stopped there, but I floated a different idea instead.

This morning she's talking about how she should have studied the history of that place, but totally ignoring the other suggestion.

Im thinking I'll just drop it for now and try again in a few days. Any thoughts?

>>16742765
>>16742742

She's insecure and still loves me. Even her friends have told me that. I am not looking for anything sure fire, but after some time passes and I've improved myself a bit, what would be the best approach?

>>16742752
This is fetish territory: In other words: Everyone"s different.

Personally for me it goes
over-the-knee socks >>>>>>>>>> stockings >= tights >>> fishnets

But there are plenty of guys who won't give one flying fuck over the other, or think fishnets are the hottest thing on earth, or whatever.

Just the same as popular media says most guys are in to cheerleader/school girl costumes, but I just think they're kinda dumb.

Honestly, what's probably more important is how it suits you and your own style (even a simple t-shirt can be seductive as fuck if you're confidently pull it off), and the very fact that it's obvious you're putting in an effort for him.

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>>16740721
>monkey emoji is bad
The monkey never harmed anyone, come on.

So, I got btfo by this girl on a dating website and long story short I ended up finding her Tumblr where she post some pretty provocative photos. Anyway, I asked her on anon (I don't have a tumblr) where I could find more of her and she replied with her snapchat. Would it be ultra-creepy of me to add her and possibly snap her? I would think from her perspective I would look like a stalker.

>>16742815
It would. You are right. Don't do it.

If "btfo" means rejected, just move on.

>>16742815

wtf?

>>16742132

you're doing fucking fine right now are you?

she's probably thinking you already support yourself and why does her moving in require you to support less of yourself.

>>16741898

That depends on how much of a future you see with her. If you could see potential for building a life with her and growing old together, it's retarded to throw all that away because you'll lose one year. But if you can't see you guys lasting more than one more year together anyway, yeah probably time to break up.

>>16741316

None of that offends me. But I sometimes roll my eyes if either of them get stupid gratuitous, and in that case I'd probably roll harder at sexuality. Because like, come on man, I have the internet, you're just wasting everyone's time.
But gratuitous gore, where else can you get that? Terrorist beheadings aren't fun action romps with demons and one liners, they're just fucking depressing. So there's something to be appreciated in gore, even when it's stupid gratuitous.

>>16742723
>>16742743

Thanks for the advice. I won't send it

>have tampons and pads in my apartment
>have them here in case I have a friend over who needs them

Is this weird? I'm a guy.

>>16742898
A little bit. I'm not a girl, but if I saw those in your house, I'd assume you had a girlfriend living with you, or you were really into some weird stuff

>>16741316
Neither. I don't do very well with gore, so I don't watch it.

guy w/o much social experience here

ran into an old friend today that i've hung out with in the past. haven't really seen or talked to her in a couple of months. really enjoyed talking to her today.

it's perfectly acceptable to text her and ask if she's free this weekend to catch up and get a bite to eat, right?

>>16742960
Absolutely 100% fucking do it, yes. Worst she can do is say no.

>>16742960

Absolutely.

Is asking someone for time to "think about" something just a passive way to say no, or do they really need time to think things over?

>>16742960

I don't see why not

>>16742965
>>16742967
So I can just be like, "Hey x, it's anon. You free this weekend for lunch?"

>>16742968

There is no yes or no answer.
Because I have said that to people before and actually took time to think it over and got back to them

Girls: 28 year old guy here, kinda overweight but going to the gym for some year, just a belly.
Never been with someone in my goddamn whole life. Not shy at all, sociable. I usually can talk about anything.
It's just that the thing never clicked with all the women I met. Friends? sure. Lovers? meh, not so much.
Works for a long time as accountant, I know that job has the worst reputation ever (oh god, such nerds, wow). Yeah, one even implied being a cashier at McDonalds is better than being in an office. Fucking what.

As of now, I'm saying to myself that I'll be "forever alone". Doesn't bother me too much, but sometimes unsettles me hard. Very hard.

Is it reallly over for me? Should I give up on dating after all these defeats and become a monk?

>>16742968
It's usually a way to say no, in my experience.
It's legit sometimes, but if I were a betting man I'd put it on "no"

>>16742974
The only change I'd make is pick a day. Choose Saturday or Sunday.

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>Get back into relationship with ex gf back in September
>I broke it up initially, didn't contact her after at all but she sought me out and begged for me to give it another shot
>I did, it felt like a new relationship and I was glad of the decision
>Get to the point where I ask her to be my girlfriend
>She says 'No'.
>Tells me she's afraid of this relationship ending up like the last time and that she wants us to build a 'solid foundation' before going to the next level

I wouldn't say it's been perfect, we've argued from time to time, but at the time I asked her I considered us pretty solid. The past two weeks have been tough because I'm letting this dog on my mind a lot and it's making me more prone to arguing with her. But I just don't know whether or not to accept this excuse of her's or not? It makes me feel a bit disposable to not have the label when we act like boyfriend/girlfriend in every other capacity.

All advice appreciated. Thank you.

>>16741556
Girls, can I get some kind of advice here? Any good or bad experiences with dudes asking you out?

>>16743018
Tell her you feel like your relationship is already there, and ask how she thinks the label would change it.
Ask yourself, too.

>>16743018
Why did you break up the relationship?

>>16743080
We went a month whereby every time I tried to make plans with her she had an excuse but seemed to be constantly around her friends. I met her in a club one night and she essentially ignored me right in front of her friends and mine after I ran up and was so happy to see her. So I got angry, fucked another girl (she didn't see or know about this) that night and broke up with her the next day because there was no sense being with her.

>>16743018
Bad excuse. Don't accept it.

>>16743154
See, this is my thinking. And I don't know how to say "I only want this if it's official" without making it sound like a crazy ultimatum.

>>16743163
Tell her not to waste your time. She's taking advantage of you.

>>16743192
I did bring it up with her like this, and she twisted it into me not caring enough to wait for her to be ready to be in a relationship. I just feel like I'm a 'holding' boyfriend until she either jumps ship or decides to go with me.

Good lord, how do I get away from this girl.

>>16743163
She has you hooked but doesn't respect you. Its a no-win relationship. Just walk away

>>16743208
Yeah, she's manipulating you. Just move on, dude, it's not worth it.

Im male.

Do the females here think pegging is a dominant activity?

>>16742766
Anyone?
Is it worse to come on too strong or too detached? How the fuck do you balance?

>>16743212
>>16743215
I wish I could just view the situation rationally as it's so obvious this isn't going to work.

I think the worst thing is imagining her with someone else. She's been my first girlfriend. And literally the week I felt I was on the verge of being over her last time she came back into my life and I stupidly let her back.

>>16743235
It sounds like you were rejected. Leave it for a bit and then float the idea again if you must but I think she probable just wants to be friends.

>>16743239
You see, since you broke up with her initially, she's supposed to win you back, not the other way around. It should be pretty clear to you by now that she doesn't respect you, and that's an important part of a relationship.

Just break up with her, and don't talk to her again. Tell her not to talk to you again. Pretend she doesn't exist, live your life, and don't waste your time with bitches that don't value you.

>>16741126
you'll be 25 anyways, might as well lose some weight. It'll improve your self esteem and you'll probably still get someone anyways

Pls guys respond.

I like a guy from work and I'm gonna bake cookies for him.
The thing is I'm too insecure and pretend I just baked a lot and also give cookies to his and my friends.

Do you think he will take the hint?
I want to show him I like him and do nice things for him. But I don't want to be too obvious.

>>16743450

No. Probably not.

I pretty anti-r9k and consider myself a egalitarian and have a feminist girlfriend...

But it almost sounds like you're trying to set up hoops to jump through and some up some sort of test to see if he can figure out your intentions and prove that he likes you. >.>

>>16743450
He'll only take the hint if he gets it. But if you are giving cookies to other people, it is no longer a hint. It's just you giving cookies.

Ask him out.

>>16743231
I certainly wouldn't consider it submissive

>>16743450
Solution: bake the cookies for everyone, but before you set them out, let him have first dibs. If you let him sneak a couple before anyone else, he'll feel kinda special. Even though that gesture is incredibly innocuous, it'll still be a "little secret" you can have with him. In fact, you could probably do that on a semi-regular basis: bring in snacks, let him swipe a few when no one's looking, get him to talk with you one on one. It could be fun. If he doesn't pick it up by then, he's either dense, in a relationship, or a mooch

I'm about 80% sure this girl likes me and I'm going to ask her out. Issue being, we live about an hour apart from each other, which in itself isnt the issue what is though is that the next time I get to see her is in 1 week while I'm passing through town. I prefer to ask girls out in person rather than over the phone so this is my chance while I'm seeing her. So on the return trip I'll be in town on Valentines day, is that an ok time to ask someone out on a first date? I feel like it would be alright but just want consensus on if its a bit too much or not?

>be me a few minutes ago
>texting girl
>flirting a bit
>she asks me for a picture with my shirt off
>say "sure, but I want a picture of your shirt off"
>she gets upset and says "I'm not that type of girl, you think I'm going to send someone I've only known for a few weeks a picture like that you are crazy"
>i tell her it's only fair and her double standard is bullshit
>she claims that its not the same and stops talking to me for the night

What the fuck. Really, I don't see a difference.

>>16743868
That's because you are playing dumb. You know there's a difference. Topless pictures of men get in catalogues, topless pictures of women are in girly mags.

>>16743868
There is a difference. Men can walk around without shirts on in public and it's socially acceptable. Women can't do that, or they'd get told to cover up and could get in trouble for exposing themselves.

In terms of your situation? She's applying the above societal standard. So is she right? Kinda. But she's also retarded, because her request to you was sexually charged. She had sexual intentions by wanting to see. You asked the same in return, which was fine. She just went full retard and tried to claim her intentions weren't sexual, while yours were. That's untrue. She got called out on being stupid and she bailed. That's good for you in the end. Dodged a retarded bullet.

>>16743875

I didn't ask for a topless picture. I said shirt off.

Females, what would make you obviously flirt with a guy and hang out with a guy you like ( with friends, classmates, etc) , then when he makes a move have you shy away and become distant? Would that just mean you liked him as a great friend and had no intention of moving past that? Or maybe you decided otherwise? Or what? I'm so lost with this girl.

>>16743878

See>>16743879

>>16743880
Sometimes girls flirt for fun. She doesn't want to date you, stop trying.

>>16743889
But I'm literally her only guy friend she's done this too. I'm also her only guy friend, could that be part of it?

>>16743896
SHE DOES NOT WANT TO DATE YOU. It doesn't matter how she treats anyone else.

>>16743906
Damn son, just trying to figure things out. No need to flashback to your past abusive relationship issues.

>>16743947
If you want advice, take what you get, rather than being a shitlord about it. If she responded negatively to your advances, she doesn't want to date you, or you dodged a bullet. That's all there is to it.

>>16742183
This right here is complete bullshit from someone severely insecure. I have 2 chicks I consider best friends, and I'm not even remotely attracted to them. They're just people.

Guy here,

Wanted to get a female perspective on this..

I have a close to a 2 year running crush on a coworker, never told her or express it to her for reasons. She had to leave the country back in October 2015 but might be Back in mid February.
Been talking to her via email and text, I been planning for the time when she comes back to ask her out. But lately I've been feeling hopelessly pessimistic and lost, and thinking should I just tell her via text or something just to get it over with.

Thoughts?

>>16740000
to women:
how autistic from 1-10 do I look when women give me the look and smile but I just keep staring with a straight face?
Is it creepy?

>>16743878
Seconding all this.

>>16743879
The difference between being topless vs shirt off is marginal. Women can't walk around with nothing but a bra on either.

>Dated a girl for about 6 months
>Broke up with her because of a temporary situation making us not very compatible
>Fucked around for a bit afterwards
>Mutually agreed that it was not a good idea
>Eventually she stopped talking to me completely saying she needed to be apart since we couldn't be together
>Messages me recently wanting to be friends again
>Sounded kinda desperate to get me over to her place

Now I'm not saying I would date her again, because I have no idea if shit's changed at all, but girls; what are your opinions on dating someone again after a long period apart? Does the past relationship, even if it was not a bad breakup, make it unlikely? I don't know if I'm being too vague, but she goes on 4chan, likely goes on /adv/, and I don't want to give details that could give me away.

>>16744056

>The difference between being topless vs shirt off is marginal. Women can't walk around with nothing but a bra on either.

What.. What about the beach, the gym, endless TV commercials and HGTV and Food Network magazines...

>>16743896
>But I'm literally her only guy friend she's done this too.
>I'm also her only guy friend

Dude, wat? You can't say you're the only one she's done this with when you're the only one. That's like bragging about coming first in a race with yourself.
If you're her only guy friend, you have no mode of comparison, maybe she'd do this with all of them if she had more.

>>16744086

The beach and the gym are highly contextualised locations.
TV commercials are fucking commercials, what do you think they're doing? Sex sells, dummy.

>>16744094

and? That's not viewed as abnormal.

Hey girls, what's wrong with the monkeyface in texts and such? I use them all the time, but recently I heard they're a bad thing?

>>16744094
I see women go jogging all the time with only sports bras, come on.

>>16744110
>>16744099

Exercising is not sexual. Do you know what 'context' means?

my coworker was ridiculous today. she leaned over me and bumped into me several times, one time she bent over and stuck her butt out like less than a foot away from me, pointed at my dick.

so um is she hinting or am i just seeing things that don't exist. she told me to email her

>>16744111
You've lost track of the argument here, it seems.

>>16740248
That was one of the deepest things I've heard/seen in a long time.

>>16744111

If a guy and a girl can both not wear shirts at the beach. Then she can send me a picture of her shirt off if she asked me for 1 with my shirt off.

>>16744157
Look, you pissed her off. If you are this buttmad don't fuck her.

>>16744163

I'm not butthurt. I just think it's stupid that a double standard like this exists

>>16744168
Great. You aren't asking for advice at this point, so stop.

>>16744169

nigger

>>16740047
3 days is the social norm for asking for a second date
>>16740719
about the same as losing them to an ever poorer poorfag
>>16741126
just live your life. the MGTOW crowd (understandably) probably doesn't give a shit what you think in regards to their lives, and ideologically are about the same as the tumblrkin-feminazis
>>16742132
if she isn't paying a portion of the rent, she better contribute to groceries/utilities or keep the place spotless
>>16742179
it's a red flag for me
>>16742752
depends on a person's preference
>>16742968
depends on the subject matter
>>16743450
probably not as much of a romantic gesture if 10 other people are also getting baked goods

>>16743868
I got fucking mad reading the responses to your post.

She's just being a girl/guy who posts on 4chan- ie trying to avoid risk at all costs and getting uppity when someone expects them to put their own emotions on the line for something they ostensibly like.
She's using chastity or whatever as an excuse.

Girls can wear bikinis or sheer tops and plenty of other things and that's acceptable. If they do that or walk around in a bra maybe someone is going to think they're a slut? Probably call them one.
But guys can wear skimpy shit as well to the same extent, but if one walks down the street without a top on everyone is going to think they're an attention seeking wanker, probably them one too.

Regardless, you fucked up. You should have sent her the the pic first and asked for something equivalent later, to put her at ease.
There's no good response to the "I'm not a slut" line because if you point out she's willing to ask for pics but not give them she'll just get mad.

>>16744100
I use them all the time, I think they're cute

Dunno why anybody would have a problem with them

How do I win my gf back?

we're still together, but she says I ruined our relationship by getting too rough during sex last year. We've had a lot of sex since then, but not nearly as much.

Lately we don't have sex at all, and she says she doesn't feel comfortable enough with me to have sex. she says she gets a panic response to my touch, and that she needs space and control over when we have sex.

>>16741073
Dude i'd be happy knowing to know how my bf is feeling. It will probably change her view about you but in a good way.

Girl left me because she wasn't ready and has some personal issues she said she needed to fix on her own. So what I needed to do was give her space.

Problem is I couldn't stop bothering her and getting really worked up over the whole thing being over, even though she said she still loved me and wanted to get back together somewhere down the line.

Is there even the slightest chance that could still happen? She's definitely pretty crossed at me I imagine, but as I said above, she's going through some stuff, so the reason why she's been cold I imagine isn't all me.

However I feel like being clingy and reluctant to let go has shown her a side of me that would really axe those chances.

When will the time come when women ask men on dates more often than men?

>>16744329
You don't. Learn from these mistakes with the next girl

>>16744090
Well, she obviously knows other guys but she pretty much just tells them "hi" to not be rude. If we were walking around and came across a gender molded group of friends she'd go and just ignore all the guys she didn't know, say hi to the ones more important, and just talk to her female friends.
Didn't realize it made it sound like I was the ONLY dude she knew. Figured that would be seen as near impossible. My mistake.

>>16744424
You can stop grasping at straws any time. Just because she knows other guys doesn't mean that those guys are her friends. And just because you got into the inner circle doesn't mean that she wants to fuck you.

where can i go in real life to meet girls who are into quiet, kind, shy guys? please dont just say 'outside' or 'anywhere', i really need specific help guys

>>16744450
You are not above the answers in the OP, stop acting like your problem is more important than the multitudes of other guys that have come here and were met with the exact answer provided.

>>16744458
cant you just help me rather than bashing me?

>>16744463
The answer is in the OP.

>>16744468
its not helpful, its like if i asked what kind of job i should do and you just say 'anything'

not everyone can just get girlfriends, some of us need help dude

>>16744468
Yeah, because just telling people to go outside is so fucking helpful. Stop being a cunt.

>>16744483
It's not like your question was helpful for giving advice. Women that like "quiet, kind, shy guys" don't exactly congregate all in one place, since those preferences are more abstract than "likes books" or "is fit."

If you have hobbies, go outside to where your hobbies are and hope to find chicks. If you don't have hobbies, start something that makes you go outside. If there's some cool social event in your town, go to it, we don't know what's in your town.

Do you see the fucking problem with your question yet?

>>16744450
>>16744483
Sometimes it's worth thinking about changing in order to get something. Not everyone can get a girlfriend but that's because they don't really focus on changing, they focus on staying exactly the same and expecting something to happen. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Perhaps engage in more social situations, like talking to baristas or going to parties and simply socializing with strangers to gain more confidence until you are ready to talk to girls anywhere. Girls rarely initiate, and a place where quiet guys would hang out so would quiet girls. Nothing will happen in that type of place.

>>16744428
Im not sure where you're getting expanding on information as being a groveling, desperate person grasping for any reason for this girl to like him. I already haven't spoken to this girl in three days and only decided to ask and put more thought into the situation since her friend asked why.

>>16744450
>>16744463
>>16744483
>>16744485
It's helpful. If you're so autistic that you can't leave the basement literally no one want to be your gf.

Go to animu conventions, have ANY hobby that makes you leave the house. You're bound to meet women. And if you can't do that you can always try online dating.

Femanons:

Would someone who's horribly inexperienced with sex turn you away from them? Like they don't even know how to find a clit, inexperienced.

And let's say you met someone online, went out once, and are chatting via text. What would keep you interested?

>>16744499
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.

>What would keep you interested?
Don't text too often, and don't make any grand gestures. Arrange another date. Don't pretend to be someone you're not.

>>16744492
what about 'be yourself'?

I'm a self-confident guy, I don't really get jealous or insecure when a guy snaps my girl a picture of his dick or abs. My girlfriend is vocal in what she likes though, sometimes she'd be scrolling past insta and see some ripped guy and call him hot. She has only ever called me cute though, and she says that's one of the reasons why she started dating me (my cute face attracted her).

Tbh I want to get called hot too, I have a bit of a flabby stomach and I've been wanting to get fit for a while. My girlfriend tells me she hopes I don't get offended when she calls other guys hot and me cute and that she likes me the way I am, but I can't shake this feeling of "hey I wanna be called hot too." I don't think it stems of insecurity but it's more of a "I wish my girlfriend looked at me like that."

I started a fitness regime but yesterday I got a little mad at myself because I felt like I was doing this fitness thing for her. I don't know how to differentiate my desire to get fit vs my desire to have her think of me as hot. I always envisioned myself as the confident type of guy who never cares about what other people say about his appearance, and now that i'm changing it makes me feel like I'm going against my values.

Should I just get the fuck over it and work out or do I need to not care about the cute vs hot thing?

>>16744508
Being yourself is about being comfortable in your own skin, it's not about being the poorest version of yourself. If you are too shy to talk to girls then nothing is wrong with you but a change needs to happen in order to get a girlfriend.

>>16744035
Wait until she gets here and tell her face to face.

Don't get your hopes up. You have waited a long time to tell her.

>>16744513
Who cares where your motivation comes from to get fit?

If your relationship doesn't work with this girl you will have a nice body. If your relationship continues to work with this girl, you will have a nice body for you and her.

Your lover asking you to change in a positive way is good. Don't change for the worse though.

>>16744508

'Be yourself' only works if who you are can get you what you want. Better advice would be 'be who you want to be'.

>>16744329

Here's some stuff that might work and general dating advice I guess. Good luck
1. Have more low-key dates now and then. It’s like saying, ‘Hey, you turn a regular experience in to an exciting one. With you, there’s no such thing as unhappy.’

2. See her side of the story. Even if it’s 2 a.m. and she’s accusing you of things you never thought you were capable of doing, sit quiet for a moment and listen to what she’s actually saying. Let go of your defensive wall and think about the impact your actions have on her. Always empathize.

3. Give her random presents. If you’re going to the mall, pick up a flirty gift. If you’re on vacation, buy her a souvenir that means something to her, etc. Little gestures go a long way.

It sounds like she might be a little scared of you so try being less aggressive around her and more sensitive/romantic in general.

I have a question, A bit before christmas last year, I asked this girl I know from art class out for a drink so we can share some of our art that we made. But at the time she said she was busy with moving so she didn't have too much time. This was before Christmas started last year Now I don't want to think she's making excuses not to see me. Cause when I asked her out for coffe she was into the idea. But is it possible she changed her mind later after I asked her out in the first place? Last time I spoke to her to see if she had some free time, she said she was still busy moving stuff into her appartment, and that she had the key to it. This was a week ago. So I'm not sure how to deal with this situation. Its the first time i've asked someone out for coffee or lunch.

>>16744658
Generally if someone wants you to ask them out after they've turn you down then they know they have to be more forward. She would be flirting with you.

>>16744658

She's still too busy. Don't ask her again or you will become a nuisance.

>>16744684
>>16744677

So I guess I should forget on move on to other people? Or other girls? That might be better than waiting for someone who might not even be into me.

>>16744700

Remember, you asked her out to share art. It's not a date in her mind.

What's the difference between moving on to other people, and moving on to other girls?

Question: I've been on two dates with this guy. We're planning our third, and we agreed to cook a meal together at either his or my place. So far, we haven't gotten physical in the slightest on our previous dates.
I'm slightly worried he's going to be expecting sex because it's going to be at home (while I'm attracted to him and like him, we don't know each other that well yet and I don't feel ready). Am I justified in being worried or am I just paranoid? Like I said, nothing physical's happened yet at all, so I think it's fair to say we're both shy.

>>16744707

Maybe I should have just said girls. Yeah I guess its not going anywhere because I asked her if we could share art together. Maybe If I asked her out it would have gone differantly. I figured if I asked her out for coffee and art, the date pressure wouldn't be too strong. But maybe I should have just straight up asked her out. This is another problem I have, I tend to overthink everything.

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So guys typically don't like sluts but I find that girls like guys that get around. Why do girls like slutty guys?

>>16744724

Why do guys think girls are 'sluts' for doing what guys do?

>>16744714

Who is feeling the 'date pressure'?

>>16744728
I think both are sluts and I don't sleep around, now answer my question instead of playing victim.

>>16744731

Both of us maybe? Or just me I guess. I just wanted to talk about art and stuff, which Is why I asked her out for coffe in the first place. I figured it would be easier on both of us if it wasn't a ''Date'' Date. Just two people talking about art and stuff.

>>16744737

People that angry and puritanical don't get laid.

>>16744724
Because it implies a few things abou them:
>1. They have a higher chance of being good at sex
>2. They have a higher chance of being social and extroverted
>3. They are more likely to be good at flirting and seduction
>4. Having a high number of partners generally increases his social standing, thus making him more attractive for that alone
>5. Generally the guys who have a high number of partners are good looking (or they wouldn't get regular sex)

>>16744741

Well I would leave it, but to be honest you would probably be best advised to proceed from flirtation to dating in future rather than just inviting a female friend to another location.

>>16744710
I'm slightly confused why you're worried in the first place. Is it because he might try something and you have to tell him no or that he won't listen to your no?

The first case is easy, if he happens to try something that you're not ready for just explain to him how you're not ready. And if he seems like a decent guy that doesn't go around raping people then the second case is highly unlikely to happen.

There is nothing wrong with not being ready yet or not wanting to have sex for some reason. You just have to tell that to him if he tries to take it that far. That said you might want to be prepared for some intimacy at least. Hugs, kisses, cuddling, holding hands, whatever it might be.

Personally as a guy I wouldn't expect sex in your case but would most likely be prepared for it in case it happens. I'd expect at least some intimacy though.

>>16744747
You're useless. Kill yourself.
>>16744752
I guess that makes sense, thanks for the introspection. I guess it was dumb of me to keep it to relationship only sex. It's weird but knowing the standard is "Prove to me you're a worthy man by sleeping with these women and then I'll consider you worthy for dating" rubs me the wrong way, but that's the culture, no need to fight it.

>>16744760
>I'm slightly confused why you're worried in the first place. Is it because he might try something and you have to tell him no or that he won't listen to your no?
Rejecting advances makes me uncomfortable because I'm not good wiht confrontation. I don't think he's going to rape me or anything, but I just hate having pressure put on me in that way.

>There is nothing wrong with not being ready yet or not wanting to have sex for some reason. You just have to tell that to him if he tries to take it that far. That said you might want to be prepared for some intimacy at least. Hugs, kisses, cuddling, holding hands, whatever it might be.
I'm fine with that. In fact, I'm hoping for it.

>Personally as a guy I wouldn't expect sex in your case but would most likely be prepared for it in case it happens. I'd expect at least some intimacy though.
Fair enough

Girls, how do you achieve orgasm best?

By how I mean method, like fingers, oral, toy, object/veggie/fruit, BDSM, through clothing etc.

I know that penile stimulation rarely gives orgasms but its not impossible either.

>>16744795
Then just stop worrying girl.

Don't worry about having to say no at some point. Confrontations happen all the time when you interact with people. Obviously it's not desirable but it happens and you should be able to handle it. So if he tries to initiate sex then take it as a learning experience.

Wod you be opposed to a friends with benefits type situation if you knew she was a virgin?

>>16744157
>>16744373
>However I feel like being clingy and reluctant to let go has shown her a side of me that would really axe those chances.
Yes it does hurt your chances. Because it shows that you're not respecting what she has asked of you. If you can't control yourself for her sake, what other boundaries will you ignore?

>>16744513
I agree with the other anon. Whatever motivates you to get fit is worth it. You're not doing something disgenuine or destructive, like picking up a hobby you hate or starting to do drugs. Keep at it.

>>16744795
Honestly, I'd say it's a good learning experience. In a relationship you need to have the ability to communicate "I don't want that." You're also getting the chance to see how he reacts to that kind of communication.

I have a 3 inchs nose, and it's what makes me the most insecure... What do woman think about long nose ?

What can a couple do if one likes kinky stuff but the other one is a little opposed to it? Are they hopeless? I have really tried to let myself into it but the other day I just felt like shit after, because he didnt stop when I told him to and it felt like he was punishing me as we have not been gettig along very well in the last few days. He has a very loving character and at the beginning of our relationship he said that he didnt want to fuck me that way, because he saw me like a too pure creature for that. I know that he didnt mean it in a bad way, but I have generally been feeling like shit the past 3-4 days and that just made it worse now and its somehow hard to stay objecitve here.
Has anyone here had a similar experience and had a solution or has some tips for me to get a different perspective?

>>16745105
>hand rubbing intensifies

>>16745110
>loving character
>literally raped you
You need to drop his ass right now.

>>16745105
From the OP:
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.

Please don't ask these questions. Go to /soc/ if you want people to rate your face.

>>16745110
Not stopping when told is literally the U.N.'s definition of rape. Feeling like shit after is why people don't like it.

Toss him away.

>>16745110
>because he didnt stop when I told him to and it felt like he was punishing me as we have not been gettig along very well in the last few days.
This is not "kinky". That is nonconsensual. I love BDSM but I know that there are limits. Did he even give you aftercare and check in on how you're feeling? I know that I can't handle degradation and humiliation because I take it seriously, and every Dom I've been with has respected that. Because you deserve love, empathy, and respect.

This guy is a douchebag.

What can I do to be crazy in bed? I'm a girl, virgin, barely legal, and he's 6 years older than me and I want to blow him away our first time

>>16745123
No he didn't. rape is different he didnt torture me ir anything he was just far too rough and I will not drop him. We have been in a relationship for 8-9 months its not like I hardly know him

>>16745139
Well.. He fell asleep after. Thats why I felt like shit. As if I was just some piece to fuck but when he woke up 3 hours later he asked me what was wrong and didnt understand that I was upset because he didnt mean it that way

>>16745144
Not stopping when told to is literally the definition of rape. It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship or not.

Also it's pretty much the single most important rule in the BDSM community to stop as soon as your partner says so, or otherwise communicates if they aren't able to speak. Not following that rule shows that he isn't kinky, it shows that he's a rapist.

Girls how much is to much when trying to get a girl to like you. Im trying to get closer with this girl and always try to go out of my way to talk to her. I'm afraid I'm trying to hard and she is starting to notice.

>>16740000
To women:
1. A guy asked you out to theatre to watch a play, do you see it as a date?
2. How would one go about to ask you whether you see it as a date or not?