Welcome to the NEET and Shut-in advice thread!
(Version 122.4, running since Oct. 31st, 2013)
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Happy New Year NEETs and shut-ins!
Drop out of school due to anxiety? Haven't left the house in a few years? Maybe you have a job, but don't leave the house or talk to people for any reason outside of it? Finding a job sure is hard these days.
The best time to change your life was 5 years ago. But the good news is, the second best time is right now!
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Previous threads
>>16576030
>>16607915
>>16627086
>>16629826
I just dreamed about my highschool time , I was in a rich zone high school , at that time everything seems to be possible for me in the future , I was getting good at grade , good at social , I have no idea how fucked up I'm going to be as now , I have accepted that the term "society" is a fake construct because friends and languages cannot get you a job that sustains your life but examinations and trades do. Should I go travel by myself /adv/? I can't afford many things but I still wanna see europe. I am a chinese who's good at English.
Happy New Year, NEETs and everyone else.
>tfw sick with a cold and it makes me real dizzy
Also I am that NEET who had two job interviews right before Christmas. They did not go well. And now it's scary how easy it would be to slide back into the hikki world.
Oh well, anyways everybody keep your hopes up for the new year!
>>16631004
Good luck at your next interview. I'll be getting laryngitis tomorrow, so I'll get a taste of that sweet hikki life next week.
>>16629826
>http://pastebin.com/KFe5MQE2
>crowdsource requires a bank account
Goddamn it.
>tfw socially starved
>tfw bored of everything again
>tfw poor
>>16631236
Do you have a parent or grandparent that was in the US armed forces?
>>16631388
Why?
>>16631505
Decent option for an online bank is available in that case.
>wake up
>have to talk myself into getting out of bed because I know everyone else is asleep
>can't go into town because can't drive
>sit here thinking about how everyone else has their shit together and I'm 26 and barely function
>start thinking "why not suicide"
>start tearing up
Happy New Years guys
I hope we all are gonna make it.
>>16632374
What would you even do in town?
>>16632384
I don't even know. Maybe just sit in a corner of a bar and drink until it closed.
>>16632402
Why can't you do that at home?
>>16632406
Family panics at the sight of alcohol. I was raised around alcoholics so if I drink more than a little I get reminded of my grandfather and step dad who were fall down drunk all the time.
A bar it's somewhat acceptable as long as you're not driving or causing problems.
>>16632424
>can't drive
>wants to drive into town
>to drink until closing time
>doesn't want to cause problems
I'm not sure where you were going with this unless you live somewhere that public intoxication isn't considered a problem.
>>16632439
My town is full of drunks who drive home all the time, but I see what you mean.
I'd just end up stumbling to the local cheap motel and returning to the bar later. In that case though I could just get the beer and stay at the motel to begin with.
Sorry for wasting your time
>>16632450
Sounds like you've got quite a bit of money. Ever considered moving out?
>>16632457
I've considered it before. Family and anxieties held me back from doing it though.
Also I wouldn't really say I have quite a bit of money. I pretty much just gain enough to be able to go out to eat at a nice restaurant a couple times a month.
Truckerfag: Can you remove the workout link from the OP? I've had one new person join in the past 6 months, it's done. I won't be visiting this thread much anymore nor advertising it here so best not to lead people on.
Also remove the zeemaps. I created them and people thought it would make sense if they left a maker without contact info. Then after about a month no one left any markers.
>>16632450
if you can afford a motel you can afford a taxi.
go ahead and remove the general too, there used to be 80 posters here, now we get 6 regulars and maybe a half a docen people who post once and leave
>>16634375
It's time.
>Found a tumor in my neck today
Looks like someone is going to meet his waifu soon. Jelly much?
Hey guys, Im kind of fighting to not fall back into this lifestyle and the associated depression now. Im currently in my 2nd year of a PhD program for Clinical Psych in Colorado and I'm trying to stay on the right track after a disastrous 1st year where I closed off and isolated myself after a move from MN.
Just wanted to say I'm here for you guys..
Also, don't be so glum about removing the links. This is the first time I've found a support thread like this and I'd like to talk to you guys sometime..
No one here is an actual hikiki so just stop pretending you weebs. Remove this cancerous thread and get some actual fucking help if you need it.
>>16634452
You can't a kid falling into depression, you can however fight depression. With this mindset you are going to wake up in a few months again feeling like absolute shit and wandering how could this happen. Take things easy, don't expect too much, remember that you can handle more than you think and that most bad thingns go away
>>16634498
somehow the terms hikki and neet became trendy and cool around here. like how claiming you have a mental illness is the hot thing to have on tumblr
>>16634616
That in itself is a mental problem. It's in fact insulting to even call one's self that. There should be a general for poor saps that use trips and do shit like that instead.
>>16634616
the internet is for children. You havent notticed because you were a kid all this time.
Grown ups dont have that kind of free time, they do go online but cant afford to waste a whole day, creating something in the internet and telling an army of children they cant have it is retarded, dont you agree?
wassup losers?
>>16634867
not much, eating spicy doritos, sweating like a pig and trying to find the motivation to get soime practice drawing started
>>16634867
As someone who isnt neet anymore I take adversity one step at a time and its getting better each day.
A new year is a good time to reconstruct some things that need quick fixing,
>>16635475
>as someone who isn't a neet anymore
Booooooo
Booooooo get out boooooooo
>>16634387
Like hell it is, I'm still coming here everyday in place of an actual social life.
>>16632374
i know these feels. suicide is looking more and more like the sane option.
How much do anons think their environment fucked up their development into a functional non-depressed sociable adult?
Like I wonder would I have been a better person if grew up in the neighbouring area which, and this might be grass-is-greener thinking, was just as crime-infested but seemed much more... friendly, cultured, inclusive etc.
>>16636136
not my environment but my stupid fucking excuse of parents. forced religion down my fucking throat and still do. wouldnt let me just live my fucking life and had to keep me sheltered for years.
i fucking hate them.
>>16636136
i was already so obese i requied a surgery by the time i was 8
i am seriously considering smoking as a weight loss method.
i have absolutely NOTHING going on in my life. the only thing i look forward to is food. i get extremely anxious and eat food to kill time. maybe cigarettes will help calm my anxiety. every fucking day i have to deal with this shit. i feel like my brain i'm going to spaz the fuck out if i don't do something, and 99% of the time that something is eat. i am too depressed to even enjoy my hobbies anymore.
i think i am going to start smoking and going out every fucking day. just walk around the city smoking until bed time.
>>16636183
have you considered going out, ordering a gigant expensive coffee, you can even add sugar and cream, and fucking around on a laptop or reading a book for two hours? i lost some weight doing this until i run out of money
wish i could just have a good cry but i cant even do that. feels like ive lost the ability.
>>16633421
Sure. I'll take the workout of the next OP.
>>16633514
No. This is one of the best zeemaps I've seen, and that's coming from a former user of anonidate. I'll add a quip mentioning contact info should be added and move it up the link list.
>>16634387
>>16634375
But we've still got the summer rush to look forward to. The /soc/ shut-in thread is still healthy, so there's still hope for this one yet.
>>16634433
Nah. I've had three in my neck in the last year. Hasn't helped my life at all.
>>16634469
There are 1-3 of you every thread. Not enough to sustain the thread, but it helps.
>>16634658
Haven't come across a hikki tripfag in a long while.
>>16634867
Nm. Switched back from spiced rum to vodka because fuck the police. It's only a 12 proof difference, so whatever.
>>16634936
What kind of spicy doritos?
>tfw no salsa verde in your neck of the midwest
>>16636037
Same, DESU.
>>16636136
You can be functional and depressed. I think I'd be worse off if I were in denial of my mental issues like my little brother.
>>16636183
You might as well skip straight to heroin. It's cheaper than food, and rehab is free.
>>16636487
Go for a walk and listen to some music from your childhood. Always works for me.
>>16636487
What happened?
>>16630310
Society isn't a "fake". It may be a construct, but it isn't "fake".
Playing with society is a big part of what gets you the job. People don't want to work with a person who can't handle teamwork, etc.
>>16632374
Cause someone has to clean up your corpse.
Why don't you clean yourself up instead of handing the problem over to someone else?
Happy New Year; good luck.
>>16636183
Go work out instead. It's better for your lungs. Run around the city.
>>16636639
>what kind of Doritos?
I don't know, it has a weird name. Something like spicy kiss? It just taste like Doritos with twice the flavour which is an upgrade over the other spicy Doritos I tasted which tasted like regular Doritos.
Currently having heart palpitations and unable to sleep
>>16630310
>society is a fake construct
i always wandered why its only the people who have fallen off from it and have nothing to win from it that clai this. Could it be that because you take no part in society that you dont know its real value?
added me marker to the map.
>1 other in kentucky
>>16636831
forgot image.
Feel like I'm finally on a good path, I just finished my first year, working as a apprentice,had a short/sweet relationship with a foreigner, taking a language class and finally living in a place without room mates now that I'm making a bit more.
2016 take me to the moon. Hang in there guys, it gets better.
>tfw listening to a Zelda playlist on YouTube and crying
How did it come to this?
>>16636774
What country are you in, and why did they allow Jacked Doritos within your borders?
>>16636845
Honestly, having had a subway nearby most of my adult life, there is nothing good about that.
Are there any other NEET/shut in communities besides this and r9k?
>>16636978
>tfw listening to a Zelda playlist on YouTube and crying
>How did it come to this?
Sounds like a good childhood to me.
>>16637107
>Are there any other NEET/shut in communities besides this and r9k?
Are we not good enough for you anon?
>>16637107
Hikkichan but that's kinda dead
>>16636722
i've been really depressed since my 25th birthday a few weeks ago. i feel like i've been wasting my life and that i've turned into a robot since coming to this site at 20. i want to turn things around but i dont even know where to begin.
>>16636978
>listening to Zelda compilation and crying
I listen to Nintendo ones and feel like shit all the time
>>16637161
Stop thinking short term. Right now all you want is to stop feeling like shit and its understandable but won't do you any good, suppose you have the power to not feel like shit right now, you would just feel like shit again next week.
You have instead the power to feel a little better in a couple of months and keep feeling better and better as long as you keep working at it. It comes with the price of feeling like absolute shit at the beginning tho
>>16637107
I guess there are but do not go for a chan besides 4chan, most of them are just /r9k/ unfiltered.
4chan sucks but there's just enough... sanity to call dumb fedora shit out.
I want to drop out of high school, how doomed are you without it? I cant even bring myself to wake up daily and dont have the energy to write a long sob story.
>>16634375
>>16634387
These threads will never die because it's the only form of attention Truckerfag gets on this whole entire board
>>16637161
First step: Leave 4chan.
>>16636150
I guess they count as part of your environment. I'm fairly certain I had a crappy collection of friends when I was growing up. More than certain actually.
I was really short-changed with the homogeneous group of bastards I got.
>>16637107
There's a shut-in thread on /soc/ with an active IRC.
>>16639650
Never seen a shutin thread on /soc/ besides the wizard ones. Normally it's full of faggots and jailhouse faggots.
>>16638768
And replace it with what? The main reason I come here is cos I have no one to talk to.
>>16639686
i found other hobbys but i always end up reverting back. Hopefully once im actually good at them i will spend more time working and interacting with people than online
Hit rock bottom on NYE, had a breakdown and realized I can't continue on like this. Didn't eat, shave or shower until this morning. Just drank fruit juice and slept.
I'm scared since there are a lot of things I need to tackle in 2016, and I've lost friends and familys respect, but for some reason I'm filled with hope. I just wish I would not have caught this cold. I can barely breathe. Once it passes I'm not going to be a NEET anymore. I'm going to train myself, job search, get help and start hiking again.
I'm still scared though. How do I stay on track?
>>16639740
>been scared since nye
Join the club
Before nye I was loosing weight and practicing my hobby's most of the day. Then Christmas happened and since 26 I have been raiding gas stations every night to eat junk food until I'm stuffed and spending all day here
I guess as a neet you will always be afraid of new years eve since you are faced with the fact that you turned into a worse looser than you ever thought possible
>>16639730
Hobbies such as...?
You know what I've realised? I don't have a single photo of a person on my phone, not one. I've had this phone for 2 years. Lots of pictures of just random crap but no people.
That's a real depressing factoid.
>>16640412
The feels, m8. I've got maybe 20 photos out of 5000 with people that have their clothes on in my phone, and I've also had move about two years.
At least I have sex as a hobby.
>>16640423
You have 4980 images of porn on your phone?
>>16634498
pretty sure leaving the house a maximum of 4 times a month for groceries or doctor appointments for over two years gives me that title my dude
>>16640439
5000ish inages. About 20 are people with their clothes on. A few thousand are people I've had sex with. The rest aren't of people.
>>16640412
art, at least i have tons of pictures of my drawing in my phone so its not as depressing
>>16640474
how many of them where your slaves?
>>16640474
So you're just boasting and the NEET thread is just some sort of ego boost for you?
>>16640498
A few thousand.
>>16640423
I genuinely hope someone beats you to death in a parking lot.
>>16640500
In case you didn't notice, tripfags are the scum of the Earth.
>>16640500
I'm a shut in with the time and experience to maintain a daily thread, so I took on the responsibility of keeping the NEET/shut-in thread from Ten when he retired. It's a thankless job, and I can deal with the hate, so I took on the responsibility.
>>16640502
were the others other truckers then?
>>16640535
Not a single one, unfortunately. They might be more understanding of my lifestyle, but they're rare unicorns.
i have to put my life on hold for a couple of months so im downloading neverwinter wich is a free to play mmo, if anyone wants to join me hit me up
>>16640562
>unicorns
is that what you call each other now, i thought it was bears
is it because of the horn?
Hello all T here so to make a long story short I'm effectively homeless we're evicted the apartment my mother and I were in for 5 years so now I'm scrambling to find a place. I have no credit save an old 2 something medical bill. Tomorrow I'm going to try various services to see if there is subsidized housing as well as hopefully trying to get flat rent.
I'm so fucking nervous about it all I knew I should have prepared more but now..
Is it possible to get a job without driving?
Listening to an Uplift Spice playlist and crying. How did it come to this?
>>16640573
I think you're thinking of water buffalos, the male analog of lot lizards, neither of which I'm interested in.
>>16640892
Apply at every temp agency in your area before you do anything. Use a friend's mailing address of possible, but explain your situation if it isn't.
>>16640994
I met my second girlfriend at work. She'd wrecked her Geo Storm before applying to where we both worked, 0.4 miles from where she lived with her mother at age 20. She walked there until I bought her a car 4 months into our relationship. It was a beautiful Mercedes W123 300CD that she never appreciated.
>>16641015
Calm your boipussi. It'll be filled with cawk soon enough.
>>16641034
Just up your game. There are plenty of 50 something dudes willing to drop 4k on young boipussi.
>>16638055
Nigga high school was child's play. I slept through most of my classes and still graduated.
College is a different story.
>>16641024
Soooooo is it possible?
Hey dudes, it's been a long time since I've visited this general because I've been in a good place in my life. I think I only visited here less than 5 times in 2015
I'm in grade 12 and Christmas break is over so i have to go back to school starting tomorrow. I've been doing really well so far this year! I only had three absences in term one which is astounding because i previously had to do grade 11 twice due to absences caused by depression. But I got hit with another round of depression in early December and it's only grown worse since then. After Christmas i lost all energy and motivation, and i hardly leave my room anymore. The week before Christmas break sucked, and now that i feel even worse i don't know how I'm gonna be able to handle going to school. I need advice on how to make it easier for myself to go to school being hit with bad depression, and I'd appreciate any tips, thanks
Also sorry for what i assume will be a wall of text, but I'm on mobile so i never know
>>16640207
Damn man, that's rough. It's a fear of change or the unknown, I suppose. Maybe some regret. At this point last year I was employed, happy, mostly sober and in school. I guess if I hit the bottom there's only one direction: up.
Hope things get better for you and the other anons here.
>>16641068
open your ass and your heart will follow, its not like you can even get hard at 50
>>16641082
we all come here when we feel like shit.
This is a shit feeling place,
except for truckerfag, he comes here to harras girls on the forum and look for slaves...
in that order
>>16634433
know dat feel, atleast got over my fear of death
>>16641101
here is a summary
at this point last year i was about to go to college and was experiencing my first week living alone
at this point in 2013 i was kicked out of my mothers place and had my dad threatening to do the same
by this point in 2012 i was out of the hospital a week after i took my dads heart pills
by this point in 2011 i lost my job and got really depresed
boy that was hard to type...
my point is that hollydays are hard but im still standing and so are you. There is countless people who cant say the same
>>16641101
follow up
you are strong in a funny kind or ironical way, everyone here is. I once heard my mom tell my best friend to go easy on me because i had a terrible life, it stuck with me, its wierd hearing somebody else say it, it stuck with my friend too but thats another story.
there is a whole world of ifs and maybes, weabe time weaber, but who knows how many people would really stand the same
>>16641289
i think that has already happened to truckerfag
6 year neet reporting in, first time on this board. about a month ago i started taking fitness seriously and it has improved my outlook on life dramatically. when you wake up you look forward to eating your healthy meals and working out( at home of course). i signed up for online dating its rough but 3 out of the 100+ i messaged are talking and something might happen, at least its something to look forward to. if we rewind 1-2 months my life is eating chocolate drinking coke gaming all day waiting for death.
i suggest you struggling people out there get into the fitness life, i mean what other chance do you have at improving yourself? you dont even need a gym membership if you buy some decent weighted dumbells / ez curl bar you will be able to work almost every muscle in your body. diet is a key part to the puzzle as well, if you are getting the right amount of calories +protein you are going to see results regardless of how you think your body works. check out /fit/ or reddit fitness for the basics
So when are you all literal wastes of oxygen killing yourselves?
>>16640507
Truckerfag seems to be especially scummy.
>>16641082
Just make sure you go tomorrow and see how you fare. You're probably getting more worked up and anxious because you've been on break and gotten used to not attending school again
It 100% won't be as bad as you're thinking desu
>>16640509
literally no one asked you to and nobody wants you to
>>16630310
Really? I had heard 關係 was very important to professional success in China. Here in the US, we like to say the secret is "hard work," but the truth is, it all comes down to connections.
>>16642323
Honestly this
truckerfag is saying he has tousands of sexual partners, this isnt even real
and the thread is shit,
Sorry to those who contributed advice, but most are here to blog their problems and when it comes to others they just post to feel superior. Much like trucker fag.
How could I make money off my computer?
If I learned programming, could I do something as a freelancer?
>tfw want to quit tech support job
>>16634452
Clinical psych? Man, you need a psychologist that specializes in seeing other psychologists then. They do exist.
>>16636136
>Raises hand
>>16636183
Excellent idea, trade one set of problems for another!</s>
>>16638055
Don't, get your diploma. If you need a 4-year degree just to have a chance of making a living wage, then without a diploma, you won't even be able to get a menial job. Finish high school with that diploma in hand.
FUCK MY LIFE
I TAKE 3-4 showers a day and I STILL SMELL LIKE SHIT.
EVERYTIME I WALK INTO A ROOM WITH A FAMILY MEMBER THEY ALWAYS ASK ME IF I JUST FARTED!
FUCK ME FUCK ME FUCK ME
If you all want the thread to die then stop posting here. It's that easy.
How can I possibly progress out of this trap when every damn thing points to people never wanting to hire you?
Oh you had the wrong fucking shoes on sorry no.
Your hair isn't perfect
Your experience that you can't get in the first place is not good enough or too much or whatever.
Oh you did get the job? but god forbid you get fucking health insurance.
Business just don't care , they flat out don't care. Hell the places that help you find a job don't seem to really care "Oh we have reputations with companies to uphold we don't want to send people to interviews and shit who don't look exactly how we want" I wanna be more productive and improve but nobody would honestly care outside maybe my family.
>>16642851
Also seems like it's too easy for me to just mess up and end up getting fired anyway.
>>16642851
how about you just actually fucking dress well for fucking once in your goddamn life?
>>16636136
>>16638810
so this is the crying about how everything is everyone elses fault and refusing to take responsibility of your own life thread. (oh wait thats all of them)
>I was really short-changed with the homogeneous group of bastards I got.
you know friends isnt a god given right or something you get at birth right? "shortchanged" pffff then get some other fucking friends holy shit
>>16643010
>how about you just actually fucking dress well for fucking once in your goddamn life?
Maybe it's more/deeper than that wow rude much.
It's about it being more against you than for you when job looking.
Dinner options
Walk half a block to the small grocery shop and spend 1/4 of my money in cold meats, cheese and bread
Go to the supermarket and buy a chicken wich will cost me 1/6 of my money but its 8 ocks away and its raining
Walk two blocks to the sandwich place and buy a panini for 1/4 of my money
Buy a pizza for 1/2 of my money but I have to wait a lot for it
Go to McDonalds and buy a big mc and a big fry for 1/4 of my money
Go to the gas station and have a chicken sandwich, some soda and coffee for 1/3 of my money
Which should I choose
>>16643153
>>16643153
Get some actual food you have to cook, not some preprepared trash. You could make chili to last you 7 days for the same price as that pizza.
>>16642820
One shower a day with soap and washcloth. With 4 showers a day, you're probably greasy as fuck with how your pores are overcompensating with oil production since you keep washing it off.
>>16630310
Society is a fake, anon. But why should that affect what your acting? There are a lot of things that gain you both moral satisfaction and still help you in getting a good resume.
I had always been shut-in. I gamed and smoked weed my way way through highschool. I had the same thoughts as you had. What stuff makes your life complete?
-good, but most importantly, interesting study (/interesting good job)
-the feeling that you make the world a better place
-other people liking you/ good family bonds
So;
-Go to your classes, but not all of them.
-Do work at a social work place or any organisation that betters your surroundings, such as the environment
-Start a small organisation. Esp at uni it's very easy. Facilitate activities in which students can join to meet new people.
It will make you feel better. You participate in the system but you participate in it in a way that is required to get any system up and running. in a positive way. You avoid the bad, useless parts (of course you will meet these things and make mistakes too, but w/e, you're here for 60 years. Go explore. Or travel, for that matter.
Oh, and l2time-management
>>16643168
>cook dinner
were? my kitchen is destroyed, the oven and burners are desconected
i dont own an electrical cooker or a microwave
in other news chicken is now 3 times more expensive than it was two weeksago so i cant afford it, i got pizza instead and i will have to starve myself tomorrow to afford food on wednesday
>>16643010
I was thinking of replying to these exact same anons with the same responses you made but couldn't be assed to do it. Thanks for saving me the trouble.
So seeing as how this is the last thread it's good we are ending these appropriately. A bunch of losers complaining and blogging.
Good riddance
>>16643719
I can guarantee you this isn't the last thread.
I just constantly feel like in my job looking I'm just constantly losing more than I'm ever gaining like I'm losing myself by having to change my appearance just to satisfy others not even guaranteeing that I'll even get a job or that I'll just be miserable working not to mention my anxiety is already a bitch
>>16643804
It's a small price to pay for stability. Are you the same anon that has been posting about getting dressed up for interviews for the past few threads?
>>16643804
Are you 19? You sound 14.
If you are 19 and a neet then you are getting close to the depression zone
>>16643829
No let's just say I'm over 21
>>16643828
Dunno maybe there's others.
>>16643839
I'm just so embarrassed with myself.
>>16629826
I encourage all of you fags to take my three month challenge on not being a fag.
This is week one and your challenge is to cut all junk food/sugar. And if you could cut down on your semen consumption just a bit, that would be great.
>>16643856
Can you post a timeline, or roadmap of your challenges?
I might be interested. I'm doing alright on cutting junk, and I'm doing a NoFap challenge with some robots.
So I've retracted almost entirely from society and found a great deal of peace of mind in the process. The negative emotions have subsided and I'm content for the first time in a long time.
Why should I feel guilty about this?
hey
neet since september '14
i havent been outside since like december 12th
my eyes are starting to get really blurry all the time
should i see an optometrist?
>>16643010
> pffff then get some other fucking friends holy shit
At 26? Not likely, anyway I was talking about the terrible friends had way back in school and was usually left out of things anyway. Nobody had my geeky interests in school or the area in fact. Looking back there was an apparent lack of geekiness (or anything different) in my area growing up.
Right now? I have a parasite and a handful of acquaintances.
I feel justified in saying I was short-changed with the set of people I grew up with.
>>16644010
Why would you?
>>16643846
Ok I'll admit being 29 and never having a real job before but I am trying to make a change before I hit 30. Like I said I'm so embarrassed. :(
>>16642559
>truckerfag is saying he has tousands of sexual partners
Lolwut.
Well I'm 25 and i don't give a single fuck about having IRL friends, and even online I only have 1 true friend. A girlfriend would be great for the sex/affection but I know i'd eventually get sick of her if she wasn't as big a loner/geek as me. I do not want kids ever. My dream life consists of having a nice stable career that requires no more than 40 hours a week from me. Having my own apartment, a car and spending all my free time on my geey hobbies video games/movies/anime/etc.
One day I'm going to wake up being 48 years old, it's going to be my day off and i'll spend the morning watching the latest anime while eating a nice hot breakfast made with quality ingredients and without a fucking care or worry in my head. That sounds fucking amazing to me.
That's what has finally motivated me to stop being a poor as fuck NEET.
>>16641651
I FAILED
I DIDN'T GO
I dropped out of college because the commute was long and expensive, it was a community college w/ no majors i liked, and the idea of shelling out tens of thousands to go to a real school sort of made me sick.
Honestly... I feel kind of bad. This is the third time in my life I've been a dropout. I dropped out junior and senior year of highschool only to finally get a ged last year. i've never worked a day in my life. i have stupidly high standards for the type of work i'd do and have crippling anxiety...
i want to be hopeful for the future. but as it stands im lazy and poor and just... prone to major depression. all i ever do is play video games and watch cartoons to get sort of sucked into a reality that isn't this one. I don't have any friends except one friend who constantly ditches me and my only social life is anime cons. i don't have a license... i dont want to live in my parents house for the rest of my life.
please, for the love of god, help me.
>>16629826
Meh, not a true NEET, but here's my story:
>23, Creative Writing Master's degree student (MFA)
>Part time private guitar instructor (make like $500 a month.
>Parents pay rent+tuition+ give me spending money
>Live with my GF of 5 years.
>Had a handful of friends in undergrad and went to parties/concerts/bars all the time.
>After graduation, I just sort of stopped with all of that.
>Now, I don't drink or do drugs anymore.
>I don't go to parties or have any friends other than my GF
>I pretty much just sit at home and watch tv, write, read or video games when i'm not working.
>>16644010
i know that feel broheim, however people will still attempt to make you feel like shit when they see the way you live if only for the simple reason because they are jelly they are getting keked by society.
>>16644010
How do you NEETs earn enough money to support your lifestyle?
>>16645453
No one can help you, anon. Get your license, it will open more doors for you. Unless you live in a big city with a hood mass transit system, you NEED to have a car.
>>16644286
>29
I sure hope you are not from the land of the free.
Go take an air conditioning repair course or something similar where you don't need to get employed and you work directly with your costumer
>>16646622
like anyones going to let some creepy ass old manchild neet in their house
>>16636183
I say give lifting a try before you do to cigarettes, maybe you get the hang out of it and once you get addicted to that awesome feeling after you work out I doubt you'll ever be the same. Also you'll live like 60 more years so try to work on your health instead of lung cancer
>>16645489
I'm the same way. I'm a sophomore in college and I partied a lot last year, but the constant drug and alcohol use of my friends affected me really negatively. It got to the point where I was constantly high and fucking random guys to boost my self esteem. I had bad grades too. Felt bad.
So I distanced myself from that life, and I haven't really made any new friends. I just have my boyfriend who I am about to move in with. I love him more than anything, and he makes me so happy, but when he isn't around I just wish that I had actual friends too.
But hey, this past semester I made a 3.7 GPA. Yay.
>I'm so lonely
>>16646657
they are all creepy manchildren, cable installation people too
>>16646622
Yeah I'm American. Feel like such a dang loser. I already went to a place that helps with job finding so I'm okay it's just gonna take time.
>>16646657
I'm really not creepy...
>>16645489
>>16646900
At least you guys have memories, all I remember are the innumerable dickheads I've met throughout school and beyond. I have no idea how to make friends, talk to women or most people for that matter, but dickheads home in on me like sharks smell drops of blood in water.
I moved to night shifts to avoid them, a lot more lonely and I don't get to see the customer I have a crush on but it's a lot better than being constantly poked at. Most people treat me with indifference during the day anyway so it's not like I'm missing much.
Are careers as full of dickheads as wageslave jobs are?
>>16648256
Sorry people are dickheads anon, that's rough. I wish I could give you advice about making friends, but I'm a shy girl who relies on looking nice and approachable to make friends.
But don't give up! You seem nice and (cheesy, but) this internet stranger believes in you!
>>16647189
I guess I still kind of hate that it's always gonna hang on me that even once I do get something it'll be like "Yeah I didn't get my first "real" job til 29" So much catching up to do too.
I mean in a "way" I've worked various odd jobs I guess you could say and I'm not completely lazy just in part it was my anxiety/fear of the whole thing not pushing me to do more and time passed me too fast after 6 years of college but I come a long way.
>>16648256
Are you working retail?
>>16648304
Thanks I guess. I don't think I'm nice as I'm passive though.
>>16648400
Yep.
>>16648304
ladies and gentleman i give you the vapidity of women.
>>16649706
>women
>am i rite?
You have whole threads and boards to be a dickhead, why be one here?
>>16648304
>I wish I could give you advice about making friends, but I'm a shy girl who relies on looking nice and approachable to make friends.
Welcome to the world of unfair double standards. While men can make friends by being attractive and friendly, it is a far less common method of making friends, because of gender roles.
Thanks for reinforcing the woman haters' beliefs in this thread.
>>16648304
oh honey why do you keep insisting these people are good. please for goodness sake just go, youre wasting your time and youth trying to help people that dont deserve your attention and time.
I feel so absolutely wretched for every single person I stopped from killing themselves. I've made the world a far worse place by not letting the trash remove themselves and now its on me for every new or continued person they hurt
>>16651065
>women thinking they have the power to stop someone from killing themselves just because they are women
ium sorry for whoever b has to deal with that ego of yours
>>16651065
NEETs and shut-ins have no significance in anyone's lives so I doubt they can hurt anyone.
>>16648365
Also I really don't care about the actual money aspect I can do just a simple part time for now (I really don't know where to be specific in my career goals) though a lot of them at this level are things that would be real hard for me to do (customer service/food etc) which is why I have the job place who I guess kind of understands this. I hope they can help me. I mean they do say to me with my tests so far that I'm better than I give myself credit for. I also at least don't have crime records and do have the degree and tiny bits of experience in that I've not just always sad on my ass eating chips on the sofa. I even help around my house even the little things can go a long way I guess. Sorry if I seem like an annoying lil pissant.
>>16651229
>job place
Not clear on what you mean? You mean the job centre?
>>16651412
Place that helps find jobs so yeah sorry bad wording there.
>>16651416
The job centre sucked hard, a soul-destroying wait in line before you met your advisor who'd be as a useful as a handbrake on a canoe.
>>16651807
Oh no it's been nothing like that . No lines, understanding my personal issues etc. and in general more personal. Guess what I'm doing is a bit different. It's not like an unemployment office. I mean yeah stuff has taken long times to progress in steps but that's mostly a gov. redtape issue not them specifically.
I was NEET for about 3 years. Currently have a job I am happy with and ambition to do better. Who would have guessed?! Ask me whatever, I'll be around for a while today.
>>16651983
Age?
>>16651983
A/S/L
You have to say the last one.
>>16652012
I mean don't have to.
>>16652006
>>16652012
23/F/US
>>16652174
L O N D O N
>>16652195
I'll be going there soon actually
>>16652174
Career?
And if it's not too personal, were you, for the lack of a better word, a loser in your earlier years?
>>16652269
I'm a designer at a local art store. I plan on becoming a hair dresser because I plan on moving soon. Just a temp job I suppose. It's always good to have a back up plan.
I was a loser in my earlier years. I partied too much in high school (with the other misfits) and had no plans for college.
>>16649706
Well it's true. If you don't look approachable, people are less likely to approach you. I'm not saying If you aren't gorgeous/perfect you won't have any friends, but if you smell like shit and don't shower or take care of yourself, will people be comfortable around you? Probably not.
>>16652327
>I was a loser in my earlier years. I partied too much in high school (with the other misfits) and had no plans for college.
Ehh, wouldn't call that being much of a loser, sounded pretty normal actually.
>>16652457
Then I guess I was pretty normal. My family is all really fucked up, but that's also pretty normal. Living in a broken house or whatever.
>>16652613
Oh and I take happy pills. Forgot to mention that.
>>16652629
Are you happy?
>>16652613
I get worried for this generation when I see normal-ish people float around 4chan.
>>16652696
Yes. I haven't been this content in a while. Between the meds and therapy it was something i'm glad I forced myself to do. I wish I did it sooner.
>>16653262
I've thought about therapy myself but I can't talk to people I don't know extremely well about my emotions and my past and I don't have endless money to find a therapist I can get to that level of trust.
Did you have this problem or were you able to open up quickly?
>>16653322
It took time. I told the therapist about how I felt uncomfortable and basically feared therapists and that actually helped.
