Start lifting. Get some friends

>>16637586
>single-by-choice

Sure you are buddy.

That's pretty normal and to be honest there is nothing wrong with that.
Do some push-ups instead every other time you feel like fapping. Something like that, actually do something productive in that time.

>>16637586
Just enjoy it don't worry about stuff

>>16637586
>I sometimes feel like I masturbate simply because I am bored and find myself with nothing to do, and am rarely in a situation that disallows the action.
Test your theory. If you're not sure of something about yourself then test it. We rarely know anything about ourselves unless we actually test what we assume. If you only fap because you are bored then you can stop fapping at any time and instead pursue another activity that would equally take your time. If you cannot easily replace fapping with another activity then you are not fapping simply because you are bored.

>>16637640

>watching pornography
>masturbating 6 times a day
>normal

Stop misinforming people

>>16637586
So on some level you realized that your masturbating habit may be wrong. This is your gut feeling, don't let others convince you that it is normal or natural. Natural is putting your dick inside a vagina.

Try going without masturbating and especially porn for a while, see if you even can do it. If you can't, seek help.

>>16637586
I can't know how it will affect you, but I used to binge-masturbate, and my erections became around 20% weaker, often couldn't get it up in sex, and regular sex didn't do it for me because of various fetishes.
I would suggest you reduce it OP

>>16637626

Beat me to it.

>>16637586

>>16637586

Stop lying to yourself, listen to me and believe the words I am about to say if you have one shred of hope for any sort of resolution to this problem you're refusing to acknowledge.

I was like you, probably worse. I was and still have painful remnants of my sexual degeneracy. It got to the point where normal porn wouldn't do it, where extreme porn wouldn't do it. I won't elaborate but only the deep web could fulfil my endless desires.

But that's not true, in moments of clarify after ejaculate you really measure on yourself. You separate from the deviant you're 'desires' can make you become.

When you realise you're not really masturbating, just wrestling with a sex organ in order to produce more dopamine, it is in essence an addiction similar to heroin. Although I'm not making a distinction that they're the same, only in function and principle. It got to the point where I couldn't actually produce a hard erection. It would take me anywhere from thirty minutes up to an hour and a half to cum from a half chub.

Now I've been doing it since I was 11, I'm now 27. It got really out of control in my early twenties, after years I managed to pull myself out of that hole.

The thing you notice most is you wake up in the middle of the night with an intense erection that refuses to go away. It's impossible to sleep as the cravings eat away at your resolve. If you can manage that night, it does get easier.

Either two things will happen, the erections show up randomly through out the day regardless of where you are, at work, walking down the street etc. Or you will lost all ability to get an erection, which can be distressing.

Sometimes it can be a mix of both throughout your period of restraint, but the psychological impact is far severe. You will be incredibly moody, have moments of intense emotional disturbances such as rage or depression. You may feel distant from people, completely chemically negative.

*Continued*

>>16637736

You've stopped doing something that you've done multiple times daily, which inherently is addictive and incredibly easy to access. My triggers could be a fitness advertisement on TV or slipping and remembering something that used to get me hard.

It is in many forms one of the hardest addictions for anyone with no life, without a job, without purpose. You're not going to suddenly stop by hoping, you have to get physical and severe this anyway you can. Look at yourself in the mirror and confront that person washing cum off themselves, talk to yourself out loud whilst stewing in shame after ejaculating. That moment of judgement, realisation or guilt after masturbating is your friend. It may be the real you or morality or however you want to frame it.

If you came to a beautiful woman exposing herself elegantly, you won't feel that as much as if you just finished yourself off to Mr Hands.

If you can't stop, bring it back to a socially acceptable form of pornography (No taboo fantasy, no hentai, no super extreme), even if that doesn't allign with what you deem acceptable.

Unless you're a true savage psychopath, you do have a sense of morality. You do know what you're doing. There are standards and integrity to even the NEETiest of NEETs.

Regardless, I was a fucking rotten pile of shit. At any time I might have opted for extermination as only I knew the evil of which I was capable of pleasuring myself to and at my lowest moment conceiving to pursue it further into reality.

But only you can change yourself, I got lucky and dragged myself up the way I came down. Humans are remarkable at healing themselves, but the hardest thing to repair is your mind. It doesn't matter what you've done, it doesn't define you. But you can't build a safe space for yourself and justify that amount of masturbation.

*Final word*

>>16637739

I don't have any hope for you, only you can generate that hope for yourself. I'm just sharing my story as it's the complete synthesis of my experiences with no self control. Goodluck, you can become a valuable person, even if only to yourself.

>>16637685
if you think you're so edgy you could also find a fwb

No, it's not even remotely normal. You probably spend a couple of hours every day on porn, and I bet you can't even go a single week without masturbating or watching porn.

>I sometimes feel like I masturbate simply because I am bored and find myself with nothing to do, and am rarely in a situation that disallows the action.
And you don't see a problem with that? Do you just sit around all day and do nothing? That's a huge red flag.

>single-by-choice, young
Yup, keep telling yourself that and continue along the path you're already on and you'll end up frustrated and not so young.

When you do start having sex you'll realize how much damage you've done with your porn and masturbation habits. I'm there right now - it's not fun.

>>16637586
Im doing a "30 days no fap challenge" right now.
I'm on day 5 and it's already getting hard (literally) but I think I can do it.
30 days might be a little too hard for you tho.
...Just make a stupid challenge out of it.

>>16637761

Can you elaborate on the damage?

Is there any way to undo it?

Literally the same but the only reason I masturbate is because I have a high sex drive, haven't had a gf of any sort for years, and I don't wanna make things weird with girls if I'm with them. Aka noticeably checking them out and such Ect.
So really I'm helping out the community from a sex crazed perve lol

>>16637761
>
When you do start having sex
>you'll realize how much damage you've done >with your porn and masturbation habits.

This tbqh famine. When I was finally with a girl ready to fuck, I couldn't maintain my erection.

Poor thing sucked me off for 10 minutes to no avail. I felt like a 40 year old, this was at 21.

That happened more than once because I really liked kinky shit and missionary in the dark wasn't tickling my pickle.

>>16637586

Theres nothing inherently wrong with it, its more that it causes a knock on effect

Your dopamine regulation could get all fucked up because you're too used to punping all that pleasure into your brain, so you'll find it hard to do other shit and commit to delayed gratification because you're addicted to the pleasure

Also your lack of discipline with have a similar effect

Lastly beating your meat so much will not only bruise the shit out of your dick but you'll develop the death grip and sex itself will be less pleasureable for you


My recommendation (as someone that has faced a similar issue) is to train yourself in the art of self discipline. Restrict your fapping and make it a treat to enjoy maybe once every 1-2 days at most

You'll be more productive and sexual experiences will be more pleasureable

Its hard work, but the most fulfilling things in life are hard. I think its worth it

>What are the positives and negatives to not masturbating?
I don't really see any positives in masturbating (excessively). You only get ED from doing that.
>and a high sex drive
I think that's just your masturbation addiction and not really a high sex drive.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/reboot_your_brain
This video convinced me to stop masturbating for good
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oFVOJf0TzY

>>16637770
Look up death grip. Over the last three weeks I've had sex with the same girl somewhere ~10 times with a single one-night stand in between. So far I've been able to orgasm exactly once. BJ does nothing for me, handjobs are ok I guess, can't feel anything during regular sex, condoms are a complete no-go, and last night and this morning I couldn't even maintain an erection. I've grown accustomed to masturbating in a particular way combined with constant visual stimulation of whatever porn I desire in the moment.

It's to the point where I'm considering breaking it off even though it has absolutely nothing to do with her. That's called quitting - I'm not a quitter. I'm absolutely miserable. I just want to fuck her and maybe feel something at the same time. Climaxing from regular sex seems 100% unobtainable at the moment.

I don't think porn is inherently bad but unhealthy masturbation habbits sure as shit are if you want to enjoy sex.

>>16637776
Had the same experience during my first time.

The problem is, if girls don't want to be with you, then what the fuck can you do?

You'll end up being a porn addric simply because of the nature of things.

>>16637761
>When you do start having sex

Maybe some people never actually start having sex ever.

>>16637926

A decent, clean and fairly attractive call girl costs about 90-150 quid for an hour in the UK. It's pretty cheap all thing considered.

>>16637811
I came in just to post about this.

I masturbate a lot too, it's definitely a waste of time. However, I understand "single by choice", if you remove the sexual urges by masturbating you don't have an urge to run around after sex. Outside just ticking all the sex-activity boxes it's not that interesting, which is probably why I'm ok with my girlfriend travelling all over Asia on business.

Apart from sex what's life about? Money, get very rich. Travel, run businesses, sleep in nice places.

>>16637736
>The thing you notice most is you wake up in the middle of the night with an intense erection that refuses to go away.
I masturbate multiple times a day and have had this for years
I haven't had a good night's sleep in a long time because of this

>>16637586
>Single-by-choice

Why lie? On 4chan of all places?