I'm 28, have been married for 1 year, and my wife is entering her third trimester. Now, my wife wants to hyphenate the child's last name, whereas I want it to only inherit my last name (my wife kept her maiden name, which I am completely for because my mother did the same and I'm fine with it).
However, being the wonderful person she is, she said it's fine if we keep things traditional - she knows its just a label and it doesn't matter. Basically, the decision falls to me, and, while I prefer not hyphenate, I know that doing so would be a pleasant surprise for my wife, and I feel like she deserves it for being cool with not hyphenating it.
So, /adv/, are my beliefs outdated and unreasonable, or should I go ahead and only pass on my surname (to which there are no negative consequences, she's fine with it)?
>>16622201
my only issue with it really is what happens to HIS kids? Is he going to give his kid three last names? or four if he meets another weirdo like him? at what point does someone have too many last names?
jokes aside, its something to consider, and it might be a bit confusing on your son.
my recommendation? which name is the coolest / nicest / least easy to be made fun of?
make that the last name... or just use your name since you seem to be the one who wants it most. make the OTHER name (your wife's) his middle name.
that way he still gets both names but hes not doing hyphenated BS and having a hard time trying to figure out how to name his own kid, since this is a growing trend.
>>16622201
Wanting to hyphenate the last name is fucking retarded and you shouldn't have to ask us to see that.
>>16622201
hyphenated names are stupid. Taking a surname from the father is a way of avoiding overly long names like >>16622210 pointed out. It's just practical and it's an established tradition. It's not broken don't fix it. She's being impractical.
>>16622225
i dont see the big deal if he just takes the female last name. whichever one would do him better throughout life imo.
but the middle name last name plan everyone kinda wins.