You're probably going to feel even more shit afterwards, because then you know for certain that you have to pay for sex and can't get a girl any other way. You're also going to be the same person you are now, your lack of virginity won't change anything.

>>16607692
I know that but I hope that knowing what to expect from sex will help me to gain confidence and not be afraid of approaching girls with intention of getting into a close relationship.

>>16607697
See, everyone says that, but then they come back and say they feel worse than they did before. Very few guys don't regret it, from what I've seen.

>>16607686
>I want it to be like a girlfriend experience and not just getting off and leaving. Should I shave everywhere? I buy condoms or she has it? Money upfront? Do we talk to get in the mood? French kissing ok? Can I go down on her? Is it wasteful to want to make her enjoy it? Any hope in that or should I just focus on me? Any other things I should keep in mind.
>Hope it's not too much to ask here. My first time on /adv/ too ¨¨ Thanks.

Dude, it is a prostitute. If you want to make her life easier, go straight to the point. She will be more thankful for it.
She doesn't love you, she doesn't have to like you, she just wants your money. Don't make it too creepy for her.

Having said that, I wouldn't lose my virginity to a prostitute. Try tinder or any other dating site.

>>16607700
wouldn't you agree that to have experienced sex is better than not to? I bet a lot of other people hire hookers on regular basis. Also, if I learn from her how to act with a girl in bed I won't make fun of myself if later I get intimate with a real girlfriend.

>>16607686
Youre going to regret it in the long run. You will never ever be able to take the moral high ground and call other people sluts. You will only be 1 step above a literal prostitute. All the whores running around slutting right now will be better than you.
>I want it to be like a girlfriend experience
She literally will have gotten 30% of her body water from semen. Do you really want semen saliva in your mouth.
Honestly the best way to get better with women is to try. Do what your friend is saying. Yes you will probably fail and make a fool of yourself. But you will have gained experience with women. Keep doing it until you find yourself so comfortable you forget that youre just acting. Girls can spot confidence a mile away. Go places no one can remember you. Drive to a bar in the next city and hit on every woman their. Try acting like a dick, chad, rich guy, nice guy. Look at how women respond and create a persona for women that you both agree on taking the best traits of each.
its not that hard to deal with women anon. Its just you give them too much power.

>>16607705
I see. That's helpful. I didn't consider it from her side. Also since I'm a noob here.. can she guide me in bed? I have no idea what should I start sex with.
Sure I've seen porn but I doubt it's just like that irl.

>>16607708
>wouldn't you agree that to have experienced sex is better than not to?
Depends on how important sex is to you and if you seriously think that your virginity affects your life
>I bet a lot of other people hire hookers on regular basis.
Sure, but more often than not, it's just for sex, not to lose their virginity
>Also, if I learn from her how to act with a girl in bed I won't make fun of myself if later I get intimate with a real girlfriend.
Why would you make fun of yourself? And what makes you think that not being a virgin will make you more capable of getting a girlfriend?

In the end, it's your decision, but don't say you weren't warned if you come out the other end feeling worse. I'm just talking from my observations around here of guys who have done it, and it seems to me that it's not worth it.

>>16607708
Thats not how it works. Go outside lol. You cant find a girl in your basement.
Do you think hookers and girls who arent selling their body act the same way in bed. A hooker is going to accept your creepy ass no matter what you do because youre paying. A girl will not. You will never learn what is okay and what is not okay with a hooker because youre paying for her to say everything is okay.

>>16607716
to be honest I was fearing just that. That it would feel empty and demeaning. But can sex really be that bad? I don't care for money. Fucking or getting fucked by a beautiful girl (I picked my type gorgeous girl at an elite escort site) couldn't be that bad? Getting tipsy might help?

>>16607714
>Also since I'm a noob here.. can she guide me in bed?


A hooker won't teach you much, she just wants you to come and then move on the next client.

>>16607734
>But can sex really be that bad?
No, but losing your virginity is not just about sex for guys like you. You're depending on this experience to raise your self esteem and get better with women, and having to pay someone to fuck you, when you haven't been able to do so without money for the past 27 years, is going to have the complete opposite effect.

>>16607734
Sex doesnt feel as good as you think. Really a good handjob can be better.
Sex feels good because its intimate and a girl is responding to your movements. So its sexy. But the vagina itself isnt as tight. Death grip handjobs feel better desu. But knowing the you dominated a girl and feeling her vagina pulse on your dick (if you make her cum) feels great.
Mainly sex feels good for the soul. But physically is not better than masturbation.

I just thought that getting in bed with a prostitute will make me less afraid of girls. Right now I'm very afraid of rejection and I thought that after fucking one I'll be liberated of all that.

you all make good points that's true. But do any of you have an experience with prostitutes? I know a real girl would feel better because we'll be connected on emotional level.
Maybe it's porn's fault for making sex (no matter for love or not) look so desirable.
Would you suggest maybe I take a massage with handy/bj instead of a hooker?

>>16607686
>I told about it to a friend of mine but he suggested I spend this money ($220/hr) in a bar or club to meet a girl there that I can take home or to her place.

This is a smart friend. Take more advice from him.

>>16607755

Do you practice any sports?
Are you fit?
Physical activity increases your testosterone, which in turn increases your sex drive.
With a high sex drive you will behave more like a man, and stop worrying too much if you are doing it right.

OP if you want to experience sex so you can gain confidence and know what to expect, my advice would be ditch the hooker, and pay for a high class "girlfreind experience" escort for at least 12 hours (about £700 in the UK for this service).

A hooker will be nothing like real sex, her job is to make you cum, get your money and then go do the same to another guy.

An escort is a lot more open and considerate to your individual needs. Sit her down, get her a drink and explain your situation in a professional, almost businesslike way. Tell her your problem, dont be shy about it... And ask her to show you what she can about sex.
After that talk, take her to fucking dinner and get talking.
Yeah sure, the whole thing is fake, but you will be a hell of a lot closer to experiencing a real date AND sex than you would be with a hooker.

>>16607793
I'm not fat, but not of a sport's build either. I go to gym once a week but still more on a skinny side.

>>16607805

You need some aerobic exercise. Try doing it a at least two times a week.

>>16607797
I forgot to add.
Escorts will do everything they can to tailor their time to suit you your specific needs (as long is its within the girls rules). But as long as you explain everything in a professional way (remember, this is business after all) she will more than likely understand, accept and do her damn best to make it as real as possible for you.

Just remember, do your best to treat her like a princess, and she'll treat you like a king in return. Same goes with real dating and fucking, except, you know... You're paying for the gaurentee of a fuck.

>>16607797
the website I was looking at says Euphoria Montreal GFE Escort Agency. Someone told me that kissing might be ok and they may talk to you before or after sex about anything if you so desire. Although going to dinner is probably too much.

>>16607815
There are different tier's of escorts. You get what you pay for at the end of the day, and any extra effort you put in on top of the money you pay will naturally make her respond in kind.

I've been considering something similar. I'm 24 and not a virgin, though I haven't had sex in 2 years. Sometimes I just get so horny and want some kind of contact with a woman...
Jerking off just isn't cutting it anymore. I honestly don't think seeing a prostitute would be that fulfilling though, but sometimes I'm tempted.

>>16607832
you can go to a massage parlour. There are sexy girls there that will massage you naked with their full bodies and after will give you a hand job. Some places I hear give out bj too. And it's way cheaper than a hooker. You can get 30 min for like $60

I'd help if you were cute and close, but you're probably not.

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>>16607885
Were you killed and replaced with a nymphomaniac?

>>16607891
Not really, my drive is just really high right now.

>>16607918
I'm in Montreal. Can send a pic if needed

>>16607921
Damn you canadians, stop being so far away.

well, thanks everyone for your help. I'm considering forgetting about that hooker idea. Still I feel like I really need that worm and soft women's touch. I long for some intimacy. Maybe a naked masseuse with a skillful handy will do the trick? I wonder...

>>16607697
Do not listen to him. Make your own choice. If you think that seeing a prostitute will help with your confidence, then it probably will and you should do it. Other people mean well, but they don't know how you will feel after. Report back if you do see a prostitute...so that we can assess if the decision helped you or hurt you.

>>16607991
you can look forward to it. I'll come up with a final decision and resolution before this month's end.

>>16608005
Go to a masseuse..she will give u a massage and greatly increase your confidence.

>>16608005
Go to an asian place that says...deep tissue..or full body massage..because they are more likely to offer handjobs and blowjobs

>>16607709
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>>16607686
Know thy self.

>>16608015
I'm intensively searching for a good place that offers nude massage with a hj/bj. It's not that easy. Some don't specify what they offer and you guess until you get there. Other don't offer real pics of girls. I want a skinny girl in her 20s at most and not some some 35yo baba.

>>16607686
I've had gfs, one night stands, and escorts.
Escorts are best at sex, and you get to leave after and finish your day. Make sure she is reviewed well on some sites and forums where you live, dont just get some random bitch.
When you do it you'll realize how overrated and boring sex actually is and then you'll be more comfortable when you get an actual gf because you'll know its not a big deal.

>>16608041
that's what I thought I would get from the experience but all this time I've been getting convinced that I'll be regretting it forever and it will just be the worst. It's hard to decide. On one hand I don't want to be disappointed by getting my hopes to high about sex. I don't want it to turn out be bland, cold, and emotionless. It shouldn't be like humping a rubber doll (not that I have), right? At least she can pretend to enjoy it and participate in action as someone who's interested. I hope...

Listen up. You're focusing on the fact that you're a virgin and constructing your whole persona around this one aspect. Losing your virginity won't do much to help your case, since you'll just find new things to be insecure about. And this will go on until you learn how to focus on things you have instead of worrying about things you don't, that's what confidence is.

>>16607734
>But can sex really be that bad?
I've had masturbation sessions that were more satisfying than some of the sex I had

My protip would be to save up more money and pay people to teach you how to git gud with women.

There's some amazingly good coaches out there.

I would say just go for it. But if you're trying to be a normie, just go to a club and find some slag. I promise that as long as you don't look like shit and you don't dance like shit you'll pick someone up.

>>16608580
This guy is pretty much on the ball. As long as you focus on what you don't have you'll never be truly free to do and feel what you want. You'll play the game forever.

If you're wondering what the game is, it's essentially doing what everyone else is doing. Play the game if you enjoy it, but never succumb to peer pressure.

>>16608636
Not the OP, but I am a 27 year old virgin. I am not an attractive man by any means. I will never ever pull attractive women. I want to have sex with an attractive girl at least once in my life and prostitutes seem like the only option as that's the only way someone like that would ever even consider doing something sexual to me. Call it sad, call it pathetic, I don't fucking care. I've heard it all before. My life is too fucking short to be concerned about the morals of people I don't even know.

I plan on getting a prostitute in the next few months after I turn 28. I hope it will help me stop thinking about this and I can move on with my life. I already have a job/car/degree/house so... Yeah.

Fuck the hooker bro. Most men in the world pay for sex one way or another anyway, probably including this guy:
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>>16607739
not OP, but is there someone you can hire to train you in sex? life a personal trainer / prostitute? is it possible to learn what you need online or some shit?

>>16607926
at least say what country

Your friend is retarded. Just cos you got $220 to blow in a club doesn't mean you will get some ass. You are even more likely to fuck it up because you will feel like everything is riding on the one night

I don't know where you live but if it is legal and therefore regulated where you are, just get an escort.

You will enjoy it, if you don't, you at least are no longer a virgin. Look for a GFE. Now i don't know what $220 will get you where you are, but if you have to choose $220 for an hour or $220 for a shorter amount of time but including GFE, get the GFE. You won't regret that. Also, tell the girl its your first time.

>>16607700
I lost mine when I was 23 to an escort. I really was in a rut falling in love with every girl that showed me the slightest.

It really helped me if I'm honest. I had a decent job and they are legal where I live, so if I wanted I could afford one every few weeks. I actually did that for a while after the first time. It really made me more comfortable around girls because I knew it wasn't a big deal anymore if I didn't get that girl, I can still get some sex in a week or so. Really helped me l. Don't regret it at all.

Also now am 34 and been with triple didget escorts and in between had a few serious LTRs. I have never got an STD. My only STD scare was with a girl that chested on me.

>>16607785
An more expensive and experienced escort is going to be miles better sex than a random slag from a bar.

I don't know where this notion of the hooker will just want you out after a second comes from. Sure deep down they might want you out, but you get what you pay for with escorts 99% of the time and she will make you feel like a king if you pick well.


A massage handy j is shit unless you really just need a quick release. I don't enjoy them. A good novelty but that's it, you will 100% regret that choice if you make it.

>>16608036
No no no dude. Avoid the Asian bj masuse places. Trust me from experience I have been to many and the majority are filled with import girls who just want to rrush you out. It won't be a pleasant experience.

Of course you might find the diamond in the right, but you will have much more intimate and GFE experiences with a proper escort.

If you wanna to go the masues route at least look the place up online and get some idea if it is a cheap Asian place or a proper etoric massage place.

I lost my virginity at 24 to a prostitute. I wasnt looking for sexual ecstacy, i just wanted to feel some human closeness and some semblance of intimacy. It was definitively worth it, to have some experience of the female body as well as realizing its not something mystical or frightening, its just sex. It helped me being more relaxed around women, so now i can actually get land now and again.

I lost my virginity to a prostitute, she was really great and acted like a loving, passionate gf throughout.
Absolutely no regrets, it was a great experience and it helped me out in the long run.