I think I'm relatively satisfied with my life.
Does /adv/ have any questions that maybe they don't think is thread-worthy but want a perspective on?
I'll offer my best insight while trying to remain impartial to the parties mentioned.
Some background:
>Currently work in a medical center doing research.
>Have worked as an ME at an electric car company
>Am in a (somewhat) healthy relationship and have failed in plenty of them.
>Generally socially awkward but can fake it until I make it, so to speak.
>Have lived in Honduras for a year to volunteer.
>Have tried to kill myself twice with to clearly no avail.
So ask away. Or don't. Maybe I'll see you on page 10!
What's your most preferred type of 4chan post?
The troll?
The honest answerer?
The memer?
The "I'm a girl don't hit on me silly boys?"
The "8 paragraphs just to describe her hair"?
The "comes out of nowhere?"
I want to be as entertaining as possible, but sometimes I get disappointed when nobody responds to posts I worked hard on.
>>16640399
I would like to know how to make myself forget that rob schneiders wife gave my bf a boner.
How do i move past th3 hurt?
>>16640399
Why did you want to kill yourself? How old were you on each attempt?
Why Honduras? If I wanted to volunteer in Honduras for a year, what is my first step?
>>16640427
>sometimes I get disappointed when nobody responds to posts I worked hard on.
I think we've all been there.
I do appreciate the certain amount of crafting that goes into a troll post though. Not a troll post in the 'gets 200 responses but the third post was one calling the OP for his shit' but one that took the time to understand their crowd and make it ambiguous enough that the skeptical people only chime in after 20+ posts.
The honest answerer always has the pressure of different perspective and becomes inherently worthless in a postmodern subjective sense (maybe the flaw of my own idea creating a thread like this).
The memer is almost immediately detracting from any real conversation and doesn't do much for me.
I usually gloss over the 'don't hit on me boys' threads because they're trolls.
Multiple paragraphs to describe somebody's hair is something I'll read. I imagine if people forego punctuation and spacing they're actually remotely invested in their statements. Even a troll with descriptive investment is more interest than a lazy 'Am I a dick for cheating on my spouse' with equal elaboration.
The 'comes out of nowhere' is good for a laugh but usually doesn't facilitate further conversation or clever retort.
Just my opinion.
>>16640461
> The honest answerer always has the pressure of different perspective and becomes inherently worthless in a postmodern subjective sense (maybe the flaw of my own idea creating a thread like this).
The other perspective goes unchallenged if the honest answerer doesn't chime in. This is a worse fate. I would rather the signal be drowned by the noise than have the noise be mistaken for the signal.
I serve the cosmic entity known as the Truth.
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>>16640451
After a quick google search it is clear that his wife is attractive. While Mr. Schneider is demonstrably low-brow at best, his wife is attractive. While I assume this falls under the category of the afore-responded-to anon's 'troll' it warrants a response. Whether you're male or female, your spouse will inevitably find somebody else attractive. They lived a life before you and worst case scenario will live a life after you. To fault them based on attraction and not action exposes insecurity of self. I would be lying to myself if I thought my current girlfriend wasn't attracted to anybody but me.
>>16640457
I was disgusted with the deception I imposed on others and had to maintain in my own personal life. That was the primary motive for my first attempt at 19. At 23 I tried again as a pseudo-response to my best friend and room mate killing himself. That wasn't the only thing that led to my mental state, but it was absolutely the straw that broke the camel's back. To some extent I felt like a fraud in regards to my success in academia and it bore a certain weight on my shoulders.
I chose Honduras because that is where my uncle (who is an allergy and immunologist specialist) has been directing his efforts toward. As much as it pains me to say this, I wouldn't make Honduras my first foray into care work. There is a reason even the peace corps pulled out, but it doesn't mean they don't need help. Ease into it. There are a lot of outlets, even for a non-religious person, that don't involve spending a year in a murder capital. I only mention religion for the fact that the majority of non-profits have some affiliation.
>>16640517
That stilldoesnt help me get over it
Its been going through my brain nonstop.
Hes never showed arousal before towards anoter person or celebrty while in my presence
Its gnawing at mybrain
>>16640517
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome
I have the same problem.
>>16640503
> I would rather the signal be drowned by the noise than have the noise be mistaken for the signal.
You've tapped into my inherent love of statistics. Not that it's necessarily related to anything, I wanted to let you know that.
To expound a little (and I hope I'm not held to these comments later since they're 'back of the napkin' ruminations at best) the relativistic approach many people take on /adv/ is as caustic as the 'ironic troll.' They concede points for the sake of being acquiescent while the troll makes statements based solely for ironic or sarcastic consumption. Both are (perhaps) equally worthless in a conversation. I apologize for turning what should be an outlet for advice to my own personal soapbox for a moment.
>>16640544
I think, and again this is with a certain 'back of the napkin rumination,' that the line between impostor syndrome and humility are difficult for me to distinguish.
It genuinely pained me to receive praise from people at the company I worked at before. Perhaps the work I've put forward was worth the acknowledgment, but the person I was, not the work, was notably impoverished.
Maybe this doesn't relate at all and is at best tangential, but you follow yourself wherever you go. I've lived east coast, west coast, and now midwest (do we still care about oxford commas?), and I've still found no peace as a result of geographic change. That's an absolute projection and maybe it doesn't apply to you at all. Just saying.
>>16640550
Glad to stir your thoughts! My only reason to come to this board is because I can post something that hopefully causes the OP to think about something in a different way.
My next question is, why do you like this board and how do you typically contribute if not ironic or relativistically?
>>16640569
For me I feel like an imposter because I am not a particularly smart person. My IQ is high but not genius level. I have strong defensive instincts and a fascination with highly intelligent people. I literally shape my life around the kinds of activities, books, media, etc... that I see cultured and intelligent people participate in because I admire them and want to be more like them.
This leads people to believe that I am highly intelligent but many times I struggle to hold intelligent conversations with geniuses and get lost easily with complicated subjects. I don't fool some people.
My life blossomed and I was showered with opportunities. My instincts led me to certain paths in my career as a software developer and now I have been promoted well beyond my peers into a position that I feel I am unqualified for. This is all because I was able to fool some important executives somehow. They believe me a genius but I live this lie.
Friends of mine who I felt were brilliant floundered and fell into obscurity, or were taken advantage of. Terrible injustices in this cruel world happened to them and it isn't fair that they are not in my position now. I don't deserve this because I am not as smart.
My therapist tells me that I could not fool people for 12 years and have this kind of career success if I was not smart. I told her that my career advancements were mostly based on my instincts and not my intelligence.
Just thought I would share.
>>16640584
First I'd like to thank you for stimulating my own thoughts and making me question myself.
>why do you like this board
This is something I ask myself regularly. I'm not sure if it's a certain amount of schadenfreude or if I desire the genuine human interaction with an anonymous poster complaining about their relationship or happenstance. It's possible the two aren't mutually exclusive. It may be that only five percent of the threads here are actually looking for advice and are honest, but those fleeting moments of anonymous interactions seems worthwhile every so often.
As far as contributing non-ironically it's more a critique of irony in general, not this board. Irony serves a purpose in exposing the faults, but does nothing to facilitate a solution. In a time where I think in many cases it's easy to point a finger at the problem, irony loses it's poignancy. Pointing at a well addressed problem isn't impressive. Solving it is.
In regards to relativism, I have a much harder time expounding on my predilections. As an amateur philosopher (and I would absolutely love to be challenged here) it is difficult to frame an argument that isn't tainted by some amount of relativism. Tempering that with a certain practicality, or maybe non-naivety, is where I think the value rests.
That's probably an amateurish dodging of the question, but I hope it makes slightly more clear where I stand.
>>16640668
Nope, it paints a good picture.
I wish I could challenge you but I am an awful philosopher so I am unqualified. I am much too grounded and pragmatic. I have trouble going this abstract but I am trying. Listening to Alan Watts lately and it makes my mind hurt.
Signing off soon. Good night.
>>16640624
>My therapist tells me that I could not fool people for 12 years and have this kind of career success if I was not smart.
I should preface this by saying your therapist is a paid professional and their opinion is almost certainly more valuable than my own. With that disclaimer out of the way, the sort of back handed trivialization that justifies that kind of statement bothers me (that was a poorly crafted sentence, I'm sorry). Claiming merit based on longevity somewhere is a lazy application and investigation of what you've produced. I'm sure you've done some great work, whether you realize and acknowledge it or not, but a simplistic comment on longevity being equivalent to production isn't going to quell somebody's unease.
I wish I had something much more helpful to say, but I would be reaching if I tried. I think the best advice I can offer is to look at what you've accomplished somewhere, regardless of your self imposed worth or lack thereof, and take some pride in it.
I think pride might be a sin or something. Sorry anon, I tried my best to contribute. It's hard to offer honest advice on something you relate strongly to while remaining even remotely impartial.
>>16640736
Good night! Thanks for hanging out. I appreciate your contribution and hope I haven't done you wrong.
