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Penny for your thoughts?
2015-12-28 09:46:40 Post No. 16612979
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Penny for your thoughts?
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2015-12-28 09:46:40
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A guy from my girlfriend's work has been subtly trying to ask her out. The first time was a few months ago and he asked her if she wanted to grab coffee after work, she said she was busy and declined and left it at that without saying she had a boyfriend. When I asked why she didn't tell him that she did, she said she just didn't want to assume that he meant a date and didn't want to embarrass herself (though, in my eyes it clearly was). I said it was fine and I understood.
The second time was last night, though this time he was a bit more direct and asked when she was free and if she wanted to hang out. Again, my girlfriend made up a fake excuse and said no without telling him she had a boyfriend. This concerned and upset me now, because not only is it crystal clear that he's going for her romantically this time, but she dodged telling him twice about her relationship. When I said I was upset, she said she just acted on impulse and just wanted to say no and not explain any further. I said it felt insulting to me that she wouldn't just tell him and be done with it, and that she doesn't seem to mind that she's being hit on by another man.
After talking, she found a subtle way to tell him that she's in a relationship. Though, I still feel uncomfortable. My girlfriend is very shy and likes to avoid confrontation, and is also very naive (everyone knew I liked her before we dated before she did). She also said she only acted on impulse, and was genuinely sorry when I told her how it ticked me off, and asked how she would feel if I did the same to another woman.
Am I overreacting here? She's apologised now and the dude knows she's taken, but I still feel humiliated that she didn't in the first place. Talk some sense into me, /adv/.
