I can't get it up, guys. Like, with a girl. Am I broken? Watching porn, boners come easy. With a girl, maybe I'll get hard initially, but then she's grinding on me, and honestly it just kind of hurts my balls because she's got her thigh pressing up in my crotch and I go limp. Then for the next 20 minutes or so I'm trying everything, and my dick is just fucking sleeping there. Honestly this probably ruined a good thing I had going with this girl. Help.
I'm going to try cutting back on alcohol. I'll also be doing kegel exercises more regularly, but past that I'm not sure what else there is. Masturbate less maybe?
How often do you whack it to porn?
>>16670728
Maybe once every other day on average. I made a point of not doing it that day, although I did watch porn and I guess "edge" for a bit without cumming. I thought that would help get me in the mood but nope.
>>16670741
1.) Stop watching porn, especially the whack ass commercial porn. But just stop.
2.) Do something active. You'll be surprised the immediate effects it will have on your libido & circulation. Weightlifting, running, rock climbing, stretching, etc.
3.) If a position isn't comfortable for you just tell her. Don't make it awkward, but at the same time don't try to power through physical discomfort.
>>16670741
It takes like six weeks for your brain to get its chemical balance shit back on lock if you've got porn-induced ED, not one day.
>>16670753
Thanks. Is your advice to just stop watching porn or to stop masturbating altogether? Because the latter is a no go.
I will definitely start being more active. I usually run and stuff outside when it's warm but winter is a kind of hibernation period for me. I should try to change that I guess. :/
Just curious: do most people usually go straight to hard grinding during sex or do they kind of stroke each other and "build up." It seems like all the girls I've been intimate with (sample size: 2) go straight for grinding on my leg. I've gotten boners spooning before easy but that's never led to sex.
If all else fails.. Take the blue pill
>>16670791
Masturbation is fine but you should be able to use your imagination. And if you can't get off to the thought of fucking this girl then how can you get off to fucking her?
Porn is poison. Cut it out and you'll notice your fantasies start to slowly drift toward more realistic scenarios with the girl you like.
>>16670793
except I'm 23, not 50
>>16670800
cool thanks, I'll try it out
>>16670791
Jerking off to whatever is in your mind's eye is better than doing it to porn.
And, in my also somewhat limited experience, there's always a buildup in some form, but that buildup period can be very, very brief, depending on enthusiasm and whether or not it's meant to be a quickie.
Best thing to do is to swithc masturbation techniques and maybe not have her grind your balls
This sounds like a psychological problem and not a physiological one. I bet you are thinking about not getting it up while she's on you rather than how sexy the situation is. Need to clear your head and not focus on it. Its very difficult. Need a practice GC outside your friendship circles
