Licensed Clinical Psychologist here. I'm bored, its cold as hell here, I'll probably be drinking soon. Ask me things that don't identify me personally and don't involve dream interpretation.
Fair warning: "seek treatment" is going to be a pretty common response.
Pic unrelated.
>>16631493
Couldnt stay hard for my last girl friend. But only for PiV. Stayed hard for everything else.
What are the chances that I still have this problem.
Ive cut out porn since.
what the fuck do you say to people when they're depressed and they react extremely negatively (basically bitching and moaning) to every single idea/thought/opportunity/etc.
>>16631523
Moderate. If the problem was jerking off too often I can't imagine how a blowjob or a hand job would be different from PiV.
I'm obsessed with a friend but have managed to keep things simple. I can handle being 'just friends' but I need help controlling my emotions behind the scenes. I miss her when she's not around and get jealous when she interacts with others. I know these are primitive feelings, but I want to get over them and salvage a long term friendship. Any advice?
Why do I feel so asocial? Being around people, even those I care about, drains me so much. I never have the energy or motivation to do anything. I just feel so completely numb.
>>16631542
I'm a horrible person so I'd like to think this is about me.....J?
Is it possible to have PTSD, Bipolar Type II, chronic depression, and OCD? My psych primarily talks about Bi-polar and PTSD with me but also brings these issues up like I have them too. Seems like too many to me though, almost not possible.
>>16631542
It doesn't sound like you can handle being "just friends." It sounds like you'd like to be able to handle it, like you think not being able to shut off romantic feelings and jealousy is primitive, like you ought to be able to be noble and evolved enough to be happy with a platonic friendship, but the question you're asking suggests otherwise.
It'll eat you up. Take the leap, tell her how you feel, let the chips fall where they may.
>>16631548
Don't alphabet guess me
>>16631543
>being around people drains me
not op, but caring about people and being comfortable around people are two different things. are you sure you can freely be yourself around those people? maybe your problem is that you just haven't hung out with the right people.
>no energy or motivation
obviously these are clear signs of depression OR your parents are just feeding you too much and you have no incentive to have motivation in life.
What are some techniques for getting an ex back that currently is dating someone? I've asked them on a few dates jokingly and she would just turn super red faced and say "I would but I have a boyfriend." We split by my poor decision to. It was a few weeks before she told me about her boyfriend when she got a job at my workplace.
I know you're no love guru but, I figured I'd do one last chess move before moving on completely from this.
Thanks
>>16631557
you sound like a creep. move on.
is it normal that the older I get, the more I see hanging out with friends as a chore? I will opt out of it as much as I can. All I want is to relax at home with my small family. I've built up a wall and I'm quite comfy inside it.
>>16631551
Not what I wanted to hear, but I guess that makes it more accurate. Thanks doc
>>16631493
Is bipolar hereditary by dna or behavioral patterns learned by parents? Almost every woman in my family has it going back about 3-4 gen. Ive been able to self help mine (high functioning)
>>16631556
I'm comfortable with them.
OP has replied to one question and abandoned the thread.
>>16631543
Lack of motivation, reduced energy, feelings of numbness, avoidance of pleasurable activities, sounds like depression.
>>16631550
Well, Bipolar II would cover the chronic depression, so already we're talking about sloppy diagnosis. PTSD and OCD have significant comorbidity, as do PTSD and depression. If I had a student coming to me with this list we'd have a problem, especially as Bipolar II diagnoses always send up a red flag for me.
So, is it possible? Minus the Bipolar II diagnosis, sure. I'd be seeking a second opinion, though.
>>16631562
no conclusive evidence to definitively say either but it's probably a mix of both with more influence coming from genetics (like everything else in life)
>>16631562
>don't know if I should seek clinical help with the depression lows tho, usually too short lived to set appointments (1-2 days)
I had a problem with overeating/binge eating sice I was a kid, and I aways use food as pacifier when I'm sad, lonely, stressed, angry, anxious, etc. Is there a way to stop oneself from this vicious circle of bs or do I need a theraphy?
>>16631581
I've heard over eatting is an obsessive disorder, suggest getting help to find root cause.
>>16631557
Move on. Maybe you can try again when she's single, but I'd put good odds on her not knowing how to turn someone down.
>>16631559
People change, so do priorities.
>>16631562
I don't see those two as mutually exclusive. Genetics predispose you, parents teach you, and then you decide how you're going to move forward.
>>16631566
OP poured a drink and then thought about responses.
>>16631567
(in response to Bi-polar part)
why does it send up a red flag for you?
Previously I was diagnosed with BPD and PTSD, I think this guy does a much better job communicating with me than the other though. As I said, his primary focus is BPII/PTSD; the others are a coming/going topic... Perhaps he's just comparing them.
I found a note from my dad to my mom saying that he sees me as nothing more than a financial obligation, and I'm not welcome anywhere he lives (which explains the prolonged silence from him). On the same day I told my boyfriend about it, he told me he didn't love me anymore. I've started drinking, my now ex took advantage of me while I was drunk, but I continued to hook up with him sober afterward until I freaked out on him and scared him off. I've been treating most of my friends alright but my one best friend I've been treating poorly. She recently got a girlfriend and they've been becoming very close. I've lost all motivation and self control, I have dark thoughts, and I've been anonymously posting nudes on 4chan. But I'm still very narcissistic.
>>16631575
Meds could help, but I'm not a fan of them long term. Therapy will help you cope better.
>>16631581
I'd suggest treatment, yes. Look for someone who does psychodynamic work.
>>16631529
respond to my question or i will fire you!
2 questions.
1. Do you have this thing where most problems are easy to figure out, except if they have you involved in anyway?
2. I like this girl, who also likes me, but she's not wanting a relationship, so she's decided to get rid of the crush by... no longer talking to me.
Shit sucks, and I understand the reasoning, I was just wondering if you had any extra words about it.
>>16631592
Dude harsh. I read a similar letter between my dad and his then girlfriend about how perfect their lives would be if they poisoned me and my sister when I was 9. I haven't seen him since I was 10. Never stops hurting, I'm 25 now.
It sounds like your caught in a cycle of chaos (started by your environment). Try removing yourself from triggers and give yourself some self love. You need to repair your self esteem before someone cruel hurts you. Wish you the best of luck! Your not alone!
>>16631591
Ask for your medical records or ask your doctor for a diagnosis, its a reasonable conversation to have.
Bipolar II is a real disorder, but its also a pretty common diagnosis when you have a lazy or inexperienced clinician who is just checking off symptoms from the DSM. PTSD is going to have a lot of overlap with Bipolar II. Personally, I probably wouldn't give both diagnoses unless someone was already in treatment for Bipolar II and then underwent some kind of trauma that produced new symptoms, but I'm pretty conservative.
>>16631592
You didn't ask a question, but I'd strongly suggest therapy.
Do you belive everyone was born the way they are for a reason and this life is a test
how are you? why are you so bored?
>>16631529
Sorry, missed it somehow!
What do I say or what should you say? My advice would be to limit interaction with that person as much as possible.
>>16631618
1) Most problems in general are easy to figure out even if I'm involved. Working out the issue is the easy part, changing things is enough of a pain in the ass to justify my hourly.
2) It does suck, but you have to respect her decision.
Is anyone else dealing with these shitty gift box captchas that require eight clicks?
>>16631620
>you didn't ask me a question
>what the fuck do you say to people when they're depressed and they react extremely negatively (basically bitching and moaning) to every single idea/thought/opportunity/etc.
as in how should you tell people to get help when they refuse to get help for dumb, illogical reasons that only make sense in their heads?
>>16631647
>>16631638
ok didn't see your post before i wrote another one.
>>16631622
No. I don't buy into the idea of life having much meaning beyond what we choose.
>>16631626
I'm fine, thanks for asking. The wife is out of town and I was supposed to go out but plans fell through.
>>16631647
You can't, its why I don't take compelled patients.
I called another psychfag here Carl Jung and he didn't care for dream talk the other day. You seem to the same dude. How has today been?
Anyways, what's the best way to taper off Klonopin? I'm on .5 milligrams three times a day.
And what methods would you recommend to help reduce anxiety?
Bonus round: what throwaway diagnosis would you give to this guy:
http://mundusmillennialis.com/
http://ryzhknd.tumblr.com/
What's the best way to get CBT? Google didn't really help
>>16631660
I'm not the same dude, but I do like me some Jung. I don't do dreams in these threads because dream interpretation requires a lot of information about the person and its not really worth doing outside of an established treatment.
I'm not going to give advice about tapering off a benzo. You're not on much, but it can be dangerous and you need to talk to a psychiatrist. While you're there you can talk about something for anxiety that isn't a habit forming CNS depressant. Then you can find a therapist so you're not chained to a pill for the next fifty years.
As for a throwaway diagnosis, the guy doesn't seem pathological, just obnoxious.
Where there is sick badness always follows and to understand the brain completely is imposible?
>>16631671
Hire a dom?
Nah, you mean Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. So, full disclosure here, I'm an analyst so you're asking for me to guide you to the opposing team. I'm going to try to keep my bias out.
If you have insurance, your company has a provider finder. Use it, make calls, ask what their theoretical orientation is. If you're paying privately, go to psychology today and start looking. Make calls, interview people, find someone you feel comfortable with.
Good luck, I hope you're treating a phobia.
>>16631493
Can bullying (being the bullied) trigger PTSD and what are questions you ask to diagnose PTSD to someone who was bullied? Thank you for this thread, anon.
Did u go to grad school straight after undergrad? I'm having a hard time applying to grad school for clinical psych any tips?
>>16631687
Try again.
>>16631694
Sure it can, I'd be looking for some pretty significant bullying, though. My questions would be pretty much the same as with anyone else who I suspect might have PTSD. I'd be looking at symptoms, looking for patterns, nightmares, avoidance, non-tumblr flashbacks, significant behavioral disturbances.
Personally I think that everyone who has PTSD has at least a little bit of psychosis going on, so I'd be looking for some signs of disorganization, but thats a whole different kettle of fish.
>>16631493
I have a history of depression but haven't had an episode in about two years.
However, I have recently been taking birth control (the Depo shot) and have developed symptoms of depression, as a result, but it's not exactly the same.
When I was depressed I would feel empty and worthless but now I just feel empty. I can't find motivation to do anything and sit in bed all day except to eat and go to work. I have a boyfriend but my libido has died. I have no interest in hanging out with my friends anymore. However, I don't cry or have a void in my chest. I just feel numb.
What would you call my current state? Depressive or something else? Thank you!
>>16631558
>>16631698
I took a year off and worked in Real Estate because I'd just gotten married and was making good money from a part time job but I hated it as a full time job. Are you looking at funded Ph.D. programs or Psy.D. programs?
>looking at phd programs I've been told that psy d degrees aren't considered as good as phds in the psych field is this true?
>>16631722
It depends on what you want to do. If you want to teach or do research, you'll need a Ph.D. program. You'll probably also get primarily academic training and little exposure to anything other than CBT. If you want to do clinical work, get a Psy.D., choose a theoretical orientation, and be done with it. Once you have your license it doesn't matter so much. You might not get higher level administrative work, but your hourly will be identical if you're seeing patients.
If you're really all that worried about the prestige you can always get your ABPP afterwards.
I have a suspicion that my fiance went through some trauma when he was young. He says his parents went through a divorce, but he can't remember anything from that time in his life-anything at all.
I don't think that his parents were abusive, but I do know that around that time his mother had two miscarriages. I haven't brought that up to him to think about (he knows about it, but doesn't think much about it).
My question is this-should I encourage him to seek some sort of therapy to ease these memories out, or should he try to think about them himself? He says sometimes he gets flashes of memory, or feelings, but it always leaves him very distraught and I'm scared that if he tries to force it he might bring up some old trauma that he isn't ready for.
He also has a history of panick attacks and doing a couple drugs when he was a teen (ecstasy, mushrooms, etc).
>>16631738
Therapy wouldn't be a bad idea, although given that you don't have a clear symptom to target you should probably have him find someone who is more psychoanalytic/psychodynamic.
>>16631729
Awsome thanks. One more thing how did u go about getting rec letters after taking a year off did u just go back to ur University and talk to professors again?If I don't get in to grad school this year I'm taking time off to work and I'm worried about rec letters later.
OP . . . one question.
Psychedelics legal when?
>>16631746
Alright, thank you.
In the rare case he does remember something and starts to have a panic attack, is therre any way I can help calm him down?
>>16631748
You can get them now or later. I'd suggest doing it now and having the writers update just so you're fresh in their minds.
One piece of advice if you go the Ph.D. route: find some kind of clinical fellowship (not postdoc/internship/practica, but a complimentary fellowship), buy outside supervision, and read on your own time about clinical work. When I was still doing training and supervision I was appalled by how little some of the advanced Ph.D. students I supervised knew about working with patients. They could write a grant application, but ask them to do anything outside of whatever manualized treatment their dissertation chair was publishing on and they shat themselves.
>>16631754
Damnit, Anon, I'm a doctor not a psychic!
>>16631764
Just be there, thats all you can do.
>>16631770
http://www.maps.org/
Well, Doctors must do gods work to get us trippin' !
>>16631778
You could get tripping if you wanted to, it just wouldn't be legal. Fuck the police.
Is it true that, in America, Psychotherapists(psychiatrists, psychologists, and such) can break the silence regarding their patients for certain crimes they commit? Is it common around the world? If someone like a psychopath or a kiddyfiddler commits a crime,who can they talk to, besides a lawyer?
>>16631789
I can only break confidentiality if my patient tells me they plan to hurt themselves, someone else, or discloses child abuse. I cannot disclose past crimes and I've actually worked with some people who have had some...clinically significant criminal histories, several of which hadn't ever been arrested.
29 yo, male, 0 dates, 0 kisses, 0 fucks.
Dont worry i have a job, friends and vidya.
Go
>>16631804
Was there a question in there?
>>16631807
None. Its pointless, everything is.
>>16631812
Groovy.
I don't feel anything about anyone anymore. I don't feel like killing or anything but It's more of just like.. a numbness to everything.
Is this bad?
>>16631827
Its not good. Especially when that dam breaks. Seek treatment.
Night guys, it was fun.
>>16631827
>"i feel numb is this bad"
not op, but these questions are so lame because you've already answered your own question before you even posted it.
maybe you're just bored.
>>16631787
No dealers. Dont wanna silk road, or make my own really . . .
>>16631804
You could be like >>16631711 which totally isn't me. I've had one fuck, a few different dates, and smooched two different females. I'm 23 tho - and a creep evidently.
I want to do what you do. How was school for you and what classes should I focus on?
>>16631797
Non-American here. What do you mean, disclosing the abuse? Witnessing it? Having done it in the past? Doing it?
What are common symptoms of depression or things like it? I've been sick a lot in my life (just stuff like the flu, common cold, etc, nothing too serious), so it's made me a bit of a hypochondriac, so I'm hesitant to actually talk to someone about it. I have days where I'm just really down, to the point it feels harder to breathe. I don't know if I'm just imagining it, or it's just normal to be like that, or if it's something I should actually get checked out. My worry is that, if I do, it'll just be something I should be able to get over on my own, if anything at all. What do you think?
I'm in a relationship with someone from another country. We're very, very serious about one another- we've been together over a year, met each other, and have known one another for a long time and dated before this. Anyway we each have our own hangups and they're impacting our relationship and the way we communicate with one another. We both would like to do couple's counseling because we both really want to fix things and realize what we're doing isn't healthy. Is there any even vaguely feasible scenario where we could do something like couple's counseling or is it out of our reach?
>>16631493
Explain to me how psychologists are different than "life coaches" except more qualified and over-priced?
Do you feel bad ripping people off with your useless advice?
What's the trend now, still "cognitive behavioral therapy"? How is that different than "use common sense faggot"?
I am completely serious.
I was sexually active when I was quite young (11-13) but stopped when something clicked in my head that made me feel dirty. I'm 22 now and haven't gotten intimate since then as I get anxious.
Wat do?
>>16632084
>>16631987
op is gone but i'll pretend im him.
>>16631987
everyone's depression is a little different but it often involves a lot of self-loathing, lack of energy, feeling numb, and being overly pessimistic with poor logic. from what you said it doesn't seem like you have depression but you should still get checked if your conditions are annoying. plenty of people go to hospitals for common cold so there's literally no reason not to go get checked.
>>16632084
it's normal for kids to explore when they're young but maybe you developed strong aversion to it for some reason. if feeling anxious is seriously the only reason reason you couldn't have sex, then you probably need to get professional help whether you know why you developed this feeling of aversion.
>>16632124
>need to get professional help whether you know why you developed this feeling of aversion.
>professional help
You are it, faggot (now that you are pretending to be OP). Help this lost soul.
I still miss the guy I cheated on my boyfriend with. I don't want to have these feelings, but he was so intriguing and I feel like we had such a connection. How do I get over these feelings?
I have recurring dreams about a girl named Chloe who says she's going to cuddle with me and 'take me to heaven' and am pretty sure I'm suffering from cotard's syndrom after a traumatizing event that I won't mention on 4chan.
What do? Seeking professional help is outta the question due to lack of money/insurance. I think ptsd is part of it.
>>16632167
Mention it bro. . .
>>16631493
Hi,
My question is this. If you had, one shot, would you capture it? Or just let it slip?
why don't more people meditate ?
it has helped my depression and anxiety so much!
pic related , Andy K
I like myself well enough but I can't fathom why anyone would be interested in me romantically. Is that remotely normal?
Like I know I don't suck, I just don't see how someone would want to date me? It sounds absurd.
>>16632034
Common sense is a myth
Is it true that the older you are, the more miserable you become? I think this is happening to me. I've come to terms that I will spend the rest of my life working and all jobs sucks. Also, I realise that I have been romanticising relationships and that most people with a partner are not that happy. In addition, the older you are, the more responsibilities that you have. Life just becomes tougher and tougher.
constantly fearful and anxious in public and social interactions because major figures in life were actually lunatics who kept emotionally abusing me over pointless bullshit nobody cares about. how to get rid of the conditioned fear? I can't even talk to people without feeling like being berated any second
>>16632882
Not OP, but just tell yourself that most people out tehre are not there to get you
>>16632888
Nice trips
>>16632888
mentally I know that
but at some points I'm still involuntarily wincing and then my voice gets shaky because I anticipate abuse
I need someone I can talk to
To bitch to
They can totally bitch to me that's fine
But I'm so alone with pretty much no one to talk to....to really talk to
It's killing me inside
I've tried to kill myself 3 times
Recently on NYE
I was diagnosed with depression and got meds which worked to a certain degree
But I moved and didn't get new meds
I need meds so bad
In lieu of meds I need a friend
Not online but IRL
I just need someone to listen
/end rant
>>16632915
Im here 4 u now anon
What do psych tests involve? What are they trying to examine and look for? How would someone know they are doing a correct job on the questions being asked?
>>16631542
This question could have been written by me, word for word. I guess it's more common than I thought.
>>16632924
Try telling the person word 4 word anon . .
H qwerty
How do I convince my girlfriend to let go and have a squirting orgasm?
I can get her very close my rubbing her "deep spot", but she always tells me to stop right before it happens because she feels like she's going to pee.
>>16632933
Nice dubs
I. Heard squirting is litterally just pissing . ..
>>16631551
Not what I wanted to hear either!
Especially as my wish-i-could-keep-it-platonic friend has persuaded me to have one more try at making my existing long term relationship work out.
I feel like I'm in a badly written story. I disapprove of my feelings and my inability to control them.
Goddammit.
>>16632933
Have you explained to her why?
That making her feel that good is what you want, and/or that you are a pervasive who is kinda into pee?
>>16632942
Fucking autocorrect.
I'm 20 years old and last year I was raped by my (now ex) boyfriend.
The word "rape" is what I am technically supposed to use to describe the situation, though I'd like to emphasize that he did not abuse me physically like with hitting and stuff. I was a virgin and we both agreed to be in an abstinent relationship (for religious reasons). I went to visit his family and stayed over at his house and in the middle of the night he came in and raped me while I was sleeping. I tried to punch him and push him away physically but he is a lot bigger than me. I also gave many verbal signals "please stop right now!" And "DO NOT TOUCH ME" but he did not listen. I was afraid to scream and wake his family because they, like my family, are very religious and would probably shoot him or disown him.
He apologized profusely afterwards but he had crossed a line so I ended the relationship.
The problem is that now I cannot feel physical attraction towards other people. I've never had a problem with this before. The idea of hugging a man or kissing him seems disgusting to me.
It's been several months, and I have been to therapy for PTSD and depression, but I still have this lack of attraction. I'm not on any medicine. Will this go away on it's own?
How do people from abusive households rehabilitate themselves?
>>16632950
humans are meant to pair bond. that's why we're the most successful species. we go to great lengths for family and children.
especially strongest after losing your virginity. and yes, what he did is considered rape.
sorry you had to experience yours that way
is OP still here?
you're kinda leaving depressed lonely people from NYE hanging
>>16632957
I still want to raise a family, I love children and still have very close relationships with my family and friends.
The issue is that i'm not able to be physically attracted to someone anymore. Like, that should be a key component of a marriage, and the fact that I cannot feel those feelings that I once did is upsetting.
I know I can find a husband that meets my standards as a partner for raising a family, but I also want to love him on a deeper level than just friendship/partnership
>>16631493
When should you consider taking antidepressant?
I'm in a severe depression right now and I don't know what caused it. I'm seeing a psychiatrist. A lot of shit happened in my life so we're trying to make different changes to my current situation and lifestyle to see what sticks. But in the meantime I still feel like shit. I have nothing to look forward to in my life and I don't enjoy anything anymore.
My psychiatrist told me she'd rather solve this without giving me antidepressant but she is willing to perscribe it if I felt I need them. Do you think it would be a good solution for now? I think I want to take them but I don't know in what ways they can help me feel better.
>>16632987
>My psychiatrist told me she'd rather solve this without giving me antidepressant
That is quite unique. Listen to her.
I feel like I have absolutely zero ambiton. I've been pretty much been unemployed since I got fired from my job of two years 7 months ago. (I've been hired at 4 places since then but I either quit or got fired never lasting more than a week.) I can't stand feeling like people are talking shit about me behind my back and when I start a new job I get so stressed out and nervous that I get too scared to do anything without being told, even things that should probably just be common sense for me to do. So as a result I spend a lot of time standing around looking lost and awkward. I quit a dishwashing job 5 days in just because I over heard two assistant managers gossiping about cutting my hours because I'm such a shitty employee. I got fired from a pizza delivery job after my second shift a few months back because I was fucking up so hard. It's getting depressing and I'll be so embarassed if I fuck up again so I just can't even work up the will to apply anywhere anymore. I also have zero friends other than my girlfriend who I live with . I just can't stay in touch with people. I have old friends who I'm sure would hang out with me but I can't work up the nerve to get in contact with them no matter how bad I want to. I don't know what I'm so scared of. I used to see a psychiatrist but I had to stop 5 months ago because I lost my health insurance. He slapped me with generalized anxiety, depression and ADHD. I had to quit the meds I was on as well (klonopin and paxil). Since I gave up the meds I've pretty much have been getting shit faced drunk every day. I smoke a lot of weed every day too but it gives me panic attacks a third of the time. Alchohol is pretty much the only thing that makes me feel brave since I gave up my meds. I don't know if I really just don't have any ambition anymore or if I'm just too scared to do anything that takes any effort. If anyone has some sort motivation advice I'd appreciate it greatly
>>16633002
I did listen to her and we made some progress this way. But I'm currently going through a difficult time. Lots of people expecting things from me and I found out that the few people I care about and confided in don't take my feelings seriously. Some don't even believe I'm really depressed. This crushed me and now I feel I'm back to square one.
I have a lot of obligations and deadlines coming up and can't pull myself together anymore to do them. I'm going to be in serious trouble if this continues. That's why I consider medication. At least temporarily, until this stressful time is over and I can take it easy again.
>>16632987
Don't take anti-depressants
Depression is caused by factors in your life. Probably specific people or a situation. Depression is just your body telling you something is wrong. 95% of the cutting off abusive people or leaving a crappy situation will get you back to normal. ADs will just mask the pain and won't truly make you healthy.
>>16633020
It's your body and your right to take that type of medication so if you really think that will help you, then do it. I hate recommending alternative herbs because it's mostly sketchy anecdotal pseudo-science but St John's worts is a worthy exception that has been studied and proven to work as good as some type of antidepressants for light to moderate depression. Also, do NOT underestimate the power of a nice long walk and a good night's sleep and eating properly. Good luck with your problems, I wish you the very best and I do believe you can do this!
Hi OP,
for the last year, possibly longer, I have become aware of feeling varying degree of... futility I suppose? Sounds like some teen nihilist angst, I know. What I mean is:
- I cannot really go a day (most days, an hour) without nuclear explosions popping in my mind, while it is not really likely to happen, I suppose it is symbolic for the rest of my issues
- While I am fairly functional, go out sometimes, have a couple friends, some acquaintances and (I have to admit, relatively a GREAT) job, I don't think I actually derive some pleasure from that
- Overall, when good things happen, be it having a good time with friends, passing an exam, doing well at work, dealing with some situation that has been stressing me out (debts and such), once something is done, it does not really carry any emotional value to me - it just "happened" and that's it. Partially applies to bad things too, although I would be lying if I claimed these happen to me often
- To sum up, I just don't see myself enjoying things nearly as much as anyone around me, presumably because of this underlying sense of dread that it can all end very suddenly and futility, as I have been struggling to actually find something that genuinely makes me feel happy - in the end I think this all comes down to your general "What is the sense of life?"
I am a virgin, smoke a lot of weed (which does not necessarily make my mindset go away, but will make me appreciate at least the small things fairly often) and would say that I've been feeling this way all my life, lacking the drive to socialize, explore culture (I am terrible at getting into and then finishing books, movies, TV series, games..), but I am becoming much more aware of this fact as I age.
tl;dr: How to feel joy? Am I just overreacting to what is a common mindset?
Should I seek therapy? Sex? Stop drinking and smoking? Hobbies?
Thanks.
Sometimes i feel a pressure around the let ear and i can´t think clearly. I have to sleep.
I have to sleep lying side pressing his ear , otherwise I feel very uncomfortable and I can not sleep. Thank you for your advice.
>>16633044
Thanks for the information, I'll look into that.
I suppose I'll have another heart to heart with my psychiatrist about it before I decide what to do. She already voiced her concerns on my state of mind last time we met so maybe she's already considering giving me some form of additional treatment. If she agrees that antidepressants might help, I'll go for it.
>>16631493
I just made a thread about anxiety and STDs, I have been tested twice (all negative) and a third time today (results nt yet back)
My doctor wants to put me on anti anxiety medication or to start seeing a therapist..
What are the chances that my symptoms are mental/ (difficulty peeing, back pain etc)
I do have some symptoms that could not be mental (like a red penis head) but this could be a coincidence and something far less scary than a serious STD..
Whats the term for basic security that is needdd before emotional issues can be addressed?
>>16631493
What advice would you give someone that "Overthinks" areas of his life?
Im not sure if I'd class it as an issue or not. But it seems to be causing problems with other people telling me I think too much?
It doesnt cause inaction, I always act on my thoughts, its just that when I do anything I consider every angle and option and analyze the situation
I cant help it, thats just how my brain works
Ive just rationalized it as Im a smart guy, of course Im gonna analyze everything. But I dunno
I have suicidal thoughts but am afraid to seek help because they'll lock me up and lobotomize me or basically the modern day equivalent
how do i go about getting help now?
>>16631493
How do i deal with my father whom has BDP?
>inb4 move out
I care about him still i want to help him
>inb4 talk with other family
All dead other than my grandfather whom is emotionally devoid
